Did my wife believe me about the dinner receipt?
Q. Hi. I am a married man having an affair. My wife went out of town to her mother's for two weeks and I spent that time with my mistress. Last night my wife found a receipt of dinner for 2 when my mistress and I went to a restaurant the day her flig...
A. 16 March 2018: So because you know she won't leave you it's OK to be a total dickwad and cheat on her?
Have you no shame? No respect for her? No love?... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so rotten when he hurt me so much?
Q. I made a huge mistake, I've been in a relationship for many years, I have been hurt very badly. Yet I continued to go back time and time again. Long story short he is in a bad place and I tried to be nice and it back fired, now all the I'm sorry's ...
A. 15 March 2018: Set his e-mail to go to the trash. That is where his e-mails so go and where HE should go.
You can do it!
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My brother does not accept my older boyfriend
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, So I have this new boyfriend. I have been with him for nearly 6 months now (which I know isn't a long time at all) however he is 10 years older than me and has 3 children. My family were aware of this and do not accept it at all...
A. 15 March 2018: I don't blame your brother. If any of my daughters were dating a guy 10 years older with 3 kids, I'd probably not be a fan either. A guy like that has WAY to much baggage for someone you age. And you have WAY too little experience.
One MAJOR re... (read in full...)
A co worker hates me and I want to quit.
Q. a co worker who liked me originally, now hates me as I became friends with another co worker at work. she has stopped talking to me and just scowls me and swears under her breath if I go near her and try to talk to her or I give her an order to ...
A. 15 March 2018: If she can't stop throwing tantrums you go to management.
Why should YOU leave your job because SHE is upset that you talk to someone else? You aren't married to her, are you? Or dating her? Or sleeping with her?... (read in full...)
Did my wife believe me about the dinner receipt?
Q. Hi. I am a married man having an affair. My wife went out of town to her mother's for two weeks and I spent that time with my mistress. Last night my wife found a receipt of dinner for 2 when my mistress and I went to a restaurant the day her flig...
A. 14 March 2018: Are you more concerned with LYING to your wife than being a good husband?
Is that what you are asking?
You know EVENTUALLY she will find out. And she WILL be hurt.
How about you BE a decent human being and husband and divorce your wife or... (read in full...)
Holiday dilemma
Q. Hey everyone. I recently broke up with my boyfriend but we booked flights to visit his home country for easter (at a different time to him but to the same place). I can't afford to change them or move them or the place I was supposed to be s...
A. 14 March 2018: Go on holiday, you payed for it.
If he sees you who cares? If he asks you tell him you didn't want to waste the tickets.... (read in full...)
I feel like its my fault that my former lover has given up and gotten so heavy. I love her but know I couldn't take care of her
Q. This is kind of complicated and weird, so please bear with me. I will say up front that I have a fetish - I'm attracted to very fat girls. Please don't judge me for that - it's something that's always been with me and I can't do anything about it. ...
A. 14 March 2018: I think you should encourage her to become healthier BEFORE you commit to giving up a job and moving. And I think she NEEDS to WANT to be healthy more than she WANTS to be with you. If that makes sense. Same for you. You should WANT her to be ... (read in full...)
A co worker hates me and I want to quit.
Q. a co worker who liked me originally, now hates me as I became friends with another co worker at work. she has stopped talking to me and just scowls me and swears under her breath if I go near her and try to talk to her or I give her an order to ...
A. 14 March 2018: Ignore the drama. If she is butt-hurt THAT is her issue. You are there to work, so is she.
Now if you act like some office-Romeo trying to CHARM all the females there, then stop. It's not productive and causes drama that NO ONE needs.
No need... (read in full...)
Money mean son is refusing to bring his family to a family vacation.
Q. My youngest son has a good job with the US Postal Service. He has a wife and a daughter. His wife is a nurse. The problem is he is really tight with his money. I think he goes overboard with being tight with his money. He has always been tigh...
A. 14 March 2018: He might be tight with money for a reason. After all it IS his income.
And he might have declined coming NOT for money reason but because he doesn't WANT to or CAN'T make it or having OTHER plans.
He might not want to SPEND a large amount on ... (read in full...)
I think my lecturer doesn't like me and I'm being targetted
Q. I feel like my teacher doesn't like me, is punishing or testing me. We switched groups today and has purposely put 2 very strong opinionated people who were debating the day before. The lecturer told one of the students that she put those 2 together ...
A. 14 March 2018: Ah, mandatory forced group work! Got to HATE it. While it's supposedly teaches us how to work with all kind of different personalities...
Personally, I always HATED "forced" group work because I quite often found myself pulling the weight o... (read in full...)
How I teach him about sex without him feeling like an idiot?
Q. So I started dating one of my guy friends who I have known for 8 years. We're pretty close with each other and getting our feelings out there has only brought us closer. I am not a virgin but I'm not like really experienced either and he is a vir...
A. 14 March 2018: Instead of telling him what you DO NOT like... SHOW him what you DO like, WHERE you like to be touches and how fast, how soft/hard etc.
Watching porn doesn't make a guy a better lover. After all most of that is fake, pretend for the camera. ... (read in full...)
Bf doesn't want to come to my graduation ceremony. Is this an indicator that our relationship is not worth my while?
Q. My boyfriend of one year does not want to come to my graduation ceremony, and honestly I'm pretty upset but don't know what to do. I don't want to force him, and i just dropped the subject. so I don't know what to think of our relationship if he ...
A. 14 March 2018: Why doesn't he want to come?
That would be my first question. Could be he can't afford it, could be he can't take time off.
It's NOT the number of people you have at your graduation that matters, OP it's WHO shows up for you. IMHO. Think abou... (read in full...)
How do I tell my crush that I like him without actually saying it?
Q. How do I tell my crush that I like him without actually saying I? Like maybe if I write a letter or give hints what should I do?...
A. 14 March 2018: I wouldn't.
You send/give him a letter and he isn't interested or somewhat of a asshat... that letter can be shown around and used to make fun of you. Doing a letter is a little like something a 5th grader would do.
How well do you really know ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't think I could do a hard major in college and now I've lost confidence
Q. Hello everyone, My boyfriend and I have been kind of rocky since the start of this year. I am currently a computer science student and he has already graduated with his masters and is currently working in the field. I am currently a receptio...
A. 13 March 2018: PROVE HIM WRONG!
It's that simple. You got into the program and YOU can do it. REGARDLESS of what HE thinks.
His mother!! (dear gods!) should have absolutely NO freaking say in what degree or job you take or choose. So you are good with pe... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if this should be ringing alarm bells.
Q. Hi everyone This isn't a serious issue, i'd just like some of your thoughts. My girlfriend asked me if she thinks it is true that if someone cheats once they will cheat again. I said I think it depends on the person. I didn't know why she wo...
A. 13 March 2018: I agree with Anonymous 123,
I wouldn't say alarm bells but something is going on here that she IS NOT mentioning. One thing is having a dream about someone from their past. Sure, it happens and sure, we don't have control over WHAT/WHO we dream... (read in full...)
I made a joke. I'm now wondering about my boyfriend's response.
Q. I told my boyfriend to look for a girl to marry as a joke and he told me he would after tomorrow, since tomorrow is his birthday. He said he prefers a blonde chick, and i am a brunette. I feel upset that he said that. Would anyone else be?...
A. 13 March 2018: Sometimes "jokes" backfire. Same with "pranks".
In this case YOUR "joke" backfired. While I think you were hoping to make a point or have him declare that he didn't need to look for a wife... he didn't feel like playing along with your little g... (read in full...)
Family and friends want me to present as more "girly girl."
Q. I’m a girl, I’m not really girly but I don’t dress like a guy either. I just prefer to wear normal casual clothes like a crop top a bomber and nice jeans, vs heels and dresses. I don’t wear makeup, I don’t judge people that do but they seem to judge ...
A. 13 March 2018: The expression "dress to impress" comes to mind. For me that has more to do with work clothes. That looking put together is a GOOD thing in most career fields.
As for dressing like "them", I don't see the need. YOU are you, not "them". And the ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling used and manipulated!
Q. I want to ask how important is the to share social media with your bf or current partner? I ask this because my bf doesn't share social media with me (he blocked me from fbk etc) Before I didnt see this as an issue.. But now it really bothers me ...
A. 13 March 2018: I don't share social media with my husband (he has one and is VERY active on it, I don't have one as I don't give a single F about "social" media) BUT.... he doesn't hide it, he quite often shows me what's up with family and friends on his FB.
... (read in full...)
I always recognise my boyfriend's birthdays but he never recognises mine.
Q. Hello, I'm currently in a one year long distance relationship. Though I saw him a month ago for two weeks. I bought him gifts and paid for most of our lunches or dinners together. He didn't get me a gift or paid for lunch or dinner. I know I ...
A. 13 March 2018: I have to agree at your age, maybe a LDR is NOT really working.
And I think you should stop spending money on him. It might be he can't AFFORD much of anything, that doesn't mean however that it's OK for him to ignore your birthday or make pro... (read in full...)
Is this girl too good to be true?
Q. I’d like some advice on what to do. I’m on faceparty which is a social media thing. where you make friends, have dates and maybe have a relationship with someone special. messaged a female who caught my eye on there, things were going great until ...
A. 13 March 2018: No, OP when someone BLOCKS you they do not want you to contact them anymore, they want nothing to do with you.
Could be she didn't like that you caught her with two profiles or... she had two profiles, one for these "dates" and one for people s... (read in full...)
Should I stay in this relationship? Or am I wasting my time?
Q. Hi Dear cupid. I am after some advice on my relationship. Myself (25 this year) and my partner (24 this year) have been together for almost 4 years this September. Our relationship is great most of the time - we get along pretty well. ...
A. 12 March 2018: Girl, you have asked this question for over a year! SAME question OVER and over.
You seem to ignore all advice given already.
IT IS up to you to make the choice.
... (read in full...)
I feel like its my fault that my former lover has given up and gotten so heavy. I love her but know I couldn't take care of her
Q. This is kind of complicated and weird, so please bear with me. I will say up front that I have a fetish - I'm attracted to very fat girls. Please don't judge me for that - it's something that's always been with me and I can't do anything about it. ...
A. 12 March 2018: First off, I want to say her WEIGHT is not your doing. She might have some medical issues that lead her to gain more weight ( like thyroid issues, diabetes, hormonal imbalance etc. etc.) THOSE are not your doing.
If you add her being with an abusi... (read in full...)
Will my ex treat his new girlfriend better because of me? I feel I gave 110%!
Q. I was in a toxic relationship for almost 3 years. We broke up several times but always got back together. While we had good times, his narcissistic personality traits made things difficult and left me feeling hurt and confused. He tended to be ...
A. 12 March 2018: You spend 3 years HOPING he would change. You can't build a relationship on hope alone. And certainly not the "hope" someone else will change.
People rarely change. Over time some do, as they mature and experience more of life, the people who WANT... (read in full...)
Am I overanalysing? I feel sad and confused.
Q. Hello all. Your opinions would be appreciated. Thanks. I've been with my boyfriend for about 9 months and we have not mentioned the 'i love you' words nor has he met my family yet. Is this normal? Recently, things were changing because we have ...
A. 11 March 2018: If his family lives close by (close enough for a visits) and friends as well, then yes, after 9 months I find it a little odd that he hasn't introduced you to them IF he is looking for a LONG TERM relationship with you - however, when you look at ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so rotten when he hurt me so much?
Q. I made a huge mistake, I've been in a relationship for many years, I have been hurt very badly. Yet I continued to go back time and time again. Long story short he is in a bad place and I tried to be nice and it back fired, now all the I'm sorry's ...
A. 11 March 2018: You feel bad because you CARE. You need to understand though that when a relationship is unhealthy and unhappy trying to revive it over and over is not going to work.
The sooner you ACCEPT that you can CARE for someone but not be a good match, t... (read in full...)
I pushed him away, do I still have a chance?
Q. I met a really great guy in January but pushed him away with my insecurities. We live 2 hours apart but he always called/texted/facetimed me first. Two weeks into us getting to know each other I saw that some girl commented on a Facebook picture. He ...
A. 11 March 2018: Sorry, OP I'm with the rest of the uncles and aunts, you behavior with this guy is downright ridiculous and if he is smart he will stop talking to you and never look back.
YOU really need to get a grip and look over your OWN behavior.
WHY is ... (read in full...)
Breaking up and getting back together after you have been with someone else
Q. Hello aunts I wanted to come in here and get peoples opinions on breakups and makeups. I was in a long term relationship and once we broke up - I couldn’t go back to what it was (there was a reason we broke up) I see couples getting married ...
A. 10 March 2018: Personally? I don't think getting back with an ex is a good idea. For various reasons. While I get that people mature, grow and all that good happy stuff - I just don't think that it will work on try #2 if it didn't on the first "attempt".
And f... (read in full...)
I always feel like the third wheel, and wonder if I should give up trying.
Q. What can you do when you are the “3rd wheel” in a conversation? 2 people are talking and leaving you out? and yes you’ve tried to talk. You’ve genuinely listened and tried to be interested, and you are! But they’ve been cliquey and left...
A. 10 March 2018: It depends,
If these two people seem to have a private conversation I would not try and butt in, or stand around and listen.
If they are "cliquey" I'd probably just be nice around them but not make an effort to be interested or join in. Why bot... (read in full...)
She says her married boyfriend will get jealous if we have sex.
Q. I met this girl, after speaking for weeks, we met for casual sex. It was great and she seemed to be enjoying it. We were probably busy for 2-3 hours. She even asked me to whip her, first time for me but she enjoyed it. She was good and was eager to ...
A. 10 March 2018: Move on, OP
Find someone who is REALLY single. If she has a "BF" on the side and a FWB with you... YOU DO know that you are "sharing" right? Any STD's he has... you might get too....
Wish her well and find someone who wants to be with you excl... (read in full...)
What should I do with a badly behaved dog?
Q. I have a bit of a problem and just wanting advice. I have a dog but I have had for 10 years since I was 20 years old I probably been through more with the dog than anyone in my life. he's always been a bit of a problem and recently I am living in a ...
A. 10 March 2018: He sounds bored.
And I agree with Allumeuse, take him for a good long walk BEFORE going to work and consider kennel/crate training him. While I'm NOT a big fan of dogs being in kennels/crates all day for some, it DOES work AS LONG as they have had... (read in full...)
Do I try to Facebook this aquaintance from my past? Or is it really awkward or inappropriate?
Q. Yesterday when cleaning.. iv found some old pics of me and my old dance teacher,he was a gay guy we got on well. I was wondering..should I friend request him on Facebook? I’m female and I was not attracted to him!! Im also gay and ...
A. 10 March 2018: I don't see the problem either?
People do it all the time. I would just keep my expectations low. That way it might be a pleasant surprise.... (read in full...)
My fiance lied to me about his health
Q. Dear cupid , Ive been engaged for a year now , my fiance and i we're supposed to get married at the end of this year , but last minute he drops a bomb on me saying that he has financle issues he needs to take care of and cannot get married this yea...
A. 10 March 2018: Is he military?
If he is, at least THAT side of it (the taking care of the meds, testing him etc. should be on point).
Also, TRT can make people VERY up and down emotionally (not making excuses for him but there are times where some of the type... (read in full...)
What is the best way to end my obsession with my co-worker?
Q. Hello, I am a happily a married woman with a 4yr old daughter and an awesome husband. With that said I want nothing more than to have crazy (50 shades of grey) sex with my coworker who is also married with 3 kids and one on the way. It started ...
A. 9 March 2018: OK...
Let's start with 50 shades of shit. That "book" is NOT about kinky sex or BDSM, OK? It's really a book written by a woman who thought she wrote some tantalizing fan-fiction about Twilight.
EVERYTHING in that piss poor book is ridiculo... (read in full...)
I could be in a relationship if I hadn't pushed him away
Q. I still have feelings for someone and it has been 4 years now , I feel really odd and obsessive for still having feelings for him . we didn't speak for very long because of my behaviour as I got really worried when he told me he liked me and I ...
A. 9 March 2018: No one likes rejection, but people handle it differently. He CHOSE to say nasty things to you and you CHOSE to STILL pine after him.
OP, it's been 4 years. YOU have WASTED 4 years pining after a guy you may have liked at some point, WHEN you were... (read in full...)
I’m losing hope for finding my match!
Q. It's been almost about 10 months since my ex and I broke up. It was the most crushing, devastating breakup I'd ever had. I thought we were in love and meant to be. Since then, I've dated around. My past few attempts have all ended badly. Since our...
A. 9 March 2018: How about you chill for a few months and DO NOT pursue dating. You sound like you are on the HUNT which makes it sound a little desperate.
Yes, I know in the South people marry young etc. but would you rather TAKE your time and find the RIGHT gu... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling ashamed about my living situation?
Q. How can I stop feeling so ashamed of my life ? I followed the safe path and got a masters and undergraduate degree and now I am in debt - I work two jobs seven days a week (I get a day off in three weeks) just to get rid of the loans .i had to move ...
A. 9 March 2018: Give yourself some credit here.
You have a different work ethic than those coworkers who don't "care" about their debt (trust me they do care but they hide it well).
My advice? GIVE yourself a DAY a month where you let your hair down a litt... (read in full...)
I like him but can't take the disresect anymore.
Q. Hi. I met a guy recently and we stared talking online . He said he is looking for something serious with me and is not here to waste time. At first I tried to invest my time in him by answering his calls in the morning and at night which ruined my ...
A. 9 March 2018: No, no no....
You need to end this and block him.
IT IS NOT OK! to call you names because you can't pick up, that is downright ABUSIVE behavior.
Do you really think if you two actually get a relationship going he will STOP being a DICK a... (read in full...)
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Is this old saying true?
Q. Is it true what they say, that once a cheater, always a cheater? I mean if a wife forgave his husband for having cheated on her for a year and a half, are there chances that after 2 years he will cheat again? What are your thoughts or experiences on ...
A. 9 March 2018: I don't think "once a cheater, always a cheater" fits EVERY cheater but I think it's more likely than not.
Why?
Because they "got away" with it once.
When someone BREAKS your trust, you lose respect for that person, you lose affection for t... (read in full...)
He's acting as if I don't exist.
Q. Should I try to make this work? Me and my boyfriend took a little break from each other because of him constantly keeping in touch with his ex that he got out of a relationship with because of me a few months ago. We worked it out and things were ...
A. 9 March 2018: If you need to take "breaks" from a partner, the relationship isn't working. Taking "breaks" is the precursor for a "break up"
Your Bf is inappropriate with his ex-gf and disrespectful to BOTH you and his ex.
Why bother with this guy? At som... (read in full...)
Should I wait to date until I’m completely over my ex? Or is it impossible to be completely over an ex so I might as well date?
Q. Hi I was dumped about six months (We dated for about a year and I genuinely believe we were in love) ago after we went travelling for a month and had lots of stressful arguements but a couple weeks later he told me he missed me and that he didn't ...
A. 8 March 2018: Personally? I'd prefer to "be over" an ex before jumping into something new.
It DOES make it hard because you have the same social circle but it should Also make it easier to GET over him when you look at how he has treated you.
It's OK that ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else experience these types of panic attacks?
Q. hi I've been having a really big problem recently with anxiety for about a year now. I have struggled with jobs and been through about 5. some I have quit because I just couldn't handle the pressure where the jobs were just too physical and were ...
A. 8 March 2018: Have you had a FULL physical check up, recently? Because this might be more than ("just") anxiety (not saying that anxiety is a minor thing at all but there might be a physiological reason for some of your issues.
Do you exercise? If not, why... (read in full...)
How do "average" couples have sex? How to politely avoid ejaculation?
Q. How do "average" couples have sex? How to politely avoid ejaculation? By that, I mean those who (if filmed) don't look like porn videos (pro or amateur). I can't find anything online about how less adventurous couples have sex. I'm probably co...
A. 8 March 2018: Well, one GREAT way to avoid ejaculate is for the MALE to use a condom. That will collect ALL that "pesky" sperm. It will also protect you from some STD's and unwanted pregnancies. So if you are a bit skirmish about ejaculate - ask him to use a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is unemotional and giving me the silent treatment!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm living with my bf of 3 years , and he is nice most of the times, but he is very unemotional and practical and had not told me he loves me yet, though I said couple of times and no response So I got pregnant , we both agreed it...
A. 8 March 2018: You know where this is going. Why you are pretending it's all fine, I don't know. You might be one of those women who claim "but I LOVE him" as an excuse to stay in an unhealthy, unequal, loveless and maybe even slightly abusive situation ALL in the ... (read in full...)
My fiance lied to me about his health
Q. Dear cupid , Ive been engaged for a year now , my fiance and i we're supposed to get married at the end of this year , but last minute he drops a bomb on me saying that he has financle issues he needs to take care of and cannot get married this yea...
A. 3 March 2018: I'd give him his ring back.
You can not start a life together when hiding things like this. Why does he think it has nothing to do with you?
While there is NO way of knowing how BAD his medical issues are, maybe including YOU would have been ... (read in full...)
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