He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me
Q. Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...
A. 7 April 2018: Could it be a STD?
Yep. But remember Neither us here on DC or WebMD can really diagnose you. SO....
Go see your doctor and get a full STD panel done.
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I'm not feeling the love
Q. My boyfriend says that he loves me but I don't feel the love. I work and go to school and he has a full time job. I make time for him. I have a longer day than him where I get home around 12am to only get up at 6am. He still wants me to plan out ...
A. 31 March 2018: You might have to spell it out for him WHAT you expect of him and how you view HIS expectations. Maybe you are both "off" in what you expect of the other?
However, if you are left feeling that YOU do all the work, giving up ALL your free time for... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but I'm worried he will hurt himself
Q. I met a guy 16 months ago and fell instantly in love , although I felt he was too young and good looking for me he suffers ptsd and seemed to need me . He had no money and was struggling with breakdowns etc I helped him loads with money etc . He ...
A. 31 March 2018: Good lord lady, you NEED to leave this guy alone!
Not only does he have more issues than Cosmopolitan, he is also a grown up who will HAVE to find ways to sort his life out.
The fact that he calls the POLICE on you, and then calls and begs f... (read in full...)
I feel like I am being pressured into having sex.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together about 2 years now, at first we were having sex all the time whenever possible, as it usually is when youre with someone new. Now it has calmed down a bit and I am completely okay with that but he is not. Its ...
A. 30 March 2018: I don't think you are being silly either.
Sex should NEVER feel like a chore, or like you OWE your partner to have sex whenever HE wants it.
I do want to ask how often was it in the beginning and for how long (EXAMPLE 7 times a week for the fir... (read in full...)
Do gay guys like men who are on the down low?
Q. Do gay guys, have fwb,with guys who, have girlfriends, do they like having guys like that. Cause am thinking about asking a gay guy I know, if he would like taking my virginity, I have fantasies, about having sex with him, all the time, when I do ...
A. 29 March 2018: Maybe you should ask your GF first? If SHE is OK with a guy who wants the screw guys on the down low?
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Is my husband being shady, buying a gift for a coworker?
Q. My husband recently bought a gift for a female coworker. I found text messages of him asking other people what this female coworker likes. When I saw the gift, I asked him, oh who is this for and he ignored my question and started talking about ...
A. 29 March 2018: Why was he buying her a gift for? What was the occasion/reason?
If he was asking other co-workers it wasn't something he kept secret.
As for the statement, "I hope to get you something better next time"... That is odd, honestly.
And... (read in full...)
Should I accept a screen role with nudity?
Q. Hi uncle and aunties. I need some advice. I am an aspiring actress who is still in the middle of completing my bachelors degree at uni. I have done occasional work in TV commercials when I was a child growing up in my home country. I have also acted ...
A. 29 March 2018: I'm ABSOLUTELY with Code Warrior here.
While I have no problem with nudity, I have an issue with "pointless" nudity. Basically, it's because the director or financier wants to see some naked flesh. I'm not saying all movies should work like a B... (read in full...)
I think she has betrayed my loyalty and trust!
Q. I have a partner of 4+ years. We are 1,200 miles apart. I plan to join her in 6 months. She has vociferously prioritized loyalty and trustworthiness. I have been 100% loyal since we parted 5 months ago. Well, she went out with some girlfriends ...
A. 29 March 2018: Who goes to a hotel bar alone to have a drink (unless you are STAYING at that hotel) Come on. Hotel bars are notorious pick up places for NSA "connections" or some ego-rub in the guise of some flirtation.
I don't know the age of you/your GF - I'm... (read in full...)
Could this guy have a girlfriend, can I trust him?
Q. There’s this guy I like and we tend to flirt a lot when we’re around each other. Mainly playful flirt. However he has never explicitly mentioned a gf. And on his cel-phone he has a picture of a random sexy girl (a body builder girl). He even once ...
A. 28 March 2018: Some guys DO put nude girls on their phone even if they have a GF and some WOMEN have pictures of men that AREN'T their partner (like actors, sport stars, fictitious characters etc.) REGARDLESS of they "status" of single or in a relationship.
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I'm really into my best friend's ex
Q. Okay, so this is a very simple story. I am extremely into my best friends ex. We were really good friends while they were dating, and she brought us closer. I always found myself helping them out, and literally being to solution to their problems...
A. 28 March 2018: So, is he right? Can you do better and deserve better?
There is usually more into a break up than, they are just not into each other any more, especially if they "supposedly" despise each other.... Know what I mean?
Also, if you ALL share th... (read in full...)
Am I right to not trust him? Can a marriage survive on no trust?
Q. I've been married for 12 years, have 2 beauitful children. Recently found out that a woman my husband works with has a crush on him. They've worked together for 18 months but I was led to believe that they just worked for the same company, in...
A. 28 March 2018: So someone he talks to daily, shares lunch-hour with and FAMILY never came up as a subject?
Are YOU so insignificant in his life? That would be my question to him. Because I think that is bogus.
And would he think it was OK if YOU did the same... (read in full...)
Should I accept a screen role with nudity?
Q. Hi uncle and aunties. I need some advice. I am an aspiring actress who is still in the middle of completing my bachelors degree at uni. I have done occasional work in TV commercials when I was a child growing up in my home country. I have also acted ...
A. 28 March 2018: Part from the nudity is the role GOOD? Does it give you a chance to show of your skills other than T&A? Is ALL the work you will be doing in this movie without clothes on?
And have you talked to the agent about the nudity? Is it 100% necessar... (read in full...)
I'm really into my best friend's ex
Q. Okay, so this is a very simple story. I am extremely into my best friends ex. We were really good friends while they were dating, and she brought us closer. I always found myself helping them out, and literally being to solution to their problems...
A. 28 March 2018: Have you asked how your friend feel about this?
How long have they been broken up?
And what broken them up?
And while you two have banter and sexual attraction, how is it a nice thing for him to point how HOW you are not his type and how He ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable for me to question their friendship?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months has a best friend who is a girl and I was fine with it at first as they have been friends for 2 years before I got with him. She always hangs out with all our mutual friends in a group and has often joined us both on eveni...
A. 28 March 2018: I think it's more common than you think. And from reading other posts on here it's not just teens who act like this, grown up do too. (Sadly, but true).
I think my first question to him would be; "HOW would you feel if I hung out with a male fri... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me
Q. Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...
A. 27 March 2018: "why so heartless?"
Because he GOT what he wanted from you. And because he didn't REALLY care on the same level as you did. He KNEW which words to USE on you to get you to agree.
Now that you are "making demands" and trying to take some contro... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me
Q. Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...
A. 27 March 2018: You are YOUNG, OP
And BOUND to make mistakes - this will not be the only mistake you make in life. The think about mistakes? If you LEARN from then and do no repeat them, the mistakes are a lesson in life, not something to regret and beat yourself... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to not be friends with my ex because he’s re-established contact with the woman he was hitting on behind my back?
Q. My ex and I broke up about two months ago because he's moving away. Now, in the beginning of us dating and getting to know each other we had an issue with him talking to and hitting on this one girl behind my back. I ended it with him when I found ...
A. 27 March 2018: Deciding to NOT keeping him in your life is not ending it "badly". It's a simple choice where you PRIORITIZE yourself and YOUR feelings over him.
Maybe down the line you can work on being acquaintances but for now the ISSUE that broke you two up (... (read in full...)
Is it my destiny to be forgotten?
Q. Is it normal to be "invisible" to everyone? I know there are billions of us on this planet and we are all invisible unless we are famous, but that's not what I mean..! Am talking about to those who know us in life.. friends colleagues...
A. 27 March 2018: I agree with Code Warrior,
We are for the most part "invisible" to the rest of the World, unless someone NEEDS/WANTS something from us. Or we for whatever reason pop up in their conversation.
I also I agree that people probably say many positiv... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to not be friends with my ex because he’s re-established contact with the woman he was hitting on behind my back?
Q. My ex and I broke up about two months ago because he's moving away. Now, in the beginning of us dating and getting to know each other we had an issue with him talking to and hitting on this one girl behind my back. I ended it with him when I found ...
A. 27 March 2018: I'm with Aunty BimBim,
You don't OWE this guy "friendship" and you don't OWE him contact.
Exes are exes not family. Nor is it your "right" to dictate whom he can befriend as you are NO LONGER dating. So he can make friends with ANYONE and it's ... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying to work things out after my girlfriend cheated on me?
Q. Kate and I started seeing each other two years ago, February 2016. We liked each other a lot... we had unprotected sex on the first date and saw each other 2-3 times a week for about four months. Usually we would visit a museum or show, wander about ...
A. 27 March 2018: OK, let me point out a few things here.
1. YOU could have chosen from the GET GO to use condoms and no have unprotected sex. So you are as irresponsible as she is. I had to re-check your age because it sounded like something some VERY young pe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to take a lie detector test because his brother says him and I had sex
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now whom I love dearly. I’m 28 and he’s a year older. We live together. So my boyfriend wants me to take a lie detector test because his pathological liar of a younger brother said that we slept togethe...
A. 27 March 2018: If you still have a couple of months on the lease it gives YOU time to get your ducks in a row and find a new place to live. (unless HE moved in with you).
Make sure you separate ALL bills, take your name of anything pertaining to this address ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to break up because he has exams and can't devote as much time to me
Q. I’m 15 and my boyfriend if 16 we’ve been together for 9 months now , he’s approaching his exams (GCSEs ) and is getting very stressed . Recently he said that it’s best if we break up as he feels as though He’s not giving me enough attention and that ...
A. 26 March 2018: Break up.
He is looking to end the relationship REGARDLESS. The whole, for exams, because you aren't happy etc. etc. is him grasping at excuses to end it.
I think he is trying to end the relationship and NOT hurt you too much in the process. ... (read in full...)
I feel a lightning bolt of attraction but he's 30 years older and married
Q. I’ve met a coworker who I have intense physical chemistry with, and I mean we both just vibrate around each other. His hands shake and I feel electricity all through my body just walking past him or making small talk. He feels we must be some sort ...
A. 26 March 2018: You know what's up and what to do. But I guess this is a "please stop me" kind of post.
You know a roll in the hay with this guy will do ABSOLUTELY nothing for you, your relationship or his marriage. Acting on a whim and lust is instant gratific... (read in full...)
Was I unreasonable in not accepting my ex boyfriend's friend (female)?
Q. I had a row with my boyfriend and we broke up last year. I am torturing myself every day with the thought that I was unreasonable and it was my fault. I cannot move on in my mind. I am replaying the whole relationship over and over. My issue was ...
A. 26 March 2018: OP, it wasn't your job to "show" this woman that YOU were now dating him and she should back off. She (and your ex) SHOULD both have known that this wasn't appropriate when he was in a relationship and she is married. this is THEIR game. She made ... (read in full...)
Was I unreasonable in not accepting my ex boyfriend's friend (female)?
Q. I had a row with my boyfriend and we broke up last year. I am torturing myself every day with the thought that I was unreasonable and it was my fault. I cannot move on in my mind. I am replaying the whole relationship over and over. My issue was ...
A. 26 March 2018: Honestly, OP?
I think you did the right thing in breaking up with him. while there might NOT have been anything going on he ALLOWED and even ENCOURAGED her to constantly butt in "in the name of friendship". Most of her issues she OUGHT to have sou... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to take a lie detector test because his brother says him and I had sex
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now whom I love dearly. I’m 28 and he’s a year older. We live together. So my boyfriend wants me to take a lie detector test because his pathological liar of a younger brother said that we slept togethe...
A. 26 March 2018: I absolutely get why you say, "OK let's DO the lie-detector test because this is a fabrication of your brothers vivid imagination".
HOWEVER... Are you to take a lie-detector test EVERY time your BF hears rumors? Every time his brother concoct ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for wanting to blow up my marriage and the last 20 years for my first love from 30 years ago?
Q. I arrived at this site searching on line for "I'm still in love with my boyfriend from 30 years ago", (sigh). I read a really good post, similar to my issue, but in many other ways not similar. My college BF - we will call him "T" - definitely my ...
A. 25 March 2018: I don't think you are crazy for having wants and desires that doesn't include your husband and marriage, BUT I think you are being unrealistic.
You knew this guy 30 years ago. You are BOTH different people now. (I hope).
What you are doing is... (read in full...)
Why did he refuse to cuddle me after being intimate?
Q. I knew this guy from uni a few years back, I think we always had a thing for each other or were always at least attracted to each other. Whenever he used to see me, he would get nervous. We ended up seeing each last night and I went back to his...
A. 25 March 2018: Eww, OP
He sounds like a semi-gross guy. He was OK to have sex with you but you weren't good enough to cuddle. He was trying to take you down a few pegs because 1. you intimidate him with your family background and 2. you intimidate him with you... (read in full...)
Is it too late to start a relationship at 30, having never dated?
Q. Hello, I'm a 31-year old guy with a question that's been plaguing my mind recently. I can't help but wonder if it's too late at my age to date or have a relationship if I've never done either before. I've never been in a relationship or ...
A. 25 March 2018: You have good reasons for why you haven't dated, so that is a plus.
Knowing what to "do" in a relationship or what's expected comes with experience and knowing yourself AND your partner. It doesn't just come with having had a lot of them.
... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but he took my virginity and I think he's the "one" for me
Q. Hi, I’m in love with a taken guy. We’ve been through so much together. He took my virginity, we fell asleep together, and his mom absolutely loves me. She’s constantly asking about me and says that I should come over more. BUT, he has a girlfriend. ...
A. 25 March 2018: Oh, he got you hoodwinked so good!
The guy is a selfish creep. He has talked his way into your panties and now behaves like he OWNS you.
Honey, if this guy TRULY felt deeply for you, if he believed all the BS he has been spoon-feeding yo... (read in full...)
Why do some girls get more guy attention than others?
Q. Why is it that some girls always have boyfriends or get all the male attention. I am 30 and have only had one partner in my life and real bf. My friends always seem to have met a guy at the gym or school. I got to school and the gym and meet guys ...
A. 25 March 2018: Who knows?
Chemistry and social interactions don't always follow the same set of rules for everyone.
Smiling and joking doesn't always make you more approachable. Or attractive. (to whomever is around).
Personally, I don't think the gym is a... (read in full...)
How do you handle flirty guys?
Q. I think I have written this before, not sure... So I'm 30 and right now I have been going to the gym. I get along with my trainer very well to the point that he teases me, tickles me and what not. I actually like him, but I do know (because he...
A. 25 March 2018: Don't flirt back.
If you can't distinguish flirtation from interest then don't join in the flirting. You can still be polite and friendly but keep it at a level where you can EASILY see what's what.
It used to be that flirting was a way to sho... (read in full...)
Should I even try talking to this player?
Q. So there's this boy that I've really started to like. He's super funny, nice, easy to be around, great actor and really cute. We're both into acting, and a few of my friends know him, or used to, and I've heard him talking about one of my favourite ...
A. 24 March 2018: I think the answers will depend on what you are hoping to achieve by talking to him.
Are you hoping that he will reciprocate your budding crush?
Or do you just want to get to know him better? Like making friends?
If it's #1 - I'd stay clear... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this drama at work?
Q. How can I deal with this drama at work? I have been at my job for a year now (big corporation) office type of environment - really Quiet I work in HR. We sit in cubicles and the people areoinf me (two male coworkers) are VERY noisy. We had a ...
A. 24 March 2018: Look for a transfer? There might be another office or branch you can work at where the environment is better. Not saying that is your only choice but it IS a viable choice.
You can't change how these two twats act. If nothing they are doing in... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my new girlfriend? I don't feel for her what I felt for others
Q. How am feeling these days, been with my girlfriend for over a year now, we get along pretty good, sex maybe once a month, I want more but she is too tired all the time so I quit trying, so I do myself, the thing is in the past six years had my heart ...
A. 24 March 2018: I think if you are not fulfilled in the relationship maybe it's time to let her go.
You didn't add your age, but regardless of that, sex only once a month is VERY little for most people. I get being tired and all but it sounds more like she wan... (read in full...)
How can I build the sexual tension I need without being labelled a tease?
Q. I’m currently dating but I’m having a problem with the sexual side of things. Basically, it takes me quite a bit of time to feel ready to have sex with someone. I’m talking about a good few dates to give the sexual tension time to build up and for...
A. 24 March 2018: Be upfront with a guy?
I see NOTHING wrong in needing some time to get to KNOW the other person a bit better BEFORE sex. REGARDLESS of age.
I say SHOW your post to the guy or explain it as you did in your post.
Honestly? What you ca... (read in full...)
I believe my friend is acting strangely after the death of an aquaintance She's acting as though she lost her best friend!
Q. I’m looking for some advice on a delicate matter. Recently, an acquaintance of mine passed away. She was a good friend of my sister but I only saw her a few times a year at occasions such as weddings or leaving parties, so we weren’t close al...
A. 24 March 2018: I agree that it sounds over the top and dramatic, however people react VERY differently to different situations.
Maybe the death of that young lady resonated something in her, call it survivor's guilt or fear ("it could have been me").
It can ... (read in full...)
Aren't children supposed to stay near to their family so they can comfort them? Not move far away?
Q. Ever since I can remember, my daughter, 30, has complained bitterly about the state we raised her in: North Carolina. When the kids were young, we moved our family from North Carolina from Florida for a better life in North Carolina, but she's so ...
A. 24 March 2018: No, adult children are no longer "yours" to raise, to keep around and to dictate what YOU want.
I moved from Europe to the US then to Germany, then back to the US. My parents were still in Europe. My dad still is. And it's been 20 years.
... (read in full...)
I don’t want to hurt this new man, and I also don’t want to wind up in a controlling relationship! Advice please!
Q. Hello, so I have two questions, both are related. First a bit of background, I was in a relationship with (and married to) a man who ended up being a narcissist and was abusive. (verbally, mentally, sometimes physically) We were together 7 and half...
A. 23 March 2018: I think it was good you had the conversation with him. And that you ARE aware that things you may not have thought were controlling (he didn't think they were controlling either) but they really ARE - and they are affecting you in a negative way.
... (read in full...)
I like travel, he likes fast food and designer luxury products! Is there room for compromise?
Q. I love to travel and see the world. I love experiencing different cultures and tasting different foods. I'm not a fan of designer luxury products, I just like to travel. My boyfriend doesn't like traveling or seeing the world. He can eat McDonald...
A. 23 March 2018: I agree with N91,
If he wasn't a big fan of it in the first place (traveling and seeing the World) he isn't going to be one because YOU like it or want it.
As for the fast food, for that that would be a no-go. I would NOT eat that crap on a d... (read in full...)
Why did my crush’s step-brother do that?
Q. I was in a social setting with my crush, best-friend and her brother. My crushes' step brother approached him and whispered "your girlfriend is here" My crush laughed and pushed him away telling him to "shut up". Unfortunately I did not see it due ...
A. 23 March 2018: My guess? Your "crush" is "public knowledge" - it's not a secret crush, EVERYONE and their stepbrother knows.
Does it mean your crush likes you back? Who knows.
I think it means that the step-brother was teasing him over the crush.... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is too promiscuous to me. Break up?
Q. Dating for a few months I'm 30 she's 22, yesterday I found out a lot of pictures of her with her ex on her facebook from a few years ago. I asked her why she keeps them and she said she forgot to delete and that doesn't make any sense since they're ...
A. 23 March 2018: Hey, lovely mods can you delete the two extra posts? (of mine) I don't know if my computer had a stutter and posted it 3 times on it's own or because I was so gobsmacked!)... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is too promiscuous to me. Break up?
Q. Dating for a few months I'm 30 she's 22, yesterday I found out a lot of pictures of her with her ex on her facebook from a few years ago. I asked her why she keeps them and she said she forgot to delete and that doesn't make any sense since they're ...
A. 22 March 2018: Yes do her a favor and cut her loose so she can date guys who aren't this immature and insecure.
Sorry, OP but you are acting like you somehow OWN her because you are her BF. That no one else can look at her but you.
She is 22! (ffs) OF COURSE ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is too promiscuous to me. Break up?
Q. Dating for a few months I'm 30 she's 22, yesterday I found out a lot of pictures of her with her ex on her facebook from a few years ago. I asked her why she keeps them and she said she forgot to delete and that doesn't make any sense since they're ...
A. 22 March 2018: Yes do her a favor and cut her loose so she can date guys who aren't this immature and insecure.
Sorry, OP but you are acting like you somehow OWN her because you are her BF. That no one else can look at her but you.
She is 22! (ffs) OF COURSE ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is too promiscuous to me. Break up?
Q. Dating for a few months I'm 30 she's 22, yesterday I found out a lot of pictures of her with her ex on her facebook from a few years ago. I asked her why she keeps them and she said she forgot to delete and that doesn't make any sense since they're ...
A. 22 March 2018: Yes do her a favor and cut her loose so she can date guys who aren't this immature and insecure.
Sorry, OP but you are acting like you somehow OWN her because you are her BF. That no one else can look at her but you.
She is 22! (ffs) OF COURSE ... (read in full...)
I don’t want to hurt this new man, and I also don’t want to wind up in a controlling relationship! Advice please!
Q. Hello, so I have two questions, both are related. First a bit of background, I was in a relationship with (and married to) a man who ended up being a narcissist and was abusive. (verbally, mentally, sometimes physically) We were together 7 and half...
A. 22 March 2018: Well, first of all good for you for leaving your ex.
Secondly, I think if you DO NOT watch out you will end up with this guy being controlling too. He might only do it with "little" things for now but the signs are there. It's not all insecuri... (read in full...)
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