Cheater?? Just your first instinct, not full evaluation!
Q. Ok... Just be straight... Being paranoid, or boyfriend totally cheating on me?? He has a friend contact, saved on his phone as "Wifey S" when questioned, said nothing to worry about, just a female friend.... what are your first thought... backgrou...
A. 12 July 2019: OP, you haven't lost anything by the guy ending it. He sounds like a loser, Think about it, he isn't trustworthy and he is full of shit.
WISH them well, they will be miserably together. He will probably cheat and she will probably know it and "for... (read in full...)
Why is my sister in law making herself accessible to me?
Q. So I've been married for 10 years now, why all of a sudden my wife's sister is starting to change with doors open and making sure I hear her orgasm at night when she masterbates? I Love my wife but damn her sister doin this stuff, Please Help....
A. 3 February 2018: I agree Andie... Sounds like the beginning of a bad porn.
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Advice needed - break up or work through it?
Q. Hi, I've in my late 20's and I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half. I love her and she is an amazing woman but our relationship has recently taken a lot of hits and it's affecting both of our happiness. To the point, we are both seri...
A. 3 February 2018: You can't live you life "in theory". You have to live in the reality you are part of. That is why I suggest the topic of a child. Because I can tell you that two people from VERY different background can get along and do well UNTIL they have kids or ... (read in full...)
I’m falling for him badly, what do I do?
Q. I'm a straight lad who has only ever had hetrosexual relationships. I've recently started chatting to another guy who is in a homosexual long term relationship. Over a while we become close and have since ended up meeting up on numerous occasions ...
A. 3 February 2018: You know that you are just a slab of meat on the side for this guy, right?
And that YOU are the proverbial "home-wrecker"? Right?
That sits OK with you?
Have some self control, end whatever is going on and CUT the contact.
And you may ... (read in full...)
He’s blocked me on everything, do I wait to see if he comes back or do I move on?
Q. Hi guys I need your advise. Me and my ex have broken up. A few months ago Due to arguing. But we are still meeting up nearly every week. He kept accusing me of cheating which I would never. He never likes me going out because guys would approach me ...
A. 3 February 2018: STOP meeting up with him.
If he has you blocked then STOP wasting your time on him.
The reason he was accusing you of cheating was because HE was cheating on you. It's called diversion. He got you on the defensive trying to defend yourself ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with racist comments?
Q. How can I deal with racist people ? I am a European ( originally born in chech) and came here at 3. I have been in the states for 27 Years my life has been shaped here - I love this county and never want to love. I can not identify with people and ...
A. 3 February 2018: How do you deal with ignorant people? For the most part? IGNORE them. If they can't take the time to get to know YOU as a person, but tosses out BLANKET derogatory statements of the ethnic group you are from, then seriously... How can YOU stand ... (read in full...)
Advice needed - break up or work through it?
Q. Hi, I've in my late 20's and I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half. I love her and she is an amazing woman but our relationship has recently taken a lot of hits and it's affecting both of our happiness. To the point, we are both seri...
A. 3 February 2018: Ask yourself this (and maybe her), WHAT would happen if you two had a child together?
How would you two raise it? Or want to raise it?
Can you two find harmony in your different cultures and belief systems or not?
I think for most people wh... (read in full...)
Why is my sister in law making herself accessible to me?
Q. So I've been married for 10 years now, why all of a sudden my wife's sister is starting to change with doors open and making sure I hear her orgasm at night when she masterbates? I Love my wife but damn her sister doin this stuff, Please Help....
A. 3 February 2018: Why is your SIL living with you two? Or are you two living with her?
Why is she doing it? Because she is lonely, horny, resentful of her sister? It's kind of hard to pinpoint why someone would do that. Though IT IS obvious that she KNOWS you can ... (read in full...)
I didn't realise being a bridesmaid would mean so much pre wedding work!
Q. Hi folks, I’m looking for some help working out if I’m being unreasonable; if my friend is; or if it’s a bit of both. So basically my friend is getting married in August and I’m going to be a bridesmaid. That’s all fine, but the problem is she s...
A. 1 February 2018: I think I would tell her that for the next 3 months you will be working HARD on getting yourself situated at your new job and probably won't have much time for much of anything. BE UP FRONT. If that means stepping down as a Bride's maid then let HER ... (read in full...)
Girlfriendwants to cut her hair in a style I don't want!
Q. Some background... I am dating an asexual girl. If you don't know what that means, she just isn't sexually attracted to anyone and therefore no sex. which I am fine with because we both love each other. With that in mind, however, I am much more ...
A. 1 February 2018: Her body, her hair, HER choice in hair style.
Sorry, you don't OWN the right to tell her what she can and can not do with her hair because it's your "bread and butter"... It comes off as you being controlling. Not a good thing. No, you don't ge... (read in full...)
I don't want to give my friend false hope
Q. Dear all I just need some advice. A good friend of mine told me she had feelings for me last November. I didn't have those feelings so rejected her and she was upset. It was tough for some weeks but eventually she stopped being upset and we seeme...
A. 1 February 2018: Jeeez, that is crazy!
Sorry OP, you feel the way you do and I'm sorry she is using tears and drama to try and manipulate you into being interested. Honestly, If I were you, her behavior would make me back away FAST.
I think auntie BimBim is... (read in full...)
Should I wait and see? Or end it?
Q. I met a guy through a friend and we've been seeing each other for over 2 months. In the beginning, everything was great. We went out on dates, talked on the phone, texted eachother often, and he was really sweet. We went away to Niagara falls for 2 ...
A. 1 February 2018: Why "wait it out"?
He could BARELY sustain interest for 2 months! Being busy with work is fine but that doesn't mean you can't call someone a couple of times a week or shoot a text or two every day, I mean really...
His priority is his ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but not sure I love our relationship
Q. I love my girlfriend but not sure I love our relationship. I think shes an amazing gal, and really enjoy the time we spend together. We've been together nearly 3 years, but live in different cities - enough to see for a quick evening or long ...
A. 1 February 2018: Why are you two still in different places? After 3 years?
Have there been no talk about living closer or together?
I find it a little odd if you two haven't talked or made plans to BE together in the same location after 3 years together. ... (read in full...)
He said he feels we aren't a good match but he also said he can see us together for a long time.
Q. I think some advice would be helpful so here I am. My boyfriend told me he doesn't want marriage and children but he also doesn't know for sure. He adds our personalities are very different and feels we aren't the best match (this kind of confused ...
A. 31 January 2018: I think he feels he has finally found a good one, but not a KEEPER (with that I mean someone he can see himself spend the "rest" of his life with).
You mention that you have been together for over 6 months but not precisely how long, and I DO thi... (read in full...)
I don't understand why this guy sends screen shots of conversations with other women.
Q. A guy I just met keeps sending me screenshots of conversations with other women. I don’t understand why. We would be having a normal conversation and then a random screenshot. Is he trying to make me jealous or boost his ego? He also has over 600 ...
A. 31 January 2018: Who knows...
But don't you consider the possibility that he is using YOUR conversation to send to other women too? Because why not?
Honestly? I cut him loose and block his number before you become fodder to other people's entertainment.
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Partner has been cheating with my best friend for the past five years.
Q. Me and my girlfriend been together for over 9 years, only couple of days ago she dropped a bomb shell on me saying she’s been cheating on me with my best friend, my heart sunk, I was heart broken to be hearing this. We met in 2009 till now we still ...
A. 31 January 2018: Who is it you want to approach?
Your GF and ex-best friend or mom and sister?
If it's the first? I'd only talk to the soon-to-be ex GF to notify her she is out on her ass. I don't think the relationship is salvageable. I think your GF messed t... (read in full...)
My mother favors my nephew over my son
Q. My parents try to include us at some dinners but it always seems it's an after thought (calling us over for dinner the last min)and only if my bros fam is there too, they see my bro, his wife and kids every wkend. We live 15min away and they never ...
A. 31 January 2018: Honestly, I this is how she feels I would rather minimize the amount of time she spends with your son.
I could be wrong but she might be jealous at you. Some moms are like that with daughters and daughter-in-laws.
Make friends, even older peopl... (read in full...)
We've been together for 4 years but I now I'm torn
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 years now and are living together.Now I've kinda hit a point where I'm torn.I need help as to what am i doing wrong or how should I take this.Every now and then my boyfriend hits these points where ...
A. 30 January 2018: OP, your BF is done with the relationship but he doesn't have the balls to end it.
He has told you this OVER and OVER with his actions but isn't willing to say it.
Why stay when you have to walk around eggshells because he is being an ass?
... (read in full...)
Should I call it quits and move on?
Q. Dear Cupid, I think my relationship might be over, or it as been for a long time now...or maybe it’s not? Anyway... Myself (24/25 this year) and partner (23/24 this year) have been together for almost three and a half years and I/we are h...
A. 30 January 2018: There are quite a few issues here,
ONE you two are not sexually compatible. He doesn't like to pleasure you orally but expects you to do it to him. While I don't think sex should ever be a tit for tat, it shouldn't just be about what ONE partner ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is mad that I've kept my old wedding dress but he keeps Instagram posts from his exes
Q. Dear agony aunts and uncles I need some opinions please. My bf got upset that I’m saving my old wedding dress but he has tons of posts and lovey dovey comments on his Instagram from 3 ex gfs. Im keeping my dress because it was expensive and pe...
A. 30 January 2018: That's ridiculous.
Your BF is right that it's "not the same" but it makes TOTAL sense to keep a wedding dress and wanting to pass it on, then keep old "ego rub posts" from exes.
It's not like you have it prominently displayed or post pictures... (read in full...)
Why does my little brother pretend to be gay if he's straight?
Q. I'm much older than my little brother but we're very close and he tells me everything. Recently he came out to me as gay. The thing is I don't believe him. I'm in full support of the gay community, I have lots of gay friends, go to gay rallies and ...
A. 30 January 2018: Maybe HE is still trying to figure out WHAT and WHO he is. And maybe he is "trying on" gay at the moment.
I think, however, it's REALLY rare that a guy (or girl) comes out as gay if they aren't gay. So maybe he has been VERY good at hiding i... (read in full...)
Should I just accept that my personality is a turn off to most people and give up on love?
Q. Hey everyone. After some soul searching, research, and visits to my therapist, and continuing to end up more alone as time passes, and after facing constant rejection from women. I now realize why I alienate so many people. I haven't done it ...
A. 30 January 2018: For now, OP?
Focus on you. I don't think you are a lost cause, as you seem to understand that YOUR actions and words DO affect other and that in turn has consequences.
For now, I don't think you are in a "state" where you should be consid... (read in full...)
I'm depressed and lonely being married to a controlling husband
Q. I’ve been married to my hisband for 5 years. I’m 38 he’s 36. I have not shared a room with him in a year I sleep on the couch he don’t seem to mind until it’s benefits him to throw it in my face. I have chronic illnesses that also exist when he ...
A. 30 January 2018: Doesn't sound like love at all, more like you are his hostage. Doesn't sound like YOU love him either.
So why do you stay? Because you can't work due to the chronic illness?
Is the only income you two have from HIS paycheck?
Maybe you need ... (read in full...)
Three dates in and she does't want to kiss!
Q. So I met a girl through Tinder and we went out for dinner. I'm 30 and she's 27. We hit it off really well. We talked for nearly 4 hours. She had a pretty bad cough though, and I didn't attempt any sort of physical contact except a brief touch of the ...
A. 30 January 2018: I don't know how interested she is. All the cancelling and rescheduling makes me think that sure, she is busy, BUT seeing you hasn't been a priority.
You seem to have to "work" WAY too hard to set up a date.
Also, for me, it would be a red f... (read in full...)
Cheater?? Just your first instinct, not full evaluation!
Q. Ok... Just be straight... Being paranoid, or boyfriend totally cheating on me?? He has a friend contact, saved on his phone as "Wifey S" when questioned, said nothing to worry about, just a female friend.... what are your first thought... backgrou...
A. 30 January 2018: You don't HAVE to have proof to end things. If you NO LONGER trust him, you don't have much of a relationship anyways.
Take away trust, is like taking a wheel of a car. You are not getting far with that. And like dominoes once trust is gone, ot... (read in full...)
Partner has been cheating with my best friend for the past five years.
Q. Me and my girlfriend been together for over 9 years, only couple of days ago she dropped a bomb shell on me saying she’s been cheating on me with my best friend, my heart sunk, I was heart broken to be hearing this. We met in 2009 till now we still ...
A. 30 January 2018: I agree with Auntie BimBim,
If it was ONLY sex, then why did it last 5 years and WHY is she telling you this NOW? What is her reasoning for that? Because if she tells you that she no longer could do this to you, she is full of crap.
She did... (read in full...)
He’s very affectionate towards everyone! Does this sound strange?
Q. Hi there I started seeing a guy around 3 months ago. One of the things i love about him.is that he is very very affectionate towards me. At gome and out in public. He sometimes says to be before we go out'can i kiss you a lot tonight in publi...
A. 29 January 2018: Everyone has a different "level" of how tactile they are. Some USE it to invade other people's personal space, to test boundaries, some are just this way because they were raised with it and then others because they grew up without it. And some ... (read in full...)
Am I justified in feeling hurt or did I do the wrong thing?
Q. Dear Cupid, Sorry for the long post, Thankyou to anyone who takes the time to read my story. I am in my late twenties and in a new relationship of 6 months with a man 2 years younger than me. He is the most amazing person I have ever met a...
A. 29 January 2018: How do YOU smooth things over? Are you seriously asking that?
In the beginning of your post you CLEARLY state that you didn't feel you did anything wrong, all you did was socialize and get to know HIS group of friends. Which, incident... (read in full...)
A girl I chatted with online started telling me all of her fetishes. Should I meet her?
Q. Ok so a few hours ago I started talking to a girl on tinder. Within minutes she started talking in quite sexually explicit terms, mainly centred around her foot fetish. I admit I was intrigued and played along. The conversation moved onto whatsapp, ...
A. 29 January 2018: I do think you know that you are in over your head with this one.
While Tindr IS a HOOK UP app and she is probably using it to find like minded guys, I think the reason you are hesitant is because it just seems a BIT over the top.
If the sexual... (read in full...)
Why do men keep long term affairs?
Q. Why do men keep long term affairs? Those that last a year or more? In the end they end up going back to their wives. So I don’t get it. Do they develop feelings for the OP? Do they not love the wives? ...
A. 29 January 2018: You ask why MEN do this. Well, WOMEN do it too. Married women and the women who CHOOSES to be the "other woman". So it's not really a "man thing".
I don't think you can generalize either. I'm sure SOME men wants some excitement in their lives af... (read in full...)
Is his interest in this activity normal?
Q. I'm not sure if this is an issue, but it's been on my mind. I have a wonderful boyfriend. I love him to death. We're pretty sexually active, and I can't help but please him. It's just that despite all the sex and oral we do, he's always asking to ...
A. 29 January 2018: People like different things, OP
He seems to like sucking on a boob.
All things goes, I'd say it's pretty mild, HOWEVER, how does it make YOU feel? Does it DO anything for you?
If not, well... I'd say OK I'm OK with it during sex, but other... (read in full...)
Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 29 January 2018: Focus on your health OP
Maybe she just don't WANT to not create drama. Some people feed on that and she KNOWS what drama she can get if she brings up exes.
I'd probably tell her to stay away while you recover, it will give you time to regain y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always distracted when talking to me on the phone and it's getting on my nerves!
Q. I'm confused. My understanding of being on the phone with someone is to have an active conversation. That each party should be holding on to the phone (or have on ear phones) and giving undivided attention to the person on the other line. Why is it ...
A. 29 January 2018: So just stick to making the phone conversations short and sweet, if he wants to talk about his car or whatnot, tell him you can't wait to hear it in person.
My husband recently went out of state and decided that having me on speaker phone to chat ... (read in full...)
My attempts at sex were horribly painful. How do I make things better?
Q. Uhm so about two years ago me and my friend lost our virginities to each other. We were both drinking but regardless of being drunk it was insanely painful for me. We tried so many times because I thought I was being a wimp but the pain was ...
A. 28 January 2018: I'd go back to the GYN, have another exam and talk about it. It might be more than "just" side effects of the BC you used to be on.
Also, sex isn't just about penetration, you know that, right?
A CASUAL sex partner is not REALLY going to ... (read in full...)
He seemed so into me, said he had no wrong intentions... Then why did he ghost me after that evening of no sex?
Q. I commute to work and every Friday, as I'm waiting at my bus stop, a young man would come and wait for the bus as well. We would exchange polite nods of the head, smiles, "good mornings" and then both of us would retreat back to our cell phones, ...
A. 28 January 2018: If he has a valid work visa he isn't being deported.
Words are cheap, OP
A person can say whatever he/she wants or thinks the other person want to hear or whatever gets the result they are looking for.
You need to pay WAY more attention t... (read in full...)
He talks about money and costs a lot, is he testing me?
Q. I’m confused and would appreciate your help. I have been seeing this guy for 2 months and our dates started with walking, coffee, one time out for drinks couple of lunches and most of the time at his place, either he is cooking or most of the time ...
A. 28 January 2018:
You are smart lady, OP
2 months of dating is definitely too soon WAYYYY too soon to think about moving in together. For him to ask about THAT but then worry about ONE dinner expense, it's odd. I can see why you find it confusing. Espec... (read in full...)
Is he hiding something? Is he only trying to make me jealous that he has a girlfriend? Does he EVEN got back with her? What is he aiming for?
Q. I've known this guy for about 2 months. We talk everyday all day Mon stop. When we first met he was single, and then he started to flirt and trying to take it into a relationship. I don't want a relationship with anyone right now, and he knows it. ...
A. 28 January 2018: Does it REALLY matter?
You don't want a relationship so what's the deal?
He makes the choices to talk to you as much as he does, instead of thinking WHY he does it, maybe you need to take a few notes here. You say :"I'm not sure a guy in a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always distracted when talking to me on the phone and it's getting on my nerves!
Q. I'm confused. My understanding of being on the phone with someone is to have an active conversation. That each party should be holding on to the phone (or have on ear phones) and giving undivided attention to the person on the other line. Why is it ...
A. 28 January 2018: I think this is getting to be the "norm" for many people your age group. (and I mean no offense towards your generations but a statement of fact).
My advice? Instead of asking him should I call later? You say talk to you later and hang up.
"... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with my sister and I being nude around each other?
Q. I am 20 years old and my sister is 18 years old. Our parents are usually not home: my dad is a long distance 18 wheeler driver and since my sister graduated from high school last year, my mom often goes with our dad. Both my sister and I hat...
A. 28 January 2018: Yeah, it's weird.
You know it is.
Otherwise you wouldn't wear clothes around your parents and friends.
I get the whole being comfortable in your own skins, that is a good thing but board-games, dinner naked? There is another element to th... (read in full...)
I moved to be with my son and his family. They want me to leave, I'm miserable and don't have the money to leave
Q. For years my son has been asking me to move to the state where he resides with his second wife her 4 children one which they share the other 3 has different fathers. One is handicapped severely. I had gone bankrupt and was a hair being evicted so I ...
A. 28 January 2018: Since you have recently started a new job you have an income, so I would suggest you look for a room-mate situation if you can not afford a 1 bedroom apartment.
It was a DUMB idea to move in with them if your DIL didn't want you there.
And whi... (read in full...)
Should I get someone else to tell him I am not going on the cruise?
Q. Thank you for your patience... First some background; week before Christmas my soon to be EX apologised for hitting me, minutes later I said “that will be the last time you touch me like that!” He immediately erupted too accuse me of hitting him ...
A. 27 January 2018: Give him 1 week to move out and tell him that you feel it would be better that he takes his mother on the cruise.
You don't OWE him a roof over his head. You can even tell him you need to e out today, but my guess is you want to rock the boat too... (read in full...)
He talks about money and costs a lot, is he testing me?
Q. I’m confused and would appreciate your help. I have been seeing this guy for 2 months and our dates started with walking, coffee, one time out for drinks couple of lunches and most of the time at his place, either he is cooking or most of the time ...
A. 27 January 2018: 1. I don't think you should BUY him $170 stuff 2 months in. Just no.
2. $150 meal for 2 people is kinda steep in my book but then again I don't eat out at fancy restaurants.
3. TALK to him, ask him straight out.
4. Giving to charities does... (read in full...)
Love my boyfriend but I'm tempted to stray
Q. Hi there, thanks for looking. I hope it’s ok to ask this.. but please be nice as I’m already feeling in a very low place right now, and hate myself for this already. I guess I’m looking for the sort of advice a parent might give. I can’t stop cryi...
A. 26 January 2018: I think you need to sit down and identify what it IS you are NOT getting from your BF and actively seek from this other guy.
Are those things that your BF would START to do for you? Or not. If not, then you have to decide if you can STICK with a g... (read in full...)
He doesn't want my advice
Q. What should I think of this? I'm feeling negative and weird about it. I've been together with my boyfriend for over only half a year. I think it's natural to make suggestions for someone you care about when they are going through a problem. He is ...
A. 26 January 2018: In this case you are the "fixer" and he is the "venter".
Some people wants to FIX everything for everybody even if the other person don't WANT their "solution".
In this case your BF JUST wanted to vent about his weight-loss not being as fast as... (read in full...)
Why does my partner bring up my ex?
Q. Why does my partner bring up my ex? This will happen if she wishes to upset me in an arguement or even from right out of nowhere; which can be particularly problematic. I have told my partner that I really dont want to talk about her. I have reas...
A. 19 January 2018: I'm sorry for your loss, first off.
Secondly, I'd tell her. That you are DONE with having the ex used as ammo, and if she CHOOSES to keep doing it there is no future with you.
Now you might not WANT to really end the relationship, so... (read in full...)
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