I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?
Q. I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...
A. 30 July 2018: Good for you OP!
Keep moving forward! ... (read in full...)
Why don't any of my male friends think of me as a potential dating partner?
Q. I’m a 34 year old, single, straight female and I’m in a real predicament as to how the opposite sex view me. I’m quite a sociable person so I have a large mix of friends but I also have a large group of close male friends of a similar age grou...
A. 25 July 2018: Of course the dynamics change when they have a GF, that is pretty normal, OP They probably also see less of their male friends in the beginning of a new relationship.
You should no longer BE their focus, the GF should be. But... if they totally ... (read in full...)
I would like my 2 sons to rebuild their relationship. Can I do anything to help?
Q. I have two sons. The oldest one, John, is 35 years old and the youngest one, Joe, is 33 years old. About five years ago, they got into a major argument. John did not like Joe's girlfriend and tried to talk to Joe about it. John crossed the line...
A. 23 July 2018: I don't think you can change this. They are adults now and make their own choices, even dumb choices. Just like it was John's dumbass choice to call his brother's GF a derogatory name due to her ethnicity.
How well do you get along with your dau... (read in full...)
I no longer love my husband. How do I tell him?
Q. How do i tell my husband that i stopped loving him? We have been married for 4 years and it has been rocky from the start. I those 4 years, i was determined to make it work...i did all the work solely as he provided the fiances... As i worke...
A. 23 July 2018: I'd say you really have to decide what is right for you and your child. Is it staying or going?
If it's staying you need to set some boundaries and IF he is serious about making it work, well then talk about what you would NEED from him.
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Why don't any of my male friends think of me as a potential dating partner?
Q. I’m a 34 year old, single, straight female and I’m in a real predicament as to how the opposite sex view me. I’m quite a sociable person so I have a large mix of friends but I also have a large group of close male friends of a similar age grou...
A. 23 July 2018: Because they understand the difference between a friendship and romance. OR... they might just have another type of woman in mind when it comes to GF/partners.
The SUREST and FASTEST way to ruin a friendship is to add romance.
Why are YOU n... (read in full...)
Why did my ex send me flowers? We broke up 6 months ago
Q. Why did my ex send me flowers we broke up 6 months ago I blocked his number and we both agreed to no contact. He moved to another county. We dated for 1.5+ I did not say thank you or anything when he sent the flowers. I know I should of that’s...
A. 23 July 2018: Why is he doing it?
To keep you from moving on. He wants to be the guy on your mind. He enjoys the game plays.
And no, you should not have thanked him. You didn't ask for flowers. You didn't want contact. HE made the choice to not respect your... (read in full...)
How can I tell this online friends to just leave me alone?
Q. Hello I have an issue with a guy I met on Facebook. He is from Africa and talks a lot. I talk to him sometimes just to be friendly. He tells me hes in love and wants me to visit him there. I havent agreed to do anything with him or ever told...
A. 23 July 2018: OP, just block him.
BLOCK, unfriend him on Facebook and up your security levels on Facebook so he can't find you without being your ACTUAL friend.
Find someone who doesn't have an agenda to occasionally chat with, this guy could be a scamm... (read in full...)
Should I block/delete/or give him a chance?
Q. I think i already know what advice i will be given but sometimes it helps being told what i wouldnt really want to know. A friend with benefits got back in contact with me recently we are both still very single. He told me he wants to be more ...
A. 23 July 2018: I would just block/ignore/delete.
If he can go silent for 2 weeks... you can decide, this is not what I want.
Saying nice things like wanting a family with you... it's him telling you things he KNOWS you would want to hear. That is his "hoo... (read in full...)
I don't appreciate my boyfriend's lack of consideration of how my work life is.
Q. Bf and I have been together almost 4 years. He claims I never want to hang out with him or that when we have a day off I'm too lazy. Which is is ridiculous. To start, this summer he has been a slacker compared to me when it comes to work. The las...
A. 22 July 2018: I have to agree with YCBS,
I would also LOVE to hear his side (not that I don't believe you or anything but it would be interesting).
I would tell him either at the beginning of each week, which days you have off and then make plans together o... (read in full...)
Kicked out of a cosplay group, what did I do to cause such a bad reaction?
Q. We got DRUNK and I slept at a member’s house. His idea. He’s got a gf. He’s asked me over his place before. The leader went mad. He lost it when we hadn’t done anything and were on separate sofas. There is nothing romantic between me and the ...
A. 22 July 2018: I agree with Andie,
I think you just create too much drama and ignore the "common manners and behaviors" acceptable within a group.
I had to check your age, are you really in your 30's? Cause I would have guessed early teens.
I think it was ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend that I'm done with him?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 year. Everything was great at the beginning, however, the past few months I've been feeling very turned off and disappointed by him. He had always claimed he's the good guy, until he was out with his ...
A. 22 July 2018: I agree, you know what to do.
Just DUMP him and cut all contact. BLOCK and delete his number. If he texts or calls from other people's phones - block and delete those too.
Him "dumping" his friends for you was HIS choice, you didn't "make" hi... (read in full...)
My ex brings his new girlfriend(who he cheated on me with) when he comes to babysit our kids in my absence
Q. My ex and I share 4 year twin girls and although he cheated on me and is now with the person he cheated on me with, we have a reasonable relationship. Recently he has started bringing his new girlfriend round to my house when he looks after them whe...
A. 22 July 2018: I agree with YCBS, I would ask your niece to babysit instead.
IDGAF if this is his GF's only night off a week, that is NOT your problem. And there is no way she needs ACCESS to my house. The girls won't be missing much if your nieces takes ov... (read in full...)
Is it time to distance myself from this friend?
Q. I know this is going to sound petty, but my best friend is getting married and I’m starting to think she’s using the whole thing to try to get to me. I’m beginning to feel unwelcome. She hasn’t got many friends as she is the type of person that ...
A. 22 July 2018: Maybe it's time for you to start making new friends? Maybe other mom's with sons like yours? Or daughters?
For someone to point out that YOU are not in the bridal party it's tacky. It's as tacky as saying I want you to come so you can buy me a... (read in full...)
How can I approach an actress for an autograph when she's unfriendly?
Q. I’m going to see a favorite theater show at the theater in 2 weeks,. I’d like to say hi and get a photo with 1 of the co actors at stage door after. she’s known for being cold/unfriendly and aloof. She’s very talented and has a sma...
A. 21 July 2018: Have you considered that she really doesn't OWE you squat? That maybe when her performance is over she just WANTS to be herself (not be seen as some character or be fawned over)? She is after ALL just another human being who happens to be an ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my long-term girlfriend that I'm secretly gay and have had affairs with men?
Q. Hi everyone.. Im looking for some genuine advice, if anyone would be so kind.. How do i come out and tell my long term girlfriend that I've had an affairs with men? I know its wrong, and i shouldn't have lied to myself and her, but i fou...
A. 20 July 2018: You break up with her. In the nicest way possible. I would NOT mention that you have cheated on her with men (unless there was some unprotected sex, if there was you OWE her to have the knowledge to go get herself checked out = and you should check ... (read in full...)
Help me deal with my provoking ex!
Q. My ex broke up with me a few months ago and we were together for almost 3 years, but since she broke up with me she has been trying to make me jealous or intentionally hurt and/or provoke me. I dont know what to do, I know she is into me but she ...
A. 20 July 2018: Thanks of the update, OP
If she does have some kind of personality disorder or is EXTREMELY emotional it might also be why she is acting this way.
She wants to move on, but don't want YOU to move on. Hence why she keeps pestering you. I... (read in full...)
He treats me better than my exes but I keep finding he tells lies!
Q. I've been dating a guy for 3 months now. He treats me better then all my crappy exes did and seems to really care about keeping me around. The problem is that he's lied to me about a few things, and often tells me that he feels like he's walking ...
A. 20 July 2018: I agree with Anon male,
He sounds like a teenager who is very pleases with himself and his "conquests". Pretty immature. and it also show how little respect he actually has for women, IMHO
And I have to say someone who lies about all kind o... (read in full...)
Our sex life used to be magical until his porn use!
Q. Im 43 and my self confidence and 20 yr relationship is suffering more and more with progressive viewing of porn by my partner. We’ve always enjoyed watching it together every once in awhile and I’m willing to spice up our sex life within reason. But ...
A. 20 July 2018: After 20 years of being together sex do seem to decline naturally. But not if both partners are in good health and still INTO sex, I'd say. There would still be physical intimacy. and you are only 43. HE however, is 54? SO it could be HIS ... (read in full...)
He changed his work number after we argued so I can’t call him!
Q. Hello, I'd like some advice on a current situation I have here. My boyfriend is a Uber driver. He has two phones, a personal phone for his family and friends, and a work phone he uses for Uber. I'm the only one that has both phone numbers. When he'...
A. 20 July 2018: What is so important that you need to call him while he is at work? He is there to do a job not entertain you.
I seriously DOUBT there is ANYTHING (out of VERY rare emergencies that warrants you NEEDING to call him at work) And let's ADD to the f... (read in full...)
My best friend’s sister doesn’t seem to understand that she takes the “joking” too far!
Q. Hi guys.. I have a situation that I need your help and advice on.. I have always got on ok with my best friends sister (she’s 30, I’m 36). But when she has a drink she takes the p*ss out of me. We’ve had like nights out (me, my best friend, his...
A. 20 July 2018: Take her aside and have a chat. Tell her that she isn't funny but hurtful and it needs to stop.
She is not so oblivious when drunk that she doesn't know what she is doing. If she was... then she probably couldn't even speak clearly.
You mig... (read in full...)
I met him 2 weeks ago and am wondering is this a friendship or a rebound?
Q. I am 25 and have been single for a year now. Two weeks ago, I met a guy at a party who works with a friend of mine. We hit it off and talked nonstop. Later that week we ended up going to another group event together and staying after everyone ...
A. 18 July 2018: I think if I were you, I'd go VERY slow here.
He might actually have "left" (at least mentally) his relationship a lot longer ago than 2 months but stayed with her because he felt sorry for her, just like he feels sorry for her now.
If she ... (read in full...)
Help me deal with my provoking ex!
Q. My ex broke up with me a few months ago and we were together for almost 3 years, but since she broke up with me she has been trying to make me jealous or intentionally hurt and/or provoke me. I dont know what to do, I know she is into me but she ...
A. 18 July 2018: Block & delete her on everything.
If you share a social circle of friends avoid the group events SHE partakes in for a while and stick to some hang out with a single or two friends.
If your friends want to talk to you about or gossip - tell th... (read in full...)
I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?
Q. I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...
A. 18 July 2018: OP,
I just want to point out when you go to the Child Support Agency (to file for child support when the baby is born) THEY will contact him, HE will be the one PAYING for the DNA test. He is the one who wants the test done. (though I DO think in... (read in full...)
I don’t know how to move on! Advice?
Q. I still love him and can’t move on.? We broke up after almost 2 years because I tolerated his abusive behaviour, emotionally and verbally. I broke up because I couldn’t take the nasty words and he said he wished I died. A week later he texts me...
A. 18 July 2018: First thing you need to do is define what was good about this guy. Then the bad things. Now we all have good points and bad, but... ABUSIVE? NAME-CALLING? WISHING YOU DEAD? Not acceptable.
I bet YOU wouldn't do THAT to someone else. I bet your bro... (read in full...)
My in-laws are very interfering!
Q. Hello, I’m looking for some advice me and my husband have 3 children 8, 6 and 7 months and his parents and grandparents are very interfering, we live 5 mins away from them both, they constantly come around unannounced, which is frustrating as we ...
A. 17 July 2018: I think (if I were you) I'd find a good compromise.
I would find a day a week they can have the wee one and a day they have the other two. Now sometimes this might not work due to hospital visits but that all comes down to you.
If you "conce... (read in full...)
I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?
Q. I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...
A. 17 July 2018: Honestly, with THIS amount of drama wouldn't it be BETTER for you and the baby to NOT be around him and his family?
Cut him off. Get a job (and yes, even if you are 4 months pregnant you can still work, you are pregnant not paralyzed).
Look in... (read in full...)
How do I close out this sad chapter in my life and start anew?
Q. Hi all I am from conservative indian family. I am 24 and financially independent. I met my ex 6 years back on school. We fell in love . The relationship was intense and serious. All my school and college friends knew we were together. His pa...
A. 17 July 2018: First off... I'm sorry it didn't work out. It happens.
1) you can move out of the country but really you will only be running from your problems, emotional baggage goes where YOU go. But if you go for your masters out of the country it will giv... (read in full...)
I don't see this relationship lasting. How should I tell my boyfriend that I'm extremely annoyed with him?
Q. How should I tell my bf that I was upset? I have been seeing my bf for 6 mths, I didn’t not want to seem like I’m nit picking or anything but a few things are bothering me. He rarely iniates intimacy. His excuse is he’s shy. Surly not after 6 m...
A. 17 July 2018: You ask if you are "right" to be annoyed. It isn't about right or wrong here. OBVIOUSLY you are annoyed with a bunch of little things. BUT you try and use passive-aggressiveness instead of sitting him down and talk about EACH issue as they pop up. ... (read in full...)
Her depression is getting in the way of our love!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years, and we are both in love with each others. We shared alot of great times together and i can't imagine my life without her. I was her first boyfriend, and she never dated anyone because she doesn't trust men, ...
A. 16 July 2018: I think you should tell her she NEEDS to seek help.
9 years together is a long time and I would presume it also means you two know each other well and care for each other. But... I think she is stagnating in her own misery.
Medication is... (read in full...)
Everyone tells us moving in together after 2 months of dating is too soon!
Q. What's the consensus for knowing when you're ready to move in with someone? My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a little over 2 months, but we see each other every day (we work at the same company), spend hours/weekends at a time togeth...
A. 16 July 2018: It might work for you two, it might not.
However WHERE is the fire?
2 months is really nothing. You don't know him all that well and he doesn't know you. Even if you have already spend a lot of time together, you are BOTH on your best behavi... (read in full...)
My best friend is dating my younger sister!
Q. my best freind has started going out with my little sister (20) and im realy jelouse about it. some back story, me and my best freind we'll call him Tim, we're both 27 and have been mates for about 26 years. anyway about six months back my l...
A. 16 July 2018: OP, I know this is not what you want to hear but Tim doesn't feel romantic about you. He has known you long enough that IF HE DID he would have acted on it.
YOU are a FRIEND with a capital F. No more, no less.
He DOES however feel romanticall... (read in full...)
How do I move on and am I to blame?
Q. I'm just in despair right now. I absolutely love this site and it's helped me in times of need for so long now, so here goes. I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. We lived together for two years in his family house (his famil...
A. 16 July 2018: I'm sorry it didn't work out for you two. But it happens.
I think you BOTH ignored "each other issues" in the beginning and thought you either would get used to them or it would change over time.
But most of all, I think your (now) ex is just... (read in full...)
This confusing guy is sending mixed signals!
Q. So I met this guy off a gay dating app. We had tremendously good sex. As he left my house he told me he "really wanted" to see me again. He lives in a different city and for a hook up from an app, it was brave of him to say that. I asked him when he ...
A. 15 July 2018: Also...
OP, if you guy didn't use condom - go get a STD panel. Not because you two are gay but because he seems to be having a lot of partners. And there is a rise in STD's in the UK.
Don't be a statistic.
Meeting up before a hook up... well... (read in full...)
What does he want? Is there something here or just a sexual relationship?
Q. Going back about 4-5 months ago, I met a guy one night out at a bar. We are 5 years age difference, I'm 22 and he's 27. We immediately slept together that night. We kind of clicked quite well and he got my number, stayed in contact with me and we ...
A. 15 July 2018: Why not ask him?
If you would LIKE more, tell him.
Then he can either AGREE and you two move forward or... he can reject the idea and you can stop wasting your time, energy and emotions on a guy who doesn't WANT to date you.
As for how much... (read in full...)
Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?
Q. Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...
A. 15 July 2018: Baby steps, OP
You just broke up after being with someone for 6 years. Of course that hurts and makes you feel numb.
Whether your ex was "right" on being worried about the finances doesn't matter right now. What matter is that you get back on ... (read in full...)
Why doesn’t he answer his phone when he’s with me?
Q. I have been dating a guy for 5 wks we have had a great 5 wks (I know it's only 5 wks) but one thing that bugs me is when we are together he won't answer his phone if a message comes through and often put it on silent. . Why is this ?? He says he ...
A. 15 July 2018: I would honestly presume he is telling the truth. I think it's pretty RUDE to hang out with someone or be out to dinner and be busy on the phone.
He is still on his best behavior when seeing you so putting the phone on silence seems polite t... (read in full...)
Shall I stop being a gentlemen and be a man?
Q. Just wondering what you guys would think what’s on this girls mind. She is married with 2 kids. She is few years older than me, we work together. She is quiet person, well respected and often hates guys advancing. For example a friend of mine will ...
A. 15 July 2018: She is married, OP
What in the world would you get out of this mess? Other than MAYBE some attention, fantasy and some affair?
And I agree - define - gentleman and man...
Kind of curious.... (read in full...)
In a financial crisis, who do you give your last dollar to?
Q. At the age of 16 years old I knew I never wanted a man with a child. When I met my husband, he had no children which was a plus. Of course we started off as friends but before we actually got into a serious relationship, he slept with one of his ...
A. 13 July 2018: Your priority are YOUR children.
What I would suggest you do, is make a budget and stick to it. Have savings for a rainy day.
Rent-to-own (or out to hire) is such a bad way to buy items for you house as you usually end up paying many time... (read in full...)
After years of neglect, my teeth need dental care! Is this how I go about it?
Q. Hi guys... I think this is more for support as well as advice. I've been on before about this topic but a new angle this time. So I've now got a boyfriend and one major issue I had was I hate my teeth. It's because of years of neglect ...
A. 13 July 2018: Just do it.
Make sure you tell your dentist that you have neglected your dental care out of fear but that you want to improve. If your dentist spends time scolding you. Don't use that dentist again.
The dentist will have seen worse. And if yo... (read in full...)
This confusing guy is sending mixed signals!
Q. So I met this guy off a gay dating app. We had tremendously good sex. As he left my house he told me he "really wanted" to see me again. He lives in a different city and for a hook up from an app, it was brave of him to say that. I asked him when he ...
A. 13 July 2018: No, he doesn't have a real interest in you. Having occasionally casual sex perhaps but not really anything where he has to INVEST anything.
Sending you a couple of minimal effort texts doesn't mean he is interested. Just that he wants you to b... (read in full...)
Is my way of orgasming normal? And was it normal to start so young?
Q. When i was 8 years old, I've literally been having an orgasm and i didn't even knew what orgasm is. I would get it when ever i squeeze my legs together, and i would feel pleasure and relaxed feeling, i also feel pressure down there when i do it. ...
A. 12 July 2018: I don't know if it's normal for 8 year old's to orgasm. I DO think it sounds normal that you had no idea of what it was - just that it felt nice. Like some one scratching your back.
Orgasm is just a bodily reaction. It is not ALWAYS sexual. ... (read in full...)
Why couldn’t he understand that I needed his emotional support that day?
Q. Monday was a sad day for me. I lost my job and broke up with my boyfriend of 4 yrs. Although I'm not too worried about being able to find another job, it still is not a happy event to be let go... I called my boyfriend and he sounded shocked ...
A. 12 July 2018: Sorry about the job thing, OP
I hope you find a MUCH better job next.
As for your BF or rather ex-Bf - maybe... breaking up was for the best? in the long run? If he can't SUPPORT you and FIND an hour, sit down and TALK to you, when he otherwis... (read in full...)
Please help me with my questions on infertility..
Q. This question is for anyone who has struggled with infertility. How was your relationship (marriage or otherwise) affected by it? Did you undergo fertility treatments (successful or otherwise), adopt, or just choose to remain child-free? Also, for ...
A. 11 July 2018: I think your "best bet" for getting the information you are seeking, to find a infertility forum/board. You will get a MUCH larger group of people who have gone through and going through this, than you will here on DC.
... (read in full...)
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