He ghosted me after we had sex, how do I move on?
Q. I have a bit of an issue. I met this guy about 4 - 5 years ago. We connected instantly, spoke daily and he went out of his way to talk to me. 4 or 5 years into this friendship, feeling developed. We spoke more and more and even met up a few tim...
A. 30 July 2018: There you go, OP!~
You probably won't ever really "forget" him but you will come to a point where you just don't give a flying fart about him and.... hopefully learn to not repeat the same mistake with another guy.
His loss, OP - remember that.... (read in full...)
Should I go away for a week or less with my friend?
Q. I'm unsure of whether to go away for a week or less with my friend ,it will be in a few days ,as I'm trying to make my student loan last as best as I can until end of September time when I start college again . other reasons why im unsure are ive ...
A. 30 July 2018: If you really can not afford a vacation/holiday then don't. You will have PLENTY of time to experience being away from the family soon enough. :)
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I rejected my ideal guy years ago, and now he's with someone else and it's driving me crazy. Help!
Q. Hey, I'm writing this partly to get it off my chest and partly because I need to change something about this situation, even if it's just my way of thinking about it. 5 years ago I was single, much more stupid than I am now, and met a brillia...
A. 30 July 2018: You know, he has a GF of 5 years, right?
So he is probably WITH her because he CARE about her. Not everyone feels the need to "flirt" or "PDA" in front of others to show them that they are lovey dovey. People show and experience a loving relation... (read in full...)
I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?
Q. I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...
A. 30 July 2018: Good for you OP!
Keep moving forward! ... (read in full...)
A minor bump in the road is my parents! How to convince them to let me send him off?
Q. Hi all :) Currently I’m seeing a guy who will be moving to the US very soon to complete his education. My parents are aware that I’ve been seeing him and going out with him. (I need to let them know because I’m currently living at home for the sum...
A. 30 July 2018: If you feel you need their approval, then JUST ask and respect whatever decision they give you.
You don't know that they would tell you no. You have a "feeling" they might.
Some people say it's easier to ask forgiveness than permission, and ... (read in full...)
Was it inappropriate or okay where I touched a celebrity when I took a picture with him?
Q. Weird question here, but I’ve been pondering over it. I met a really famous actor at a premiere and I asked his assistant to take a picture of me and the celebrity. I travelled to another country just to meet this celebrity so obviously I was ...
A. 29 July 2018: I think it's a little to late to worry about it now. If it had been a big concern for you, you could have asked beforehand... and it it was reallllllly offensive to the actor, he probably would have asked you to move the hand.
I think it was just... (read in full...)
Why are some women adamantly against their husband/boyfriends looking at porn?
Q. I'm just a bit curious. It seems that to some women the worst sin a man can commit is looking at porn and I don't get it. They are just images on a screen of women he most likely will never meet or ever have a chance with. The chances of ...
A. 29 July 2018: I think the women who don't like their partners viewing porn feel like they aren't ENOUGH to arouse their partner's desires or lust.
To me though it has to do with lack of imagination and creativity in the bedroom. If a guy HAS to watch porn to ... (read in full...)
He ghosted me after we had sex, how do I move on?
Q. I have a bit of an issue. I met this guy about 4 - 5 years ago. We connected instantly, spoke daily and he went out of his way to talk to me. 4 or 5 years into this friendship, feeling developed. We spoke more and more and even met up a few tim...
A. 29 July 2018: Sorry OP,
Having sex was a mistake. Are you sure he doesn't have a GF?
The thing is you can be mad at him for having sex with you and then ghosting you, but you were OK with the sex, you just had different expectations AFTER the sex.
My s... (read in full...)
Are my parents right to punish me with a prison type punishment ?
Q. IS IT RIGHT THAT MY PARENTS HAVE PUT ME IN PRISON ? AND ARE THEY BEING MEAN FOR NOT LETTING ME GO OUT INTO OUR GARDEN ? I got caught shoplifting, my parents said they don't want to see me go to jail, so are punishing me severely, they h...
A. 29 July 2018: Then LEARN from this and DO NOT commit crime again. Don't steal things that do NOT belong to you and maybe your parents will start to trust you again.
Sure your sister is enjoying you being in trouble... she is your sister. Siblings DO that. Bu... (read in full...)
Are my parents right to punish me with a prison type punishment ?
Q. IS IT RIGHT THAT MY PARENTS HAVE PUT ME IN PRISON ? AND ARE THEY BEING MEAN FOR NOT LETTING ME GO OUT INTO OUR GARDEN ? I got caught shoplifting, my parents said they don't want to see me go to jail, so are punishing me severely, they h...
A. 29 July 2018: Yes, I think your parents are right to CHOOSE how they punish you.
YOU committed a CRIME - stealing is a crime. You were lucky that you got released into your parents custody and they they CARE enough to punish you.
So what that you are bor... (read in full...)
Lack of sex has made me cheat on my partner. Do I just leave him?
Q. Hi My partner of 6 yrs does not have sex with me at all. He says he just can't be arsed and does not have any interest in sex. I have lived like this for 5 yrs with him. I the first yr he rarely did have sex with me. We are 50 and 51. I have s...
A. 29 July 2018: Of course you should leave your partner.
He didn't MAKE you cheat by not having sex with you. After all you STILL stayed even though you didn't get any sexual fulfillment. So don't use that as an excuse. Just saying.
You CHOSE to have affairs ... (read in full...)
Are cheaters ever unhappy? They seem to be winning it all...a wife at home and a mistress outside!
Q. Are cheaters ever unhappy? I work in the entertainment industry and work long hours - lately my video editor and I have been working on an editing project and during lunch hours he basically confided that he has had an External affair with another ...
A. 28 July 2018: OP, why do you think they cheat in the first place?
If they WERE happy would they feel the need to fill that empty void with someone besides a spouse?
Now you can be JUST another conquest on his "fuck list" or you can choose to not be lumped in... (read in full...)
Why is it no matter how good, true and honest you are, there are still people who don’t see it?
Q. Why is it no matter how good you are and how true and honest you are there are still people who don’t see it. The older I get the more I realize what is right and wrong and I realize what I deserve in life and what I should allow in a relationship ...
A. 28 July 2018: IF you know his behavior is not OK, WHY are you allowing it?
Other people CAN NOT make him think bad things about you, He knows you, and since he is dating you, he should come to you with these "rumors" and ask you what's up with that. Instead ... (read in full...)
Not interested in a boyfriend. Is that okay?
Q. Im 25 and i never had a boyfriend. Since my teenage years, i was never worried about dating or having a boyfriend, i would only focus my self on studying and making myself happy. I started going on dates since i was 19, and i would say, we would go ...
A. 28 July 2018: If you are not really looking to have a relationship or a BF, then don't.
1. Why do people think having a partner is a must?
Mostly I think that is just basic nature. After-all, THAT is why we are here on Earth... to procreate. And that takes O... (read in full...)
I feel the need to have a child but I want it to be my lover's not my husband's
Q. DO NOT JUDGE I am female, 34 years..i am married to a man-boy kinda of husband (45 years) who has no clue how to raise children..we have two..one mine and the first one is his...his past time is drinking....but he come through with finances......
A. 27 July 2018: I think you are being absolutely selfish, irrational and unrealistic here.
Why bring ANOTHER child into a marriage that obviously is a mess? Where you are screwing around with another man?
And what IF this "lover" doesn't WANT to be a father? ... (read in full...)
Why were these girls staring and giggling at me?
Q. I had a crush on a girl from last semester's class and at the start of the new semester I walked past her and her friend, probably a distance of 200m. I saw her friend out and about the night before randomly and we both said a friendly hi. The thing ...
A. 27 July 2018: My guess is they think you are cute and wanted to get your attentions... guess what? It worked.
Could also be that they think you are interested, which stroked their egos.
I don't think it's anything sinister. Just a couple of immature chicks.... (read in full...)
We moved in way too quickly and now finances are breaking us apart
Q. Hey all.. Before I start, please don’t include judgement saying I shouldn’t be living with him yet, it’s too soon to have introduced him to my daughter, etc. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating 6 months. We moved in together rather quickly ...
A. 27 July 2018: Yes, you moved in WAY to quickly.
And YES, I do think it was WAY too soon to involve him in your daughter's life. Sure that is not what you want to hear.. but let's face it... IT IS the truth. Like it or not.
You need to stick to the budget yo... (read in full...)
Fallen for a hook up does he like me?
Q. I hooked up with this guy and really really like him! I had had his number for a while but never met up then one day I just said let’s meet. We met, slept together we spoke a little, he told me some of his likes little bit about his family, ...
A. 27 July 2018: He sees you as a booty call not much else. If he was really interested he would not ignore you and he would put more effort into you...
If you want a f-buddy thing with him, make you you use protection every time.
If you want more than that..... (read in full...)
He said he gave me a test, I call it pure BS
Q. The other day the gut I've seeing for a couple of months asked if its OK if he still sleeps with other women I got really upset andsaid no it ruined the nice night we were having. now he's saying but he only said that to test if I was serious about ...
A. 27 July 2018: I do think it was a test of sorts, except he expected you to say OK.
And any guy (or girl) who do "tests" instead of just having a conversation are IDIOTS.
I'd let this one back in the pond, he is a twat.
I wouldn't BE surprised if he hasn'... (read in full...)
Was this interaction cheating?
Q. Hi Guys, I am confused at the moment and need advice. My girlfriend received nude pictures from a guy she had a fling with way before we started dating. He asked her for pictures and she replied saying no you should send me pictures. he end...
A. 27 July 2018: Is it cheating?
No. But it is inappropriate and she OUGHT to block him. Why would she even entertain a guy who isn't her BF asking for nudes or any kind of pictures?
I'd ask her how she would feel if YOU were doing what SHE is doing. See what ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he follow up after our dates?
Q. I met a guy on a dating app two weeks ago. Cue, steady flirtation and intrigue for 10 days or so until he have me his cell number and we con tinuned onto texting, We had planned to get together for a drink on his side of town (we dont live super ...
A. 26 July 2018: Honestly?
Maybe he is unsure of what to do. Yeah, even given his age.
To be honest, I'd start putting in as much (or little) effort as he is, for a little while. I would NOT drive 40 minutes to see him, I'd suggest meeting out and about and go... (read in full...)
My friend never has time for me anymore since she started dating. Do I walk away?
Q. Not sure if anyone on here can help but I wanted some advice about a friendship. One of my best friends has recently become very distant and so reluctant to see me. I've been trying to arrange to see her one weekend for several months but I jus...
A. 26 July 2018: I think it's pretty common for some people to drop everything else when they get a new partner. At least in the beginning. It's all new and shiny and they can't get enough.
Some people JUST can not juggle a new partner AND their friends. And some... (read in full...)
We have slept together on several occasions but now he says he sees us as friends?
Q. I’d been seeing someone for about 3 months, still obviously early days but I really liked him and I made quite a big step by sleeping with him (due to bad experiences). Anyway about 2 weeks ago he got ill and has been recovering since, he’s okay but ...
A. 26 July 2018: Unless you are looking for a friend or a FWB, I'd walk away.
I agree with Cindy, I don't think it was the upping messages.. I think it was sleeping with him before anything was really established.
The reason I'd walk away is because I can ea... (read in full...)
I think my friend is seeing my ex.
Q. Hi all, Come to this site sometimes when level headed and anonymous advice is needed so here goes. Some years back I was involved with this guy for awhile. We drifted apart and then I moved to another part of the country.I thought e was ...
A. 26 July 2018: I understand that it would suck to lose a friend over a guy. Any guy, really. But that can happen. Now if you try to be supportive of your friend, she can CHOOSE to see how GREAT of a friend you are or.. she can be so insecure that she can't keep ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had a break with their partner and what was the outcome?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half and last night he told me he wasn’t feeling the same. We had a talk about this a few weeks ago and had planned to work it out. But he had told me last night that he didn’t want to keep it ...
A. 25 July 2018: No breaks doesn't "improve" on a relationship in general. I don't know where you have heard such nonsense.
The whole idea of taking a "break" if things aren't good or working out serves LITTLE purpose. Either the people involved sit down and figu... (read in full...)
How do I keep my ex out of my house?
Q. My 11yrs old son became very upset today because he thought my ex-husband and I were arguing. This is what happend: my ex brought my son to the doctors to get his annual check up today at 1:00pm. He planned to drop my son off at my house at around 3...
A. 25 July 2018: This sounds absolutely nutters!
Personally, I would tell him that he can RING the doorbell and WAIT outside for the whatever kid he is picking up. And tell the kids the same.
If he try and use the "excuse" to check your son's monitor or ANYTH... (read in full...)
In love with someone else whilst in a relationship with someone I am not in love with
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10 months now. We get on really well as companions and friends, we really care about eachother and are affectionate. I know he loves me and i feel safe with him. The longstanding issue has become ...
A. 25 July 2018: End it with your BF first, like EVERY aunt/uncle suggested.
Because? It's the right thing to do.
Some people are just not cut out for LDR's, no matter how great the partner is. I think... you are one of those people.
10 months is too soon (... (read in full...)
The rude barista misbehaved with me and my husband took her side!!
Q. Hi, I need help to understand a meaning of a conflict with my husband, who is completely in denial, and not compassionate with me,.. This is of-course not the only issue , we have but this one put me over the edge.. So few days ago I ordered...
A. 25 July 2018: It just show how bad a barista she is OR how bad of a choice of coffee you picked. Or both.
If you expected great product and service at a Starbucks... then I think you are overestimating Starbucks.
Honestly, I would have acted like you husband... (read in full...)
Would this behavior be considered cheating?
Q. a man and a woman are otherwise commited to other people, they flirt with each other on a regular basis for three years. There is no touching however, and the flirting is largely acting nervous like school kids around each other. smiling like ...
A. 25 July 2018: So you are aware OP that if you did this in front of your partner it would hurt her feelings?
And if you did it in front of your partner she would probably feel even MORE insecure about you and the relationship?
Treat others as you would like t... (read in full...)
I told my married female friend that I'd never date a woman with children (she has them) and now she's blown me off
Q. I have a female friend who's married with children. I've known her for 5 years and we work at the same company. I speak to her maybe 2-3 times a week and we usually go for coffee at least once a week. I am very fond of her, I would say I love...
A. 25 July 2018: Give her some space and time, OP
She may come around to realize having a friend in you is something she likes.
However, she might also realize that being friends with you and having some sort of crush or romantic feelings towards you IS N... (read in full...)
Why don't any of my male friends think of me as a potential dating partner?
Q. I’m a 34 year old, single, straight female and I’m in a real predicament as to how the opposite sex view me. I’m quite a sociable person so I have a large mix of friends but I also have a large group of close male friends of a similar age grou...
A. 25 July 2018: Of course the dynamics change when they have a GF, that is pretty normal, OP They probably also see less of their male friends in the beginning of a new relationship.
You should no longer BE their focus, the GF should be. But... if they totally ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy tilts his head while he's smiling you?
Q. My guy friend and I were sitting together in a room by ourselves and we were facing each other. After he was done talking to me, we both became silent and stared into each other's eyes. He was staring at me for about 10 seconds and I was starting to ...
A. 25 July 2018: What does it mean?
It means he is playing games with your head and you are letting him.
And OP, you know what it meant. I don't think you are dense so don't put on an act that this is OK. You certainly wouldn't want YOUR BF to give "that" look... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to tell my boyfriend that some dominant sex acts are painful to me
Q. My boyfriend have always been into dominant sex. Recently, he was asking me to slap him during sex, i found it really odd but i did anyways. We do love each other, however, his dominance in bed is sometimes painful. Im too shy to tell him to calm ...
A. 25 July 2018: I'm with Tisha.
If you can not set boundaries in the bedroom, you shouldn't be having sex. Not with him NOR anyone else.
You are putting yourself at risk and you are ALSO the reason WHY your sex-life is getting scary. Because YOU DO NOT speak... (read in full...)
Still have feelings for ex after 7 years
Q. I still have feelings for an ex I dated over 7 years ago. She was the first girl I dated and we broke up because I was a jealous person. Over the past 7 years I’ve dated other girls and I’m in a relationship now however I regularly think about my ...
A. 24 July 2018: You are stuck on the IDEA of who she was, not who she really is today.
7 years (especially in your late teens -early 20's) equates a LOT of growing, maturing, making and (hopefully) learning from mistakes.
SHE is not the girl woman you rememb... (read in full...)
Would this behavior be considered cheating?
Q. a man and a woman are otherwise commited to other people, they flirt with each other on a regular basis for three years. There is no touching however, and the flirting is largely acting nervous like school kids around each other. smiling like ...
A. 24 July 2018: I agree with YCBS,
Do you do these things in front of your partner?
If not, why?
Would you be OK with your PARTNER doing these things with another man?
If not, why?
While I am all for banter and a bit of fun with people who is NOT your... (read in full...)
I'm tired of my boyfriend always being on his phone and never paying attention
Q. My bf of 4 years is always on his phone. He is completely addicted to this dragonball game he downloaded 2years ago. He has literally had his phone in his hand every waking moment since. I find this very unattractive. He's 30 years old and although ...
A. 24 July 2018: Maybe you need to make the HARD choice and end it with him. I', sorry someone who is 30 and constantly on his phone to play games? That is not really someone who is invested in the relationship or YOU.
If you live together (and I'm guessing... (read in full...)
I told my married female friend that I'd never date a woman with children (she has them) and now she's blown me off
Q. I have a female friend who's married with children. I've known her for 5 years and we work at the same company. I speak to her maybe 2-3 times a week and we usually go for coffee at least once a week. I am very fond of her, I would say I love...
A. 24 July 2018: I think the reason she is now ignoring you is because her "fantasy" of you and "with" you is over.
I think she had hoped that at one point YOU would perhaps be her way out of her marriage or perhaps just "lust" after her. I think YOU saw/see ... (read in full...)
It looks like he's interested in me but then why doesn't he approach me?
Q. There is this guy at my local gym who I have seen for months now and I am very attracted to him and I think he feels the same way. His 24 and I'm 21 (to put things into perspective), he has had his friends 'stake' me out from afar, watching what I ...
A. 23 July 2018: I would honestly move along.
So what if he is cute? He isn't going to start talking to you, it isn't going to go anywhere. Even if YOU approached him would you want EVERY date to be "chaperoned" by one of his friend so there is someone to talk for... (read in full...)
How can I let go of other people’s opinions
Q. How can I let go of these friends opinions and gossip? I Am Eastern European and I used to hang out with women from my culture that were gossipy and the only goal in life was to get married and show off. I have fallen into hard times and my fam...
A. 23 July 2018: What you are doing (taking an extra job to help with medical bills) IS something you should be proud off.
These women are NOT your friends, their opinion DOES not matter!
The reason they feel like they HAVE to gossip and post about this and t... (read in full...)
I think my friend is seeing my ex.
Q. Hi all, Come to this site sometimes when level headed and anonymous advice is needed so here goes. Some years back I was involved with this guy for awhile. We drifted apart and then I moved to another part of the country.I thought e was ...
A. 23 July 2018: why not just ask your friend?
If there really is not chance of you and him getting back together due to distance and what not, why not LET her know you are OK with her dating him?
Maybe she keeps mentioning him to gauge your feelings about h... (read in full...)
I would like my 2 sons to rebuild their relationship. Can I do anything to help?
Q. I have two sons. The oldest one, John, is 35 years old and the youngest one, Joe, is 33 years old. About five years ago, they got into a major argument. John did not like Joe's girlfriend and tried to talk to Joe about it. John crossed the line...
A. 23 July 2018: I don't think you can change this. They are adults now and make their own choices, even dumb choices. Just like it was John's dumbass choice to call his brother's GF a derogatory name due to her ethnicity.
How well do you get along with your dau... (read in full...)
Why don't any of my male friends think of me as a potential dating partner?
Q. I’m a 34 year old, single, straight female and I’m in a real predicament as to how the opposite sex view me. I’m quite a sociable person so I have a large mix of friends but I also have a large group of close male friends of a similar age grou...
A. 23 July 2018: Because they understand the difference between a friendship and romance. OR... they might just have another type of woman in mind when it comes to GF/partners.
The SUREST and FASTEST way to ruin a friendship is to add romance.
Why are YOU n... (read in full...)
I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?
Q. I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...
A. 18 July 2018: OP,
I just want to point out when you go to the Child Support Agency (to file for child support when the baby is born) THEY will contact him, HE will be the one PAYING for the DNA test. He is the one who wants the test done. (though I DO think in... (read in full...)
I'm sitting here alone and pregnant, can I get any advice?
Q. I dated this guy for almost six months during the time I got pregnant.Issues between me and his mom became apparent when she and her daughter begin writting shady comments on my fb page I finally confront both of them and his mom end up call me a ...
A. 17 July 2018: Honestly, with THIS amount of drama wouldn't it be BETTER for you and the baby to NOT be around him and his family?
Cut him off. Get a job (and yes, even if you are 4 months pregnant you can still work, you are pregnant not paralyzed).
Look in... (read in full...)
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