Can I fool this new guy into thining I'm not a virgin?
Q. Hello! I met a man online. We have been talking for three months on an dating app. We’ve clicked and have a lot in common. The conversation of us being intimate has come up. However, I don’t want to tell him I am a virgin, I’m 26 and he is 22...
A. 27 September 2018: You know what that means OP?
That you didn't have your first time with an idiot.... (read in full...)
Is this just a one night stand or something more?
Q. Okay people I need opinion here.... especially from a guys perspective!! So i met a guy from my old state through social media. He contacted me first asking about hiking trails in the new state I was located. He was helping move his mom here whe...
A. 13 August 2018: Honestly?
Because he asked for nudes I would put him in the "lost causes pile" and wish him well and then just block, remove, delete and move on.
If you feel like you "owe" him a reason, then tell him that you felt him asking (not only once) ... (read in full...)
Is this just a one night stand or something more?
Q. Okay people I need opinion here.... especially from a guys perspective!! So i met a guy from my old state through social media. He contacted me first asking about hiking trails in the new state I was located. He was helping move his mom here whe...
A. 13 August 2018: Eh, just block, delete and move on. BLOCK him from accessing your Facebook, and BLOCK him from looking at your pictures etc.
And next time, save the sex for someone you WANT to be with who wants to be with you too.
I would also stick to guy who... (read in full...)
How far would you be prepared to travel to a friends wedding? Is the very expensive proposition even practical with my girlfriend and one year old baby?
Q. How far would you be prepared to travel to a friends wedding? Hello everyone! After some honest and friendly advice regarding an up coming opportunity. I live in the UK and one of my closest friends lives in Auz. He has decide to go ahead and get...
A. 11 August 2018: I would ask them. What would you two really like for a wedding present.
I think ANY good friend would understand that the cost and THAT many hours flight is just too much for your little family at the moment.
AND you COULD send the present to A... (read in full...)
My ex is addicted to xanax and don't know what to do
Q. For the past year I've been seeing this girl who lives about four hours from me in another city. We've been off and on for about five years dating different people in between but always remaining friends throughout. We recently had a falling out ...
A. 11 August 2018: OP, disregard that anon...
She didn't bother reading your posts or look up information on Xanax either.
You don't need to justify your concern to strangers online.
... (read in full...)
My ex is addicted to xanax and don't know what to do
Q. For the past year I've been seeing this girl who lives about four hours from me in another city. We've been off and on for about five years dating different people in between but always remaining friends throughout. We recently had a falling out ...
A. 11 August 2018: OP, disregard that anon...
She didn't bother reading your posts or look up information on Xanax either.
You don't need to justify your concern to strangers online.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lied about her sexual past. How do I trust her?
Q. I have been dating this girl for four years now and have asked about past relationships with guys in the beginning of our relationship . She had told me that she slept with three guys, two boyfriends and a friend, when telling me about her ...
A. 10 August 2018: I think trust goes both ways. I don't think you had ANY right to ask her ex about their sex-life or intimate details. Those are really NONE of your business.
And... you really have no clue how much of what the guy told you were the actual truth an... (read in full...)
My husband lied and said he no longer watches porn. He still does why does he lie about it?
Q. My husband told me he was going to give up watching porn. But he is still watching it and now lying about it. I know this because he uses my laptop while I go to work and today when I go to the URL to type in YouTub... well then YouPor... comes pops ...
A. 10 August 2018: I think it's "a lie to keep the peace".
I think instead of grilling him, talk about WHY he is watching porn, if he feels your sex-life is lacking and HOW you two (together) can improve it.
I think if porn interferes with the sex-life then it... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's sexual past worries me
Q. Im currently dating this man whose been sexually active since a very young age. Well at first he didn't tell me about it, everything was going awesome, until we got too comfortable and he decided to share some personal things about him. He told me ...
A. 10 August 2018: You BF has been sexually abused and needs professional help and guidance. Something you can not give him.
It is probably why he is acting out sexually through that Facebook sex-chat group.
I know it's NOT his fault for what has happened to him,... (read in full...)
If he can’t make time for me, is there any point in this relationship?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man for 3 months now. He has a child from a previous relationship who is 1year old. He has the child most of the weekend and works all week, as do I. We have very little time to spend with one another and I don’t ...
A. 10 August 2018: I think you already know this is not what you want.
1. he lives with his parents.
2. he doesn't seem to make time for you.
3. you are not really a priority.
4. you don't really think your lives are compatible...
I would just te... (read in full...)
Two guys and I'm confused about which one to pick
Q. Hi guys! I am starting to date again after the end of my 6-year relationship that ended last year. This has never been a problem of mine before, but I am currently seeing two guys. Guy 1: 10 years older (35), is decently successful in h...
A. 10 August 2018: I agree with N91,
NEITHER. Option 1... no. He is not a great match and is pushing for a lot more than you are able and willing to give right now. Maybe because you don't REALLY want him or maybe because you sense he is pushing too much because ... (read in full...)
Do I deserve to be treated this way because I cheated?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 16 years. Out of the past 10 years I have supported him fully. I am the only one that works, pays the bills, mortgage, cooks, and does all of the housework. We also have a child together that is only a ...
A. 10 August 2018: Honestly?
No you do not DESERVE this because you cheated in the past. He could have CHOSEN to not stay with you. And YOU can CHOOSE to not stay with him.
Why aren't you just a single mom? Finding a day-care close to work might cost a little bi... (read in full...)
We are engaged but I don't think I'm the one my fiance wants to be with
Q. Hi I’ve been with my fiancé now for 4 years I feel like the relationship is on its way out I’ve had so much to put up with while we’ve been together we got engaged because he didn’t know what to get me for Christmas and his mum suggested it I only ...
A. 9 August 2018: What do you WANT?
Do you want to continue this VERY dead relationship? Or do you want more?
Sure, some might say, DO pre-marital counseling BEFORE deciding if you really WANT to end it or move on to marriage with him.. I'd say that would be a ... (read in full...)
I’m worried he’s being strung along but what can I do?
Q. I wanted some advice but don't want to come across as an over concerned friend. Basically my good friend has been dating a girl from a dating site since spring I haven't seen him for a while but am friends with ne of his male mates who said she's b...
A. 9 August 2018: If he is your age, then he is a GROWN man who "should" be able to make his own choices when it comes to a partner. He isn't your responsibility.
However, I DO get that when we see a friend make dumb choices we kind of want them to know that the... (read in full...)
My online LD friend made me uncomfortable by flirting so I blocked him
Q. I met this man on Instagram 8 months ago, we both loved music and that's how our conversation started. He's from Australia and I'm from the US. Everything was great, however he started to confess his love for me WAY TOO EARLY. I found it weird. ...
A. 9 August 2018: No just keep blocking him.
He is only saying "I'm sorry" to appease you and talk to you some more, he obviously doesn't respect you at all or he would have quit with the flirting when you told him enough.
I would also suggest that you stop bl... (read in full...)
How do I handle my girlfriend's ex without punching him in the face?
Q. Hey people, I never usually ask questions like this online but I don't really know how to talk to anyone else about this. So sorry if this is all over the place. Anyway, I have been in a relationship with an amazing girl for the last 8 months an...
A. 9 August 2018: I have to agree, it's NOT up to you.
Your GF might share friends with her ex, but go on holiday with him when he is being such a twat and abusive? that is RIDICULOUS! IDGAF if other friends went, she should have known he would be an ass and she ... (read in full...)
How far would you be prepared to travel to a friends wedding? Is the very expensive proposition even practical with my girlfriend and one year old baby?
Q. How far would you be prepared to travel to a friends wedding? Hello everyone! After some honest and friendly advice regarding an up coming opportunity. I live in the UK and one of my closest friends lives in Auz. He has decide to go ahead and get...
A. 8 August 2018: Honestly?
I would stick to buying a really nice present. While travelling with a little one (in general) doesn't HAVE to be tough.. a 32 HOURS travel/flight with a little one will be. No doubt.
I also think with a new baby and everything there... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone who says he is speaking to others. How do I take that?
Q. Dear Cupid readers I have went a date with someone recently, he said that's he's speaking to other woman. How do I take this? ...
A. 8 August 2018: While it is (for many) pretty much the "norm" for dating these days that people think if they talk to as MANY options as possible the bigger the chance of meeting the "right one" is. I find it so distasteful. Mostly because they are NOT all that ... (read in full...)
Is this just a one night stand or something more?
Q. Okay people I need opinion here.... especially from a guys perspective!! So i met a guy from my old state through social media. He contacted me first asking about hiking trails in the new state I was located. He was helping move his mom here whe...
A. 7 August 2018: NO, don't tell him you feel confused or whatever you are feeling. Regardless of having chatted, met his family and had sex... HE still is a bit of a stranger to you.
RELAX, CHILL, get to know him. Just remember to NOT involve sex next time you... (read in full...)
Can I fool this new guy into thining I'm not a virgin?
Q. Hello! I met a man online. We have been talking for three months on an dating app. We’ve clicked and have a lot in common. The conversation of us being intimate has come up. However, I don’t want to tell him I am a virgin, I’m 26 and he is 22...
A. 6 August 2018: Good Lord, OP
If you are serious about this guy, do you really think starting off by LYING to him (by omission but regardless...).
Dildos and "breaking" the hymen... it's... a BIT OTT!
First of all you might not HAVE a intact hymen. And seco... (read in full...)
He has PTSD. Should I give him another chance?
Q. How do i deal with someone who has ptsd ( from serving in the army )? I met a guy on a dating site last year all was well for a few month then he seemed to have a melt down .He wouldnt see me or answer my calls and i got a bit worried. After 2 m...
A. 6 August 2018: I think you should leave him be. Hopefully he can focus on his mental health and get better with the help of VA.
If he can't handle you or a relationship with you due to PTSD, be probably isn't in a place where he SHOULD be dating at all. Not sayi... (read in full...)
Is this just a one night stand or something more?
Q. Okay people I need opinion here.... especially from a guys perspective!! So i met a guy from my old state through social media. He contacted me first asking about hiking trails in the new state I was located. He was helping move his mom here whe...
A. 6 August 2018: I agree with N91, HE seems more interested that you do. (If I just go by his/your actions).
If eh JUST saw you as a FWB type thing.. I don't think he would have invited you to join so many family things nor kept up with the texting.
BUT I w... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to cut ties with former friends who let me down?
Q. Two years ago I worked for a small company of approx 60 people and my colleagues were like family. We worked together, socialised together-it was very tight knit. Then unfortunately one of our clients gave us a project that went wrong. One of my...
A. 6 August 2018: No, it's OK to pick and choose who you want in your life. I think people waste way too much energy on people who don't deserve it.
So DO YOU. But as you cut them out of your life, stop focusing on the past, live in the here and now.
I hope ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but don't enjoy sex
Q. I'm in a relationship with another girl and have known her 2 years. I do love her but I don't enjoy having sex at all. I don't know if it's because I don't physically fancy her that much or because I can't be bothered to have sex. I find it boring ...
A. 6 August 2018: Is she your first sexual partner? Or your first same sex sexual partner?
Not feeling aroused by your partner, feeling sex is a chore is not good.
Has sex with your partner(s) NEVER sexually satisfied you?
Because that CAN be part of the ... (read in full...)
My ex is addicted to xanax and don't know what to do
Q. For the past year I've been seeing this girl who lives about four hours from me in another city. We've been off and on for about five years dating different people in between but always remaining friends throughout. We recently had a falling out ...
A. 6 August 2018: Can you reach out to her down the line?
For what purpose? To make yourself feel better? To check up on her?
At some point you HAVE to accept that SHE is living with HER own choices. Addiction is one of those things that are forever. Doesn't... (read in full...)
Why does my partner fall asleep during oral sex?
Q. My partner has done exactly the same, fallen asleep during a blowjob! This is the 2nd time now he has done it, I’m starting to think it’s me that’s making him fall asleep whilst giving him a boring blowy. I know I’m rubbish at giving head as it is ...
A. 5 August 2018: Could be that he really IS tired, or that you take too long giving head.
You won't know unless you ask him.
And while you TALK about it - ASK him HOW he likes a blowjob, to help you do the best you can.
IF he is kind of big & thick... I... (read in full...)
My husband slapped me on the face because he didn't like what I was wearing and I wouldn't change
Q. 3 years ago, i thought i met the love of my life. I've been in the US for 4 years, since I've been working there i met this man, we got into a relationship and after 1 year, he proposed to me. I was madly in love with him. Since we got married, he ...
A. 5 August 2018: I think you SHOULD get a divorce. THIS will only escalate. OP, he is already controlling.
Checking up on you when you are out with friends. It's not because he CARES so much for your safety, it's because he feel he OWNS you and want to make sur... (read in full...)
My ex is addicted to xanax and don't know what to do
Q. For the past year I've been seeing this girl who lives about four hours from me in another city. We've been off and on for about five years dating different people in between but always remaining friends throughout. We recently had a falling out ...
A. 5 August 2018: First of all, I just want to say YOU are a good person for caring.
Secondly, I think you deserve more and better.
It's NOT going to be easy to cut her off, but have you considered that by sticking around and sticking by her you are "normalizing... (read in full...)
I got close to a friend but then he ghosted me when I got back with my ex
Q. I will keep this brief, but I am just wondering what compels a previously close guy friend to be really friendly and flirty with you... as if anticipating something more when he thinks you’re single, but then he learns that you’re back with your ex ...
A. 4 August 2018: Because even IF he was playing games he STILL has feelings and NO ONE likes rejection.
The thing is, I would stop worrying about him and how he acted. You now know what kind of GUY he is when it comes down to it. So why are you so dead set on k... (read in full...)
Lazy, childish and his habits disgust me but he takes no notice when I speak to him. What should I do?
Q. Hi I’ve been with my partner for nearly 6 years we have a 3 year old daughter together I’m now realising what disgusting habits he has he always farts and he makes our daughter do it on people he spits which our daughter does and he is always ...
A. 4 August 2018: I can see why you find it hard to leave, you have been together for 6 years and share a child.
But... it seems to me that you have 3 children at home, one who is a GROWN ASS MAN.
Does he not work? Or is he "supposedly" taking care of the hous... (read in full...)
Suspicious texts, long trips to the toilet and deleting his browsing history. Is my boyfriend cheating?
Q. Me and My Boyfriend have been together for 5 years. In that time we've had alot of difficult times with trust. My Boyfriend has had a few wired texts in the past saying this like "Hey baby wanna come over". He said he doesn't know who they are. I ...
A. 4 August 2018: While I can kind of understand WHY he is more protective of his phone (after you snooped and called him out of weird texts) I also think he MUST presume you are an idiot.
"Hey Baby wanna come over" texts are rarely a mistake. And IF they were, I ... (read in full...)
I walked a strange girl home. Would it be okay to ask her out?
Q. I am a grad student at a major US university. One evening not too long ago I was headed home from a long night in the lab (after midnight) when I came across a young woman wearing heels and a dress who approached me. She said that she had been at...
A. 4 August 2018: You know where she live, right?
So I'd pick out a cute/funny card and LEAVE it at her door/mailbox, tell her you would like to share a cup of coffee/lunch get to know her better IF she is interested. And then add your phone number.
THAT wa... (read in full...)
I got close to a friend but then he ghosted me when I got back with my ex
Q. I will keep this brief, but I am just wondering what compels a previously close guy friend to be really friendly and flirty with you... as if anticipating something more when he thinks you’re single, but then he learns that you’re back with your ex ...
A. 4 August 2018: He wanted to be able to continue to string you along or be available for casual stuff. And when you didn't PLAY that "game" of his... He took his "ball and went home".
I think you are MUCH better off, blocking this guy and letting him go.
A... (read in full...)
How do I get out of sending gifts back home from abroad?
Q. How do I get out of having to send gifts home to family? I am living abroad indefinitely. I have a sibling who is 10 years older than me who I am not entirely close to since we didn't grow up together. Except, since I've moved abroad, family h...
A. 3 August 2018: I forgot to add... don't GIVE gifts or send cards if you EXPECT them to reciprocate. That is not what a gift should be. A gift shouldn't come with strings attached.... (read in full...)
How do I get out of sending gifts back home from abroad?
Q. How do I get out of having to send gifts home to family? I am living abroad indefinitely. I have a sibling who is 10 years older than me who I am not entirely close to since we didn't grow up together. Except, since I've moved abroad, family h...
A. 3 August 2018: Have you looked at Thrift stores?
I tell you, you can find MANY amazing (sometimes even new) things. I would also put aside a little money for this. WHEN you can afford it. The years you can't.. SEND a card for holidays - I'd focus (if you stil... (read in full...)
I told my touchy-feely autistic friend that I’m in love with him!
Q. He is autistic, he is very touchy feely with me, but when he asked me if I was attracted to him I said yes, he said he has a girlfriend. I know who his gf is. I am in love with him and I said this to gim- after I said this he invited me out t...
A. 3 August 2018: It's pretty much impossible to BE a good friend with someone you CAN'T "have" and have romantic feelings for. Because when you have romantic feelings for someone there is a bit of ulterior motives, wouldn't you agree?
You were hoping (drunk o... (read in full...)
I think my dad should take legal action, but how to convince him?
Q. My dad opened 2 companies about 12 years ago, everything were going really well and we were financially great. The past 2 years were hell, my dad's companies are failing to sell products as before. The 2 companies failed, and we had to close 1 ...
A. 3 August 2018: Your grandmother's money is HERS and she can do with it as she pleases. Maybe she doesn't want to pour money in something she can see isn't working out (your dad's companies). She might even have a financial adviser telling her NOT to do so.
I pre... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cannot stand up to his family and is commiting fraud!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating two years, living together, and discussing marriage for a couple months now. We have always acknowledged and accepted our differences in family culture however they have not affected us until now, and I am ...
A. 3 August 2018: You know if you marry him, nothing will change... right?
You can make ALL the demands you want, but in HIS family, THAT is the "normal". IF he is the oldest son, then you know what is expected of him by his family.
HE is going to "agree" with ... (read in full...)
What's a healthy approach to make sure I never end up forgetting about me along the way when I meet a guy again?
Q. I broke up with my long term boyfriend about 3 months ago now and I genuinely have lost all form of sex drive whatsoever. I used to have a really high sex drive during the relationship, masturbated, etc and now I couldn't think of anything worse. R...
A. 3 August 2018: Start by working ob yourself. Get back to who you are and who you want to be. That should be your focus, not meeting another guy.
WHY?
Because you will attract better partners when you not only love yourself but love life.
How to ensure y... (read in full...)
I told my touchy-feely autistic friend that I’m in love with him!
Q. He is autistic, he is very touchy feely with me, but when he asked me if I was attracted to him I said yes, he said he has a girlfriend. I know who his gf is. I am in love with him and I said this to gim- after I said this he invited me out t...
A. 3 August 2018: If you REALLY didn't want to get in the way of their romance WHY did you then declare your feelings?
Don't lie. At least not to yourself.
Him being Autistic is irrelevant. IF you don't think it's appropriate to go on "sort of dates" with some... (read in full...)
I was insensitive and hurt my g/f. She broke up with me and I don't know how to make it up to her
Q. My ex broke up with me yesterday. She was my first relationship after 4 years. I was her first boyfriend. Weve been together for 3 months and in that time span ive already made her cry 5 times.She's such a sweet and pure girl. She gave me all her ...
A. 2 August 2018: I think you need to leave her alone.
Pure and simple.
I get that it's NOT nice to realize that YOU were a dick to her, but you were. So learn from this and don repeat it in the future with ANOTHER girl.
NOT respecting her CHOICE to... (read in full...)
My family says I’m limiting myself by not going out as friends?
Q. I have a bf, but I don't limit my social interactions just because I'm in a relationship. The other day a single guy asked me to a concert, just me and him. I see him when I gather w/family friends about once a year or so. Otherwise I rarely if ...
A. 2 August 2018: Do what works for you, OP
IF your family want to socialize, tell them to go.
We all have "rules" we make up along the way, some set by family and society etc.
YOU decide how "social" you want to be and WHO you want to socialize with. While... (read in full...)
I saw my boss on a dating app... and swiped yes! OMG!
Q. Shit I didn't realise it was her until after I swiped Yes. Normally at work my boss is this conservative lady with thick glasses but she was this totally hot chick on this dating app. I mean I have never seen her even wearing a sleeveless top in the ...
A. 1 August 2018: IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE
She is just a human being too. I doubt she will mention it, so I'd let it go - totally.
So what that she was on a dating site and you were on one? So what?
If she does mention it, down play it.
I don't think you... (read in full...)
I need advice on makeup and blocking negative comments from my dad!
Q. ive always liked to do my hair and makeup in different ways as it helps in my confidence and sometimes I think I do it quite nice other times I think it doesn't look so nice . I really envy people who can do there eye makeup really good I try to get ...
A. 1 August 2018: If you don't want his honest opinion, don't ask him.
There are a ton of great make up tutorials on YouTube. Depending on what style you want to go for.
The thing about make up (for many young women) is that it's part of growing up. The more you... (read in full...)
My family says I’m limiting myself by not going out as friends?
Q. I have a bf, but I don't limit my social interactions just because I'm in a relationship. The other day a single guy asked me to a concert, just me and him. I see him when I gather w/family friends about once a year or so. Otherwise I rarely if ...
A. 1 August 2018: Does thing single guy know you have a BF?
If yes, then I don't see the big deal.
Did he ask you out as a date or just an outing as a family friend?
If there has NEVER been anything romantic going on with this family friend and he just wante... (read in full...)
When is it appropriate to tell a date that I don't want kids?
Q. I'm a 25 year old woman. Have never had the desire to have children and while I know people change over time, I think I may never want kids. This issue makes it a bit harder for me because I noticed most people want kids, while the minority of ...
A. 30 July 2018: I honestly think the sooner the better.
Kids are a deal breaker. For those who want them, and for those who don't.
So talking about a great many things on the first few dates KIDS can be topic. It's really not hard to make it seem to "organic... (read in full...)
He ghosted me after we had sex, how do I move on?
Q. I have a bit of an issue. I met this guy about 4 - 5 years ago. We connected instantly, spoke daily and he went out of his way to talk to me. 4 or 5 years into this friendship, feeling developed. We spoke more and more and even met up a few tim...
A. 30 July 2018: There you go, OP!~
You probably won't ever really "forget" him but you will come to a point where you just don't give a flying fart about him and.... hopefully learn to not repeat the same mistake with another guy.
His loss, OP - remember that.... (read in full...)
He ghosted me after we had sex, how do I move on?
Q. I have a bit of an issue. I met this guy about 4 - 5 years ago. We connected instantly, spoke daily and he went out of his way to talk to me. 4 or 5 years into this friendship, feeling developed. We spoke more and more and even met up a few tim...
A. 29 July 2018: Sorry OP,
Having sex was a mistake. Are you sure he doesn't have a GF?
The thing is you can be mad at him for having sex with you and then ghosting you, but you were OK with the sex, you just had different expectations AFTER the sex.
My s... (read in full...)
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