Did I just get used for sex?
Q. So I've known this guy for a while and last week our texts turned sexual and he said do I want to meet with him. So we met we were kissing, we held hands we had a good time. Then he asked if I wanted to have sex with him I said I couldn't because I ...
A. 19 August 2018: Honestly, OP?
A guy who asks for SEX on the first "date" or first time you meet in person is NOT looking for a relationship but for a FWB or a F-buddy.
YOU OFFERED a blow job so he didn't USE you, you could have said no. But.. that doesn't mea... (read in full...)
I think this 15 yo boy will probably want sex!
Q. i am a 13 year old . this guy is very cute and i like him a lot . and he asked me if i wanted to have sex with him and i told him “ rpprobably not maybe i’ll succ you tho “ and yeah he is 15 and is not a virgin and i’m 13 and i am . ughhh idk what ...
A. 19 August 2018: What a gross guy chasing after a 13 year old. You are LEGALLY a kid (no matter how grown up and mature you feel or think you are... YOU are a KID) And, SO is he, however in some places he is at an age where he CAN legally consent to sex and sexual ... (read in full...)
I feel very betrayed and hurt.
Q. Hello, So I’m writing this because me and my boyfriend a we’re having trouble and he broke up with me. However, he said he would give me a chance to work on things and see whether we would get back together or not. I thought we were working on ...
A. 19 August 2018: I think it's time to let this guy go, OP
He doesn't WANT to take responsibility for his actions. And the whole ultimatum - he would give YOU a chance to "work" on the relationship, while he did what? Chatted up another girl... HOW was his actions ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this married, flirting floozy?
Q. I have a friend and shes always says she love me. Shes married to She once said I love you more then you know what is she trying to say to me. She flurts with me to. I dont know what to do....
A. 19 August 2018: You call her a friend and a flirting floozy? So which is she?
If she initiate something flirtatious, shot it down if you don't find it appropriate.
It's not hard.
As for what she meant, why care? It's not like it can go anywhere is it?... (read in full...)
Sometimes people don’t understand my sense of humour!
Q. i hope I don't sound big headed but I feel as though I am quite a funny person which is one of the things I like about myself and makes me feel slightly more confident , I always seem to make someone laugh , when im in a group of people im normally ...
A. 18 August 2018: I'd say stick to the comedy around people who know you and your sense of humor. NOT that you can't crack one here and there, but dry humor or sarcasm is often "misunderstood" as being rude or offensive (even if you crack a self-deprecating jokes or ... (read in full...)
He keeps asking for nude pictures!
Q. Hi everyone. I'm in a 2yrs long distance relationship with this guy never met him, although the time I would have met him wasn't convenient because of my exams and he traveled back bcos of work. we chat everyday, he tells me he loves me n can't wait ...
A. 18 August 2018: Do you think his behavior is appropriate?
Yes or no?
If no, then why are you with him? Why invest so much time in a guy that you haven't even met!
I would tell him that if he sends another dick pic you will block his number and move on.
Y... (read in full...)
My body turned him off ... he preferred to watch porn.
Q. I split up with my boyfriend of 10 years a few months ago and he's really effected my self esteem. He said quite hurtful things about my body, I'm just looking for some opinions from guys about what kind of imperfections would really put you off. ...
A. 18 August 2018: This is a case of it's not you, it's him.
You two spend 10 years together and NOW is the time he decides to tell you that he isn't/wasn't attracted to you? Sounds to me like he just wanted a jab in before you stopped taking to him. I agree wi... (read in full...)
How does someone go about meeting other bi-curious people?
Q. I am a 40 something woman who is interested in exploring my bi-curiosity. I have had a couple drunken make outs with girlfriends when I was in my twenties but no other experiences to speak of. I am divorced and dating a man but my desire to have a ...
A. 17 August 2018: You are dating someone right now.. Is he OK with you... "experimenting" with women?
Would you be OK if he wanted to "experiment" with men?
I think you need to have a little more respect for your relationship and either dump him so you can be SI... (read in full...)
Any chance he likes me despite having a girlfriend?
Q. Hi, I was involved with this guy, we were something like friends with benefits..but i fell in love with him..then he decide to change a job and left the country, which i was very sad about, but i couldn't do anything about it.. During the nex...
A. 17 August 2018: I think you are wasting your time on a guy who isn't into you as much as YOU are into him.
My guess is he was TALKING to her while having a "fwb" or f-buddy thing with you... and then he moved and started hooking up with her. I think THAT is why t... (read in full...)
Am I having these doubts because the honeymoon phase is over and we've been together for 8 years? Or am I with the wrong person?
Q. I am really struggling with myself at the moment. I don't know whether my doubts are justified or if I'm just having some sort of quarter life crisis. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 years now (since we were 16 and at school!) and ...
A. 17 August 2018: I can't say if he is the "wrong" person for you, but I can say that WHO we want at 15 is not necessarily who we want 5 years later or 8... And probably not who you'd want to be 10-15 years later. Especially, since it seems you two are growing ... (read in full...)
Why didn’t we hook up?
Q. I met a really cute guy online a month ago. He lives far away but has family here so he comes up about twice a month. He asked for my number and we were texting back and fourth while he was here. He said that he wasn't looking for anything serious ...
A. 17 August 2018: Yeah, I agree that he probably is back with the ex... or as gorgeous as he found you he didn't want to put in any further effort.
If I were you I'd just block and delete the dude and move on.
And I agree that you handled the whole "trade nud... (read in full...)
Am I just in love with the idea of being loved?
Q. Has anyOdy else experience what I am experiencing now? Although She is an attractive woman I have never had any feelings for her in the past. By accident I found out that she finds me physically attractive. I never realised that fancied my type. ...
A. 16 August 2018: Ah, I remember your first post.
And I remember how UNPROFESSIONAL she acted afterwards towards you. So DEFINITELY do not go there.
The notion of "don't crap where you eat" (or date where you work) is a SMART motto to go by.
And remember th... (read in full...)
Why is my ex reaching out again?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I dated in school only for a month when he suddenly broke it off. I was really hurt because I have deep feelings for him and we talked about our future a lot even though it was short lived. He ended up apologizing for his ...
A. 16 August 2018: I'd just block him. Honestly.
He isn't a friend or someone you absolutely need to keep in your life.
No, I don't think he is looking for a biking buddy. He is either bored in his relationship and hopes YOU still have some feelings for him... (read in full...)
How long after hooking up do I wait before texting him?
Q. I went out with a guy I've known for a while but we started talking differently recently so last night we hooked up and one thing led to another. He said he would be busy this week with work and he suggested we maybe hook up on Sunday. So how long ...
A. 16 August 2018: I think it comes down to WHAT you are looking for. If you are JUST looking for a dude to hook up with, then text him whenever.
If you want more... consider that he might not be interested in more than just ex with you. Why do I say that? Because ... (read in full...)
My husband lies and the trust is gone.
Q. I just recently found out that my husband has been in touch with an old girlfriend .. email.. and had sent her $200 for her birthday and $400 last Christmas .. and he refuses to put my name on his bank account... I saw all of this on his email .. ...
A. 16 August 2018: Honestly, it sounds like you have already made up your mind, so what are you waiting for?
Life is too short for crap like that.... (read in full...)
I’m worried about how I’ll be able to handle things at my new job!
Q. I have a trial for a job at a café/restaurant next week and i'm unsure of whether to do it as ive been asked to hand out menu's to customers and I no this is just something im really bad at talking to people and how do I even say so to someone oh ...
A. 16 August 2018: Watch your coworkers and see who is good at what and then ASK that GOOD person to teach you. Learn from the "best" around.
No one is GREAT at everything in the beginning. PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE ....
You don't have to chat up costumers, ju... (read in full...)
Am I just in love with the idea of being loved?
Q. Has anyOdy else experience what I am experiencing now? Although She is an attractive woman I have never had any feelings for her in the past. By accident I found out that she finds me physically attractive. I never realised that fancied my type. ...
A. 15 August 2018: Why doesn't like the idea of someone having a crush on us? Seriously?
You are flattered, your EGO got a big boost.
Like WiseOwlE said, it has NOTHING to do with love.
Her finding you attractive - not love.
YOU enjoying being FOUND attr... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have an orgasm this way?
Q. Hey Guys, I'm a virgin. I was wondering if it's normal to have an orgasm just by playing with my nipples... cuz i have a very quick orgasm within just 3 minutes of teasing the nips.I don't even have to stimulate the clit; the work get's done with ...
A. 15 August 2018: Is it normal? For some (like yourself) it is. For others it might not be.
Like YCNBS said, enjoy it there is nothing wrong with it.... (read in full...)
I want to meet and talk not be his hook up
Q. I’ve known this guy for nearly two years, we originally met on a night out and we were instantly attracted to each other, however he soon got a girlfriend and we barely stayed in touch and only bumped into each other a few times, the problem is that ...
A. 15 August 2018: So meet up IN PUBLIC over lunch and DO NOT go home with him and take him home to yours.
It's not that hard to have outings with someone without the clothes coming off if THAT is not what you want.
And IF he suggests going home to either of you... (read in full...)
How do I not get too attached to the new guy I'm seeing?
Q. How do I not get too attached to the new guy I'm seeing? We like all the same things to a spooky degree and we have a lot of chemistry. The only thing is his ex might be pregnant and she won't go to the drs because she is religious. Which I don't ...
A. 15 August 2018: I would suggest you tell him you can't see him anymore until the pregnancy thing is sorted out. And If she is pregnant I'd back far far away.
If she is not, I would really think long and hard about this guy before deciding to date him.
The thi... (read in full...)
I'm already cheating on my new boyfriend with an old FWB. How do I stop?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm about to admit to something bad so please don't be too harsh with me here. I have recently got into a new relationship with a man my age. We have been together for just over a month and were dating for about a month before that. I ...
A. 15 August 2018: You need to stop being so selfish. You wouldn't like a BF who did this to you, so why would it be OK for you to do it?
You know it's wrong but YOU don't REALLY care.
So break up with your BF, stay single and do whatever you want with whomev... (read in full...)
We live far apart so why did he tell me not to share things hes told me with anyone?
Q. I've been talking to a guy online for a while now and we get on really well but he lives far away so we are just having fun. He said to me today - if at some point we have to stop talking please don't share some personal things he's shared with me. ...
A. 15 August 2018: He told you not to share it with others because it's no one else business and he wants to make sure YOU know.
Whether what he shared is actually true or not, he obviously want to talk to you about it and wants to make sure he can TRUST you with... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about this or should I let it go if we talk normally again?
Q. So I have been a little upset this week, because my boyfriend of 7 months, which is older than me (he is 46) I am 30, has not text me this whole week, on Tuesday he just send me a video through Whatsapp, I rather a ''Hi my love'', not a video. ...
A. 14 August 2018: Break the pattern? If you KNOW the pattern that that it wasn't good for you and the relationship in the past, WORK on not repeating the past.
I think you HAVE to learn to accept that when he shares a funny video it's BECAUSE the thought of you a... (read in full...)
I messed up with my crush, can this be repaired?
Q. I messed up with my crush. can this be repaired? He immediately left and positioned to my right (the coffee machine is on the left). There were two other people standing on the other side (higher managers) and he just stood there next to me not s...
A. 13 August 2018: Good grief, OP
I think you need to leave the man alone before he things you are harassing him!
1. a relationship where you work is a BAD idea.
2. He doesn't seem as interested in you as you are in him.
3. I'm guess he has cooled down bec... (read in full...)
Could he be gay? Is he not attracted to me?
Q. I am now wondering whether my husband might be attracted to men and not women... My husband and I met online about a year and a half ago, we dated for about a year when he proposed. He was keen on getting married even just a month into dating, whi...
A. 13 August 2018: So he pulled a bait and switch.
He didn't MENTION his erectile dysfunction BEFORE he proposed and married you. Why is that? Well, my guess? He either presumed that he would have no problem with a REAL woman (as opposed to his hand) OR he figured ... (read in full...)
My not going to my sister’s hen do may we’ll end our already strained relationship!
Q. I need some advice about my sister's hen party. I live 4 hours drive from my sister and she has invited me for her hen weekend. I agreed to go several months back. The weekend involves overnight away, spa, drinks, meal out so is going to cost £2...
A. 13 August 2018: Can't your parents watch your kids that week-end?
Or your in-laws?
I would TRY and make the effort to go. But I would NOT ask your husband to cancel his course. His career is a BIT more important than her hen-weekend.
But I would look for ... (read in full...)
Toxic sibling or am I too sensitive?
Q. Everyone has always told me that I'm too sensitive and what my brother does is normal sibling behavior. I can be oversensitive, but I'm really weary when my brother comes to visit. Its almost like he has 2 personalities, a nice one and a mean one. A ...
A. 13 August 2018: I think for SOME sibling it's kind of the norm.
My brother and I fought like cats and dogs as kids, but we were also thick as thieves. When I was bullied at school HE beat a couple of them up. When a girl who was crushing on him spread lies and... (read in full...)
Is this just a one night stand or something more?
Q. Okay people I need opinion here.... especially from a guys perspective!! So i met a guy from my old state through social media. He contacted me first asking about hiking trails in the new state I was located. He was helping move his mom here whe...
A. 13 August 2018: Honestly?
Because he asked for nudes I would put him in the "lost causes pile" and wish him well and then just block, remove, delete and move on.
If you feel like you "owe" him a reason, then tell him that you felt him asking (not only once) ... (read in full...)
Help I was too chatty!
Q. What the etiquette here? Did I do wrong? Help, I over shared and talked about something too much with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while and now I feel Bad What to do? I don’t normally do this.. Feel I was to chatty about a certain topic, I got c...
A. 13 August 2018: Next time you talk, let HER do the talking and you listen?
As long as it wasn't a negative subject I really don't see the big issue here. I think having a good friend go on and on about something great or important to them is awesome!
If she ... (read in full...)
How do I get past this abusive false relationship and move on?
Q. I left an emotionally abusive relationship. I thought we were head over heels in love but it was just false. He lead me on and tried to use me financially and to help him with his kids. I fell for it for about 2 months. Tried to work things out but ...
A. 13 August 2018: OP, you made a mistake. It happens.
The guy in question is good at his con-game. That is why SEVERAL other women have fallen for his bullshit too.
He KNOWS how to fake being a great guy - though not for long. He can't sustain it because it's ... (read in full...)
Is this just a one night stand or something more?
Q. Okay people I need opinion here.... especially from a guys perspective!! So i met a guy from my old state through social media. He contacted me first asking about hiking trails in the new state I was located. He was helping move his mom here whe...
A. 13 August 2018: Eh, just block, delete and move on. BLOCK him from accessing your Facebook, and BLOCK him from looking at your pictures etc.
And next time, save the sex for someone you WANT to be with who wants to be with you too.
I would also stick to guy who... (read in full...)
He says that showing him my sex organs is the sign of true love!
Q. i am in a long distance relationship for almost 5 months. now he is forcing me to show my sex organs. he says that this is the sign of true love. if i don't, that means i don't trust him. he even told me that from next year on, when i will stay in a ...
A. 12 August 2018: OP, he sounds like a total ASSHAT! He is trying to manipulate and control you.
No, you don't OWE him to show him your genitals.
No, you don't have to meet up at a hotel and give him sex.
No, you don't have to MARRY him if you are not ready... (read in full...)
He said I am an extraordinary woman, but ended things because I live far away.
Q. Hello my dear Aunts! I hope you are doing well. I met a man online who is someone I would like to be with. We talked on the phone several times and texted constantly for about a month before we met in person. He lives about 4 hours away from ...
A. 12 August 2018: No, you shouldn't call him and keep beating a dead horse. He enjoyed you but he is being realistic in accepting that he doesn't WANT to date someone who lives that far away. He wasn't looking for a "pen-pal" to text with and very rarely see. He has ... (read in full...)
He’s chubby and it turns me off!
Q. So I went for a date with this guy on Monday and it went gd, he's asked me to go to a wine tasting evening after he comes back from holiday with his parents in a fortnight. However, he’s cute (he’s half French and has the accent), has a h...
A. 12 August 2018: If that is an initial turn off for you, it won't change. And HE won't change either.
You can't really date someone (at least not seriously) for their personality alone. For most, there has to be some physical attraction too.
It's a little... (read in full...)
How far would you be prepared to travel to a friends wedding? Is the very expensive proposition even practical with my girlfriend and one year old baby?
Q. How far would you be prepared to travel to a friends wedding? Hello everyone! After some honest and friendly advice regarding an up coming opportunity. I live in the UK and one of my closest friends lives in Auz. He has decide to go ahead and get...
A. 11 August 2018: I would ask them. What would you two really like for a wedding present.
I think ANY good friend would understand that the cost and THAT many hours flight is just too much for your little family at the moment.
AND you COULD send the present to A... (read in full...)
My ex is addicted to xanax and don't know what to do
Q. For the past year I've been seeing this girl who lives about four hours from me in another city. We've been off and on for about five years dating different people in between but always remaining friends throughout. We recently had a falling out ...
A. 11 August 2018: OP, disregard that anon...
She didn't bother reading your posts or look up information on Xanax either.
You don't need to justify your concern to strangers online.
... (read in full...)
My ex is addicted to xanax and don't know what to do
Q. For the past year I've been seeing this girl who lives about four hours from me in another city. We've been off and on for about five years dating different people in between but always remaining friends throughout. We recently had a falling out ...
A. 11 August 2018: OP, disregard that anon...
She didn't bother reading your posts or look up information on Xanax either.
You don't need to justify your concern to strangers online.
... (read in full...)
Do females feel it is important to work when married?
Q. Do you females feel like it’s important to work when married? My gf has only managed part time job, and few years later we are low on money and still not living together. She lost the job and now found another part because no one will accept her ...
A. 11 August 2018: I think it depends on the female.
I think working is "what" you do, to enjoy some of the other things life offers you. I haven't worked since child #2 most due to the fact that at the time we were on constant alert to PCS (move) to another ... (read in full...)
I got involved with a coworker who spun a web of lies. Now he wants to be civil and I feel confused
Q. Hello all, I got in a relationship with somebody from work, he'd been unhappy in his relationship,they have two kids less than 5 years old together. Initially we were friends, he brought me out of my shell when I returned to work after m...
A. 11 August 2018: I would be cold and professional. I would NOT socialize with him or chit-chat at work (unless there is a group there, but NOT on-on-one). I would ignore all his "over the top fake friendliness" and STICK to just being professional, and with that I ... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about this or should I let it go if we talk normally again?
Q. So I have been a little upset this week, because my boyfriend of 7 months, which is older than me (he is 46) I am 30, has not text me this whole week, on Tuesday he just send me a video through Whatsapp, I rather a ''Hi my love'', not a video. ...
A. 11 August 2018: Why can't YOU send him a text or ... pick up the phone and call him? You are 20! not 13!
That way, you can SHOW him without TELLING him what you like. If you like more communication, YOU start them. See if he picks up the hint. OR... (novel i... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lied about her sexual past. How do I trust her?
Q. I have been dating this girl for four years now and have asked about past relationships with guys in the beginning of our relationship . She had told me that she slept with three guys, two boyfriends and a friend, when telling me about her ...
A. 10 August 2018: I think trust goes both ways. I don't think you had ANY right to ask her ex about their sex-life or intimate details. Those are really NONE of your business.
And... you really have no clue how much of what the guy told you were the actual truth an... (read in full...)
How far would you be prepared to travel to a friends wedding? Is the very expensive proposition even practical with my girlfriend and one year old baby?
Q. How far would you be prepared to travel to a friends wedding? Hello everyone! After some honest and friendly advice regarding an up coming opportunity. I live in the UK and one of my closest friends lives in Auz. He has decide to go ahead and get...
A. 8 August 2018: Honestly?
I would stick to buying a really nice present. While travelling with a little one (in general) doesn't HAVE to be tough.. a 32 HOURS travel/flight with a little one will be. No doubt.
I also think with a new baby and everything there... (read in full...)
Is this just a one night stand or something more?
Q. Okay people I need opinion here.... especially from a guys perspective!! So i met a guy from my old state through social media. He contacted me first asking about hiking trails in the new state I was located. He was helping move his mom here whe...
A. 7 August 2018: NO, don't tell him you feel confused or whatever you are feeling. Regardless of having chatted, met his family and had sex... HE still is a bit of a stranger to you.
RELAX, CHILL, get to know him. Just remember to NOT involve sex next time you... (read in full...)
Is this just a one night stand or something more?
Q. Okay people I need opinion here.... especially from a guys perspective!! So i met a guy from my old state through social media. He contacted me first asking about hiking trails in the new state I was located. He was helping move his mom here whe...
A. 6 August 2018: I agree with N91, HE seems more interested that you do. (If I just go by his/your actions).
If eh JUST saw you as a FWB type thing.. I don't think he would have invited you to join so many family things nor kept up with the texting.
BUT I w... (read in full...)
My ex is addicted to xanax and don't know what to do
Q. For the past year I've been seeing this girl who lives about four hours from me in another city. We've been off and on for about five years dating different people in between but always remaining friends throughout. We recently had a falling out ...
A. 6 August 2018: Can you reach out to her down the line?
For what purpose? To make yourself feel better? To check up on her?
At some point you HAVE to accept that SHE is living with HER own choices. Addiction is one of those things that are forever. Doesn't... (read in full...)
My ex is addicted to xanax and don't know what to do
Q. For the past year I've been seeing this girl who lives about four hours from me in another city. We've been off and on for about five years dating different people in between but always remaining friends throughout. We recently had a falling out ...
A. 5 August 2018: First of all, I just want to say YOU are a good person for caring.
Secondly, I think you deserve more and better.
It's NOT going to be easy to cut her off, but have you considered that by sticking around and sticking by her you are "normalizing... (read in full...)
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