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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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How do you handle your partner spending so much time away?
Q. This is a question for those people who have a tour guide boy/girlfriend or husband/wife. My girlfriend is an international tour guide and I'm dealing with a situation where she is only at home for about 7 or 8 days before she heads off on her...
A. 11 June 2010: I would still consider the 5 days she is apart from you as a sort of long distance relationship. Because during that time she is far away, and it is so often that she leaves as well, you almost need your own life separate from her because of this. ... (read in full...)
How do you handle your partner spending so much time away?
Q. This is a question for those people who have a tour guide boy/girlfriend or husband/wife. My girlfriend is an international tour guide and I'm dealing with a situation where she is only at home for about 7 or 8 days before she heads off on her...
A. 10 June 2010: Hi again! Im not sure if you remember, but I am in a long distance relationship myself so I know what you are talking about. I think it is a state of mind you just have to get yourself into. I find it very hard to not be needy and want more. I think ... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm during sex!
Q. No matter what I do during sex I can't orgasm can u tell me why?...
A. 10 June 2010: You probably haven't given youro clitoris enough stimulation. Vaginal orgasm are much much harder to achieve than clitoral orgasms. Are you able to orgasm through masturbation? That should be the first step. If you can't even do it on your own it is ... (read in full...)
Falling for my divorced teacher! Should I tell him?
Q. Hi.I don't know how I feel that I love my teacher.He's 32 and I'm 18. He's been married and Divorced it's not his fault though I think. He's so nice and kind and a very understanding person. I fell so sorry for him . I like him .I don't care thou...
A. 10 June 2010: Don't tell him. And there is a very high likelihood that you only like this man because he is your teacher and an authority figure. Would you have liked him if you met him in a different setting? This is very unclear, but as it is illegal for a ... (read in full...)
My sister's tragic death and my parents' misdirected blame at my bestman for it are causing me strife
Q. My friend was lived with my sister for three years. My parents never liked him and gave my sister a lot of problems over him. My poor sister died of a heart attack. It was tragic. She died in her sleep right next to him. He was asleep and ...
A. 9 June 2010: Was it long ago that your sister died? It could be that the numbness you feel come from shock. Not accepting what happened. People mourn in different ways, and often mourning takes a long time. Some people find it easy to get in touch with their ... (read in full...)
How do you find out if a guy is a virgin or not?
Q. hii!lemme ask a question.it might be silly...but there is some expectation about it..is there atleast a small clue to find whether a guy is a virgin or not.? ...
A. 9 June 2010: If he acts like he doesn't quite know what he is doing he is likely to be a virgin.... (read in full...)
How do I know whether to believe my fiance?? I found 100's of porn and dating sites, but he blames a virus!
Q. Well basicly last night i accidently stumbled across porn that had been viewed on the computer...I had to know where it had come from so i looked and it was from my fiances acount...hoping i'd made a mistake i checked again and to my horror found ...
A. 9 June 2010: Yes, next time he will probably cover his tracks better. But that does not mean this will stop. Porn is one thing, live webcam is another in my opinion, and especially sites where you try and find someone for sex. He has gone too far with those. The ... (read in full...)
I tell my husband 'size doesn't matter' but everytime after sex, he asks me if he is too small...
Q. Whenever I make love to my husband, he is asking me the same old question "Am I too small?" I enjoy making out with him and I often tell him that it's not the size that matters, it's the passion inside me that counts. Is my husband ashamed of his ...
A. 9 June 2010: Yes, your husband is ashamed of his size. I don't know if there is anything you can do except continue to tell him he is good enough and to ask him to stop asking you because you will not change your answer. ... (read in full...)
He wants me to give up my only "me" time or its a divorce!
Q. I have been with my husband for 13 years (married 8 years) and at first was very happy. He is a good man, with good values, but lets me do everything around the house and with the children while he pursues his rugby and associated social events. I...
A. 9 June 2010: I think it is best of you do like you suggested give the horse on loan for about 6- 12 months. It is your horse. You paid for it first off all with your money. He has no more right to take it away than you have the right to take his rugby away. One ... (read in full...)
My husband backhands our daughter. Should I leave him?
Q. My husband and I have 3 children together. He is great with our 12 year old daughter and our 5 year old son but is very mean to our 15 year old daughter. Let me also say that our 15 yr old has a big time attitude as well. They clash big time with ...
A. 9 June 2010: The third option is to put your foot down and say enough is enough. Tell your husband no more! ... (read in full...)
My online 'Juliet's' parents are trying to break us apart!
Q. My relationship start off long distanced online. We started cam dating just a few days after we met on a website. She confessed to me that she loved me and wanted to try dating. I accepted and fell in love with her also. We had no real problems ...
A. 9 June 2010: If you saw her in person it would have been even harder. You didn't do anything wrong, you gave a lot too soon, before you knew if it was safe. And now you got hurt. But we all do. What caused the trouble was her family, and the distance, remember ... (read in full...)
He wants me to give up my only "me" time or its a divorce!
Q. I have been with my husband for 13 years (married 8 years) and at first was very happy. He is a good man, with good values, but lets me do everything around the house and with the children while he pursues his rugby and associated social events. I...
A. 9 June 2010: Original poster said "horses have been a part of my life since I was 2", "Dont know when it happened, but he started to resent the time I spent with the horse more when we had kids, moaned about the cost & time constanatly, yet he started to play & ... (read in full...)
My husband backhands our daughter. Should I leave him?
Q. My husband and I have 3 children together. He is great with our 12 year old daughter and our 5 year old son but is very mean to our 15 year old daughter. Let me also say that our 15 yr old has a big time attitude as well. They clash big time with ...
A. 9 June 2010: Talk to your daughter about this. ... (read in full...)
He wants me to give up my only "me" time or its a divorce!
Q. I have been with my husband for 13 years (married 8 years) and at first was very happy. He is a good man, with good values, but lets me do everything around the house and with the children while he pursues his rugby and associated social events. I...
A. 9 June 2010: Another thing: "Dont know when it happened, but he started to resent the time I spent with the horse more when we had kids, moaned about the cost & time constanatly, yet he started to play & coach more rugby, last year and uptill April this year he ... (read in full...)
He wants me to give up my only "me" time or its a divorce!
Q. I have been with my husband for 13 years (married 8 years) and at first was very happy. He is a good man, with good values, but lets me do everything around the house and with the children while he pursues his rugby and associated social events. I...
A. 9 June 2010: While you raise a lot of valid points, I will focus a little on some of what you say for a moment. Often when you write you say "I do this, but he does that". I just want to point out that his expenses do not justify yours. It is not about tit for ... (read in full...)
I asked for a hug but she said she wanted to take things slow
Q. Hi i asked a girl out yesterday.I flattered her for a few hours and then askec her out and she said yes.Today we wnet on a school trip andi went around with her.I asked her for a hug but she said she wants to take things slow.This is where i get ...
A. 8 June 2010: Give it a few more days and if she continues to want to hang out with you it is because she likes you. If she didn't like you she'd not want to go for a walk with you in the first place. ... (read in full...)
How did a back rub turn into him just rubbing my bottom?
Q. Hello, I am a 30 year old woman with a question about men. Okay, I have had this real stressful day and my husband tells me if I will get naked, he will give me a back rub. He spends a little time on my back, neck, and shoulders, but t...
A. 8 June 2010: I think it's great to get a little kneading further down. It's at the back of your body anyway, so he wasn't lying when he said he'd give you a back rub! Im with marieclaire all the way on that on. If there's a proper massage to be had it needs to ... (read in full...)
Do you think highschool sweethearts can actually last into a great marriage anymore these days?
Q. Do you think highschool sweethearts can actually last into a great marriage anymore these days? Why or why not? Im asking becuase i am with mine, we are now in our early 20's and i was just wondering if we actualy stand a chance to last or if we are ...
A. 8 June 2010: Not having any first hand experience.. Why not? I mean, what is different from back in the old day's 'til now? If you want it, then go for it. Love is love, then and now. Only thing thing has really changed and that is feminist movements and women ... (read in full...)
Depending on where you live, is there a preference for a certain hair color?
Q. This is sort of for curiosity sake: Since there are so many people from all over the world here, do you think certain places prefer certain hair colors over other? For example there is the notion that men in greece go crazy for blondes. Is this just ...
A. 8 June 2010: I think people might be attracted to what is considered "exotic". But again, not all men are, so it is hard to say. But I did hear and got confirmed from a friend of mine that Japanese men like asian women, and Japanese women love ... (read in full...)
B/f wants me to terminate my pregnancy but continue to help him. I'm very confused!
Q. Im 42 in a comitted relationship and just discovered im pregnant, shocking to say the least after having spent 15 out of 20 years trying for a second child i had long since given up hope and resigned myself to being infertile. Problem i have...
A. 8 June 2010: To get a final word in: Congratulations on your pregnancy!! Weee!... (read in full...)
He wants me to give up my only "me" time or its a divorce!
Q. I have been with my husband for 13 years (married 8 years) and at first was very happy. He is a good man, with good values, but lets me do everything around the house and with the children while he pursues his rugby and associated social events. I...
A. 8 June 2010: Dear OP, just to clearify I did not see your latest update before I posted, and my post was only related to what you stated in the original question. ... (read in full...)
Unsure how to support my friend who is potentially very ill?
Q. Hi, I could do with some advice. I have a friend who recently had an eye test which showed up something not veyr nice. My Mum is the dr who saw him, and in her clinical opinion, and that of the other person she asked, the only reason for this ...
A. 8 June 2010: My post was not a personal attack on you. I only meant to say I am a bit concerned about what your post is implying, and you didn't inform of how you came to know this information, or even if your friend knows you know. For me to give you a complete ... (read in full...)
Unsure how to support my friend who is potentially very ill?
Q. Hi, I could do with some advice. I have a friend who recently had an eye test which showed up something not veyr nice. My Mum is the dr who saw him, and in her clinical opinion, and that of the other person she asked, the only reason for this ...
A. 8 June 2010: First off, I seriously wonder how you came to know what your friend might suffer from. Did he tell you? He he tell your mother it was ok to share? This is private information and you have no right to know unless you were informed by him, or he ... (read in full...)
She gets mad because I don't agree with her
Q. I don't know what to do. My gf gets mad whenever I don't agree with her. She looks at it in a disloyal way although I'm just trying to say my opinion. I told her, if she wants to be with someone who always agrees on her opinion, she should just get ...
A. 8 June 2010: This is the reason I only date men who are smarter than my ex'es... (read in full...)
He wants me to give up my only "me" time or its a divorce!
Q. I have been with my husband for 13 years (married 8 years) and at first was very happy. He is a good man, with good values, but lets me do everything around the house and with the children while he pursues his rugby and associated social events. I...
A. 8 June 2010: Sell the horse. Selling the horse does not mean you are giving up your life of your "only me" time. A horse is very expensive, and is the reason you landed in debt in the first place. Your husband is likely associating the debt and lying to the ... (read in full...)
He looked at porn right after we made love - whats wrong with me?
Q. I recently posted on here as i'd accidently discovered my fiance had been looking at porn on the computer..only one site had come up so i tried not to let it bother me as you all said and put it down to a one off. But earlier curiosity got the ...
A. 8 June 2010: This whole thing is too odd and misses some information. You need to talk to your man about this and get things clarified! ... (read in full...)
B/f wants me to terminate my pregnancy but continue to help him. I'm very confused!
Q. Im 42 in a comitted relationship and just discovered im pregnant, shocking to say the least after having spent 15 out of 20 years trying for a second child i had long since given up hope and resigned myself to being infertile. Problem i have...
A. 8 June 2010: Where is your boyfriend from and for how long have you been together? If what you say is correct he is only using you for money. He was able to get by somehow before he met you, so he is not incapable of fending for himself. He has also been able to ... (read in full...)
He looked at porn right after we made love - whats wrong with me?
Q. I recently posted on here as i'd accidently discovered my fiance had been looking at porn on the computer..only one site had come up so i tried not to let it bother me as you all said and put it down to a one off. But earlier curiosity got the ...
A. 8 June 2010: Yes, this was rude. I also find porn harmless, but there's a certain line within what is normal and acceptable. Eating chocolates is also fine, but if you get overweight because of it and die from a heart failure, it is not fine any more! Same with ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want children but I want to have them one day, am I just wasting my time with her?
Q. so i'm with the girl of my dreams, and a brief conversation we had one day is kind of bugging me. Were both in our early 20's, so this isnt anything to necessarily worry about any time soon: she is crazy about one of her sisters children- pictures...
A. 8 June 2010: I don't think you should pursue this relationship, unless you are not looking for a serious relationship. You sound like you are already for the look-out for someone to have children and a future with. This girl is not the one. But, if you do not ... (read in full...)
How do I act when I see her at this party? It is only the 9th day since we broke up and I don't know how to behave around her
Q. hey there my ex girlfriend of nearly 1 year broke up with me . were got a party to attend on Saturday as we are mutual friends with the birthday boy . well on that Saturday it would be the 9th day we're broken up . my question is when i do see he...
A. 8 June 2010: Say hi, maaaybe give her a smile, and then go talk to someone else. Don't ignore her completely, but don't engage in conversation with her unless she is the one who starts talking to you. Have fun and enjoy the party, she's just there, but there are ... (read in full...)
He looked at porn right after we made love - whats wrong with me?
Q. I recently posted on here as i'd accidently discovered my fiance had been looking at porn on the computer..only one site had come up so i tried not to let it bother me as you all said and put it down to a one off. But earlier curiosity got the ...
A. 8 June 2010: Did he go up to only watch the porn or to masturbate? And you said "went straight to the computer", well how soon was this really? A minute or an hour after love making?
Have you told him you find this rude? What is his reply?... (read in full...)
What could be wrong with my girlfriend?
Q. aaarrrgghh panicking! my gf has been getting abdominal pains after sex, it happens often, she also feels the need to pee a lot aswell. its worse after she has a squirting orgasm, depending on how intense it was at first we thought it was uti...
A. 8 June 2010: Not to be too explicit, but how large are you? If you are a medium it should be fine. I believe the medium is around 5.5 inches. So anything from 4.5-6 should be medium and regular. However, as the Kama Sutra says, there are elephant women and ... (read in full...)
I found a tool to free myself...could it help you too?
Q. I have recently made a discovery. I’m not sure what you could call it really. A technique? A tool? Whatever it may be, I am in amazement. It is really helping me. I have no idea where it has come from, this idea. It just popped into my mind the ...
A. 8 June 2010: Does it still smell like burnt flesh down there Q?... (read in full...)
How one person changed my life
Q. I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
A. 8 June 2010: Thank you... (read in full...)
How do I win my girlfiend back after drunken kiss with another woman?
Q. I need to know how to get my girlfriend back after I drunkenly kissed another girl at a bar. I didn't call this girl, didn't text this girl, didn't even know this girl. I got extremely drunk and acted like a total idiot and lost my girlfriend's ...
A. 8 June 2010: Alright here's a guess at how you can do this. Call her. That would be the best. Then you say "I want to make up for what I did, and I hope we can be together again. But, I need to tell you something. You said that you want to sleep with other men ... (read in full...)
My online 'Juliet's' parents are trying to break us apart!
Q. My relationship start off long distanced online. We started cam dating just a few days after we met on a website. She confessed to me that she loved me and wanted to try dating. I accepted and fell in love with her also. We had no real problems ...
A. 7 June 2010: "Now she ran out and moved and said she had enough, she was out of here, and good bye to me."
She broke up with you!!! Give it a week to see if you hear anything from her, if not then LET IT GO! Do you understand now what you should do? You shou... (read in full...)
Very underweight and concerned for my health...
Q. my weight is starting to scare me. i am 5'3 and my weight can very from 79-92 my doctor told me that my weight will get better when i start my peiriod but i did start and for that first month it whent to 100 now it is a couple months after and i ...
A. 7 June 2010: And I was just about to advice you to eat more protein... Alright, you need to talk to your doctor about nutrition. People should not put themselves on diet before consulting with someone professional, like your doctor. ... (read in full...)
How do I win my girlfiend back after drunken kiss with another woman?
Q. I need to know how to get my girlfriend back after I drunkenly kissed another girl at a bar. I didn't call this girl, didn't text this girl, didn't even know this girl. I got extremely drunk and acted like a total idiot and lost my girlfriend's ...
A. 7 June 2010: Nononono... you're not telling her she CANT sleep with other men while she is single. She is free to do whatever she pleases. But you can tell her that if she does, you will not want her back. Because you have a right to not take her back. That is ... (read in full...)
My online 'Juliet's' parents are trying to break us apart!
Q. My relationship start off long distanced online. We started cam dating just a few days after we met on a website. She confessed to me that she loved me and wanted to try dating. I accepted and fell in love with her also. We had no real problems ...
A. 7 June 2010: You rushed in too fats with so many things yet to be discovered. Your relationship with her was at a risk from day 1, not ever having met her in person, not knowing if her family approved... And so many risks that you ignored. Be more careful with ... (read in full...)
I have a fear of eating with acquaintances!
Q. Before I explain my problem, I'd just like to clear up one little thing: I don't have an eating disorder, I'm a healthy weight, and I love love love to eat, most of the time. With that in mind, even I'm finding it difficult to believe tha...
A. 7 June 2010: Great to hear that! Continue to eat and enjoy!... (read in full...)
My online 'Juliet's' parents are trying to break us apart!
Q. My relationship start off long distanced online. We started cam dating just a few days after we met on a website. She confessed to me that she loved me and wanted to try dating. I accepted and fell in love with her also. We had no real problems ...
A. 7 June 2010: Only 3 months! You have come on way too strong for this girl. After only 3 months, you should take things a lot slower! You love her and want to move to her after only 3 months, all fair, but the relationship has barely started! 3 months is not ... (read in full...)
My online 'Juliet's' parents are trying to break us apart!
Q. My relationship start off long distanced online. We started cam dating just a few days after we met on a website. She confessed to me that she loved me and wanted to try dating. I accepted and fell in love with her also. We had no real problems ...
A. 7 June 2010: If you haven't heard from her in a week then it's over. ... (read in full...)
My online 'Juliet's' parents are trying to break us apart!
Q. My relationship start off long distanced online. We started cam dating just a few days after we met on a website. She confessed to me that she loved me and wanted to try dating. I accepted and fell in love with her also. We had no real problems ...
A. 7 June 2010: It's up to her. If she really loves you and wants to contact you, she will find a way. If you don't hear from her however, assume the relationship is over. Find a woman who is willing to fight for you. ... (read in full...)
How do I win my girlfiend back after drunken kiss with another woman?
Q. I need to know how to get my girlfriend back after I drunkenly kissed another girl at a bar. I didn't call this girl, didn't text this girl, didn't even know this girl. I got extremely drunk and acted like a total idiot and lost my girlfriend's ...
A. 7 June 2010: I agree that sleeping with someone is very different from a one time kiss while drunk. At the same time I understand her desire to take out her anger on you with sleeping with other men. Its just that it is a bad way to release anger as she is not ... (read in full...)
I found a tool to free myself...could it help you too?
Q. I have recently made a discovery. I’m not sure what you could call it really. A technique? A tool? Whatever it may be, I am in amazement. It is really helping me. I have no idea where it has come from, this idea. It just popped into my mind the ...
A. 5 June 2010: Doh. We're talking about tools to escape things that bother you in life. Get released from the worries you sillywilly. Plus I don't think any vasectomies are really performed with scissors, I believe they use surgical knives? ... (read in full...)
I found a tool to free myself...could it help you too?
Q. I have recently made a discovery. I’m not sure what you could call it really. A technique? A tool? Whatever it may be, I am in amazement. It is really helping me. I have no idea where it has come from, this idea. It just popped into my mind the ...
A. 5 June 2010: lol, of course Q. Maybe you want to get lubed up instead so you can slip away without cutting any cords?... (read in full...)
I found a tool to free myself...could it help you too?
Q. I have recently made a discovery. I’m not sure what you could call it really. A technique? A tool? Whatever it may be, I am in amazement. It is really helping me. I have no idea where it has come from, this idea. It just popped into my mind the ...
A. 4 June 2010: Yes, the snipp sound was there. Kinda like a larger version of the scissors they use to cut ribbons with when opening a new bridge or tunnel or something :) And yes, I saw a red ribbon as well being cut, haha, so it was impossible not to laugh. In a ... (read in full...)
I found a tool to free myself...could it help you too?
Q. I have recently made a discovery. I’m not sure what you could call it really. A technique? A tool? Whatever it may be, I am in amazement. It is really helping me. I have no idea where it has come from, this idea. It just popped into my mind the ...
A. 4 June 2010: I tried imagining a giant pair of scissors cutting the cord between me and things that I worry with. I know you didn't say they had to be huge, but in my head they ended up as gigantic either way. The result was that I went from feeling worried and ... (read in full...)
I have a fear of eating with acquaintances!
Q. Before I explain my problem, I'd just like to clear up one little thing: I don't have an eating disorder, I'm a healthy weight, and I love love love to eat, most of the time. With that in mind, even I'm finding it difficult to believe tha...
A. 1 June 2010: I blame instincts. Im horrible like this too, except I guard my food. If anyone approaches my food I will pull my plate away and hover over it. I also dislike people watching me eat unless they have food themselves. Makes me feel like they might ... (read in full...)
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