| Latest articles: How to avoid being used financially
This question has 13 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
This question has 4 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
14 June 2010: In order for aunts and question askers to see who they are getting advice from, I will continue to write some more about me, and where I come from. The things that I draw on when giving advice, what type of experience I have in life. This arti...
How one person changed my life
This question has 12 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
|
I think losing my virginity ruined my life! Please help!
Q. i had sex for the first time, and i loved him and i thought he loved me, but i guess not he used me and its been about 7 months sence then. i wasnt ready but he talked me into it, i cry myself asleep because of him. and now i feel like a whore, and ...
A. 18 June 2010: How old was he? It is possible that you could report him to the police, as you never said yes to have sex with him. I don't want to scare you, but when a woman has not given consent, and the man still has sex with her, it is classified as rape.
... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men like me to want to spice up marital sex life with an escort?
Q. My wife of 15 years took a remark I made the wrong way. She got really upset and I said it did come out the wrong way. She is the only one I have been with in 15 years. The truth is the sex isn't like it used to be. I suggested having an escort ...
A. 17 June 2010: Maybe you should buy yourself a new car instead. ... (read in full...)
The married man I am having an affair with is cheating on me!
Q. im having an affair to a married man and we are now six years, the problem is he's having a fling relationship to another woman, how can i stop him on this kind of habit i feel so hurt and jealous..what will i do for him should i leave him but i ...
A. 17 June 2010: Get out of the relationship with this man, that is what you need to do. He will never be yours and you will only continue to be hurt.
Find a man who wont cheat. ... (read in full...)
How can I prevent my mother from finding out I have a boyfriend?
Q. My phone bill has come and my mu has applied for the call list!I've been calling up my guy!I don want mum to know that I'm in a relationship!How do i save myself?...
A. 17 June 2010: Call him only from a phone outside of the house. ... (read in full...)
Did he cum on my chest because he didn't enjoy the blow job?
Q. I am a 25 year old married woman. Recently, I was giving my husband a blow as he really likes that, when he had me stop, lay on the bed on back, and began to rub his penis over my breats and then shot on my boobs. We had never done this. I had ...
A. 17 June 2010: Yes. Men like that. ... (read in full...)
I think losing my virginity ruined my life! Please help!
Q. i had sex for the first time, and i loved him and i thought he loved me, but i guess not he used me and its been about 7 months sence then. i wasnt ready but he talked me into it, i cry myself asleep because of him. and now i feel like a whore, and ...
A. 17 June 2010: Don't have sex again until you are ready. And don't have a boyfriend until you are ready either. Did you use protection? If not: get a morning after pill, or ask your doctor or school nurse about what you can do. And then have a pregnancy test.
... (read in full...)
Forgot to take my tampon out before sex, now it smells realy bad!
Q. i have this problem well you see i had intercourse while there where a tampon inside me and it went really rought so i did manage to get it out but somehow it still feels like something is in there, it hurts very bad now everytime i want to have ...
A. 17 June 2010: Please do keep us updated on how it goes... (read in full...)
Am I terrible if I am secretly happy when my ex encounters a problem?
Q. Does feeling like this make me a bad person I feel so happy when my X gets a problem and feel very bad when he achieves something i hate how i feel..but its something that automatically comes about... however i dont show it to anybody that i f...
A. 17 June 2010: I think what CaringGuy means by being "over" someone is that you are not affected by them. If you are over them you will see them as just another human being, and nothing in particular. Not meaning that you still have romantic feelings for them. But ... (read in full...)
Forgot to take my tampon out before sex, now it smells realy bad!
Q. i have this problem well you see i had intercourse while there where a tampon inside me and it went really rought so i did manage to get it out but somehow it still feels like something is in there, it hurts very bad now everytime i want to have ...
A. 17 June 2010: Did you read about TSS? Read it again. And get yourself to an emergency appointment ASAP. Don't wait for a doctors appointment. Just go!
"Most associate TSS with the improper usage of tampons, which can cause immediate and life threaten... (read in full...)
My ex doesn't want to be intimate anymore. Am I wrong to share my pain with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and half years....on and off. We officialy broke up on august last year but we still see each other and we still talk and are intimate so nothing has really change. Earlier today he tells that he th...
A. 17 June 2010: You should be brave and call him and say "I don't want us to stop being intimate. I love you dearly. I don't know how thinsg ended up this way, but you have been good to me, and I want you in my life".
He doesn't need to know when you hurt. He... (read in full...)
What do people think of the 'Rubber Band Theory'?
Q. This is for both for both guys and girls. Be good to hear both points of view. Do you believe in the Rubber Band Theory that men need to pull back after intimacy? How do guys feel during this period of needing Space? ...
A. 17 June 2010: I heard that if a guy is in love he won't pull away, but if he is not in love he will loose the interest in the woman after having sex.
I don't really know if thats true or not, and as all guys are different it is unlikely that all men are eith... (read in full...)
How do I change and get him to notice the changes?
Q. So my boyfriend of almost three years broke up from me as I was anxious and emotionally demanding. I had panic attacks and anxiety. How do I change this about me and get him to notice these changes? Also his friends didn't like me at all and he ...
A. 17 June 2010: The other post (I link so aunts can read everything)
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/its-been-three-years-how-can-i-get.html... (read in full...)
Does the number of her previous sexual partners, make her an unsteady person?
Q. Hey, There is this thing that's been bugging me for a while now and I will appreciate any honest answer to my question. I've been involved with a girl for the last 7 months and at one point we actually discussed one of the 'not so good to talk...
A. 17 June 2010: 8 partners at 25 is low. And in your defence I think you are grown up. You are just confused at why this is still bugging you when all your logic tells you it shouldn't bug you.
I think you need to focus your attention on why this bothers you. Is ... (read in full...)
Forgot to take my tampon out before sex, now it smells realy bad!
Q. i have this problem well you see i had intercourse while there where a tampon inside me and it went really rought so i did manage to get it out but somehow it still feels like something is in there, it hurts very bad now everytime i want to have ...
A. 17 June 2010: You have to see a doctor. The smell is a good indication that you didn't get all of the tampon out. The smell probably comes from discard that has been sucked up in the tampon and does not get out. Leaving up inside of you can be lethal. You could ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want a baby at my age?
Q. Im 17 and I love children. I think that sometimes they are the cutest ever. I have been having weird thoughts lately though. My parent would kill me if it ever happened at my age though, I would have no support what so ever. So here is my question: ...
A. 17 June 2010: Just to add in, I've been feeling baby-crazy since the age of 14. What keeps me from living out the dream of children at an early age is: I want a husband too and finding good men require som years of dating, I want both me and my man to have good ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want a baby at my age?
Q. Im 17 and I love children. I think that sometimes they are the cutest ever. I have been having weird thoughts lately though. My parent would kill me if it ever happened at my age though, I would have no support what so ever. So here is my question: ...
A. 17 June 2010: It is quite common. A quick search on dearcupid's database would tell you how common. We see young teens on here all the time, wishing for a baby. I think it is yuor hormones that cause this. Your body is maturing, and you get these desires to make ... (read in full...)
Is 18 too young to buy the sex toy called a "bullet"?
Q. Is 18 too young to buy a bullet? As in the sex toy. I feel like dildos and vibrators are for much older women - but I've never had an orgasm :(...
A. 17 June 2010: seaofpleasure.com ... (read in full...)
Does this normally happen while on birth control?
Q. Okay so I know im not pregnant. I did have unprotected sex 7 weeks ago BUT I got my period 2 days after that and then on the 28th. Both were normal. I also took a test the day after I was suppose to have m period and it was negative. He al...
A. 16 June 2010: It would be described as a side effect if this is common for your birth control pill. Read the side effects for your pill to see. ... (read in full...)
On the verge of breaking up as he's taking his exes side!
Q. "I was supposed to tell you last time, that I have something of a girlfriend. She likes to throw fits and, since she's a pretty jealous and paranoid creature, demanded that I make it clear to you that, yes, I am somewhat taken." "I guess she thinks ...
A. 16 June 2010: He's not your boyfriend. He considers what you and him have a "thing with a jealous and paranoid creature", he doesn't respect you, he talks you down in front of his ex, or fails to mention you whatsoever.
His wording says it all. He doesn't ... (read in full...)
Sex Ed in school
Q. I am very annoyed every time a girl or boy gets on here and is afraid someone is pregnant and they don't know the facts because they didn't have sex ed. I went to a very liberal public school that taught very good sex ed, about STD's, how to stay to ...
A. 16 June 2010: Sex ed in school is one of the topics that really fires me up. It is horrible. There is hardly any sex ed, or what they do teach is insufficient. The sex ed also starts way too late. In my school we had a few lessons when we were 14-15. By that age ... (read in full...)
He named his rifle after his ex!
Q. Well, my boyfriend is in the Army and is currently training out of state (AIT). Things have been a bit dull between us because of how busy he is, but we managed to keep the love alive. Anyway, I just recently got over an obsession after ...
A. 16 June 2010: If he names his rifle back in 2009, why did he tell you about this now? Were you dating him at the time when he named the rifle?
Yes he must be silly. People sometimes slip up, but didn't see this one coming? How did he react to your reaction... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to watch me have sex with a girl!
Q. ok so my bf asked me if i would do sexual things with another girl while hes watching.. idk whats that called but i have been intrested in that (we are both 18) so he said if i wanted he could try and find someone for me to do stuff with. but then i ...
A. 16 June 2010: Yes, don't do it. You are not 100% sure of it, so it is best not to. These sorts of experiences are only for couples who are 100% dedicated to each other, trust each other, and know each other inside out. Including another person into the sexlife is ... (read in full...)
Why do parents get so crazy about sexual stuff with us teens?
Q. Why do parents get so crazy about sexual stuff with us teens? If we are protected then let us learn and realize the real world of a relationship. I think if the parent lets the kids do stuff it gives the kid responsibilty and helps them realize what ...
A. 16 June 2010: Parents are scared you will get pregnant or taken advantage of because young people are usually very naive.
But I agree, overprotection works against it's cause. ... (read in full...)
Taken for granted?
Q. Hey everybody. The title says it all. I’m in a relationship with an amazing woman whom I love dearly with all my heart. And may be that’s why it hurts so much to realize that she is taking me for granted. It’s not anything major, but rather little ...
A. 16 June 2010: I don't think you should suddenly just stop. Rather I think you need to have a calm talk with her about your concerns. Because, in my experience, this comes from misunderstandings or failure to see what the other does. You may feel she takes you for ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to meet this man?
Q. I feel like a bit of an idiot saying this out loud but please someone help me. I've been with my partner for 4 years. We recently migrated with his job. He works away all the time and I am struggling to get work. So i am alone, no work or frien...
A. 16 June 2010: I don't think this guy is all that. He says the things you want to hear, thats all. If he truly cared about you he'd respect that you are in a relationship and not want to meet up for sex. He sounds like he is only thinking about one thing, and he ... (read in full...)
Jealous boyfriend won't connect with my son!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and he just doesn't get me at all. I met him through my ex and it was great at 1st. I moved in with him after 5 months and left my home town and my children with their dad as there was access ...
A. 16 June 2010: You know what you need to do. He is being unfair to your child and this is hurting not only you but the little boy as well. You are probably right, he is insecure and jealous. And he is not going to change. Often people don't reveal their true ... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant because my period was shorter?
Q. How do I know if i`m pregnant or not?If I just recently had my period last week on Monday but,ended on Thursday of last week and that was the same week that I started and for those four days it was normally.On Friday however I was bleeding some ...
A. 16 June 2010: I will assume you have been trying to get pregnant? And have had unprotected sex?
Some women have a bleeding even though they are pregnant. For others there is no bleeding. Irregular menstruation can be a symptom of stress and is often a result o... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 16 June 2010: But it's so much fun :D... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 16 June 2010: If anyone read my answer to Celiaaletta about how to compromise on the porn issue, you will see a lot of variety and possibilities. A man can get by without porn. Women get by without porn. Porn is only one thing that adds to the experience of ... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 15 June 2010: There is tons of compromise to be made. One example is that the guy and girl talk about this first, decide how important this type of stimulation is to him, and have the girl pick out what he can watch. Maybe she only has a problem with certain ... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 15 June 2010: Thanks, I realize now it was badly worded, but you got my point. Thank you. ... (read in full...)
How can I help him open up to me?
Q. Is there a way to get my boyfriend who spent eighteen years in prison that will easily get him to open up and share emotions . I want to know if there are things I could learn to help guide him to open up and share his feelings and emotions ...
A. 15 June 2010: Is he using the time spent in prison as his reason for why he can't say "I love you"? If not then don't use it as an excuse on his behalf either. My gut is telling me this is just how he is. Some men have difficulties saying those three words as ... (read in full...)
Is 18 too young to buy the sex toy called a "bullet"?
Q. Is 18 too young to buy a bullet? As in the sex toy. I feel like dildos and vibrators are for much older women - but I've never had an orgasm :(...
A. 15 June 2010: No. 18 you are legally adult in most countries and you are allowed to do as you please. But the bullet vibrator. I think most shops have an 18 year old age limit, so you are allowed to buy one. I don't think you are too young at all. ... (read in full...)
If I was open about liking girls and boys with my classmates, will I be a target?
Q. If i tell everyone at school i like girls aswell as boys would i be brave or stupid? i cant decide all these questions are in my head and its confusing me i just want to be myself for once i have too pretend to be someone am not and i hate it i have ...
A. 15 June 2010: Yes people your age are immature. But if you have good friends around you I think you will be fine. If you don't have any friends however, it would be risky. ... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 15 June 2010: I don't see how compromise should be excluded however. If a hypothetical relationship is otherwise brilliant I'd say you are lucky. Is it worth giving up a guy over? Not if the guy thinks porn is worth giving up the girl. If both want each other ... (read in full...)
How can I help him open up to me?
Q. Is there a way to get my boyfriend who spent eighteen years in prison that will easily get him to open up and share emotions . I want to know if there are things I could learn to help guide him to open up and share his feelings and emotions ...
A. 15 June 2010: How long since he got out of prison? And while it is easy to assume he is closed in emotionally because of his life in prison, some men just are like this. In which case he will never change.
I don't know any better techniques to make people o... (read in full...)
My vagina has this smell which is making me uncomfortable..
Q. i have this ugly bad smell at my vagina, dont know why but i have it. I shower atleast 2 times a day when i have my period sometimes more, even if i take a bath. After intercourse i shower before intercourse i shower after intercourse the smell is ...
A. 15 June 2010: Sorry for the second post. You should not experiment with treatment down there before consulting with your doctor. You could harm yourself.
But practical things you can do is: change your underwear often, don't wear pads when you have your per... (read in full...)
My vagina has this smell which is making me uncomfortable..
Q. i have this ugly bad smell at my vagina, dont know why but i have it. I shower atleast 2 times a day when i have my period sometimes more, even if i take a bath. After intercourse i shower before intercourse i shower after intercourse the smell is ...
A. 15 June 2010: I don't see lubricant can affect your ability to get pregnant whatsoever.
You are probably dry down there because you shower 2 times a day. And you might even smell more and more since you are basically cleaning away all bacteria you have dow... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 15 June 2010: I'm still rooting for the article writer. She is not the one with the problem here, and I don't have a problem with porn either, so personal attacks aren't called for. However, from our viewpoint (take that I understand what the OP means), porn has ... (read in full...)
Do other girls rub there smell on the lips for there b/f?
Q. I been dating my g/f for 5 months and we been intimate. She said she is bi and I knew that when we met. She had a long time g/f then but just broke up. On Satuday my friend text me and said he saw my g/f with her ex going in her house. I met my ...
A. 14 June 2010: I don't think she is for real either. I never heard of any girl who did that. If you are wondering, go down on her and check if it is the same smell. But it can be hard to be for sure. Try and keep an eye on her for other signs, just in case she is ... (read in full...)
Answer to the question most of the teenagers are asking... "Am I pregnant ?!"
Q. Am I pregnant?... This is probably the most asked question on this site. Girls and boys let me first say that if you're not ready to become parents ALWAYS USE A CONDOM OR TAKE THE PILL!!! This is VERY important. Remember this. OK back to the ques...
A. 14 June 2010: To add in more information, the morning after pill must be taken within 72 hours. ... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 13 June 2010: Yeah, I guess. Never had that situation happen though, so it's hard to say. ... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 12 June 2010: Not saying you guys aren't educated, but I need to inform you of one thing. A vibrator is not the same as a dildo. Why should a woman use a vibrator when a guy is offering his penis? Well because his penis doesn't vibrate, doesn't focus on the clit, ... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 11 June 2010: Aside from the main point, I want to jump in at the male anon who wanted opinions about women giving up vibrators if men gave up porn. I hardly see how they are the same. Women can give up porn if man gives up porn. Women can give up the vibrator if ... (read in full...)
Porn isn't entirely harmless
Q. I would like to point something out that is making me feel really sad about the state of things. Every day women come on here asking for help for a porn related issue. Basically they say I'm really upset he looks and it's worse because he lies to ...
A. 4 June 2010: Great article, it was a good read. Well argumented.... (read in full...)
| *higirl's friends
These are mutual friends, so *higirl has
added them and they have added *higirl!
|
![kitty-cat=] agony aunt](/avatars/4e276644-588c-43d2-bf37-fe35b92660b5.png){kind=small}
