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What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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If I stay over with him more often will it eventually lead to sex? He promised we would not have sex until marriage but I'm worried he wont be able to control himself!
Q. I have been staying over at my boyfriend's hostel room like every once a week. And each time he will rub his penis on my vagina although i am still wearing my panties. I would like to stay over with him more often but I am afraid if that continue...
A. 27 September 2010: Be warned that an engagement is not as good as married. An engagement can be broken off. And then you will have to tell a future husband that you had sex with someone else. And being conservative as you are I think you will regret it. Being ... (read in full...)
How can I make my cousin have sex with me?
Q. I am 16 years of age and my girl cousin is 15 and a want to have sex with her so badly but i dont know how to ask her, or what to do to make her have sex with me!! I have been trying so hard since 14-15 to have sex with her and i dont know if she ...
A. 27 September 2010: You have to understand my point now. I get yours. But heres the facts: you are a horny teenage boy. All you want is sex. Teenage girls do NOT want to have one night stands. You said you only want her ONCE and thats it. If you get it on with her she ... (read in full...)
I want to surprise my boyfriend but the surprise might be on me
Q. i want to sprise my boyfriend .. we are going abroad and i got my vagina pierced this afternoon and we are going abroad tommorow night will it beep going through the metal detectors? i want to suprise him i dont want him to find out this way.. ...
A. 26 September 2010: Maybe make sure to get a bit ahead of him through the check in or after him, so that he wont be right next to you in case it beeps off? Then maybe he wont be able to see where the officers have found something....?
Or, think of it this way: he ... (read in full...)
I found hidden in the closet sex video with wife and her boyfriends...
Q. Please help! So my wife told me I needed to do more around the house. Help her clean mostly. I had never really done it and I felt I should help...wish I never had. I started cleaning out our bedroom. Under the bed, behind dressers, etc......
A. 24 September 2010: You should throw out the videoes. Or actually, make her throw out the videoes. She needs to put a final end to this and not hold on to these things of her past, especially as she claims to be ashamed of them. I wonder if she was ashamed why didn't ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a girl says this during sex?
Q. Hello everyone i just have a little bit unusual question mostly for females but i dont mind having different opinons :D , i just wanna know what girls mean when they say during sex F**k me harder or when they are like ' harder harder ' Does th...
A. 24 September 2010: It is very simple and easy. It means that she takes control and wants you to do this or that, in this case "harder" for her to enjoy herself better. This does not mean that she always wants it harder! It simply means that right this moment, this is ... (read in full...)
Why won't he cuddle or hold me after sex
Q. a guy I'm just friends with will never cuddle with me after we sex..we talk everyday, chill and stuff,but I've known him 5 months,so why not hold me? ...
A. 24 September 2010: Because you are just friends. He doesnt care about you like that, and wont cuddle.... (read in full...)
My wife won't help around the house!
Q. Ok I am in the military and work full time on active duty however I also work full time at home, I cannot get my wife to do anything around the house to help! I am not the kind of guy to say she should do 100% at the house but she don't do anything ...
A. 24 September 2010: Not much of advice, but you got to make her listen and see how important it is that she show she cares about the marriage.
But, she can not possibly only be reading books. I know often it is easy to be so overwhelmed by the things you do yourself... (read in full...)
He doesn't like my annoying habit and doesn't think we can go further because of it
Q. Hi Okay I'll try to keep this short as it's nearly 5am here and I need some sleep. So I'm currently seeing this guy and it's really only the 2nd time that we have met physically prior to this we met online and then we e-mailed then we talked ...
A. 23 September 2010: I think it would be good for you to take some time and think about things. The way you have reacted to this I really feel is overdramatic. How can you care about someone so much after such a short time, the guy said he wasn't even sure of who you ... (read in full...)
Should I send him pics, or should he be respectful of my decisions?
Q. My boyfriend of almost a month wants pics but im not that comfortable about it. He is sorta mad about it because I said idk. Its also a semi long distant relationship. I really like him! Should I do it or should he be repectful of my decisions? ...
A. 23 September 2010: Considering your age and the time you have been together he needs to respect your decision and has no right to be mad.
No one has a right to expect you to do anything you don't want. Many things are expected when you enter a relation... (read in full...)
He doesn't like my annoying habit and doesn't think we can go further because of it
Q. Hi Okay I'll try to keep this short as it's nearly 5am here and I need some sleep. So I'm currently seeing this guy and it's really only the 2nd time that we have met physically prior to this we met online and then we e-mailed then we talked ...
A. 23 September 2010: You have to understand that people react differently. He said he needed time to think. And then you go on about why would he want that, he distanced himself from you, he doesn't really want to date, I am in tears.... All that. All the man wanted is ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling insecure lately and my boyfriend is making it worse!
Q. dear aunts and uncles, i'm feeling insecure lately and my boyfriend just making it worst so about a month ago i found on his phone a picture of a naked girl it was from a magazine i was mad but we worked it out but i'm quite not over it when i ...
A. 23 September 2010: You have a serious problem in this relationship, and that is miscommunication. He doesn't understand you, and you don't understand him. He gets upset when you bring up these things, and you get upset when he doesn't take initiative to talk about ... (read in full...)
Should he not relieve himself in front of me even though I didn't mind?
Q. hi i know this question isn't as serious as some on here but i just wanted to know peoples advice . ive been with my boyfriend for four months and our sex life is good and getting better we both work shifts so we had to be up early today at 4am i ...
A. 23 September 2010: It is something he should feel comfortable with doing in front of his girlfriend, but like he said he was ashamed by it. So he as a problem with doing it, which wont change by simply telling him it is ok. For him to feel okay with it will take a lot ... (read in full...)
How do they manage to sleep at night, tormenting others all day?
Q. Hey all. I need to talk to someone about this. Today I gave notice in my job and I feel utterly deflated. Having been in the job for less than a year, everyday in that office has been a living HELL - to put it mildly. Despite being qualified...
A. 23 September 2010: People do it when you let them. You need to take care of yourself in this harsh world, and maybe the bosses let you go because they felt you gave up easily.
Clearly this woman must be capable of something since they still have her there, and she ... (read in full...)
With my baby's mama but in love with someone else!
Q. Hello, I am 23 yrs old. I am currently with my babys mama. I have lost the love that I had for her, and I feel obligated to stay n the relationship becuz we have a 2yr old daughter together. Idk wat to do?? I feel like I'm wasting my time with not ...
A. 23 September 2010: You need to take a step back now and be careful with your own heart. Being in a relationship out of obligation can be fulfilling enough, but you are perfectly capable of being a great father even though you are not in a relationship with the baby ... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to deal with my pregnant flatmate
Q. My flatmate and I get on just fine, but we're not particularly close. We both work late hours and like our own space, so we mostly just stay out of each other's way. A few weeks ago, I started to sense something was wrong. She kept telling me she ...
A. 23 September 2010: Persuade her. Tell her you are worried about her, and wish to help. Ask her to think about it, and to let you know what you can do to help. You might not be best friends, but you live together. Kinda like a family, and on that level you care about ... (read in full...)
He doesn't like my annoying habit and doesn't think we can go further because of it
Q. Hi Okay I'll try to keep this short as it's nearly 5am here and I need some sleep. So I'm currently seeing this guy and it's really only the 2nd time that we have met physically prior to this we met online and then we e-mailed then we talked ...
A. 23 September 2010: You will be offended by this, but you are acting like a 14 year old girl. It seems everything is about you and the world revolves around you. Your friends need to back you up whenever you feel the slightest uncomfortable, you let them offend him, ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend too tight
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now and she's a virgin, age 22. We try to have sex, but she's really sensitive "down there," much more so than any of my previous girlfriends. Even when she's really wet I can't get more than 1 ...
A. 22 September 2010: Nothing wrong other than you are dealing with a tight virgin. Is she clamming up? Is she nervous? Could getting her drunk be the solution? Of course not fooling her into getting drunk, but she is old enough to have some drinks. It'll relax her.
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I'm scared to put myself out there because of my height!
Q. Well anyways im 6 foot 11 and 19 years old around 180-190 pounds to be honest quite skinny. ive only had around 4 girlfriends and im scared to put myself out there mainly because of my height. any suggestions or comments would be appreciated on what ...
A. 22 September 2010: Trance made a good point that I forgot: women wear heels. And we don't like to be taller than our boyfriends. So you being tall is only a good thing. ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to put myself out there because of my height!
Q. Well anyways im 6 foot 11 and 19 years old around 180-190 pounds to be honest quite skinny. ive only had around 4 girlfriends and im scared to put myself out there mainly because of my height. any suggestions or comments would be appreciated on what ...
A. 22 September 2010: Be proud of your height. That is the best thing I can tell you. It looks horrible when tall people slouch over and walk like old men. It just looks horrible, and you know we can still see that you are tall, so it doesn't do you any favours.
Women... (read in full...)
If I stay over with him more often will it eventually lead to sex? He promised we would not have sex until marriage but I'm worried he wont be able to control himself!
Q. I have been staying over at my boyfriend's hostel room like every once a week. And each time he will rub his penis on my vagina although i am still wearing my panties. I would like to stay over with him more often but I am afraid if that continue...
A. 22 September 2010: Some are able to control themselves. But it sounds like he doesn't want to control himself, the way he keeps rubbing up against you shows that all you need to do is have one moment of weakness and he will gladly take you.
Ask him to stop rubbing ... (read in full...)
He doesn't like my annoying habit and doesn't think we can go further because of it
Q. Hi Okay I'll try to keep this short as it's nearly 5am here and I need some sleep. So I'm currently seeing this guy and it's really only the 2nd time that we have met physically prior to this we met online and then we e-mailed then we talked ...
A. 22 September 2010: The only way you can reassure him that you will stop the annoying habit, is to actually stop the habit. But I am not sure if he will give you enough time to show him that. You should also take great caution, because habits are hard to change! You ... (read in full...)
I think my nipples are too big
Q. Hi, so I have a pretty embarrassing question. I have fairly small breasts, barely a B cup but my nipples are pretty large and dark. They haven't been too much of a concern to me in the past but I now have a boyfriend that I would like to start ...
A. 22 September 2010: Guys like different things. There isn't a one thing that is best, it totally depends on the guy you are with. And, if he is with you for who you are, then he will enjoy what you look like as well.
Don't worry. Your nipples are fine. Theres n... (read in full...)
How can I make my cousin have sex with me?
Q. I am 16 years of age and my girl cousin is 15 and a want to have sex with her so badly but i dont know how to ask her, or what to do to make her have sex with me!! I have been trying so hard since 14-15 to have sex with her and i dont know if she ...
A. 22 September 2010: I don't think she is interested. Do yourself a favour and find a proper girlfriend before you have sex at all. I don't think your cousin is interested in being your girlfriend, so maybe you need to look elsewhere.
You can not demand that anyone h... (read in full...)
How do I prove it to my boyfriend that I'm not having an affair?
Q. im 15 years and my boyfrend is 20 years. i broke up with him some months before and we again joined. during that time i had another Bf . i didnt know how end the relationship with him .. When i wanted to break up with him my first Boyfrien...
A. 22 September 2010: If he can not believe you then he does not trust you. And if he does not trust you there are no foundations for a relationship. Bottom line is that if he does not trust you you need to end the relationship with him. This is NOT about you proving ... (read in full...)
Am I attracted to women or just this one woman?
Q. Hi. I am a woman and I am attracted to men, definitely. I like men. But just recently I've met a female who I think I have a bit of a crush on and it's kind of embarrassing. I know that she is bi and once enquired to a friend about my sexuality to ...
A. 21 September 2010: It could be both. And it could definitely be that you are attracted to men in general, but that you are attracted to her, and no other women. You don't have to label yourself as anything. It can be very confusing, but what is important to remember ... (read in full...)
He put 4 fingers inside of me????
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old and have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and have been sexually active with him for about 8 months. On Monday we had sex and half way through he pulled out and fingered me for a short while, until I orgasmed, ...
A. 21 September 2010: What do you mean by "original size"? As in when you were a virgin? Probably never will return to that size no, unless you stop having sex.
This was during sex. You were expanded down there, and wet. Trying to put 4 fingers in at any other ti... (read in full...)
Any aunts specializing in domestic abuse questions?
Q. Are there any Aunts who specialize in answering domestic abuse questions? I ask because I'd like to write in private rather than post on a public board. ...
A. 21 September 2010: DearCupid in general do not want domestic abuse questions on here, because they should be addressed to professionals or to the police. Therefor I advice you to call a help-line for advice. ... (read in full...)
Are women satisfied with average size penis or do they fantasize about bigger penises?
Q. hello everybody, thanks for the time i would spend in order to answer my question :D mu question is mostly for women who are married to men with average penis size, i just wanna know are the women in this situation really satisfied with their hu...
A. 21 September 2010: We are satisfied with average penises. If we were to fantasize it would be because the sex is in general bad, but that has nothing to do with the penis size. ... (read in full...)
Why would a man turn a woman down even when he is really horny?
Q. why man turn a women down when they are really horny? is it the woman or is something else???...
A. 21 September 2010: It could be he has morals and standards and wants more than just sex. Or, perhaps he just doesn't like the woman. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend takes ages to cum!
Q. My boyfriend takes ages to cum. We are 16 and lost our virginities to each other. I've heard guys first times last like.. 30 seconds, he was more like 30 minutes! And now he lasts up to 2 hours inside me! I enjoy the sex, but Im just VERY ...
A. 21 September 2010: Being circumcised or not has absolutely no impact on this. How long a man lasts or not is entirely up to the individual, and not circumcision. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend takes ages to cum!
Q. My boyfriend takes ages to cum. We are 16 and lost our virginities to each other. I've heard guys first times last like.. 30 seconds, he was more like 30 minutes! And now he lasts up to 2 hours inside me! I enjoy the sex, but Im just VERY ...
A. 21 September 2010: It varies a lot when guys come. A first timer is supposedly not capable of keeping it on for more than minutes, but many first timers face the opposite problem: they can't come. This could also be due to inexperience, stress, anxiety, you name it. ... (read in full...)
I feel bored to tears with everything in my life!
Q. I need some advice. Have you ever felt bored to tears with everything in your life? Interacting with the kids, my professional life, dinner parties with friends, playing poker with the boys, going on a trip to see a big NFL game - and worse of ...
A. 21 September 2010: I understand you. I know what it is like to have zero interest in what is going on in your life or other people. And you are bothered by it, you don't want to feel this way. You are wondering how to "fix" yourself. My very best advice to you is to ... (read in full...)
How can I gain weight after my illness?
Q. I'm 19 yo.. I had a good physique till 15. And suddenly I lost all my weight due to illness. I've been doing exercise and all those stuffs.But do I have any other way to gain my weight faster. Cuz i'm sick of myself.Everyday i look at myself...
A. 21 September 2010: Hahah, I just read strongfp's answer, I didnt read it before I posted mine. My post was not meant to oppose his post, my post just comes from my personal experience with weight gaining. What I have personally experienced is that it is good with ... (read in full...)
How can I gain weight after my illness?
Q. I'm 19 yo.. I had a good physique till 15. And suddenly I lost all my weight due to illness. I've been doing exercise and all those stuffs.But do I have any other way to gain my weight faster. Cuz i'm sick of myself.Everyday i look at myself...
A. 21 September 2010: Have you talked to your doctor about this?
But, in order to gain weight you need to eat and work out. Muscles weight more than fat. Also you should eat food with protein and iron. Like meats, eggs, fish, red meat in particular for the iron. I ... (read in full...)
How can I tell this player I don't want to be his bit of fun?
Q. I've been fooling around with a guy (kissing and some oral) he doesn't want a relationship just fun, I have always known this, and i don't normally do this sort of thing but i do like him, he wants us to have sex and I really like him but I am ...
A. 21 September 2010: Don't have sex with him... He doesn't want a relationship, and sex to him means nothing. So you definitely should not have sex with him. Especially as you already like him!
How to tell him? You say "I am not interested in sleeping with you, and... (read in full...)
We had a promising first date but now she barely replies to my texts, what is going on?
Q. Hello out there, So I had a very promising first date last week. We went to have dinner and we chatted with each other for about three hours. After our date was over I walk her to her subway stop, she then says I wish you didn't have to work tom...
A. 21 September 2010: Maybe give her a couple of days and then call her, not text her (messages can often be misunderstood). And then simply ash her out on another date, and find a time that is good for both of you. Take charge a little of when to meet and schedule to ... (read in full...)
One of my close friends likes my boyfriend and its making things awkward between us!
Q. Hey all. I havent got a major problem, just a little one. So il try keep it as short as possible. Last year i started college, as people do all my friends mixed in with the new football boys from other schools, the basket ball boys and the gol...
A. 21 September 2010: How good of a friend is she really if she so blatantly goes after your boyfriend? Certain friends are only friends as long as you give them what they want, and right now Im wondering if this friend wouldn't throw you under the bus first chance she ... (read in full...)
How can I choose?
Q. When two boys wish for you to be their girlfriend how does one choose?...
A. 21 September 2010: Congratulations! Take it slow and use protection!... (read in full...)
How far should the shaved area go?
Q. Hello, Ive recently decided to start shaving my penis, balls, and that general area. My question to the ladies is how far should the shaved area go? Do I shave my thighs too? I know it's up to me but I'm seeking ideas. Thanks to you!...
A. 20 September 2010: Don't shave anything. Shave the balls if the lady requests it (if she intends to lick them it is more pleasurable for her if they are hair-free). And unless you have gotten any feedback on hair around the penis, leave it. Hair on the penis itself ... (read in full...)
After life threatening illness husband distances himself from me! Why?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 15 years. prior to an illness in late February of 2010, we were best friends and lovers. I developed a life threatening health condition called Venous Sinus Thrombosis (blood clots in my brain) and spent some ...
A. 20 September 2010: What has he said? Has he not given you an explanation for what happened?... (read in full...)
I Don't Feel Pretty Enough To Be With Him
Q. So..I'm dating this guy, and he's really sweet and nice, and I think he's really hott. But I just don't feel pretty enough to be with him. I asked him if he could change anything about me, what would it be, and he said he'd make me have bigger ...
A. 20 September 2010: You should stop doing this to yourself. Never mind what he said, you were the one who just had to ask. You might as well ask him to mention at least 10 things that are annoying about you. But why on earth would you do that.
He says you are pret... (read in full...)
How can I choose?
Q. When two boys wish for you to be their girlfriend how does one choose?...
A. 19 September 2010: Choose neither. Just because they want you doesn't mean you have to choose either or. Maybe you like someone else? Or maybe you aren't really into any of these guys? Do you like them back, and do you like one more than the other? Who do you feel you ... (read in full...)
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