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What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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How can I choose?
Q. When two boys wish for you to be their girlfriend how does one choose?...
A. 21 September 2010: Congratulations! Take it slow and use protection!... (read in full...)
I Don't Feel Pretty Enough To Be With Him
Q. So..I'm dating this guy, and he's really sweet and nice, and I think he's really hott. But I just don't feel pretty enough to be with him. I asked him if he could change anything about me, what would it be, and he said he'd make me have bigger ...
A. 20 September 2010: You should stop doing this to yourself. Never mind what he said, you were the one who just had to ask. You might as well ask him to mention at least 10 things that are annoying about you. But why on earth would you do that.
He says you are pret... (read in full...)
Can someone advise me on how to do it right please?
Q. I got this beautiful girls phone number friday night at a club. I called her saturday evening but she didnt answer, I would have left a message but her voice mail isn't set up. When should I call her again? and should I text or call? ...
A. 20 September 2010: Sounds like a good idea. Good luck! Hope you get a hold of her ;) ... (read in full...)
Can you still have your period even if you are pregnant?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for four months and one month i didn't have my period but the beginning of the next month i had it but i still have the feeling that im pregnant. can you have your period even being pregnant?...
A. 20 September 2010: I am not going to begin arguing against anyone here, and whether they are called periods or not... But my mother had her period until she was 5 months pregnant with me, and I have also heard about other women who had their period, not just spotting, ... (read in full...)
Can someone advise me on how to do it right please?
Q. I got this beautiful girls phone number friday night at a club. I called her saturday evening but she didnt answer, I would have left a message but her voice mail isn't set up. When should I call her again? and should I text or call? ...
A. 20 September 2010: Let her respond first. If she doesn't then maybe she lost interest. Or, did you remember to tell her who the text was from? And do you think she might not have received the text? Sometimes that happens. I guess one more text is ok, but then it is ... (read in full...)
Can someone advise me on how to do it right please?
Q. I got this beautiful girls phone number friday night at a club. I called her saturday evening but she didnt answer, I would have left a message but her voice mail isn't set up. When should I call her again? and should I text or call? ...
A. 19 September 2010: Send her a text. Probably she will be able to see that someone called, so calling again might be too much. You could have texted her the same day, so sending one today wouldn't be too bad. If you wait for too long she will think you aren't ... (read in full...)
How can I choose?
Q. When two boys wish for you to be their girlfriend how does one choose?...
A. 19 September 2010: Choose neither. Just because they want you doesn't mean you have to choose either or. Maybe you like someone else? Or maybe you aren't really into any of these guys? Do you like them back, and do you like one more than the other? Who do you feel you ... (read in full...)
Will her vagina always be blown out?
Q. My wife was married to a man who stuck dildos in her for many years. I'm not small, but I don't compare to some of the objects that are out there. So, I'm wondering if all those years of having large objects inserted in her has made her vagina too ...
A. 19 September 2010: The vagina naturally contracts, but not really much. If she worked out on her muscles down there she could make it tight again. It is much like after giving birth, your vagina does contract, but you also need to work at it. I don't think the ... (read in full...)
Wouldn't you know if you've had an orgasm?
Q. When people say there not sure if they've had an orgasm does that usually mean they haven't had one? I'm just starting to question myself if I've actually had one. The way you hear people talk about it...its mind blowing, but what i think was an o...
A. 18 September 2010: Yes, you have most likely not had an orgasm. If you have one you KNOW you have one, because of the very distinct and unusual pleasurable feeling that can not be compared with anything else. You can have an average orgasm or a mind-blowing orgasm, ... (read in full...)
Is this boy dirty?
Q. I am from Pakistan. In our culture elders use to hug and kiss children for blessing. It is a normal and routine practice. About a month before I hugged and kissed my 16 years old nephew and for the first time (never happened before) when I was ...
A. 18 September 2010: I think this young boy is not in control of his body's reaction, but rarely are boys his age able to keep control. They get an erection whether they like it or not. Perhaps it is time though to not see him as a child, but a young adult? ... (read in full...)
How do you treat it when your boyfriend wants to take a break?
Q. When your boyfriend of 2 years asks for "space" or "a break" for a while, because he wants to do his own thing for a while (no other explanation offered by him, no matter how much I pry), how should I treat it? Should I treat it as him leaving m...
A. 18 September 2010: I dont think your guy is an ass for wanting a break. I think he is being for real when he says he wont meet other women while on a break (if that is what he actually said and not what he wanted you to hear). And if he is not using a break to sleep ... (read in full...)
Why does he not ever think of wearing a condom?
Q. My bf and I have sex. And sometimes, okk always, he cums inside of me, and he doesnt even think abt putting a condom, and neither doo i. Bt why is he not thinking, is it bec he wants to have a baby, or is it bec, he just wants to feel more. Hes 18 n ...
A. 18 September 2010: He doesnt use a condom because he is ignorant, immature, and thinks that if you do end up pregnant you will take an abortion, or that he can run away and just be with some other woman if you are pregnant. He doesnt not wear a condom for the purpose ... (read in full...)
How do you treat it when your boyfriend wants to take a break?
Q. When your boyfriend of 2 years asks for "space" or "a break" for a while, because he wants to do his own thing for a while (no other explanation offered by him, no matter how much I pry), how should I treat it? Should I treat it as him leaving m...
A. 17 September 2010: You need to ask him what he means by break, and how he defines it, as well as set the boundaries for what is okay and not okay to do while on break. Because what a break is depends on who the couple are. Sometimes it can be a break from talking or ... (read in full...)
Trying to address sexual incompatability with my husband
Q. Been married almost 12 years, but for various reasons (health, baby) stopped having sex with my husband for many years. I didn't realize how frustrated I was until I recently had sex with another man, which opened the universe for me. It wasn't at ...
A. 17 September 2010: The last option would be to lie to your new lover and tell him you now have an open marriage. But, you risk your lover calling up your husband to test if it is true or not.
I think the action you should take depends on how far down the line thi... (read in full...)
I pay for everything except his credit card bills and his hobbies. I'm starting to feel used.
Q. I live with my boyfriend and I pay all the bills (rent utilities groceries) I have an average paying job but work extra hours for overtime, he's self employed and pays his credit card bill, and for his hobbies...hunting fishing backpacking. I moved ...
A. 17 September 2010: Maybe he isn't intentionally doing this, but it isn't fair to you. Even if you would have the same expenses living alone, you do not live alone! You are two people in the place, and all bills should be shared equally, unless something else has been ... (read in full...)
I'm always told that I look like a guy?
Q. hey. i could do with some advice on how to either boost my confidence or how to ignore everyones snide comments. i regularly get comments about how i look like a guy. i don't think i do, i'm a size 12, with definate breasts and i have a fairly sl...
A. 17 September 2010: My advice is that in a few years time you will grow to be very feminine. If you are already having breasts at your age, you are definitely developing feminine features. I didn't have breasts at all when I was 14. It just takes time! You are still ... (read in full...)
Finally asking the question after 7 years of silence
Q. Hi there, I am 26 and have been married for 7 years, I have a great husband and recently i had been reading a lot about masturbating, I had never really wanted to try it because i do like sex but i had never had an orgasm. Well, about 3 months...
A. 17 September 2010: You need to know how to get one on your own if you are ever going to teach your husband how to give you one. Maybe your husband is just as uninformed about the matter as you were until recently?
And may I add, getting an orgasm is not easy for... (read in full...)
Imaginary lover!
Q. We've been married for three years. He is my second husband and I adore him. I’m 35 and he’s 39. I’m still very attracted to him. I'm an attractive woman with a not so bad figure, but my confidence is at an all time low. My husband is turned on by ...
A. 17 September 2010: It is understandable that you feel this way. But have you told your husband? Have you explained to him that your confidence is being shattered because of this? I think it was a great idea to have an imaginary lover and then just go to the gym ... (read in full...)
They should NEVER be together!!!
Q. I have a 21 year old son, he has been dating his girl friend for 2 years, she is 19. They are both great kids.... when they are not together. Together as a couple they are poison. They think they love each other but both my wife and I and her ...
A. 17 September 2010: Not sure if you can do anything? Definitely not in the open at least! What about you remove your son from the situation for a period though? You go on a vacation together for a while and let him relax and see a different side of life, or scramble up ... (read in full...)
How old were you when you started dating?
Q. ok. im 14. i have never had a proper boyfriend before and i have never been on a date. some of my friends are starting to date and get bfs and im not. when did you start dating?? what can i do to get guys to ask me out?? please help!...
A. 17 September 2010: Don't know how to get guys to ask you out at your age. I didn't start dating until I was around 17-18, because that is when boys started taking an interest in me and I was comfortable with it. ... (read in full...)
20 and ready to have a baby...
Q. I am 20 years old and I am ready to have a baby. My fiance is 24 and he says that I am to young. I know that it would possibly be better if I wait but I want one now. I have always been around kids and now that I'm moved out of the house and ...
A. 17 September 2010: You having taken care for your younger sister for years is not a reason for why you should have children. That is however an experience that makes you confident you will be a good mother. Which is good and all, but being a good mother is not really ... (read in full...)
End of marriage, what do I do with everything?
Q. Hi there. I am divorced, it was not what I wanted, he did. It has been a year. Our marriage was loveless for several years. The 4 kids are all adults and they struggle with it some. My question is this: What do I do with things like our wedding ...
A. 15 September 2010: Like Honeypie said, what do you want to do with them? I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. But after you figure out what you think would be best, ask your formed husband about it to see if he feels the same way. Since it is half his stuff ... (read in full...)
Butterflies in my stomach or pregnancy?
Q. Ok so heres the thing, I'm 13 turning 14 soon, and I just recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend and we kinda didnt use a condom... YES I KNOW MAJOR STUPIDITY!! but we werent planning on it happening, but it did, and he says he didnt cum inside ...
A. 15 September 2010: Sit back and wait for another 3 weeks. Thats all you can do. And buy some condoms and be better prepared for the next time of course. Also read up on contraceptives, sex in general, how babies are made and sexually transmitted desises. Now that you ... (read in full...)
How accurate is the first response home pregnancy test?
Q. My girlfriend and I were afraid that she could be pregnant so she took a first response pregnancy test. She took it 4 days after she was supposed to have her period and it turned out negative. She is now 6 days late and recently moved to another ...
A. 15 September 2010: Time zones have nothing to do with your body's cycle. However stress is a common factor, and will often make a woman miss her period. The home pregnancy tests are usually good, but when she still hasn't had her period she should take a total of 3 ... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend put on facebook that he is in a relationship
Q. My bf friend, put on facebook that he has a relationship with a girl, sooo then why the hell doesnt my bf dooo that. He wont put where in a relationship. And we have been dating for awhile, and we have had sex. Whats wrong with him??...
A. 15 September 2010: Not everyone wants their entire life posted online. Perhaps he enjoys some privacy. On facebook everyone, even people you DONT KNOW can see your information.
I know it is hard when "everyone else" is doing it, and you think something must be ... (read in full...)
Do I chose the ex fiance or the new guy?
Q. How to choose between 2 guys I am currently in a similar position me and my ex fiancé were together for 5 years we would have been getting married this November then in may of this year he cheated on me with this woman close to his work he says it ...
A. 15 September 2010: When in doubt, don't buy. That is a classic saying, and a good one too. When you are not sure about which man to be with, it is best to not be with any of them.
The one you will be happy with will leave you no doubts in your heart. So neither ... (read in full...)
Stopping your period once it has started?
Q. Is there anyway to stop your period from stopping once its started? I got my period today but i need it to be gone by Friday! Has anyone tried anything and it worked for them? Please anyone with any advice! I know it sounds gross but i really need ...
A. 15 September 2010: The cycle isn't that important medically speaking. If you have a steady cycle chances are your cycle will be just as steady after you used birth-control. So far there has been no clinically side effects proven if you skip out on your period using ... (read in full...)
Why can't we just break up and stay broken up?
Q. I am stuck in this relationship and I don't know how to get out of it! We argue everyday and it's just clear that it never works out. But why can't we break up? It's like, we break up and then a few minutes later we make up again. I'm tired of this ...
A. 15 September 2010: I have a feeling you always end it during the middle of a fight? If you really want out, it is okay to make up and be friends again, and then break it off while you are on good terms. That way you have made a decision when things are calm and you ... (read in full...)
Stopping your period once it has started?
Q. Is there anyway to stop your period from stopping once its started? I got my period today but i need it to be gone by Friday! Has anyone tried anything and it worked for them? Please anyone with any advice! I know it sounds gross but i really need ...
A. 15 September 2010: Birth control. Take one pill and the menstruation will be gone by the next day or so. However when you stop taking the pill the menstruation will start within 2-3 days. It is helpful when you need to change your cycle though, or even skip one ... (read in full...)
How do I achieve being a one man woman?
Q. I am what you call a "real life Samantha Jones". I'm a 47 year old woman who lost her virginity when she was 12. Throughout my teen years after that, I had seven sex partners. One of which was my first love who I lost my virginity to (we were ...
A. 14 September 2010: If you lost your virginity at 12, and with your true love of 3 years, then you started dating at 9?
But aside from that. How to be a one man woman? I think that wanting to be one is all you need. You want to only be with one man.. then what is ... (read in full...)
Grey crusties on my nipple? what could cause this?
Q. i had a nap after work today while dinner was cooking and when i woke up my boyfriend noticed what looked like a dirt smudge on my nipple. i dont think it was there there before my nap sonim assuming it happened while i was sleeping. i tried to rub ...
A. 14 September 2010: Well, could still be you had it there from before the nap, but didn't notice. Could it possibly be from a small wound? Perhaps you should look inside your bra's and see if theres any small dusties that could cause irritation. It could be that your ... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable in an interracial relationship?
Q. Is it normal to feel a little uncomfortable in interracial relationships at first? I'm white and he's Chinese, and he's really sweet. It just seems kind of awkward sometimes like if he wants to kiss me in public or something or hold hands when ...
A. 13 September 2010: Are you embarrassed? Because that is the only reason I can see why this would feel uncomfortable. Is this your first relationship? Are you uncomfortable just because of him being Chinese, or are you not comfortable about the relationship in general? ... (read in full...)
He was so stressed about it working that he used Viagra
Q. A little over a month ago, I had posted a question about my boyfriend's difficulty with getting and staying hard during sex. Here's a link to the question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-help-him-no-matter-what.html I don't even know ...
A. 13 September 2010: If he needs to take Viagra why can't he just tell you about it? I understand he is embarrassed and ashamed, but like you said, maybe he stresses out so much by keeping the viagra a secret from you that he wont function at all. Clearly it can not be ... (read in full...)
She tells me that she loves me but sure has a weird way of showing it!
Q. So I been dating my girlfriend for about a year and a half and recently moved down to Las Vegas to start a life. Ever since we have been down here I have seen a 180 out of her. She holds an attitude constantly doesn't want me near her and we've had ...
A. 13 September 2010: Set her up an appointment at a therapist. If she is depressed she needs to treat herself to get better, sitting at home blaming you for all her depression isn't gonna work.
I think that it is true that she is going through some rough emotiona... (read in full...)
Is my sensei hitting on me?
Q. hey it's probably nothing, but i'd like to hear your opinion all the same. i train in aikido, a not very well known martial art, and i have been for about 4/5 months. i help my sensei (teacher) around the dojo(school) as it pays for half of my t...
A. 13 September 2010: Maybe tell your parents? So they know you are unsure? And the ask them on how to tell him that you are not comfortable with physical contact, but without offending him because it might be innocent from his side? I mean, putting your arm on someones ... (read in full...)
Is my sensei hitting on me?
Q. hey it's probably nothing, but i'd like to hear your opinion all the same. i train in aikido, a not very well known martial art, and i have been for about 4/5 months. i help my sensei (teacher) around the dojo(school) as it pays for half of my t...
A. 12 September 2010: Im highly suspicious at sensei's, unfortunately. I was in Tae Kwon-Do and our instructor was avery handsome 30-something year old who tried it on with teenage girls that were his students. One girl had to leave because she wasn't feeling comfortable ... (read in full...)
Distance broke up our relationship!
Q. I went out with a girl for 3 years. I am 29 and she's 23. The first couple of years were great, we were both very much in love with each other, then she went to Spain to finish her studies for a year. At first it was ok, we managed to see eac...
A. 12 September 2010: "At the same time I'm worried that if we don't keep in touch she'll just get over me completely and that second chance she talked about will vanish."
If you are to fall in love again and start over, all those old feelings need to be gone. It is sc... (read in full...)
21, pregnant, broke and alone
Q. im 21 and had sex with a guy I was seeing really quickly. 3 days later i took the morning after pill, only just within the 72hrs. i havent seen the guy since because i keep cancelling on him, hes only 18! then a few days ago i found out i was ...
A. 12 September 2010: You shouldn't really have an abortion just to not add more stress to your mom, now should you? Its life. You can't always plan it. What are you thinking you will do so far? Running away would be nice, you know they did that in the old days when they ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him while all his boys are around or wait till I see him after school?
Q. Dear cupid im 14 and think i like this boy hes an upper class-man and hes a jock. first noticed him at a football game when he ran through the stadium and he saw the crowd. Then i thought he was really attractive and i forgot not to stare so he ca...
A. 12 September 2010: Be nice to him, talk and smile!... (read in full...)
Will I still be able to satisfy my GF after she has our baby?
Q. Hey everybody, thnx for spendin some time to read my question, i ve been with my girlfriend for ages and our sex life seems to be great. im average size around 6 inches , and so far im really satisfied with my size and so is my partner since ...
A. 12 September 2010: The vagina stretches out yes, it doesn't get any deeper as far as I know? So when it comes to your length I dont know why it should matter. To top it of, it is never about size but how you use it.... Just had to say that again!
But as for your gir... (read in full...)
Wanting to sleep over at the boyfriend's house...
Q. I am 18 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for two years now, and before that we were best friends. He used to live across the street from me, so my parents know him well. I have never asked my mom if I can sleep over his house, ...
A. 11 September 2010: My advice is that you give this some more time. You only asked your mom for the first time today, and this was your response. Next time you ask, she might be just as furious. The next time... who knows? My thought is that by each time you ask her ... (read in full...)
Who is this strange boy and what do these dreams mean?
Q. I have been having strange dreams about a boy I do not know. He is tall with brown hair and tanned white skin. Why do I have these dreams? As I have said before I like my next door neighbor but his boy is well.... Very handsome. I don't know him and ...
A. 10 September 2010: Everything in your dreams come from inside of your own mind. Even if you dream about a person in real life, you don't really dream about that person, you only dream about what this person is to you. Now your dreams have created this person that you ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to him while all his boys are around or wait till I see him after school?
Q. Dear cupid im 14 and think i like this boy hes an upper class-man and hes a jock. first noticed him at a football game when he ran through the stadium and he saw the crowd. Then i thought he was really attractive and i forgot not to stare so he ca...
A. 8 September 2010: Don't tell him you like him just yet. And talk to him when he is alone, if you get a chance. Just have some casual conversation before you mention anything about "liking". If you play it right you wont ever have to get to that point. It can be very ... (read in full...)
21, pregnant, broke and alone
Q. im 21 and had sex with a guy I was seeing really quickly. 3 days later i took the morning after pill, only just within the 72hrs. i havent seen the guy since because i keep cancelling on him, hes only 18! then a few days ago i found out i was ...
A. 8 September 2010: Get yourself listed in college again as soon as possible? Do you have some type of student welfare? Can you, if you are a student, get any financial help?
Next, tell the baby father. I know, only 18, but tell him. He will also be responsi... (read in full...)
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