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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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If I keep acting like this I'm going to lose my best friend!
Q. Hi guys, I've posted on here before about this same problem but I'm still having trouble dealing. I fell for my best friend completely after we slept together a couple of times and I just can't seem to get over it and I'm worried I'm going to end...
A. 8 October 2010: I think telling him you need to hang out less was actually a good thing to do. You say of course you realized this was stupid, but I don't think it was stupid at all. Why put yourself through more heartache? Why force yourself to be okay and casual ... (read in full...)
B/f wants to have sex, I want to wait till marriage but am afraid of losing him!
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but I disagree and he seems disappointed about it. He has been pushing for it during our last make out. I am afraid that one day our relationship will be spoil because of my rejection to have sex with him. I ...
A. 8 October 2010: If he is willing to give you up, or he looses interest in you... He can still loose interest in you even after you have had sex!
If he was really there for you you shouldn't even have to be scared of loosing him, because you would know he'd be ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: She really has had a lot on her plate to deal with. An uncertain childhood makes you more "found" of alcohol, it is by far easier to get used to it, and the experience with alcohol is more enjoyable. This because there is a genetic change due to the ... (read in full...)
Wow! Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Q. I've been with my bf for a year. I met his friend for the first time 3 months ago. Where we both fell straight in love with each other. Love at first sight. No joke. We've seen each other only twice since, both occasions lots of mutual friends were ...
A. 6 October 2010: If you've only spoken two words to each other how can you possibly know what he feels for you?
This is one sided girl. Either break up with your current guy and run the risk if figuring out if he even noticed you, or stick to your guy and stop bei... (read in full...)
Does my teacher have feelings for me?
Q. Okay... Well first off I need help and want to know if a Certain teacher likes me. Let's call him Mr.B. Anyways I'm 16 junior and there's a teacher who I've known for quite a while I've had him for 2 years and ive known him since I was in 6th grad...
A. 6 October 2010: Im not saying he will make a move. He might. But if he is flirting with you he has already made a few moves. Such as getting to talk to you alone. Hug you, sit next to you, give you compliments...
Ask yourself again, do you want to be involved... (read in full...)
How do you KNOW if it's love?
Q. How do you know if its love? I have never been in love, I've had plenty of crushes, but that's not the same thing is it! Yet I have to admit to myself that I cannot get a certain man off my mind. Whenever we meet, he is always teasing me and I...
A. 6 October 2010: Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Do you feel you belong with him? Without him you are missing something? If you are far away, do you feel he is right there with you, in your heart? Do you desire him sexually? Do you love him like ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 6 October 2010: Okay, was just checking. Because the first heartache is often the worst. ... (read in full...)
Does my teacher have feelings for me?
Q. Okay... Well first off I need help and want to know if a Certain teacher likes me. Let's call him Mr.B. Anyways I'm 16 junior and there's a teacher who I've known for quite a while I've had him for 2 years and ive known him since I was in 6th grad...
A. 6 October 2010: Yepp, you should ask yourself if you want to be associated with a man who flirts with a 16-year old. He is an adult. Adults don't make "friends" with young teens. In the case that they are related it is different, then they are brothers or ... (read in full...)
1st time sex and bleeding?
Q. is it normal for girls to bleed there first time havin sex? should i be worried if its ben happenin longer than an hour?...
A. 5 October 2010: Yes it is normal to bleed. For how long I don't know. If it doesn't stop you should see your doctor about it. Can you call your doctor and ask if it will be necessary to get an appointment?
If a girl has been raped, or been forced roughly,... (read in full...)
B/f wants to have sex, I want to wait till marriage but am afraid of losing him!
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but I disagree and he seems disappointed about it. He has been pushing for it during our last make out. I am afraid that one day our relationship will be spoil because of my rejection to have sex with him. I ...
A. 5 October 2010: You don't have to break up with him. You just have to have the firmness to say "no". If you really want to end it, but can't do it yourself, have a friend come with you when you break up with him. ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 5 October 2010: Is this your first real relationship? That would explain some. It always hurts like that. It will pass in time. We have all experienced heart ache, and we got through it. So will you. Just be happy you were not engaged or married to her, and then ... (read in full...)
Does my teacher have feelings for me?
Q. Okay... Well first off I need help and want to know if a Certain teacher likes me. Let's call him Mr.B. Anyways I'm 16 junior and there's a teacher who I've known for quite a while I've had him for 2 years and ive known him since I was in 6th grad...
A. 5 October 2010: It does sound like he has a thing for you, but not in a nice way. In a creepy way. You even said yourself you don't really like it, and it sounds like this is making you feel uncomfortable. Right there, when he has made you feel uncomfortable, is ... (read in full...)
B/f wants to have sex, I want to wait till marriage but am afraid of losing him!
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but I disagree and he seems disappointed about it. He has been pushing for it during our last make out. I am afraid that one day our relationship will be spoil because of my rejection to have sex with him. I ...
A. 5 October 2010: I think you made the right choice, and you need to marry a man who has the same values as you. If your boyfriend doesn't want to wait until marriage then he doesn't have the same values as you have.
If this is important to you then you should s... (read in full...)
I don't understand.... why would my friend do this?
Q. Me and a male friend of mine were walking to class ,(we go to college together) and a guy that wants to take me on a date was calling my cell phone. I didnt answer, Im not interested in this guy, so my friend said he was gonna call him back and say ...
A. 5 October 2010: He did it because he is your friend and that telling this guy you have a boyfriend will keep him away from you. It gives you an excuse. He was doing you a favour.
Why didn't you just ask him if you didn't understand why he did it? ... (read in full...)
How can you do everything right and still get shafted???
Q. I really don't know what to say right now except that my heart is breaking. I'm a very passionate person and much like a Wolf if given the opportunity I will love you forever. After taking a break, which was in her words not supposed to be ...
A. 5 October 2010: Relationships aren't just about treating the other right. You also have to be compatible.. and she didn't think you were. Respecting her also includes respecting her decisions, and being at the same wave-length means you understand her reasons for ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be second best
Q. Hi Folks, I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now and I love him completely- we are very happy. Despite this- I find I am becoming increasingly obsessed with his ex wife, the fact that he has been married before me and nothing is 'new'...
A. 5 October 2010: What are you talking about "nothing is new to him". He hasn't been married to you before, has he?
You're not second best. In live people aren't ranked like that. You're you, his ex wife is his ex wife, and he is married to you now. He didn't r... (read in full...)
Yay or nay to a threesome???
Q. My boyfriend and I been together for over 5 years. The sex is great but now I find myself wanting a female, not sure but big breasts are a realy hot turn on for me now? How can I get my boyfriend to agree????...
A. 5 October 2010: You talk to him about it. What is his opinion?
If he says no, then you need to respect that I am afraid. If big breasts are a turn on you can watch some porn with big breasted women instead.
Here is a link to another question about threesomes... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a ''threesome''!
Q. Hi there, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He's lovely and I love him so much. I lost my virginity to him and want him to be the only one in my life. Few months ago, he said something that hurt me. He said ''what do you think abou...
A. 5 October 2010: We've all been in your situation. This could be harmless, or it could be seriously damaging to your relationship, depending on your boyfriend. But from what I understand by what you are telling me this is completely harmless and easy to work ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and was with another guy three days later
Q. My ex girlfriend and I recently broke up, and just 3 days after she started dating this guy that she met when she was still involved with me. The feeling has just been so incredibly painful, I don't know what to do when she told me this I was ...
A. 4 October 2010: I think it is a bad idea to write to her. You show her your hurt and pain much better if you ignore her. That way you show her she has hurt you so much you can't even look in her direction. And that will hurt her back much more than a letter, trust ... (read in full...)
Long distance, online relationship - will this work?
Q. ONLINE dating question Situation: met a guy on a online dating site. Super hot and educated...real busy though...seemed really into me but he lives in chicago n me cali. When we talk, he mostly talks about his work and some worthless conver...
A. 4 October 2010: Long distancerelationships can only work when you have a goal to actually be together at some point, and you need two people who are able to have a long-distance relationship.
Im sorry but this man just isn't capable of that. First off you bare... (read in full...)
I asked him to change his ringtone for his mom, he did, but now he's mad!
Q. My husband's ring tone for his mom is 'I'll Always Love My Mama', which starts ringing with that and 'she's my favorite girl'. Then the song goes on to say 'my heart belongs to you'. I have listened to it for 4-5 months, and last night I asked hi...
A. 4 October 2010: How are these two episodes connected? He should not be calling you a b----. But, it is hard to judge the situation out of context, and I think we would need more information before we can give good advice.
Did he get upset because of the ringtone... (read in full...)
How do I get over these feelings of resentment for my younger sister?
Q. For the past year, I have been feeling resentful towards my very young half sister. Also for the past year, I feel that I do not have a close relationship with my father. My father left my mother for my step mother 16 years ago and I would only...
A. 4 October 2010: Children are rascals. Be strict with her, you are her sister and are thereby an authoritative figure. Claim that authority and don't let a little 7 year old bully you around. Also remember, children aren't really good with whats "appropriate", that ... (read in full...)
Why does a guy message a girl at I am in the morning...what does this mean?
Q. This is probably going to sound like an odd question but here goes: If a guy sent you a message at 1 in the morning asking you to call them what do you think that means? The message went something like "hey, my number is ***** call me xxx" This was ...
A. 4 October 2010: Haha, he has a girlfriend? Oh dear. It is still a booty call. Better to stay away from him. I pity his girlfriend. Maybe you shout send her a quick message and ask her why her boyfriend texted you. ... (read in full...)
Am I just repelling guys my age?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm hoping you can help me out! I am so confused about myself and what guys think of me. I am a freshman in High school; I just turned 15. I've noticed something over the months that is really confusing. It seems like no freshman guys ...
A. 3 October 2010: At your age no one cared to look twice at me. Just be happy you get some attention, and tons of younger guys think it is hot to be with someone older.
Don't pay too much attention to guys right now, they are here there and everywhere. As you get ... (read in full...)
How to get good sex when the guy is smaller
Q. So, i've been with my new boyfriend for about 5 weeks now. andwe recently started having sex. The problem is, my ex was a lot bigger in the downstairs department than this new guy. I love my boyfriend to pieces he is absolutely perfect but because ...
A. 3 October 2010: So are you telling us you orgasmed though intercourse with your ex?
Perhaps your new man just needs some more practice, and you need to get used to him and adapt? It isn't unusual that it takes time to get the moves right when you're with a n... (read in full...)
I want a baby with my boyfriend, but he doesn't. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. At the beginning of the relationship I was pregnant with another mans baby, I decided to have a termination due to the circumstances in which it was conceived. Now I'm desperate to be pregnant ...
A. 3 October 2010: Actually, many women suffer from postpartum depression. So you might want to think it over if having a child will really solve anything.
You know the answer deep down. If you have a depression, you first need to get yourself out of that depressi... (read in full...)
I only seem to be interested when there's a challenge
Q. Hey! So I have a problem I cant figure out... whenever theres a guy I meet that I'm attracted to, I flirt with him and everything because I like him, but then when I find out he likes me, my feelings and attraction towards them, just go aw...
A. 3 October 2010: Hmm, father issues?
Im sorry, this is turning into a shot in the blind. But one thing is for sure, I still don't think you have fallen in love with anyone yet. Because when you do fall in love there is nothing he can do that will make you fall... (read in full...)
I only seem to be interested when there's a challenge
Q. Hey! So I have a problem I cant figure out... whenever theres a guy I meet that I'm attracted to, I flirt with him and everything because I like him, but then when I find out he likes me, my feelings and attraction towards them, just go aw...
A. 3 October 2010: I honestly don't know the answer to that. It could be that you are sad because you are disappointed in yourself, you really wanted it to work out? Or you got sad because you enjoy the attention from males, and him not being interested anymore makes ... (read in full...)
I have questions about condoms, masturbation and diseases--mature answers, please!
Q. loads of people in my school are NOT virgins, some of them are but i wouldnt say many people are, they all have big boobs and have nice legs, and know all about sex and masturbation, can someone answer these questions: Do condoms really protect y...
A. 3 October 2010: Oh yes, and I also want to add in that you are not stupid at all. The stupid ones are the ones who don't dare to ask and go around getting infected and pregnant due to their own ignorance. You are taking responsibility by educating yourself, which ... (read in full...)
I have questions about condoms, masturbation and diseases--mature answers, please!
Q. loads of people in my school are NOT virgins, some of them are but i wouldnt say many people are, they all have big boobs and have nice legs, and know all about sex and masturbation, can someone answer these questions: Do condoms really protect y...
A. 3 October 2010: Condoms are not 100% safe. I think they are about 97-99%? They are the only thing that will protect you against STD's. But, some STD's can be spread from kissing, touching, or just contact with the skin down there. Sex/penetration is not necessary ... (read in full...)
Why does a guy message a girl at I am in the morning...what does this mean?
Q. This is probably going to sound like an odd question but here goes: If a guy sent you a message at 1 in the morning asking you to call them what do you think that means? The message went something like "hey, my number is ***** call me xxx" This was ...
A. 3 October 2010: Possibly drunk. I wouldn't call. Obviously they have your number and could call themselves. This sounds like a cheesy hookup text, where the guy can't even be bothered to call you himself, but want YOU to pursue him. And in the middle of the night ... (read in full...)
His friend's stag is at a stripclub! I am feeling uncomfortable about him going!
Q. My bf is going to a strip club for his mates stag. I'm obviously not going to say anything. But is is abnormal that this makes me really uncomfortable? ...
A. 3 October 2010: No, its not abnormal. It is a natural reaction. But try not to think too much about it. Just lay down the ground rules: no touching. He can look but not touch, and no lap dances either. Tell him where your limit goes, and you could have a little ... (read in full...)
How do I talk dirty to him?
Q. I've recently taken on a new lover. He loves talking dirty in bed. (Which was a surprise...he's fairly conservative.) I'm alright with it and willing to talk back, but I just have no idea what to say without sounding like a cheesy porno. Any ideas? ...
A. 3 October 2010: Telling him your fantasies also help. And you can ask him what he is wearing and tell him what you want to do with him. ... (read in full...)
How do I talk dirty to him?
Q. I've recently taken on a new lover. He loves talking dirty in bed. (Which was a surprise...he's fairly conservative.) I'm alright with it and willing to talk back, but I just have no idea what to say without sounding like a cheesy porno. Any ideas? ...
A. 3 October 2010: Go with the cheesy porno lines for starters. You will warm up eventually and it will flow easier and you will know what to say. So just jump into it and say those cheesy lines. Sex is fun as well, so no worried. If you end up making him laugh all ... (read in full...)
I want a baby with my boyfriend, but he doesn't. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. At the beginning of the relationship I was pregnant with another mans baby, I decided to have a termination due to the circumstances in which it was conceived. Now I'm desperate to be pregnant ...
A. 3 October 2010: Then I think you should wait until after the wedding to try and have a baby. One step at a time and first things first. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to be more sexual?
Q. Hi, I'm 13 years old. My boyfriend is 16 last week. The problem is, im a virgin...he isn't. He wants me to be more sexual, and i don't know what to say! He is really nice but he said it will never work unless i try to become a little bit more...
A. 3 October 2010: What does he mean by "sexual"? ... (read in full...)
Why are the girls at school, so mean to me?
Q. y dont girls like me, at school there mean to me, call me names for no reason and dont really know me at all. Im in the football A team, top 5 for athletics in my year, Im not disgusting, Im very polite and haven't said a mean word to any girl. ...
A. 3 October 2010: Maybe they are jealous, or in love but know you dont like them back that way? A very childish way to show interest is by being mean to the person you like.
Perhaps it is time to ask why they are this way? Stand up for yourself. Tell them to eithe... (read in full...)
I have Borderline Personality Disorder..should I leave my bf for his own good?
Q. I'm in a fantastic, supportive relationship, but I've recently found out that I could have Borderline Personality Disorder, I'm worried that my boyfriend won't be able to cope with my behaviour for much longer. It's a lot for me to deal with but I ...
A. 3 October 2010: Have you talked to your boyfriend about the diagnosis? You need to tell him. You also need to tell him that you will be trying a treatment, and you don't know what will happen next.
It is very good if you can have a treatment, but life will be ... (read in full...)
I only seem to be interested when there's a challenge
Q. Hey! So I have a problem I cant figure out... whenever theres a guy I meet that I'm attracted to, I flirt with him and everything because I like him, but then when I find out he likes me, my feelings and attraction towards them, just go aw...
A. 3 October 2010: PS. as for the latest guy that you "kinda like". Never mind him. You kinda like him, thats hardly worth the effort. Find and pursue someone you actually feel you want to be around and who makes you feel great. ... (read in full...)
I only seem to be interested when there's a challenge
Q. Hey! So I have a problem I cant figure out... whenever theres a guy I meet that I'm attracted to, I flirt with him and everything because I like him, but then when I find out he likes me, my feelings and attraction towards them, just go aw...
A. 3 October 2010: Your problem is that you aren't actually in love with any of these guys. You just "like" them, as in you "like" the actor that plays in this or that movie. They are good to look at, but it ends there. You have no deeper feelings for them. And as ... (read in full...)
I might be pregnant! What's going to happen?
Q. i am 14 me and my partner want a baby , i might be pregnant and we really hope i am he is scared what will happwn if i am what will happen to the baby ?...
A. 3 October 2010: Honestly, if you want a baby you should already KNOW what will happen. If you don't know then don't try to have a baby! You are absolutely not responsible enough for a child when you don't even know what will happen!
Starters first, if your par... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and was with another guy three days later
Q. My ex girlfriend and I recently broke up, and just 3 days after she started dating this guy that she met when she was still involved with me. The feeling has just been so incredibly painful, I don't know what to do when she told me this I was ...
A. 30 September 2010: This might offend someone, so don't read the following part of you have a sensitive heart.
Yes cut all contact with your ex. Not only is she now classified as a whore and slut, she is also a bitch when she decided to tell you she already has a ne... (read in full...)
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