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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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I'm trying to think of a way to get really good revenge on my ex
Q. I hate my ex girlfriend. And I can't stop thinking about getting revenge on her. First I will give you some background on the situation. My girlfriend and I dated for 3 years. The last year we lived together. When we didn't live together I thought ...
A. 24 November 2010: Well if it helps you any I am in the same boat as you! So I really do feel for you! My ex decided to keep my belongings and money and claimed I don't deserve them back after treating him so "horribly" after our breakup. When I actually didn't do ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to think of a way to get really good revenge on my ex
Q. I hate my ex girlfriend. And I can't stop thinking about getting revenge on her. First I will give you some background on the situation. My girlfriend and I dated for 3 years. The last year we lived together. When we didn't live together I thought ...
A. 18 November 2010: Good for you, we have said before you should just go to the police to claim you property back! Best of luck, and hope you can soon put this behind you.... (read in full...)
I find it tough to find attractive women who fancy me! Should I lower my standards??
Q. Hi guys can you help? I'm 32 (embarrassed that a guy my age is even on here) and feel I'm getting on now and need to find a decent girlfriend. I’ve been single for 2/3 years now but to be honest girlfriends have always been hard to find. (before ...
A. 3 November 2010: I think you need to factor in that if you hit on a girl in the supermarket, yes it will come of as you are hitting on her, but that is the point. If she finds you attractive she will reply with something back, and smile or laugh, no matter how silly ... (read in full...)
Very small penis, now I don't fancy him!
Q. I'm in a bit of a cuffuffle. I started talking to a lovely guy a few weeks ago, we have been on 3 dates and I stayed at his house last night. I'm 21 he's 31. We ended up getting naked and feeling each other. I noticed that when his penis is e...
A. 2 November 2010: Actually, if you're as blunt as me, a great way to solve to problem is to just ask what his penis size is. I sometimes ask men how large they are, before ever going to bed with them. That way you could decide whether it's worth it or not haha.
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Very small penis, now I don't fancy him!
Q. I'm in a bit of a cuffuffle. I started talking to a lovely guy a few weeks ago, we have been on 3 dates and I stayed at his house last night. I'm 21 he's 31. We ended up getting naked and feeling each other. I noticed that when his penis is e...
A. 2 November 2010: I really think people should stop condescending. It's rather pathetic. Yes, sex is important. To those of you who think it's not, fine, it's not so important to YOU. For most of us living beings however, sex is important. Sexual satisfaction is ... (read in full...)
Situation with new step brother
Q. I have a step brother who is 15 and his dad and my mom have only been married a year or so. Me and him have become close as in friends but something tells me that he wants to take it to a whole other level. Just by how he is around me makes me ...
A. 2 November 2010: No, not really emberrassed. It was a natural reaction he has while asleep, and its quite normal for guys to wake up with a boner. Perhaps it was because someone was sleeping next to him, or perhaps it was just one of those days.
Either way it w... (read in full...)
Very small penis, now I don't fancy him!
Q. I'm in a bit of a cuffuffle. I started talking to a lovely guy a few weeks ago, we have been on 3 dates and I stayed at his house last night. I'm 21 he's 31. We ended up getting naked and feeling each other. I noticed that when his penis is e...
A. 2 November 2010: It's not shallow and its really not about looks. It's about sexual compatibility. That matters just as much as personal compatibility. ... (read in full...)
Situation with new step brother
Q. I have a step brother who is 15 and his dad and my mom have only been married a year or so. Me and him have become close as in friends but something tells me that he wants to take it to a whole other level. Just by how he is around me makes me ...
A. 2 November 2010: There's no "normal" here. People are different. What normal between some siblings are not normal for others. If you feel fine with it and not uncomfortable it is ok. Clearly though you felt uncomfortable by him sleeping in your bed, so I suggest you ... (read in full...)
Very small penis, now I don't fancy him!
Q. I'm in a bit of a cuffuffle. I started talking to a lovely guy a few weeks ago, we have been on 3 dates and I stayed at his house last night. I'm 21 he's 31. We ended up getting naked and feeling each other. I noticed that when his penis is e...
A. 2 November 2010: I agree you shouldn't tell him its because of his penis or lack of skills in bed. But I also agree this is a huge turnoff and you definitely should not be with him. Maybe try calling him or meeting up with him to break it off. Its better to do it in ... (read in full...)
Situation with new step brother
Q. I have a step brother who is 15 and his dad and my mom have only been married a year or so. Me and him have become close as in friends but something tells me that he wants to take it to a whole other level. Just by how he is around me makes me ...
A. 2 November 2010: I think you're just not used to it. If you feel he gets too close simply speak up about it. There's nothing wrong with not being comfortable with the intimacy, you should only tolerate what feels right for you. But no, I don't see anything wrong ... (read in full...)
I don't have the flirting gene! How do I ask her out?
Q. There is one girl I really like who's really fun-loving and excitable; but I just don't know how to do anything other than talk to her as a friend, and in kind of an uptight way too. I really want to ask her out, but I don't know where to go, or how ...
A. 2 November 2010: I think you should just plunge in and ask her out to a concert or something with you. Do something that you enjoy. And as you said she was fun-loving, she might be up to just about anything!
You don't have to flirt if you aren't good at it. Flir... (read in full...)
Situation with new step brother
Q. I have a step brother who is 15 and his dad and my mom have only been married a year or so. Me and him have become close as in friends but something tells me that he wants to take it to a whole other level. Just by how he is around me makes me ...
A. 2 November 2010: I dont think watching tv with you in your room, or falling asleep on the bed, constitutes to him wanting anything other than friendship from you. If you think it is not proper then just tell him to not sleep on your bed again. And next time you are ... (read in full...)
We moved in, got comfortable, and I'm wondering about compatibility
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years now. We've been living together for a couple of months. The interesting thing is that neither one of us seemed to notice just how big of a step it was...we just fit so comfortably together. Perhaps a ...
A. 2 November 2010: It seems to me you aren't happy about this relationship and are looking for problems where there are none. If you want to travel why don't you? Whats stopping you? His plans to one day in the future have a big house? Well that plan is far into the ... (read in full...)
Can a girl have sex during her period?
Q. Can a boy and a girl have sex when the girl is in her periods time ...
A. 2 November 2010: Yes, it's not dangerous in any way. But you are bleeding during your menstruation, so it will feel a bit different and a lot wetter. It will also be messier. ... (read in full...)
Over protective brother?
Q. My brother seems to be to over protective of me and its annoying. Here I am, 19 and he is 18 and he always gives guys I date a hard time. Almost like he is jealous. I've told him to stop, told my mom, but he just won't change. He makes comme...
A. 2 November 2010: Sounds like he is overprotective or possessive of you? Make him leave if you want privacy, or go somewhere else.... (read in full...)
I was taking my pill a little later than usual last week and now its been 4 days and still no period, is this okay?
Q. This is just a really fast question! I normally take my birthcontrol pill at the same time everyday but last week I was typically taking it a little bit later on than usual , I never missed a pill however. My boyfriend and I during that week h...
A. 2 November 2010: If you took the pill within 24 hours of the last pill you should be perfectly fine. If your missed your period I believe it would be of other reasons than pregnancy.
But you never know, some get pregnant even when on a birth control pill. Sex is n... (read in full...)
I find it tough to find attractive women who fancy me! Should I lower my standards??
Q. Hi guys can you help? I'm 32 (embarrassed that a guy my age is even on here) and feel I'm getting on now and need to find a decent girlfriend. I’ve been single for 2/3 years now but to be honest girlfriends have always been hard to find. (before ...
A. 2 November 2010: It all depends on what kind of catch you are yourself. If you lower your standards you will end up with someone who has also lowered their standards. Which means you aren't excatly the best catch yourself.
Im not into the whole "only beautyfu... (read in full...)
What men think 30 Sec after ejaculation and how it can affect you
Q. The late great comedian Richard Pryor during his stand-up routine used to joke that directly before a man achieved orgasm you could ask and receive anything from him. Want to get married? This is the time to ask. Need a new car? This is the time to ...
A. 1 November 2010: What a great and funny article, thank you!... (read in full...)
He's smoking again and I consider this like cheating!
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 20 (almost 21) and have been together for a little over four months now. He was a smoker for two years before he started dating me and he told me he would quit once we started dating; that was the ultimatum I set for him ...
A. 31 October 2010: Drop him. I personally don't think smoking is that big of a deal, but it matters to you. And when it matters to you, and you pointed that out from day 1, he should respect that. He is feeding you a line, he wont quit by this or that time. He might ... (read in full...)
The thought of infertility scares me as I'm desperate to have children when I'm older.
Q. Around four months ago I found out my now ex boyfriend was sleeping with my best friend, and soon after she announced she was pregnant. However, although I believe it is his baby, she has told me herself that she 'thinks' the baby is his, but she's ...
A. 31 October 2010: I will answer part of one your question. Are you infertile? No, there's no proof of that. It's easy to make a baby, and at the same time it can be very difficult and you could need to try for years. It's a hit or miss thing really. It can take ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to think of a way to get really good revenge on my ex
Q. I hate my ex girlfriend. And I can't stop thinking about getting revenge on her. First I will give you some background on the situation. My girlfriend and I dated for 3 years. The last year we lived together. When we didn't live together I thought ...
A. 31 October 2010: ps. about feeling inadequate about the new bf earning more than you.. well that doesn't mean a thing. Imagine he doesn't know what he's doing in bed, and her getting all frustrated because you were so much better. Should put a smile on your face.... (read in full...)
I'm trying to think of a way to get really good revenge on my ex
Q. I hate my ex girlfriend. And I can't stop thinking about getting revenge on her. First I will give you some background on the situation. My girlfriend and I dated for 3 years. The last year we lived together. When we didn't live together I thought ...
A. 31 October 2010: Saw your update after I posted. Here's my answer on how to be the bigger guy. Just walk away. And enjoy your life. Don't bother with her again, and don't send her any notes or show her any attention. Let her be and just walk away. There's no ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to think of a way to get really good revenge on my ex
Q. I hate my ex girlfriend. And I can't stop thinking about getting revenge on her. First I will give you some background on the situation. My girlfriend and I dated for 3 years. The last year we lived together. When we didn't live together I thought ...
A. 31 October 2010: Did you contact the police to get your things back?
Write down exactly what you think that belongs to you thats is still at her apartment. Also try and add a cost to it, or if they have affectional value write that.
Are the things on the li... (read in full...)
He said I look like a school teacher... A good or bad thing?
Q. What does it mean when a guy said:'You look like u are a school teacher"? Does it mean he means that i look boring or not very exciting?...
A. 31 October 2010: Does it have to mean anything? Maybe that was just his first impression of you and immedeate thought, and nothing less.
You could ask him if thats a good or bad thing. But my guess is it's neither. It's just an observation he made without ... (read in full...)
Can 6 inches be satisfying to women who have been with very well-endowed men?
Q. My penis is only about 6 inches long on a good day, but have decent girth at about 5.5-6.0 inches. I need an honest answer from women if you think this is enough to be satisfying if you've been with well endowed men before. I'm older, and ...
A. 31 October 2010: The "filling-up" is a guys cliche. We women never talk about being "filled up". If a 6 incher is good for a woman who has had bigger? Oh heck yeah, by far. A 6 incher is about the best you can get, and larger guys have problems because most women ... (read in full...)
He's jealous because of the sexual things I did with my ex!
Q. i have a question... my boyfriend of 3 years is jealous of the fact that i gave my ex boyfriend oral sex and he ejaculated in my mouth, and ive been with him for 3 years and he has not done it 2 me. first of all my ex boyfriend treated me like a ...
A. 31 October 2010: I'm asking the same. Why are yu with this man? You've given it 3 years, and he's not turned from a frog to a prince yet. Me thinks it's time to move on and find another man who knows how to treat a woman right.
And yes, you and us all know thi... (read in full...)
I am now in my 20s, and I still get petrified at the thought of getting pregnant...!
Q. I have a question about sex, I am now in my 20s, and I still get petrified at the thought of getting pregnant and i know how my body works and i keep track of my cycle and all, but recently me and my bf of 2 years had sex without a condom for the ...
A. 31 October 2010: If you are so scared of getting pregant then why didn't you use protection? You should go get yourself an emergency contraceptive at the phramacy right now. The sooner you take it the less the chance that you will get pregnant. If you want to have ... (read in full...)
Am I being taken for granted or am I just seeking for too much?
Q. My fiance who I have been for with 7 years is a nice guy but I do not know if he really cares about me. He has forgotten by birthday twice, does not buy me things unless I ask and never comments to me about looking pretty or anything. Even my ...
A. 31 October 2010: At what point did you start to wonder if he cares?
If he never gives you complements, can you imagine living an entire life without complements? Not to bring you down, but my aunt got divorced after 18 years of marriage because she was tired of... (read in full...)
Wanted: Unattached Male
Q. I stumbled onto a news article online that has got me thinking. It was so much like a question here on "Dear Cupid". The author had just been through a breakup and was Writing advice based on her experience. She entitled the article something ...
A. 30 October 2010: Reading this I am divided. I can imagine if you want your man to have interesting hobbies, and a life of his own in general, it will take up time. His mother can interfere, but hardly ever to the extent of making the guy cancelling dates. However, ... (read in full...)
Who is the bad guy now between us?
Q. I spent the night with my bf last night. We just see each other twice a month as it would be expensive if we see each other on a weekly basis but we chat, call and text everyday. He lives 2 hrs away. Here's the thing, when we met, he had just star...
A. 30 October 2010: Let me see if I understand this: you were his mistress? You and him were seeing each other while he was still in a relationship with another woman?
And while you call him your boyfriend, you still keep things "open" with other guys, as in dates... (read in full...)
My breasts are really hurting!
Q. dear cupid my boobs have been killing me for a good while now and im really worried incase there is something wrong with them ive asked my friends does this happen to any of them and they said no so im kinda scared. . . i dont no what to do in...
A. 30 October 2010: You ask your mother for advice. Then possibly talk to your doctor. There is probably nothing wrong, but your breats are growing. When they grow they hurt. For some it hurts more than for others. BUt if it is unbearable your doctor could perhaps ... (read in full...)
Getting a teen age boy's attention
Q. What can a 14yr old girl do to get the complete attention of her 15yr old boyfriend...
A. 30 October 2010: Any woman can only get complete attention from her boyfriend, and be on the top of his list if priorities, if he truly loves her. This however is what I believe and have experienced. A boy/man who is in love will give you undivided attention.... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for my husband to grow up
Q. I've been married for seven years have have two children with my husband. He recently told me that he's been thinking about separating. I never believe in divorce unless there was abuse or infidelity involved. We have had a hard marriage. Lot's of ...
A. 29 October 2010: How often do you talk about your family life and the sutuation in a calm manner? How often are the fights, and over what?
Yes, he is childish by the sounds of it, but you do not believe in divorce, and he will probably not change either unless h... (read in full...)
I felt used! Did I do the right thing in breaking off contact?
Q. This week I told a female friend (I am male) I thought we should stop talking for at least a while. Now I feel a deep hollowness as well as guilt for breaking off contact with someone who has relied upon me. Let me give you a little backstory, and ...
A. 29 October 2010: I do think she was using you for money. But you have to admit that your final "staw" was a bit farfetched. There's a bit of a time difference between Russia and the States, and you should try to do that trip and NOT have your head mess with you. You ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend just grabbed me and "did it". He didn't see anything wrong with that!
Q. Hi All - I need some insight on this. So yesterday I went to see my bf and we both knew we were hooking for sex before he leaves for the weekend to see his mother. Anyway, when i got there he was just uninterested. I touched him, he didnt touch m...
A. 29 October 2010: I have no idea why he did that. He must have issues. You should break up with him, because he sounds like he has serious issues, and could do this, or worse, again.... (read in full...)
Why am I hurting so bad when I was the one that ended it?
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months last thursday. he called me a bitch for the first(and last)time because i didnt call him wenesday. he had a key to my apt and spent 2 nights a week with me and weekends. we never faught much but when he ...
A. 28 October 2010: You definitely can! I think I need to learn a lesson from you and never accept things like that from a guy ever again either. I've putup with too much too many times. Never again! And you know, all the things he told you in messages after you had ... (read in full...)
He says I try to control him!
Q. I try to control him, I have been hearing this a lot. We are broken up now but I want to work on this for myself even if WE still happen to get together. How do I manage that. I know it may do with trust but I dont know how to solve it. Also he used ...
A. 28 October 2010: That is impossible for me to answer, because I don't the situation. "Controling" another person can be through many different ways, and unless he spesifically told you, or you already know, how you controlled him, I wont know how to help you.
... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble concealing my penis!
Q. I have a very odd problem. My problem is I am having trouble concealing my penis in my pants(especially shorts). I guess you could say its above average in size, 8 inches long and 6 inches around. The problem is many times it just looks like I ...
A. 28 October 2010: Im sorry for you, actually. And Im sincere. I can see how that poses a bit of an embarrassing situation for you. Obviously you don't want people think you walk around with a constant boner!
Th eonly suggestion I have though is to wear clothes ... (read in full...)
What should a guy do about hair down below?
Q. what exactly should a guy do with his pubic hair? i seem to have alot, although i'm not sure how much alot really is... Do any girls have some advice or suggestions?...
A. 28 October 2010: You could trim it down if it bothers you. Personally I think its masculine to have hair down there, and looks silly when a man is without hair. But if it's too much for your taste, just trim it shorter. 2-3 cm lenght should be enough. You don't want ... (read in full...)
For the ladies - how long does it take for you to orgasm?
Q. i was wondering, this is for the ladies. How long does it take for you to orgasm?. I know everyone if different but surly there must be some connection. This is either Oral or vaginal i guess anal too. Or better how long (time wise) do you prefer ...
A. 28 October 2010: I forgot to answer part two: for how long I'd like sex to go on. It also depends on how horny I am, but 30 minutes is a good time frame. Sometimes you want just a quick 5 min one, other times you can do 30 minutes, have a small break, and then go ... (read in full...)
For the ladies - how long does it take for you to orgasm?
Q. i was wondering, this is for the ladies. How long does it take for you to orgasm?. I know everyone if different but surly there must be some connection. This is either Oral or vaginal i guess anal too. Or better how long (time wise) do you prefer ...
A. 28 October 2010: It takes me about 10-20 minutes to orgasm. 10 if Im very horny, 20 if Im average... and if it has to go on for 30-40 minutes I sometimes just give up and not bother because Im not horny enough to get off.
For me it is all about fantasie... (read in full...)
How do I put on weight and make my boobs bigger?
Q. pls help me Im too skinny and my boobs are very small. Im 17 years old and i think that im never gonna get large boobs, my confidence has break down in pieces pls help how to get large boobs and how to gain weight pls do answer ...
A. 28 October 2010: Just thought of something if you want a little cheat: push up bra's. You can also use makeup to enhance a cleavage. And buy clothing that makes your breats look fuller.
A second idea is to start with birth control pills. For some women, it can m... (read in full...)
How do I put on weight and make my boobs bigger?
Q. pls help me Im too skinny and my boobs are very small. Im 17 years old and i think that im never gonna get large boobs, my confidence has break down in pieces pls help how to get large boobs and how to gain weight pls do answer ...
A. 28 October 2010: It is all in genetics. You can't get larger boobs unless it is in your genes to have larger boobs, so look at your mother. Does she have large ones? Then you will more likely get large ones to. If she has small ones you are destined to the same. ... (read in full...)
Why am I hurting so bad when I was the one that ended it?
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months last thursday. he called me a bitch for the first(and last)time because i didnt call him wenesday. he had a key to my apt and spent 2 nights a week with me and weekends. we never faught much but when he ...
A. 28 October 2010: I think you were in your rights to throw him out for disrespecting you. It hurts of course, because you cared for the guy. Yes he did you wrong, but you still need to grieve, because you are not heartless. It hurts no matter who ended it, because ... (read in full...)
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