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30 October 2010: I have tried to keep my relationship problems away from this site as I do not want my advice to be assosiated to my own questions. However I have now learned an important lesson that I want to share with the rest of you, in the hopes that you will ...
What I've learned from my family.
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How one person changed my life
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8 June 2010: I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
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Am I ready for this baby?
Q. im pregnate and dont know if im ready for this baby.my boyfriend wants the baby but im not sure if i do. we have known each other for two years but we have only gone out for 2 months.i think we are to young for this baby.i have only told my best ...
A. 28 January 2011: Im sorry for you, it's hard to have a miscarriage. You should talk to a school nurse or your doctor about it, even if you never tell your parents. Just to make sure you're fine and there's no medical issues, and to deal with the stress and feelings ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but never talks about her!
Q. There's this guy I work with I like and recently we've become closer as friends. He seems to really enjoy my company and has confide in me some very personal things. But now I have come to the conclusion that he has a live in girlfriend! I'm 99% ...
A. 10 December 2010: Sooner or later he'll understand your goals and what you are after anyways, won't he? Or how did you think you'd proceed? The norm isn't that boys and girls become friends, the norm is they befriend each other to see if theres relationship material ... (read in full...)
Am I ready for this baby?
Q. im pregnate and dont know if im ready for this baby.my boyfriend wants the baby but im not sure if i do. we have known each other for two years but we have only gone out for 2 months.i think we are to young for this baby.i have only told my best ...
A. 9 December 2010: No you're not ready for a baby. You're not even ready to have sex. You really have no experience in life, you're not educated, and you say space and money is not a problem? It might be. Your brain isn't even developed to it's fullest, it won't be ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but never talks about her!
Q. There's this guy I work with I like and recently we've become closer as friends. He seems to really enjoy my company and has confide in me some very personal things. But now I have come to the conclusion that he has a live in girlfriend! I'm 99% ...
A. 9 December 2010: He might not be a player, but I'd think he takes his girlfriend for granted, say that he has a girlfriend. Like you said, a normal person don't just NOT mention their live in girlfriend unless he had some hidden agenda. It's just odd.
What ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him what makes me hot, but how?
Q. How do I explain to the guy I'm dating my favorite way of getting my nipples hard? I have large breasts (34ddd) so guys usually love them, and this guy is no exception (although I am quite small other than my breasts and feel a little imbalanced ...
A. 9 December 2010: How about next time when you see he is closing in on your breasts, you just tell him? Why make a big problem out of it, just teach him how it's done.
Now the problem is if he can't be bothered to listen and learn. In which case I think it's a s... (read in full...)
I treated her so badly she has finally snapped, will she ever come back?
Q. Hi Everybody I need some serious help and please don't say things like that's what I get because I already know it's all my fault. I just loss my gf and I'm I think for good this time. I took her for granted and not once was insecure about h...
A. 8 December 2010: Forget about her and move on man. There's no way you can or even should get her back, you had your chances. Improve and treat your next girlfriend better. ... (read in full...)
Tips for male virgin?
Q. I may have my first sexual experience with this girl that I really like (she's not a virgin). So far, from the things that I've read over the internet: I should take it slow (no rabbit humping), and include a lot of foreplay. Any tips on foreplay ...
A. 8 December 2010: Yes, dont ruin it by being too excited. Make sure you focus on pleasing your partner and showing her love and care, and in return she will treat you well. Don't focus so much about what YOU should get, she'll take care of that. So just kiss her, ... (read in full...)
When love turns to hate.....
Q. What does the saying "When love turns to hate" personally mean to you? Have you ever experienced it? I have and it was the best thing that ever happened between him and I! Life's Great!...
A. 8 December 2010: I know that feeling. Love and hate aren't opposite feelings, they are both two extreme feelings, and theres a fine line between them, just as with brilliance and insanity.
For me the saying means when you loved someone, but they caused you so m... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. pls help me out, am a 17 years pld virgin and my boyfriend put his hand inside me which really hurt me and later i saw blood coming out. my question is ,am i still a virgin? pls i need answer urgently.thanks...
A. 8 December 2010: Yes you are still a virgin. But he couldn't have put his hand inside you, it's too big, most likely it was a few fingers.
Don't let him do it again if you're not ready for it!!!... (read in full...)
How can I lengthen my penis?
Q. My penis is 5 inches long when erect,how can i lengthen it?...
A. 8 December 2010: Why would you want to lengthen it? And no, you can't change it. You're born that way so it's how you'll have to stay. Stop worrying about it.... (read in full...)
He told other girls I was good at giving blow jobs?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months and I can honestly say we love eachother. He has told me since the begining that I give awesome blowjobs. Today we were joking around and I asked if he ever told anyone how good I am. He said yes I told 2 ...
A. 7 December 2010: It is weird. Tell him to not tell others about private stuff ever again. A boyfriend of mine once told his friend, while I was in the same room, that he made me squirt. So your boyfriend isn't the first one to screw up just so you know. He's got a ... (read in full...)
Facebook tagged pictures from an ex!
Q. My bf's ex has pictures tagged of him and her on FB when they were; it's been 2years..They still talk bc its like a circle of their friends. Why would she still have it up tho even when shes in a new relationship? I know I have him and its memories ...
A. 7 December 2010: I don't see a reason to delete them either. So why not just leave them up, clearly they don't bother no one. Maybe it'd just be too "drama queen" to start taking down pictures, and thats how he feels?
I guess I would change my profile pic if it wa... (read in full...)
I have a dream of marrying her? Could this mean true love or move on?
Q. I am 19 years old and the girl i like is 18 years old she lives in another state. we been talking to each other for a year and half. I have feelings for her and i tell her everyday. yesterday i had a dream about marry her and it showed the same ...
A. 7 December 2010: If she wont be your girlfriend then you should move on. I thought she was your girlfriend, but if she doesn't feel the same way about you there is nothing you can do except hope that maybe some day in the future she will fall in love with you.
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My friend gave me oral sex but I'm not sure if it was cheating
Q. Hey agony aunts. I've been feeling really guilty lately because i don't know if i've cheated on my girlfriend or not. last week i was staying over at a friend's house. This is the first time i've ever dated a girl so i was worried about how to give ...
A. 7 December 2010: It was cheating, and your friend is a bad friend to you because he only used you.
A good rule to keep in mind is that if it's something you wouldn't want to share with your partner, then you shouldn't do it!!
But, it is your first relationsh... (read in full...)
I have a dream of marrying her? Could this mean true love or move on?
Q. I am 19 years old and the girl i like is 18 years old she lives in another state. we been talking to each other for a year and half. I have feelings for her and i tell her everyday. yesterday i had a dream about marry her and it showed the same ...
A. 7 December 2010: Do you mean to say you are not already in a relationship with her, or do you mean to say you were thinking about break up? If you want to marry her and have strong feelings for her, why would you want to move on from her? Doesn't make much sense. ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Something just doesn't sound right about this to me!
Q. I have a friend who recently got back from studying 6 months abroad. There he met a girl who now says she's in a relationship with him, and as I have them both on facebook I see all the cutesy things they write each other. My friend seems really in ...
A. 7 December 2010: Thanks lauren :) And thanks to you other guys for taking the time to tell me what you think!... (read in full...)
What do you think? Something just doesn't sound right about this to me!
Q. I have a friend who recently got back from studying 6 months abroad. There he met a girl who now says she's in a relationship with him, and as I have them both on facebook I see all the cutesy things they write each other. My friend seems really in ...
A. 7 December 2010: Hmm, no hidden intentions just to make that clear. He's a rather self centered person to be honest and Im not into that. I wasn't thinking of butting in, but I just didn't think this sounded so smart... I don't get why people would play around like ... (read in full...)
I have a dream of marrying her? Could this mean true love or move on?
Q. I am 19 years old and the girl i like is 18 years old she lives in another state. we been talking to each other for a year and half. I have feelings for her and i tell her everyday. yesterday i had a dream about marry her and it showed the same ...
A. 7 December 2010: Your dreams only reflect what you think and feel. In this case I think your dream tells you you want to marry her, and that you hope for a future with her. It is not a sign from above that you should marry her, so wait until the time is right. ... (read in full...)
Stop and stare!
Q. Please read everything and help me out. Much appreciated! I am a black girl who happens to be attracted to any race of male, black, white, asian, latino, doesn't matter to me. An attractive guy is an attractive guy. I am a college-age girl a...
A. 7 December 2010: Yes, I want to know the answer as well! I think gorgeous girls are just intimidating, we seem too high class perhaps? I found the best way to get in touch was to actually not dress up at all, or do my hair or anything, but look like a random girl or ... (read in full...)
He makes up crappy excuses when I ask to meet up, is it time to dump him?
Q. He annoys me so much now, it's like he's playing hard to get with me and I'm sick of such childish games when we're into 3 months now. I'm the one who sends the texts and messages, who organizes the dates. He takes more than a day to reply and he ...
A. 6 December 2010: If you want to, and you prioritize correctly, you WILL have time for each other. So really it's just crap that he says he's too busy with school, while he even admits to dedicating all his time to himself.
Better let this bloke go and find som... (read in full...)
How do you keep a relationship burning?
Q. I've been dating girls,bt i can't seem to last a relationship for long.I just want you to help me by telling me what can i do to keep the relationship burning.I need help,i want a girlfriend so badly bt i want tips of what to do to make a girl happy ...
A. 5 December 2010: Perhaps by becoming close and good friends, a good relationship needs friendship, trust and communication.... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm. Never have. Why?
Q. I have never had an orgasm. Is this normal? I have tried everything. Tried pleasing my self in many different ways, Ive tried different positions with my boyfriend. He even suggested role play and nothing works. Foreplay never works either. It's ...
A. 5 December 2010: Ask your doctor about it then. Irregular menstruation could be a symptom of hormonal imbalance/lack of estrogen or something else, which could very likely be the cause for why you don't get wet, and could also affect your orgasms/lack of orgasms. ... (read in full...)
I may be infertile! What can I do??
Q. I think I may be infertile. My periods have never had a pattern. Sometimes they are on time, Others they don't come atall. 4 months I went without a period at one stage. And I definately was not pregnant. Others it comes 2 often like once a ...
A. 5 December 2010: You need to see your doctor about this. There's no other choice, and see sooner you see a doctor about it the better, that way you can get help faster. If you do have difficulties conceiving you will still need extra time to fall pregnant, even with ... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm. Never have. Why?
Q. I have never had an orgasm. Is this normal? I have tried everything. Tried pleasing my self in many different ways, Ive tried different positions with my boyfriend. He even suggested role play and nothing works. Foreplay never works either. It's ...
A. 5 December 2010: People are different, some just are this way. If it's turning into a problem ask your doctor about it, there could be underlying reasons (low hormone levels etc). How's your menstruation, is it regular?
Assuming your body is healthy and fine tho... (read in full...)
How effective is the pull out method?
Q. How effective is the pull out method? We have sex without contreception and we have been using this method for over a year now. And I still have not got pregnant. But how much of a chance could there be that I could get pregnant?...
A. 5 December 2010: Im sorry for all these posts, but I have one more thing to add in: miscarriages. You could have been pregnant and then had an early miscarriage without knowing it. They can be misinterpreted as a very strong menstruation, or irregular menstruation. ... (read in full...)
How effective is the pull out method?
Q. How effective is the pull out method? We have sex without contreception and we have been using this method for over a year now. And I still have not got pregnant. But how much of a chance could there be that I could get pregnant?...
A. 5 December 2010: Perhaps we should also add in some statistics that say how much of a chance you have at getting pregnant if you do NOT pull out, but have unprotected sex. This is from parenttime.com:
"Most women of childbearing age, if they are having regular,... (read in full...)
How effective is the pull out method?
Q. How effective is the pull out method? We have sex without contreception and we have been using this method for over a year now. And I still have not got pregnant. But how much of a chance could there be that I could get pregnant?...
A. 5 December 2010: As for how large your chances are to conceive I suggest you read up on how to increase your chance of conceiving. It is mostly about the time of the month etc. You might not the pregnant yet because you haven't has sex at the right time of the ... (read in full...)
How effective is the pull out method?
Q. How effective is the pull out method? We have sex without contreception and we have been using this method for over a year now. And I still have not got pregnant. But how much of a chance could there be that I could get pregnant?...
A. 5 December 2010: The pull out method is as effective as blowing on the dice before you throw.
It's pure luck if it works or not.
It doesn't even have to mean anything for your abilities to conceive. ... (read in full...)
How badly did I screw up?
Q. you know how everyone says "do something quick! you don't want to be the 'what if person'"... well, i'm that person and it sucks worse than anything in the world. well about 3 years ago i moved to a suburban town from nyc, so you can guess if was a...
A. 5 December 2010: You need to remember that this wasn't you messing it up. It was something that happened to you that you didn't know how to handle, and I don't think anyone would because no one expects something like that to happen to them. You had to put yourself ... (read in full...)
How to cope with the space?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 4.5 years. He lived with me for a while and recently I just couldn't take the lies and shadyness so I told him to take his stuff and leave. I told him I couldn't take it anymore. The next day we spoke, I ...
A. 5 December 2010: If you aren't able to live together what sort of future do you have? Do think you will be able to live together some time in the future? Have you at all talked to him about this?
How often did you communicate before he moved in with you? If there... (read in full...)
I only seem to attract guys that are taken
Q. i only seem to attract men with girlfriends, or wives and i can't help it. When i meet a guy when i'm out and we hit it off and i started texting him it has turned out the past few times that they have already got a girlfriend or in some cases wi...
A. 5 December 2010: It does sound odd. A change of something is definitely what you need though. Perhaps try being very direct, and ask if they are taken, and if they are then tell them you are not interested before anything else develops. Im gonna guess you hang out ... (read in full...)
The woman I'm dating is 5 years older than I was lead to believe.
Q. I found out the woman I have been seeing is older (5 years) than I thought. In a nutshell, I am almost 52 have been seeing a gal for going on the 4 th month. In her profile she said she was 53 and to be honest with you, when I met her I couldn't b...
A. 4 December 2010: Do you understand where she is coming from? If she doesn't look that old, doesn't act that old, then why let it stop you. I only question lying about age when an older man/woman wants to get with an underager, or when an underager lies to get with a ... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling angry?
Q. Yesterday was my Birthday; I feel the same as usual just that my age has changed(LOL). I have been feeling so angry lately and do not know why. I try to ask myself what makes me angry; maybe it's my family or other people. What I want to know is if ...
A. 4 December 2010: No.
Angry at what? How does the anger feel? What does it make you want to do?
Maybe you just need a change of scene.... (read in full...)
How should I react to a compliment?
Q. Hi everyone, my question is I like receiving compliments but I don't know what to do or say when I get them. I sort of go dumb is something wrong with me? Thank you for answering....
A. 4 December 2010: You say "thank you"... (read in full...)
Do all men secretly prefer big breasted women?
Q. I've read many articles which say many studies have been done which prove that men prefer larger breasts, even on an unconscious level, because most men consciously say that size doesn't matter. But science has proved otherwise. However, most men ...
A. 4 December 2010: And to add, breast implants are different from natural breasts. If you get implants you will NOT attract guys who like big breasts, you will attract guys who are into implants.
Implants are hard and fake, and they feel hard and fake too. Do it if... (read in full...)
Do all men secretly prefer big breasted women?
Q. I've read many articles which say many studies have been done which prove that men prefer larger breasts, even on an unconscious level, because most men consciously say that size doesn't matter. But science has proved otherwise. However, most men ...
A. 4 December 2010: Alright, I just read the first sentences of your question and I will add I have relatively small breasts, but I have guys telling me they are the most perfect breasts they have ever seen. I have guys who are dating big breasted women telling me I ... (read in full...)
I only seem to attract guys that are taken
Q. i only seem to attract men with girlfriends, or wives and i can't help it. When i meet a guy when i'm out and we hit it off and i started texting him it has turned out the past few times that they have already got a girlfriend or in some cases wi...
A. 4 December 2010: I have no idea why that would happen. Could be just bad luck, but how many times out of all men you meet have they been taken? Were you the one who were attracted to these men, or did they approach you? It could be they send of some signal that you ... (read in full...)
Made a fake page to see why he broke up with me
Q. I created a fake page after 2 weeks of breaking up with my ex boyfried to view his facebook which he has blocked and never added me as a friend before. The thing is I did it twice when we was together created a fake page and he caught me twice.. ...
A. 4 December 2010: No contact. Move on to someone who can give you what you need, instead of hoping that someone just adequate will come back to you.... (read in full...)
Where can I meet women?
Q. I need some help on where to meet women, here's the situation. I recently got a full time job and I like this job. Because of my recent success I want to find a girlfriend, but I'm having a hard time socializing and meeting women. My network of ...
A. 4 December 2010: Do you have a reasonable amount of free-time on your hands? First off all it takes time to do activities, and a girlfriend will also need some of your time. So if you recently got into a full-time job, think if it wont just be stressful right now to ... (read in full...)
What if someday I turn into my abusive father?
Q. I feel like I'm typing to a damn therapist or something but here goes... When I was younger I had an abusive dad. He would whip me continuously with his belt whenever I misbehaved. Looking back though, I never really did anything that bad. He use...
A. 4 December 2010: Im afraid of the same thing. I had a father that was not a good father at all, while he would hit me at times the worst was still his anger, and reaction upon things that were minor/not the children's fault at all. So I recognize what you say when ... (read in full...)
A severe injury broke my hymen and my boyfriend won't accept this, even though I've never had sex!
Q. i had never slept with anyone neither had sex but still i lose my virginity due to severe injury doing gymnastic but my boy frend is not ready to accept this can any one plz tell me whot to do because i dont want to lose him i really love him....
A. 4 December 2010: Loosing the hymen does NOT mean you have lost your virginity. You only loose your virginity if you have had sex with a man. So do not have sex with anyone if they claim you can because you are no longer virgin. You are still a virgin, and if your ... (read in full...)
Which one should I marry?
Q. I have two marriage proposals. one girl with average beauty and professionaly just good another is very ugly but professionaly very good my confusion is whom to marry? I have no thoughts at all regarding my future plans...
A. 3 December 2010: How bad is very ugly? How do you think both of them will look after giving birth to children and have aged 20 years? There are songs though that say you are better off marrying someone ugly, because pretty women only give you heartache.. but how ... (read in full...)
Revealing too much at the swimming pool
Q. There is this girl at the gym who wears a bathing suit that is way too revealing! It only covers half of her breasts and only a quarter of her ass. It is almost seethru, and she always has T.H.O.'s. She makes a point to walk slowly around the pool ...
A. 3 December 2010: Im impressed with how much you know Cerberus! THO was new to me as well!... (read in full...)
Revealing too much at the swimming pool
Q. There is this girl at the gym who wears a bathing suit that is way too revealing! It only covers half of her breasts and only a quarter of her ass. It is almost seethru, and she always has T.H.O.'s. She makes a point to walk slowly around the pool ...
A. 3 December 2010: I have no idea what THO is, but maybe you should just pull her aside and ask her if she knows how much she's showing off. Perhaps she doesn't realize it's almost see-through, and doesn't think anyone notices the swimming suit is too small. Perhaps ... (read in full...)
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