I think I may have a porn problem!
Q. I think I may have a porn problem. Basically I have always watched porn for the last 6/7 years while being a teenager but I have recently noticed that I have been watching a lot of hardcore porn. I've had performance problems in the past...
A. 1 February 2012: That depends. Are you seeing anyone now? If so, then sure, quite masturbating as well -- turn all your attention and efforts to the relationship. If you're single, well, your call, but sounds like being frustrated for nothing.... (read in full...)
My wife had no problem seeing my best friend naked! The casual way she acted around him, suggesting that MY underwear would look good on him, makes me very uncomfortable
Q. I don't think there is a problem, but my wife's behavior toward my best friend seems a little weird and it bothers me. My best friend and I are close. Since I married my wife she has also become 'TXX's friend. We are all very close, and go out toge...
A. 1 February 2012: Does your wife have brothers? Could it be that she grew up used to brothers', to family, casual nudity, didn't think anything of it, and has accepted TXX as a sort of brother? Nudity isn't in and of itself sexual. The sexual part of nudity is a ... (read in full...)
I think I may have a porn problem!
Q. I think I may have a porn problem. Basically I have always watched porn for the last 6/7 years while being a teenager but I have recently noticed that I have been watching a lot of hardcore porn. I've had performance problems in the past...
A. 1 February 2012: Porn today is free and easy. You can get off effortlessly. That's OK if you're single, but it can seriously get in the way in the RW.
The good news is that if you stay away from porn for a while, what's in front of you gets a lot hotter. ... (read in full...)
He's ok to do things when I"m on my period, I'm not!
Q. So me and my boyfriend were fooling around, having a good time, clothes on, and he went to put his hands in my pants, but I said no because I'm on my period, which I think is gross, and I thought he'd be grossed out when I told him, but he told me ...
A. 29 January 2012: There's an expression, 'getting your red wings', which refers to oral during her period. I'd be willing to do it, but my wife isn't inclined to have it happen. Bottom line -- some guys aren't that worried or put off by that time of the month. If ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got a lapdance at a strip club and now I am struggling to deal with this, am I just being silly?
Q. My boyfriend went to see strippers and has got a private lapdance on a number of occasions. Im finding it hard to deal with, I feel inadequate and dont feel comfortable having sex at the moment. I just feel he'l compare the way I look to the ...
A. 27 January 2012: You said that you're worried about how you look compared to the strippers. And I can tell you that you have zero to worry about. I can guarantee you that you look ten times better than them.
There are two different things going on here. There's... (read in full...)
Boyfriend keeps teasing me about being loud in bed, and it's making me self-conscious!
Q. Hello everyone! I'd like to know if you think I'm being too sensitive about this issue or not. Every so often, my boyfriend starts teasing me about the fact I can be rather, erm, vocal in bed. I know he doesn't do it to be horrible, but he does like ...
A. 27 January 2012: Being loud is a very wonderful affirmation. He should be very grateful that you're giving him that feedback.
It's not clear from your question whether he's taunting you in private or if he's telling friends that your loud. If it's the latter, ... (read in full...)
How do you gracefully quit a job?
Q. I got a 2 day bar job, via a friend who recommended me, but have since got a 20 hour a week day job. I've only worked at the pub once, but I don't like it at all. It's a 20 minute drive away, but I go that town quite regularly. How can I quit w...
A. 19 January 2012: Be honourable. Walk in, tell your boss that you're grateful that he's given you the job, but that you've found one that better meets your needs. Doing it face-to-face gives you a ton of credit.... (read in full...)
I don't feel confident going on top during sex! Advice please!
Q. I dont feel confident going on top during sex, I know this sounds stupid but I feel like I'm doing it wrong and that maybe my partner doesnt enjoy it and will think I'm rubbish at it, please can you give me some tips?...
A. 19 January 2012: Hon, it's not about technique. It's about the visual. Don't think about what you look like, think about what he's seeing, which is a completely different thing. Even better, just enjoy what you're doing. That's the best turn on there is.... (read in full...)
I saw my friend getting spanked...
Q. I saw my friend getting a spanking and now I'm having fantasies about being spanked ... wtf is going on?? She's a bit younger than me but we're good friends and we're always in each others houses. Anyway, a few days ago I went round hers and ...
A. 19 January 2012: If she's a really good friend, someone you could really rely upon to keep your secrets, you could tell her what you saw and ask her to do it to you. You don't have to say that it turned you on, just that you felt bad for her and wanted to feel what ... (read in full...)
I'm bothered by her writing hobby
Q. Hello everybody, I've got a bit of a problem I need to talk about, but unfortunately, there's no way I can talk to my closest person about it. It's connected to my girlfriend. We love each other, everything is perfect except one thing... She's b...
A. 16 January 2012: I’ve been associated with erotic writers for the last ten or so years. It’s really an offshoot of the ‘self-publishing’ industry that’s grown up with the internet. Anyone who has a story to tell can put it on the web anonymously – there are ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of being bullied, I'm sick of no understanding, I'm just sick of it!
Q. Im sick of feeling alone and depressed all the time, i have moments when im really happy then my mood can suddenly change i try to tell my mum and dad but they never listen they are like 'oh sure course theres always something wrong with you' etc ...
A. 16 January 2012: The first answer is excellent. I'd add that it might be helpful to talk to another family member -- a grandparent, an aunt or uncle -- someone who might better *hear* you and help you talk to your parents.... (read in full...)
My son's wedding will be a disaster!
Q. My son is 37 and marrying a 28 year old woman. My son is getting married this summer and im not happy with the way his fiancees family and friends re-acted at the engagement party 2 weeks ago because im afraid they will ruin the day of the weddi...
A. 16 January 2012: I have to beg your pardon with this answer, but I get the impression that you're more concerned with your reputation than with your son and his fiance having the wedding experience THEY want. Particularly since you've been a professional wedding ... (read in full...)
Why don't men read maps?
Q. Why is it that when your in a car and your man is Driving and you both are in an unfamilliar town, he wont Admit that he is Lost. My Question is why wont men ask for Directions? ...
A. 16 January 2012: Because my wife is a great navigator. I hand her the map and do what she tells me. In 25+ years, we've seldom gone wrong.... (read in full...)
The other day we where making love and he stopped to answer his phone! Is this normal?
Q. Hi,I would like you aunts opinion on this please. I am in a relationship with a man and have been for many years, we both are in our late 50's so really i was shocked and very surprised by this action of his. The other day we where making love and ...
A. 16 January 2012: Makes me think of the first 'leaked' Paris Hilton video, where she did the same thing -- answered her phone in the midst of hot and heavy sex. Remarkably non-erotic.
I had that situation when I was young, maybe 20 or so. The phone rang and my g... (read in full...)
I found dirty knickers in my husband's car
Q. I found dirty underwear in my husband car and they aren't mine I don't known what to do? Dirty females underwears in my husband car? Im confuse I don't know what to do....
A. 16 January 2012: It's 90%+ that he's cheated. And he's not fessing up. The ball is squarely in your court -- are you prepared to accept him cheating?... (read in full...)
My family aren't supporting me during my pregnancy -- should I take up the offer from my b/f's family?
Q. i am 14 almost 15 and i'm 26 weeks pregnant with twins..i am super happy and so is my boyfriend and his family..my family on the other hand..i'm thinkin..not so much..i can see why they are upset/disappointed but right now all i need is support..i ...
A. 24 December 2011: If you think that his family will be more supportive, then that's a reasonable solution. I'm guessing that you've decided to keep the twins and raise them, rather than putting them up for adoption. Is that right? So I'll just take a guess her... (read in full...)
Premature ejaculation with a handjob!
Q. My boy friend is 18 years old. When I give him a hand job, he ejaculates within 2 minutes, sometimes in a minute. How can I stop his quick ejaculation? Should I squeeze his balls? I did it once, he said it hurt. Do you think it will work if I put my ...
A. 14 December 2011: Why on earth would you want him to last a long time with a handjob? It just hurts your hand. You want him to last a long time with intercourse. The faster he cums with a hj, moresoe with a bj, the better, no? And yes, after he cums, it's sensi... (read in full...)
Ever been rejected, yet managed to stay friends and then become a couple?
Q. So this is a rather easy question for 15-16 year olds/when you were that age. Basically,I am wondering if you've ever been rejected,then managed to stay friends and then eventually became a couple. Share your story!...
A. 14 December 2011: LOL, you want a story? How about a book. I was at a house party, I’ll just guess that I was 15, grade 10. There was some drinking going on. A girl cornered me in the kitchen, guess she’d had the hots for me, so we spent some time making out.... (read in full...)
How does one prepare for being fingered?
Q. Preparation for being fingered? I know im supposed to shower and everything, but anything else to smell nice and stuff down there?...
A. 14 December 2011: Don't do too much. It's what you're like naturally that's a real turn on.... (read in full...)
We are both virgins. And committed to each other. But what can I do about my erectile issues?
Q. I'm a 19 year old male and I started dating a girl from my university dorm this school year. Up until then, neither of us had a very serious relationship and both of us are virgins. Things have progressed naturally and we both enjoy spending time ...
A. 12 December 2011: Yes, having her guide you is always best. And yes, you'll need to push a bit unless she's on top. For sure you want to have her call the shots as much as possible.... (read in full...)
I worry about my stomach rumbles in class. How can I shake this off and get this worried stress out my brain?
Q. It's my senior year in high school and I can't enjoy it because I have my mind set on worrying about something stupid. I can't help but to think about my stomach making funny noises. I can't focus on paying attention and doing my work because when...
A. 12 December 2011: Good grief man, you're not the only one! There are a dozen other people around you with the same problem. And let's get real here -- on the list of embarrassing things your body can do, tummy rumbles hardly rate. People aren't going to look down ... (read in full...)
We are both virgins. And committed to each other. But what can I do about my erectile issues?
Q. I'm a 19 year old male and I started dating a girl from my university dorm this school year. Up until then, neither of us had a very serious relationship and both of us are virgins. Things have progressed naturally and we both enjoy spending time ...
A. 12 December 2011: People preach about condoms, and for good reason. But they can be terribly unsexy. Things are going hot and heavy, and then you have to stop and deal with the ruddy thing. You're not the first to have this problem.
So -- how about integrat... (read in full...)
I'm devastated. She hasn't cheated yet, but is our marriage unravelling? She wants to try other men for sex.
Q. After a night of great sex my wife of 20 years informed me that she had begun thinking more and more of sex with other men. I pressed her a little if she meant like a three-way or more, and she said no, just one person. She didn't have anyb...
A. 12 December 2011: OK, she's almost 40 and you've been married 20 years. Were you her first and only? I'd have written this off to a fantasy if you hadn't added the 'bucket list' comment. Let's take this as "half full" to start -- she trusts you enough to be o... (read in full...)
Can a man maintain an erection for awhile? Or will he lose it if he doesn't "use" it?
Q. Kinda random question, (but there's a valid reason for me asking, honest!): when a man gets an erection, can he hold on to it for a while before having sex, or does he lose it if he doesn't use it almost straight away? To put it into context, if he ...
A. 11 December 2011: It depends on his age, his health, and what's happening in his mind. If he's 18-21 like you are, then it may stay, but if it doesn't it'll come back just fine. It's older guys that have to worry.... (read in full...)
I can't compete sexually with my wife's former lover
Q. My wife's last lover had a bigger penis, greater stamina and could please her with vaginal intercourse. I feel so inadequate and don't know why I should make any more pathetic attempts. Any advice?...
A. 11 December 2011: Well, you're living breathing evidence for why men want virgins. It's so much easier when there's no one to compare with.
I'm just going to go out on a limb here and say that she married you because previous big swinging dicks didn't do it for h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend pressures me to have sex and I hate it
Q. My boyfriend always wants sex and I hate sex more than anything. Is it normal for me to feel so guilty for saying no. he gives me this rude attitude after I tell him my answer, helpppp I dont know what to do. I have talked to him about it a ...
A. 11 December 2011: You are in a relationship where you and your boyfriend have very different expectations. I don't know what you want, but it clearly isn't sex. I don't know why he wants to be in a relationship with you, or what his expectations were going in, but ... (read in full...)
Why do men focus so much on female orgasm?
Q. Why do men focus so much on female orgasm? My bf is insecure because he's only been able to make me orgasm twice orally in the 4 months we've been together and if I don't orgasm, he sees it as failure and it prevents him from being hard again to ...
A. 6 December 2011: To be honest, I think I was ruined by a teenage relationship. I spent the best part of a year with a girl who was, in hindsight, unusually able to reach orgasm. Oral, intercourse, whatever, it worked for her. And she wasn't shy about letting you ... (read in full...)
17 year old and 14 year old
Q. Hey I'm a 17 yr old guy, my girlfriend is 14, yes I know that a big age differance this young. We are very much in love, strong word but true. I have asked her about sex and she said she doesnt want to go that far, but she keeps throwing me mixed ...
A. 29 November 2011: Do you love her? Seriously -- do you love her?
If you do, then you won't f**k her. Because she's too young to give informed consent. She might want to do it. But it would be seriously wrong. She'd be making a bad decision. You, being ol... (read in full...)
The girl I like is a Jehovah's Witness
Q. There's this girl who I found to be amazing. I am the type to fall for girls who "catch my eye" as in i am picky and i go for girls who call out to me. This girl caught my eye a while ago but she's one of those girls that i call wayy out of my le...
A. 29 November 2011: Glad you've found this helpful.
FWIW, if have a sister-in-law who is a Jehovah Witness. She won't attend any family gathering that has to do with a birthday, an anniversary, Christmas, Thanksgiving, or New Years. Basically anything that has to w... (read in full...)
Husband gets upset if I don't get off during sex
Q. I just got married in Oct and I love my husband a lot... I think our relationship is great but I'm having a little bit of a problem. I'm 4 years older then he is... I love making love to him and I like to make love around three times a day.... ...
A. 29 November 2011: Lots of us guys take it personally. We need to be reassured when it's not our fault, and to be guided and taught when it is. If it's not his fault, explain to him that you're hung up on other stresses in your life and that you weren't able to let ... (read in full...)
It is possible for a man to be impotent with one woman but not with another?
Q. Is it possible, that a guy can't erection with his wife for years, but can get one with an other woman later on? My husband told me for several years, that he is impotent, but it has nothing to do with me. So , I just accepted to live in a sexless ...
A. 29 November 2011: I don't know from experience, but I can imagine it's possible. The brain plays a very important part in arousal. If he's physically healthy but impotent, then it's psychological. His brain might have been offside because of conflict in the ... (read in full...)
Afraid I'm addicted to porn
Q. Ok well i REALLY need advice..here it goes.. Him im 13 and i am adicted to watching porn.. Its kinda wrong but i cant stop watching it.. I masterbate to it till i Ejaculate when ever my parent leave to the store i rush to the computer and go on a ...
A. 28 November 2011: There are two different issues here. The first is masturbation. I didn't have access to porn when I was your age, but I still masturbated they way you describe -- any time I had a bit of time alone, any time my parents went out. I remember ... (read in full...)
The girl I like is a Jehovah's Witness
Q. There's this girl who I found to be amazing. I am the type to fall for girls who "catch my eye" as in i am picky and i go for girls who call out to me. This girl caught my eye a while ago but she's one of those girls that i call wayy out of my le...
A. 28 November 2011: I think you want to be wary if you're going in to a relationship that's based upon deceit. Her parents don't approve of her dating but she's going to do it anyway. At some point that's going to get in the way. It is a very strict religion.
... (read in full...)
I "insulted" my husband about his performance in bed and I think I deeply wounded his ego. How do I fix it?
Q. I "insulted" my husband and I think I deeply wounded his ego. He cant please me in bed and he has stopped trying to quite a while back. I told him that what he is doing isn't working. He told me he never had problems pleasing women in the past. I ...
A. 22 November 2011: It's not wrong to try to help a partner improve. He wasn't smart to compare you to other women. The compassionate, constructive thing for you to have said was that you aren't other women, that every woman is unique. What you actually said, well, ... (read in full...)
Impotence without a medical cause?
Q. I have a 49 years old husband. He is impotent at the last few years. He is ok medically. What could be wrong with him? Is it possible to be impotent without a cause?...
A. 22 November 2011: You're sure he's had a thorough physical exam - so high blood pressure, diabetes, low testosterone and poor circulation have all been ruled out? Smoking and alcohol both get in the way as well.
If it's none of those things, the brain still ha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't stop masturbating to porn!
Q. Dear Cupid, So a while ago, my boyfriend confessed to watching porn and said he would stop. He thinks it's a bad thing. A teeny bit recently, i told him how i felt about it and he said "sorry for doing that" and promised he'd stop again. Then...
A. 20 November 2011: I'm looking at your age here - 16/17. So this is a high school dating situation. "He doesn't want sex with me" - so I read that as, again, a high school situation where you're dating and not having sex. Boys in their teenage years have serio... (read in full...)
21 years old, but still concerned about parents' reaction to dating
Q. Hi everyone, I am 21 years old, and I'm in my last year of college. When I was in highschool and through the first few years of college, I sort of dated a few guys but I've never really been in a serious relationship. I have been dating my current ...
A. 20 November 2011: At some point in your life you are going to find the person you intend to spend eternity with. If your parents genuinely love you, they will accept (and ideally, welcome) this person. He will become part of their lives as well.
This guy may or m... (read in full...)
My sister was exposed to TB. She lives with us, should I be concerned?
Q. My sister went to the doctor the other day for some tests and she was told that she has been exposed to TB,she is staying with me and my three young boys are there,should i be worried,am confused please help. ...
A. 20 November 2011: How might your sister have been exposed? Does she travel? Does she work with the homeless or immigrants?
You need to find out exactly what the doctor meant by 'exposed'. Person12345 is quite right -- the traditional TB seen in North America ... (read in full...)
How can I change my G/f's mind about sex? She's had some nasty experiences in the past but my friends' are nagging me about why its taking so long with her
Q. Hey guys, me and my gf have been dating for 5 months already. The thing is she's a virgin and I'm not, I of course care about her and do not want to pressure her into doing anything shes uncormfotable with. We've been talking about sex (well maybe ...
A. 18 November 2011: The thing that jumps out at me here is that your friends know what you have and have not done with this girl. That's teenage stuff that has no place in an adult relationship. If she's picked up on the fact that your friends are nagging you to shag ... (read in full...)
Why do some guys like women to send them nude pictures???
Q. Before I say anything just thought i say that DO NOT judge me for this cause I`ve beaten myself up about it and regret it, plus i`m an adult. Also i have another question which relates to my post so instead of making another post I decided to post ...
A. 11 November 2011: Hon, stop beating yourself up. You feel like you made a mistake. OK, if it was, it's a mistake thousands (or more) of women have made. You weren't true to yourself. While that was prompted by pressure from him, the fact of the matter is that it ... (read in full...)
An old school friend recently revealed romantic feelings for me
Q. Hello everyone. I need your advice because my emotions are all over the place right now. Back in school I had a guy best friend and we remained so for 3 years. 8 years later we are both married but because of our friendship, remained in contact ...
A. 11 November 2011: You haven't given us any insight into your marriage. I'll make some guesses anyway. You've been married for a few years, the honeymoon is over, and you're at the low people term the "seven year itch" (which doesn't necessarily hit at seven years). ... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid that once he saw me naked he was turned off.
Q. I met a guy and last night he stayed over for the first time. We had a couple of glasses of wine and we began to get frisky. However, when we got down to business he had a semi erection and couldnt get a full erection all night. Does this mean he ...
A. 11 November 2011: My experience with this is having things move too fast. Girls can freight so much on intimacy -- that it means commitment, undying love, etc. -- and if he's thinking that's where you are, when he knows he's not, then his brain doesn't let it ... (read in full...)
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