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writes:Hi everyone, I am 21 years old, and I'm in my last year of college. When I was in highschool and through the first few years of college, I sort of dated a few guys but I've never really been in a serious relationship. I have been dating my current boyfriend just under a year now, and I am completely in love! This is my first serious relationship, and I am trying to figure out how to talk to my parents about it. I never talked to them about dating before, as they are very strict and they always seemed to avoid the topic. This means a lot to me because this guy is really special, and I think its about time my parents understand the situation. I'm just a little nervous because I've never tlaked to them about it before, and I don't really think they'll approve. Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses! You've given me a little extra courage to talk to my parents. I will definitely speak to them in a few weeks when I come home over winter break, as I prefer to do it in person.
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (20 November 2011):
At some point in your life you are going to find the person you intend to spend eternity with. If your parents genuinely love you, they will accept (and ideally, welcome) this person. He will become part of their lives as well.
This guy may or may not be that person. But your parents want to know who is in your life. You've been with him for a year, so he's definitely in your life. You've accepted him, so your parents must as well. Personally, as a father of two daughters, I would very much want to meet someone who was important in a daughter's life.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (20 November 2011):
 "Mum dad I've met someone I really like......" and take it from there. They may not approve, but they have the right to know what you are doing. Then go off and continue, exactly as you have been doing for a year. Your telling them because your polite and you want them to be involved in your life. Your not asking them for permission of any sort, at 21years old, your too old for that.
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reader, bardia +, writes (20 November 2011):
 God. You sound like me. Do talk to them. I think sometimes they're afraid to lose their little girls so badly that it ends up stunting what should be the natural progression of life. Look at it this way: what were THEY doing at your age? Married yet, or close to it? You're at an age where it isn't unreasonable to be in a serious relationship, testing the waters of life for your future. Do keep your own future plans in mind (school, long-term employment, etc.). Be responsible. But ENJOY him & your relationship because time is short & precious. I don't mean to sound nostalgic or "old", but I let too much of my life pass without taking risks because I was afraid of what my parents would think. They need to start to let go if they haven't already.
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