What do you do if you feel you are not in love with your wife anymore?
Q. What do you do if you feel you are not in love with your wife anymore? We have 3 children together. They are not toddlers. We have debt. Physically not that attracted to her anymore and seem to just be going through the motions. I don't want to ...
A. 6 July 2012: Folk here will jump on you, as did the first reply I saw. Understand that it goes with the territory. This forum tends to be hard on cheating.
I've walked a mile in your shoes. I share many of your issues in marriage. When we got together... (read in full...)
Do men enjoy passionate kisses after marriage?
Q. I've been married for 10 years and when we were dating my husband would kiss me passionately and frequently. Then after the wedding I have spent the last 10 years letting him know it is a part of foreplay that gets me into the mood and that I need ...
A. 3 July 2012: In our marriage the situation is reversed. My wife gave up kissing years ago, and I miss it terribly. Sorry, I have no suggestions, but just wanted you to know it's not necessarily a 'guy thing.'... (read in full...)
Should I perform oral sex on my B/f just to make him happy? Or should he respect my decision and not make me feel bad for not doing it?
Q. My long distance boyfriend keeps asking me to perform oral sex on him. We have had numerous discussions sometimes resulting in arguments in which I explain that I'm not comfortable doing so and he tells me it would make him happy so I should. Before ...
A. 29 June 2012: I've told my daughters that any guy who said "if you loved me you'd ..." is a complete red flag. He's pressuring you to do something you don't want to do.
Eliminate him from your life. Period. End of story.... (read in full...)
I want to get to know my crush but I don't even know his name
Q. Hey.. So I'm a senior..I've not had a crush or been in a relationship since my last break up which was 2 years back. So recently there's this new guy at school. We don't have any classes together. But we keep looking at each other a lot. I think Im ...
A. 29 June 2012: Hon, just go over to him. Maybe bump into him 'accidently' and use that to start a conversation. Just say 'hi', and things will work out from there.... (read in full...)
If a man masturbates will it cause problems later when he marries?
Q. i want to ask 2 qstns 1st is that i have sum prblm with my penis. its skin is not smooth, due to more hair follice growth on skin it look like having pimples on it. when i concerned with dermatologist, a/c to him there is no prblm but i am not sat...
A. 8 June 2012: 1.) Every penis is different, just as every vulva is different. There can be hairs sticking out where you don't think they should be, all kinds of things. You've seen a doctor, he's told you you're fine, so chill. Seriously, the woman you want ... (read in full...)
Should I should embrace my gay solitude?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a guy that is 17-years-old and I'm gay. I already came out to my friends and family and luckily, everyone accepts me and respects me. However, I have issues with approaching other gay guys. I suppose it's because I'm afraid of th...
A. 2 June 2012: You are seriously overthinking this. Seriously.
You are 17. You have all kinds of things going on in your life. Sexual politics, the kind you describe, should be the very least of your worries. You need to finish high school, get accepted... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and don't know if I want to lose my virginity or not
Q. I'm 17 and basically, confused about weather I want to loose my virginity or not. I'm one of the oldest of my friends and I'm the only one to be still a virgin. I know that at least a small part of me wants to loose it, but the other half of me is ...
A. 2 June 2012: When I was a teenager I thought my virginity was a curse. In hindsight that thinking was incredibly dumb, but it was what it was. I suppose it was partly peer pressure, and not understanding that peer pressure in its turn made the 'friends' who ... (read in full...)
Worried that the webcam session might have been recorded?
Q. Hello, Could use some advice..... I engaged in a webcam chat on msn. Met the girl in a chatbox. The girl was in lingerie. Was fun so I stripped to my boxers. But when I refused to pull my boxers down she ended the chat and went offline. Maybe it ...
A. 30 May 2012: The fact that you didn't do anything all that interesting means that, even if it was recorded, it's almost certainly not going to be posted. You've most likely dodged this bullet.... (read in full...)
Still a Virgin at 28 years old and I want to get rid of it.
Q. I'm an attractive educated female and I'm about to turn 29 years old and I haven't had sex yet. Don't get me wrong, I've done everything but get penetrated. I was waiting till marriage but I have no prospects and I don't want this to be a problem ...
A. 29 May 2012: Kiddo, just chill. You are making a life for yourself. You've said that you're saving money so you can move overseas, so I'll assume that you've been studying to be a professional -- in medicine, engineering, something like that. Regardless, ... (read in full...)
My younger brother is a bully how should I handle him
Q. dear aunts/uncles im having some problems with my younger brother. Firstly i dnt live with him, thank goodness because he is so moody! he has always been a moody person, angry irritable and really rude! when i visit he is off with me and bites my ...
A. 29 May 2012: maverick is just completely right on. That's the advice that we give to parents who have toddlers who act out. It's astonishing that someone in their 20s needs the same treatment, but regardless, it's the right call.... (read in full...)
Who is responsible for kids turning into drug addicts? The parenting? The genetics? Or just luck?
Q. Who is responsible for kids turning out drug addicts? The parenting? The genetics? Or just luck? This situation is ruining my life,and my marriage, and I feel ,Im not responsible for this, but the society is turning against us . It is very painful ...
A. 29 May 2012: Yes, addiction can run in families. We've had quite a number of alcoholics in our family. But my grandparents were more or less abstainers. Their sons grew up in an environemnt where imbibing was accepted and commonplace, and it got the better of ... (read in full...)
What does fantasy mean in the porn world?
Q. I have some difficulty understanding the whole porn and fantasy thing, when men view porn does the fantasy thing mean they just enjoy watching sexual acts being done to other attractive people? I always thought it meant they pick the videos with the ...
A. 28 May 2012: I was surprised at how hard I had to think about this. How to describe exactly how porn works for me? For one thing, it's absolutely not about appearance, at least not in a positive way. Oh, there are looks that really turn me off -- body art,... (read in full...)
Was this teacher's behaviour inappropriate?
Q. I'm sitting in class around everyone, my teacher stands beside and in back of me for about 2 minutes not saying a word. Then she starts touching my hair for a good minute. Very awkward and made me feel uncomfortable. Are they allowed to do this? Sh...
A. 27 April 2012: Yes she can get in trouble for it. It's perfectly OK for her to stand behind you. It's not at all OK for her to touch your hair for a full minute. That's wrong, particularly if it made you uncomfortable.... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my ex again, but she's not giving me any assurances
Q. Hey everyone, My problem is getting back with an ex. We broke up about 2 months ago, after a nearly all that time waiting for her I started to move on but then she suddenly wanted me back. I happily said yes as we never broke up for any decent r...
A. 27 April 2012: Bud, you're right to look for some guarantee that she's committed. And it isn't happening. In the absence of her committing, you can only conclude that you're being played. Sorry, but that's how it reads from here.... (read in full...)
Afraid to tell my parents that we're getting married?
Q. Hello all! I am 20 and my now fiance is 23, so we're pretty young, but we are so excited to get married! My only problem is that I am EXTREMELY nervous to tell my parents. We want to tell everyone and get the plans going (we want to get married n...
A. 27 April 2012: You already live together, so this isn't going to be a huge shock, right?
What your parents want is for you to be with someone who loves you, who is committed to making your life the best it can be. Forever.
Have him tell them that. That's al... (read in full...)
Men & Women: How long have you gone without sex?
Q. How long have you gone without sex with another person? ...
A. 9 April 2012: As a hiatus? The entire year I was 19, plus a month or so on either side. Since then? Maybe 10 or 11 weeks.... (read in full...)
Not making a "quota" system. How much sex per week?
Q. I'm tired of asking the wife and keep getting turned down for sex. We have sex 1-2 per month, I get a BJ approx. 2 times per month. Again, i am not keeping score. I know EVERYONE is different. But, is that something to complain about?...
A. 3 April 2012: Per week? Are you kidding me? I think it's twice so far this year. Maybe three times.... (read in full...)
My daughter hates me. I need advice.
Q. Hi. I have an 11 year old daughter who absolutely despises me the moment. I realise hormones come into play but she contantly disrespecting me and her brother. My husband and i have been seperated for a few years and i am in another relationship of ...
A. 30 March 2012: I feel your pain. Parenting isn't easy, and you're getting the full-on challenge. My attitude from the start has been that I'm a parent, not a friend. It would be wonderful if my children would like me when they're adults, but I cannot possibly ... (read in full...)
Blow job with a condom?
Q. I want to give this guy a blow job but I can not stand semen! People tell me to spit it out but even the thought of having it in my mouth makes me wanna throw up. What should I do? Is it OK to give a blow job with a condom so that the semen doesn't ...
A. 30 March 2012: They sell flavored condoms for a reason -- they're intended for oral sex.
That said, a true gentleman gives the girl a warning, so she can choose to not have it in her mouth. That clearly requires a level of trust. But if he understands that not... (read in full...)
How long do guys normally last during anal sex?
Q. okay people, i have a question a bit embarrassing. i just wondered, how long do guys generally last before they cum during anal sex? my boyfriend has done it before ( not with me) but i haven't.he said he wouldnt last long anyway, coz it would be a ...
A. 22 March 2012: It kinda depends. Some guys are inclined to go off fairly quickly, and so have to work hard during vaginal sex to prolong the process so she has a change to get something out of it. Obviously that's not the case with anal, where from her ... (read in full...)
Is this masturbation pattern normal?
Q. Well, I'm 17 and i have a problem. I masturbate every night. I constantly think of my gf, especially of the days we have sex. I went on a college tour and i didn't masturbate. I went on a trip and i didn't do it. Only at night when im most ...
A. 18 March 2012: Once a day is certainly less than I did it at that age. I did go on a school trip one time and only managed enough privacy to do it once in the two weeks.
Everyone is different, and your 'normal' may differ from someone else's. As long as it's ... (read in full...)
Is a handjob painful for a guy?
Q. last night me and my bf were making out and feeling eachother u. I had my shirt off and he was feeling my breats down my bra I guess I got excited and went down andbegan to rub down there. It was my first time doing this so I was curious. So I kept ...
A. 18 March 2012: Definitely pleasurable. Even if there's too much friction with his clothes, he won't mind until afterward, and will likely consider it worthwhile regardless. I have no doubt he's very grateful.... (read in full...)
How long should a hand job last?
Q. How long do handjods usually last when the guy is 17? And how shud I clean it up when im done? And how much will there be?...
A. 18 March 2012: It depends on how experienced he is. My first time I doubt it lasted a minute; later on I'm sure it never went as long as 10 minutes.
In a perfect world you'll have a towel or something there to catch it as it comes out, and he'll give you a li... (read in full...)
What are men really getting off on when they watch porn?
Q. Hi a few questions, when men watch porn what are they actually getting off on? Is it the sight of a woman being dirty, are they pretending they are the man in the porno? My boyfriend says it's just the sight and pretending he is having sex with them ...
A. 16 March 2012: It's the visual, definitely. You can find something that scratches just about any itch you have at a particular time, so it just speeds things up. Yes, sometimes it's seeing a girl being dirty. Other times it might be a girl (pretending to be) ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my girlfriend, but her parents cannot know!
Q. I'm 17 and love my girlfriend. We've already talked about marriage and all that stuff so this isn't some one night stand. We want to have sex (by the way she's 16 so in my state it's still legal) but her parents are VERY overprotective as far as ...
A. 14 March 2012: Well I applaud her parents. So far it sounds as though they're doing their job.... (read in full...)
How do men react when they get to know that their partner has been masturbating in secret?
Q. what are men's reaction to their spouse's secret masterbation? im 34 and Ive been living wth my bf almost 11 years ... its been almost four years he lost his sex derive ... we do it almost once a month ... and Im always horney ... we love each oth...
A. 13 March 2012: In general I love the idea of a woman masturbating -- it says that she is in touch with her sexuality, that she's explored what works for her so she can guide me to better please her. That said, I can't quite imagine how it would come up in a ... (read in full...)
14, pregnant and don't know what to do
Q. hello to cut to the case i am 14 and i think i am pregnant. my boyfriend is 15 but doest really know how to react. my mom and my step dad are going to flip out. i dont know what to do. so my question is, if i am pregnant at this age what rights do i ...
A. 10 March 2012: OK hon, first, find out if you really are pregnant. Go to the drug store and buy a test. Pee on the stick and see what it says. If it says negative, then you have no problem.
If it says positive, then post a follow up, and we'll help you furt... (read in full...)
If my husband doesn't want to have sex with me as much- does that mean he is not attracted to me??
Q. If my husband doesn't want to have sex with me as much- does that mean he is not attracted to me??...
A. 10 March 2012: It could mean any number of things. He might be bored. He might be having performance issues (often goes with aging) and so hesitate to initiate. His hormones could be out of balance (something else that can go with aging) and so have less ... (read in full...)
Does a guy's penis have a mind of its own?
Q. Okay I know this is a stupid question, but I've always wondered this. I almost asked a guy friend, but didn't because I didn't want him getting the wrong idea so here goes: Does a guys penis have a mind of it's own? Do you move it like you move a ...
A. 5 March 2012: Well, you can make an erect one jump by tensing the kegel muscles, but that's about it. For young guys with perfect circulation an erection can also bounce in time with your heartbeat. But we have precious little control over when erections ... (read in full...)
Why is he looking at sites with girl's underwear???
Q. I know I'll probably be raked over the coals for this one because snooping is such a big invasion of privacy and betrayal of trust but here it goes. My boyfriend of four years has been over my apartment recently and he uses my laptop when I go to ...
A. 29 February 2012: To my mind the simplest explanation is that the girls in underwear ads are hot. He's taking pics of girls' butts, it's not much of a leap to look at the same thing in an ad. He may have a bit of a fetish.
I really doubt this is a sign of cheat... (read in full...)
Gift for partner's mom?
Q. hello aunts and uncles, my partners mother invited us for a birthday dinner at hers and i really don't know what gift would be appropriate for her.(we can't get something together as he has already given her a gift) please note she's in her lat...
A. 26 February 2012: If she's able to enjoy chocolate (i.e. not diabetic) then a small selection of excellent quality morsels (e.g. Belgian) might be appreciated.
If the family enjoys wine, then that could work as well. Check with your partner as to her preferen... (read in full...)
I know this isn`t working but I still love him
Q. I have been with my Boyfriend for just under four years now. We have been living together for a year and a half and we are now renting out first house together. But things have been going wrong in the relationship and i am thinking i should move on. ...
A. 25 February 2012: You're looking for a kick in the arse? Well, what you've written is surely going to bring that on.
I'm not entirely sure what you mean when you say you 'love him'. Because what you're describing is the sort of devotion an abused puppy gives it... (read in full...)
This was a bit vulgar to say to me on Valentines day, should I be offended?
Q. So I've been dating this guy for a few months. Everything has been going pretty good for the most part. Then yesterday, he kind of threw me for a loop. He sent me a text that said "Blow jobs are like flowers for guys on Valentine's Day". I was ...
A. 15 February 2012: At least he had the chutzpah to be open with you about what he wanted. I wait in vain for my wife to figure out that that's what I'd like in return for the expensive flowers I send her on V. day, or as the only thing I'd care to have on my ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend told me I act weird when I receive blow jobs
Q. My girlfriend of 6 months is 12 years younger than I am, but very much more sexually experienced than I me. I got married young and I have only been with two women in my life while she is very adventurous and loves sex. She is also blessed with bei...
A. 14 February 2012: Well I have no idea how other guys react -- I've never been in the same room with another guy getting a bj. But I can tell you that for me, anything beyond a modestly competent effort is the Best Thing In The World. And I let her know by reacting ... (read in full...)
If he's gay, what does that mean for our relationship?
Q. When do you consider someone 'gay'? And how should it change my friendship with him? I have this good friend. Sometimes he and I hang out together, and sometimes him, myself, and my wife hang out. We've even taken him with up to amusement parks,...
A. 14 February 2012: If you've known him for that long and never picked up a vibe, then even if he's gay you're not his type. You'd have been able to tell, particuarly when naked, if he was looking too much, or trying too hard not to look. I don't see a problem ... (read in full...)
Do men find it more attractive when their partner swallows ??
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for ten month and a half :) we are really happy together...we have been sexuallt active together for almost five months now and i went down on him last satyrdsy for the first time. He said he really enjoyed it ...
A. 14 February 2012: Swallowing is nice, but spitting is perfectly fine too. What really matters to me is being able to finish in her mouth. That's an incredibly special gift, IMO.... (read in full...)
Frustrated, straight, but considering an offer of a bj
Q. Hey I got a question. Im a 28 year old man living single and my job keeps me extremely busy and always on the travel. Over the last couple years I have developed a male friend shom I met over the internet from a town that is about 40 miles from ...
A. 3 February 2012: Right then -- he really wants nothing in return? So you buy the idea that he's happy to get you off, no questions. Does he know your true identity, or just an internet anon?
If you're confident that you're really anon; if you're confiden... (read in full...)
I think I may have a porn problem!
Q. I think I may have a porn problem. Basically I have always watched porn for the last 6/7 years while being a teenager but I have recently noticed that I have been watching a lot of hardcore porn. I've had performance problems in the past...
A. 1 February 2012: That depends. Are you seeing anyone now? If so, then sure, quite masturbating as well -- turn all your attention and efforts to the relationship. If you're single, well, your call, but sounds like being frustrated for nothing.... (read in full...)
Urinary incontinence during sex. Help!
Q. I have a rather embarrassing question... During an intimate lovemaking session with my fiancee, I was blindfolded, and had earmuffs on so I couldn't hear anything..this allowed me to focus only on what I was feeling...and I was lost in the sensatio...
A. 1 February 2012: You had enough trust to get seriously into a sexual encounter that's a bit outside the usual. The outcome was a bit outside the usual. If I was him, I'd be very proud to have gotten you so far into the zone that that could happen. What happened ... (read in full...)
Can't you smell that smell?
Q. I work with this guy who seems to be shy. I think he likes me but we never really talk because I'm shy too. I feel like I'm in high school tho because of how unsure and nervous he makes me feel and he seems to act the same way around me. Heres a few ...
A. 1 February 2012: There's never any way you can know for sure before you commit. Do you like him? If so, what's the harm about sending some signals back? It sounds like you've got lots to work with. He sends signals, you send some signals, and the two of you work ... (read in full...)
My wife had no problem seeing my best friend naked! The casual way she acted around him, suggesting that MY underwear would look good on him, makes me very uncomfortable
Q. I don't think there is a problem, but my wife's behavior toward my best friend seems a little weird and it bothers me. My best friend and I are close. Since I married my wife she has also become 'TXX's friend. We are all very close, and go out toge...
A. 1 February 2012: Does your wife have brothers? Could it be that she grew up used to brothers', to family, casual nudity, didn't think anything of it, and has accepted TXX as a sort of brother? Nudity isn't in and of itself sexual. The sexual part of nudity is a ... (read in full...)
I think I may have a porn problem!
Q. I think I may have a porn problem. Basically I have always watched porn for the last 6/7 years while being a teenager but I have recently noticed that I have been watching a lot of hardcore porn. I've had performance problems in the past...
A. 1 February 2012: Porn today is free and easy. You can get off effortlessly. That's OK if you're single, but it can seriously get in the way in the RW.
The good news is that if you stay away from porn for a while, what's in front of you gets a lot hotter. ... (read in full...)
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