Tonsilitis? How can I reduce the swelling? Help!!!!!!!
Q. it's 5:00am in the morning. I know a little late for somebody to be up now isn't it? Well it's cause about an hour ago, I decided I was going to go to bed, but before I decided to go to bed, I decided to look inside my mouth, cause it had been ...
A. 2 July 2008: It doesn't sound silly, but you shouldn't worry that much! Your body is quite good at keeping your airway clear and warning you fairly rapidly of any problems even if you're asleep. If you are able to swallow water then it's nothing to be very ... (read in full...)
Tonsilitis? How can I reduce the swelling? Help!!!!!!!
Q. it's 5:00am in the morning. I know a little late for somebody to be up now isn't it? Well it's cause about an hour ago, I decided I was going to go to bed, but before I decided to go to bed, I decided to look inside my mouth, cause it had been ...
A. 2 July 2008: A throat infection like you describe usually needs antibiotics.
Gargling with soluble aspirin if you've got some can help to take the pain away and can reduce the swelling, but don't do it if there's any risk you're allergic to aspirin AND make... (read in full...)
My husband won't french kiss me, why?
Q. My husband will not french kiss me at all. He did when we were dating we have been married 5 years I can count on one hand the times he has kiss me. It is usually just a peck on the lips or cheek. Even during sex he doesnt kiss me at all. He has ...
A. 2 July 2008: This is difficult, because there's a very good chance that he does love you deeply. He simply isn't into all the physical stuff, and some people just aren't or just go off it. The urge for sexual intimacy that most of us have isn't there for ... (read in full...)
I just found out that he cheated on me...do we still have a chance of being together?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 14month now and we have set a date to get married wich is next year but i recently found out he cheated on me with my best friends little sister i feel so disapointed and let down do you think we still have a chance ...
A. 1 July 2008: There are men who cheat, and will always cheat however much they assure you they will never do it again.
There is also a rarer breed of cheater, who makes a mistake and who really does realise how bad that mistake was and how much he has to lose.... (read in full...)
How can I tell my partner that its my time of the month??
Q. I am a very private and personal person. The dilema is that I'm not sure how to tell my lover when its that time of the month. I usually just avoid him for those few days but he's recently been away for a month and wants to be intimate but I ...
A. 1 July 2008: The traditional way to tell him is "Not tonight, dear. I have a headache."
But I suppose that was in the days before ladies discussed such matters, and men were supposed to be too ignorant of the workings of a woman's body to understa... (read in full...)
My penis burns after having unprotected sex. What should I do?
Q. i had unprotected sex with a woman last night, now my penis burns on the inside, not when i urinate or ejaculate just all the time, it fades in and fades out but is pretty constant.. what is this and what should i do?????...
A. 1 July 2008: I must correct the first anonymous reply.
Genital herpes does NOT normally produce symptoms within 48 hours. Its incubation period varies from two days to two weeks, but may not display symptoms until very much later.
That's a fact, not an opi... (read in full...)
What responsibility do you have to someone cheating on their husband?
Q. This question is theoretical... You have a very good friend, who is married, and she is cheating on her husband with another man. At a party, the lover makes a full out pass at you (because he figures all this woman's friends cheat too...)....
A. 1 July 2008: Absolutely nothing.
You do an impression of the three wise monkeys - see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil.
Whatever you do will be wrong. So let them all sort it out between them. It might feel wrong to ignore it, but it's all going t... (read in full...)
What sort of behavior is my boyfriend displaying?
Q. My B\F does the following * Criticizes the mess i make in bathroom before i have chance to clean up * Criticizes how I prepare food, wash up, dry etc * Gets irritated if i leave a cup on table without coaster * complains if i get crumbs on th...
A. 1 July 2008: There's a very scientific name for his behaviour, and it's one of the disorders that has been recognised by the medical community (and others) for longer than almost any other problem.
He's an arsehole. (That's "asshole" if you are... (read in full...)
My penis burns after having unprotected sex. What should I do?
Q. i had unprotected sex with a woman last night, now my penis burns on the inside, not when i urinate or ejaculate just all the time, it fades in and fades out but is pretty constant.. what is this and what should i do?????...
A. 1 July 2008: The good news is that it's highly unlikely to be any sort of sexually transmitted infection from sex last night. It would be extremely unusual for any symptoms to appear in less than 48 hours at the minimum.
If it doesn't stop within a day or s... (read in full...)
How do I make the top of my penis less sensitive?
Q. how do i make the top of my penis less sensitive?...
A. 1 July 2008: Check this thread from not too long ago. Maybe it's a "too sensitive penis day" today.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/if-i-make-my-penis-less-sensisitve-can.html... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him. He's my best friend and I can't cope - Help!
Q. I've been in love with someone who has grown to be my best friend over the course of the last year. We met online, and met in person this time last year. Since then he has had a string of boyfriends, all of which failed, and he blames me for those ...
A. 1 July 2008: If he has told you that a relationship with you makes him "uncomfortable" then all you're doing is creating more and more heartache for yourself.
It's tough, but for your own sanity you need to try to move on.
It might feel impossible that ... (read in full...)
She's changed for the worse, should I just stop talking to her?
Q. I recently parted from My girlfriend it was a mutual decision. I am 8 years older than her, I am 27 she is 19. We were dating for two years, and when we first started dating she was a shell. She came from a very abusive childhood, her mum is an ...
A. 1 July 2008: I would suggest that you only want to go on talking to her if you can keep your feet very firmly on the ground.
You know what she is like. You know she can be convincing and even manipulative. She probably needs friends, but she most definite... (read in full...)
My husband keeps hinting that I have sex with his brother, who I have been attracted to for years now; what do I do?
Q. My husband and I moved in with his younger brother (12 years younger) a few months ago. He and his wife are in the process of getting a divorce and we agreed to move in to help each other out with bills, etc.My husband and I have been together for ...
A. 1 July 2008: Don't be daft, and don't let your husband be daft. You know that if it happens then sooner or later it's going to cause all sorts of problems in your marriage, however much your husband thinks he's all right about it now.
Like you said, you and ... (read in full...)
Is heartburn a sign of pregnancy
Q. is heartburn a sign of pregnancy...
A. 30 June 2008: Oh help.
I must be pregnant.
... (read in full...)
When is watching porn considered an addiction?? I'd love to hear LIERON's views....
Q. Thank you guys for responding to my question: Is it normal for him to want other women? I'd love to hear what LIERON has to say-she seems pretty liberal about porn. I forgot to mention that he masturbates to porn daily, sometimes more, when is ...
A. 28 June 2008: Porn is something that some people enjoy intensely. And like anything that people enjoy intensely, it can become an addiction for some people. For most, it's no more than a bit of pleasure.
It's far less addictive than most of the illegal ... (read in full...)
I am suppose to be going on a date tonight, but I don't feel the want to go? I don't know why
Q. I met a guy 2 weeks ago at my local pub. We've kept in touch by txt. I am suppose to be going out tonight with him. He is 30, 7 years younger than me. We have nothing in common, he likes to drink frequently, used to do drugs, and doesn't have any ...
A. 28 June 2008: You could tell him the truth, but then you risk the "so horse riding is more important than me?", even if he doesn't actually say it. So tell him a little "white lie".
Telephone him and tell him you're not feeling well and you're ever so sorry bu... (read in full...)
What can I do about my suicidal ex boyfriend?
Q. What can I do about my suicidal ex boyfriend? We broke up on Wednesday after a year and as a result he took an overdose and has been in hospital since. I've visited him every day because I feel responsible, he says he's going to change for me so ...
A. 27 June 2008: You don't give in to blackmail - emotional or otherwise. He's got a problem, but in the end the best you're going to achieve by being there for him now is to delay what's going to happen regardless of what you do - simply because you're too close... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to mastubate to my crush??
Q. i think i have a problem...i tend to masterbate when i think about him, because i dont want to have sex before i am married i cant have intercourse with him... and i lack attention, and romance since i havent had a bf, and he just came and filled ...
A. 27 June 2008: I don't think it's a problem. Masturbation is generally a fairly healthy activity, and what or who you think about when you do it is absolutely and completely your own business - even when you're in a relationship. Very, very few people never ... (read in full...)
He has never tried anything with me...but whenever I see him there are lovebites on his neck...whats going on!??!
Q. hello there, I have a really puzzling situation atm, ive been sort of seeing this lad hes 19 gorgeous has his own place and is really nice to me. when we first met i thought id start off our friendship or relationship with being honest and i ...
A. 27 June 2008: Well, obviously if there are lovebites on his neck then someone is biting his neck...
It doesn't seem to bother you too much? You seem more concerned that he has never tried anything with you.
He likes you, or he wouldn't ask you round. Righ... (read in full...)
A text is just a text... or is it?
Q. hi i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and about 2 years ago he cheated on me. i decided to forgive me we are all humns and i believe we al deserve a second chance so i forgave him. but mving on our relationship just like many other has ups ...
A. 26 June 2008: Indeed, shyness21. A text is only a text, in exactly the same way that a woman is only a woman - but a good cigar is a smoke.... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to masterbate every day?
Q. is it wrong if i masterbate everyday?? my friends say it is wierd for girls to masterbate...but i dont see why guys can and not girls?? so is it healthy if i masterbate everyday??...
A. 25 June 2008: It's normal. Traditionally it's not something that "ladies" talk about or admit to. It's not "refined" and "ladylike" if you believe such old fashioned nonsense!
I think it goes right back to the days when English Victorian ladies (and no doubt... (read in full...)
Although I can get really hot guys, I am attrackted to nerds... what do I do?
Q. hey the problem with me is very weird..i am in the first year of college and i am having an awsome year i was recently voted as the fresh face of the year and the best model in the whole college,i have guys after me,the hot ones,that includes the ...
A. 25 June 2008: Nerds are good.
Geeky people who spend a lot of time on their computers and/or reading/writing, and wear spectacles?
Yup. That describes me. And I'm married to the hottest woman who ever walked the face of the earth.
If you like nerds the... (read in full...)
I have a phobia about tattoos on women. How do I get rid of it?
Q. Help i have a phobia about tattoos on women. I don't no where it comes from but if i see a tatoo on a woman i feel repulsion. I'm not a sexist i embrace the modern woman, its just this one thing that bugs me. Why do i feel this? Do other people feel ...
A. 25 June 2008: Yes, I know exactly what you mean.
It's not a "phobia" for me, but I really dislike seeing a tattoo on a woman, although I suppose it's not actually any different from her wearing particular clothes or jewellery. I really find it a complete... (read in full...)
My penis and scrotum are 'shedding'! What is this and can I treat it at home?
Q. Ok, this is a bit emberassing, but my penis and (for lack of a better term) 'ball sack," are both having the same problem:they're "shedding." They're covered in dry skin, and some of it keeps coming off. what could this mean? Is it seri...
A. 25 June 2008: It's probably nothing to worry about, but worth consulting a doctor to make sure.
The chances are that it is only dryness of the skin, and a cream or skin oil to stop the skin drying out is all that's needed. A doctor would recommend the best pro... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my bf chatting to other females online?
Q. My boyfriend goes online to chat wit other females. is that cheating? I argue with him about it all the time and he says that im over reacting.Am i over reacting or is this the beginnning to something that can escalate into big problems?...
A. 25 June 2008: It can escalate into a problem, but rarely a big problem.
Having friends online, whether they are the opposite sex or not, doesn't have to be very different from having friends at work or at the local bar or club or wherever. In fact, from a r... (read in full...)
Porn or prostitution? Which is worse?
Q. Is porn more degrading than prostitution? Just wondering what peeps opinions are.do you think that been a porn star or working in a brothel is more degrading? serious answers please...
A. 24 June 2008: Neither needs to be degrading. Both or either can be degrading.
I'd suggest that you don't try either as a way of making money...... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex if you are taking anti-biotics?
Q. Hey guys! I never asked my doctor the last time i went.. I just wana know if is it safe to have sex if you are taking anti-biotics? Won't it affect your partner's health or your's in any way? Your reply will be very much appreciated....
A. 24 June 2008: Ah, just seen your update.
Yes, some antibiotics do this although not the ones commonly given and for those that might the effect is usually only temporary. They can also disrupt your normal body cycles.
There is also some research that cl... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex if you are taking anti-biotics?
Q. Hey guys! I never asked my doctor the last time i went.. I just wana know if is it safe to have sex if you are taking anti-biotics? Won't it affect your partner's health or your's in any way? Your reply will be very much appreciated....
A. 24 June 2008: Yes, it's safe.
No, it won't affect your health or your partner's health.
Use a condom. Stop if you feel ill and don't make it TOO energetic (probably not the best time to be swinging from the crystal chandeliers or leaping onto him from th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is begging me to have sex with him, What should I do?
Q. I am 13 years old, my boyfriend and I have known each other since we were 4 but we only started dating last year. My b/f and i are really close, but he keeps begging me to have sex with him. I trust him alot, but i'm not sure what to do. Please h...
A. 24 June 2008: It's not a matter of trusting him, and it's not a matter of how close you are. It's not even really a matter of how old you are, although quite apart from the rules about how old you are supposed to be, the younger you start the more likely you are ... (read in full...)
How can I make my brother's wife have sex with me?
Q. How I can make my brother's wife to have sex with me?...
A. 24 June 2008: Try the answers given here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-sleep-with-my-sister-in.html... (read in full...)
Who here is against recreational sex? Any antisexuals?
Q. I know several asexuals but only a handful of antisexuals. It's disheartening that I often feel I am alone on this. While asexuality is gaining acceptance, people ridicule those who are against sex. The only sex I am not against is proc...
A. 24 June 2008: Why?
If the basis of your philosophy is that everyone has a bad experience with sex then, quite simply, you're wrong.
You might possibly have a valid argument that by avoiding sex you can allow your mind to focus on "higher things" - on the... (read in full...)
I'm I going to be pressured to have sex from all these boys?
Q. i am nearly 14 and i am underpresser about having sex! there are soo many sexy lads that i know, and most of them have asked me out, i have only went out with 1 of them, and there is 9 more lads that have asked me out. the one i went out with said ...
A. 23 June 2008: Many more boys say they've had sex than actually have - but don't make a mistake about that, because nearly ALL of them want it even though many are far too nervous at that age to do it.
Don't take any notice of what boys ask you to do. Do only ... (read in full...)
Do all men manipulate you when you are vulnerable?
Q. I have found in two long term relationships with men that as I get to know them and I start to talk more openly about my feelings and vulnerable aspects of my thoughts or personality they use those very things to either undermine me in an argument ...
A. 23 June 2008: In my experience, there are more women who are manipulative than men - and a manipulative woman does it very much more effectively than a manipulative man.
The only answer I've found is not to open up the areas that make you vulnerable to manipula... (read in full...)
He makes un-PC jokes. Do I have to feel uncomfortable all the time, or can I make him censor himself?
Q. Hi guys, I'm pretty stressed out about my situation. I'm a very P.C. person, I always think about the bigger picture of what people say, and every once in a while my bf says things or makes jokes that make me really uncomfortable and I think ar...
A. 22 June 2008: Hum. (Which is always a good start when it's going to be an answer made up more of random thoughts then any real answer.)
A few things to ask yourself:
What makes you PC? Why is it important to you?
Why is what he says in his jokes so un-... (read in full...)
My 6 year old caught my husband and I in the bedroom having sex, what do I tell her??
Q. my daughter who is 6 years old walked in the bedroom while me and her dad was having sex and said what are you doing and what i do and tell her?...
A. 22 June 2008: Hey! It's FAR easier than to explain than if you were doing things with rubber, leather, whips and handcuffs (etc - I'm not an expert on the whole range of possibilities).
In which case, dusky's lock on the door is a requirement, not an option.... (read in full...)
How can she relax so I can give her oral sex?
Q. Okay so my Lady is great and she does it all for me. What I really want is to do it for her. I want to give her great Oral sex but she is to tickleish down there. When I try and go down on her she squeezes her thighs on my head and screams due to ...
A. 22 June 2008: Try it with her on top - kneeling over you while you're lying on your back. Let her control it.
Just be careful you don't suffocate!... (read in full...)
A close friend is doing drugs. What should I do?
Q. okay. so here latley i found out that somebody im really close to is doing drugs. and i dont no what to do. cause i hate it and i want to tell them how i feel but im scared to cause i dont no what there reaction is going to be. should i tell them. ...
A. 22 June 2008: How close? And what sort of drugs?
These sort of things are very much a question of "degree". I assume you mean illegal drugs, but even so there is a world of difference between, for example, smoking the occasional joint of cannabis and injectin... (read in full...)
Is holding hands just friendship?
Q. Was wondering what do you all think about holding hands, when someone does this is it just them being friendly or does it usually mean something more. Be good to get all your opinions on this!...
A. 22 June 2008: Yes it can be friendship.
Yes it can be something more.
Some people can't cope with physical contact like holding hands without it "meaning" something. Others love to hold hands with friends, and they don't imagine that it could be seen as... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but I'm in love with a married man... I know it's wrong, how do I stop?
Q. hi. i have multiple questions that may not make sense for me to ask but please i prefered answered by you. i am in a relationship with this single guy for almost two years now. he says he loves me but i just dont feel it in his words nor action.N...
A. 22 June 2008: You're making your relationships complicated.
"Passionate", "loving", "caring" and "sweet", nice as they might be, are not enough. Truth, honesty and commitment are essential components of a workable relationship - and although I don't mean tha... (read in full...)
So confused! Does he like me?
Q. its my birthday in 1 week and 6 days and i invited th guy im in love with. i still duno if he loves me back he doesent tell me fa!! he told his friend he likes me sometimes just not all the time part of me understands this because im the only one ...
A. 22 June 2008: Love, proper love that's going to last, usually takes time. Also, it's rare that the lasting love starts with someone you've met and "loved" in your teens, although it's certainly not impossible.
Obviously he likes you. Obviously you like him... (read in full...)
Wrist injury. Anyone had one and can advise me?
Q. Grrrrrr not a relationship question, but i wonder if anyone can help. I punched someone in self defence about 5 or 6 weeks ago. Wish i hadn't now because its done me no good!Woke the next day with a painful wrist. Thought its probably a sprain s...
A. 21 June 2008: Oh hum.
Good luck.
I'm sure it will be all right... and I don't want to panic you when it's probably completely unnecessary... BUT watch out for inflammation, bruising spreading, pains in other parts of your hand/arm, numb fingers etc etc.... (read in full...)
If I look at another guy's penis out of curiosity, does it mean I am gay?
Q. iam 16 years old, sometimes i have some curiousity to look at other's guy's penis !but i am not gay i wondered if is it mean that i am gay or someting ?and if is it a normal thing ?plz helpe me guys and thanks ...
A. 21 June 2008: Being curious about another guy's penis means you're curious about another guy's penis.
What would you rather look at, a naked man or a naked woman?
... (read in full...)
Wrist injury. Anyone had one and can advise me?
Q. Grrrrrr not a relationship question, but i wonder if anyone can help. I punched someone in self defence about 5 or 6 weeks ago. Wish i hadn't now because its done me no good!Woke the next day with a painful wrist. Thought its probably a sprain s...
A. 18 June 2008: Go to your GP first. The A&E will probably turn you away if the injury didn't happen in the last 24 hours unless it's life-threatening - that's what they do here, I know from experience! The GP should refer you to the hospital by a telephone call ... (read in full...)
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