How can I get rid of really bad breath?
Q. Hi okay this is pretty embarassing, I have had really bad breath for a while maybe like a week or something... anyways I have tried so many remedies like tongue scraping, mouthwash, chewing parsley, and many others and it just isn't working!! My ...
A. 28 July 2008: Look up "tonsil stones" or "tonsiloliths" (check spelling). They're one of the most frequent causes of bad breath, and particularly common in young adults. Try to avoid eating anything for an hour or so before you go to bed, and have a good, cle... (read in full...)
Are we safe using pull-out for birth control? Is it normal to have several orgasms in a row?
Q. I have a couple of questions. First and foremost, my fiance and I have only been having sex for a couple of weeks now. We were originally waiting to be married but it randomly kind of happened one night. That aside, he finds it less romantic an...
A. 28 July 2008: Quite definitely, positively, 100% confirmed, you are MORE likely to get pregnant if he pulls out before ejaculation than if he doesn't.
It is not a "safe method of contraception". Quite the reverse.
Sperm IS released before ejaculation. Sp... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my fear of attention from boys?
Q. Im 15 and really confused. i never have boyfriends enymore and it puts me on a all time low. Plus to make it worse i have never properly snogged a boy.All my friends have and they have done other things too. i gt scared when i get attention from ...
A. 27 July 2008: Snogging isn't all it's cracked up to be. Neither, for that matter, is sex - although I know that wasn't your question, and quite rightly too.
Don't get stressed about it. I'll tell you what IS very much better than snogging (or sex) with one... (read in full...)
I can't get my mind off this married guy who kissed me and it's affecting both my work and my relationship!!
Q. I'm a grown adult in a comitted long term relationship and I've recently found myself sliding back into the world of the teenage crush! I currently live with my partner of four years, and we are very happy in our relationship. About a year ago...
A. 27 July 2008: So enjoy the fantasy and forget the reality.
There must be hundreds of thousands of people who kiss at work in a moment of silliness (and, obviously, lust!) and it never goes any further. You're not unique. It's those who can't assign it to th... (read in full...)
Would it be easier to kiss her at the club, when we are all drunk?
Q. its our results night soon and everyone is goin to this one club. The girl i've liked for many years will be there. I know everyone will be drunk, do you think it would be a good idea just to kiss her there? It would be easier wouldn't it after ...
A. 27 July 2008: Yes, sure, you'll find it easier when you are drunk, because being drunk helps you get over your nervousness and your inhibitions.
In other words, you feel comfortable doing things when you're drunk that you would be too nervous to do when you... (read in full...)
My friends are away during holidays and I'm tired of being alone, what can I do?
Q. my best friends and my brother are on holiday, my parents are working full time everyday, my boyfriend dumped me and all other family members are a billion miles away...all i have are my dogs and my horses basically. I'm usually okay with being on m...
A. 26 July 2008: Being alone and coping with it is a skill that nearly all of us have to learn at some point in our lives. It can be tough, but once you get that skill so it doesn't worry you any more is an achievement you can be proud of if you can do it. That... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was so young when someone took advantage of her - and now she's still defending him. What do you think?
Q. A male United States age 18-21, flyboy275 writes: Hey guys, Well i have a wonderful girlfriend that is most definately the best thing that has ever happened to me! This much i promise.....but i have a problem...... I have come on ...
A. 25 July 2008: I wonder whether she is defending him, or defending herself from the problems you have accepting her past?
I also wonder whether she needs closure, or whether it's you who wants closure?
Is dealing with her past a problem for her - or only fo... (read in full...)
My mum is taking my stepbrother on holiday. Is she disowning me?
Q. My mum and dad are divorced and i have a new step brother who is 15. My mum seems to dislike me for some reason and i have treated her a bit unfairly over the years but she seems to act jealous of me or something. Recently she asked me to go on ...
A. 25 July 2008: No, she's not jealous of you. And no, she's not disowning you.
You know very well that teenagers, almost all teenagers, are difficult - by which I mean that they don't see eye-to-eye with their parents. That's natural. It's all about testing ... (read in full...)
Can a man love his wife and keep outside affairs seperate, and be content and happy?
Q. I have been with my husband for 18 years, who never wanted to get married in the first place. He was and is a player ever since I had met him. When I gave him an ultimatum. he married me after dating for 10 years. Anyway, He had many affairs ...
A. 25 July 2008: No, he's not normal. But no, he's not sick either.
A few, a very few men can manage to do this sort of thing without feeling any less for their partners, and a very few, even fewer, wives can accept it and put up with it.
If he's been doing ... (read in full...)
Tempted by a married man, what should I do?
Q. Hi Everyone! Any help with this situation would be muchly appreciated! For years I have liked this guy who is 16yrs older than me and married =(, i tried my best to forget about him, but everytime i saw him it was back to square one. One day ...
A. 25 July 2008: You say you don't know what to do to forget him?
Don't forget him. Make him part of your fantasies like you might fantasise about a celebrity who you see regularly on television (or that completely fictional "perfect lover" who is somewher... (read in full...)
My problem is I don't enjoy sex although, according to the women I have been with, I am good in the bedroom.
Q. I'm a 23 year old guy. And my problem, put simply, is that i don't enjoy sex. Ever sinec i was a kid i wanted that sort of "fairy tale" experience. Since then though, i've learned to know better through a series of heartbreaks and backstabs tha...
A. 25 July 2008: You are "good at sex" because you aren't concentrating on your own pleasure, only hers. You don't expect to enjoy it, therefore you don't enjoy it, therefore you don't have the distraction of needing to enjoy it.
There's a famous quotatio... (read in full...)
Can you have an STD if you're a virgin?
Q. Is it possible to have an STD when you're a virgin? Beside crabs and scabies and such. Just curious......
A. 24 July 2008: No. Obviously you can't. If you don't have sex, then any disease you catch hasn't been sexually transmitted.
BUT you can get numerous diseases from close contact with another person that aren't sexually transmitted. AND some diseases that ARE... (read in full...)
People were worried about me. Now I'm geting worried myself. Do I need a psychiatrist?
Q. This is going to sound wierd, but people are concerned about my mental health and to be honest, so am I. I am VERY paranoid, if something happens I DO take it the wrong way every time, so that it ends up like things are against me.I panic easily, ...
A. 20 July 2008: No, I don't think you have anything wrong mentally, and I don't think you need a psychiatrist. You need a good long talk with one of your parents or with a teacher.
You're in the 13-15 age group, right? Well, you write intelligently, accurate... (read in full...)
What do I do about the left over food I keep throwing in my neighbor's yard?
Q. i have a problem with throwing things in my neighbors yard...not actual litter, but things like hamburger rolls, half eaten peaches etc...i got in the habit of doing this in the beginning of the summer and now I'm afraid my neighbors are gonna get ...
A. 20 July 2008: I can't believe the irresponsible answers (or the moderators that let them through...).
Right. Serious answer. It's a fairly anti-social activity, isn't it? They are going to know it's you anyway. So arm yourself with rubbish sack and (if the ... (read in full...)
He asked if I would wear a strap on and take him from behind?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months now. We were fine at first but now.... He has started asking really difficult sexual favours from me. He recently asked me if i would wear and strap on and take him from behind?!?! I didnt know what ...
A. 17 July 2008: If you're not happy with it, then tell him you're not happy with it. Tell him doing anything like that makes you feel uncomfortable. If he can't understand that and accept it, then he's not the right man for you.
But don't misunderstand him. An... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stares at other women... should I be worried?
Q. My fiance and I are preparing to get married next year. We live together and are very much in love. The thing that bothers me is that whenever we are driving places together... he stares so much at other women. He stares into cars, women walking ...
A. 17 July 2008: If it bothers you, tell him it bothers you.
Some people get really annoyed by it, and for others it doesn't bother them at all.
I do it - look at women. My wife just takes the p***. "There's a nice woman for you," she points out with a big g... (read in full...)
I embraced Christianity, but I still have the urge to be a swinger. Can anyone help me?
Q. Wow this is scary, but I just thought it would be easier then going to a counselor or something. Before I gave my heart to Christ, my very beautiful and yes sexy wife and I played around with the thoughts of swinging. After we be came Christian we ...
A. 17 July 2008: Swinging, or threesomes, don't work for most people - although a few do manage that sort of lifestyle along with a lasting relationship. Too often they think it sounds exciting and it ends up damaging the relationship.
As I see it, the whole po... (read in full...)
Help wanted: extra agony aunts/uncles required
Q. I've been a member of this site for a while now, and from what I've seen here, I can conclude almost every agony aunt/uncle here is a good person: someone who likes to help out, to dish out wisdom by the barrel. I have thoroughly enjoyed adding to ...
A. 17 July 2008: Well said!
I think there are a number of issues with the replies to questions on a site like this, primarily because anyone can post their views and unless a reply is obviously unhelpful, abusive or otherwise detrimental to the asker of the ques... (read in full...)
Just how risky is the 'pull out' method?
Q. Hi, My partner and I have sex all the time without using protection. I am waiting for my next period to get an implamon though (maybe). I'm also more then aware of the invention of condoms so this is not the advice I am looking for. What I ...
A. 15 July 2008: Very risky. Extremely risky.
In fact, some researchers advise trying pulling out for couples who WANT to get pregnant - which all has something to do with the few sperm that are usually released before ejaculation being more likely to reach th... (read in full...)
How did you meet your partner?
Q. Hi everyone, I've had a lot on my mind today so to lighten the mood I wanted to find out somthing dreamy. You see, every guy I have ever been with I have met after a big night at a party or the pub/club. Im not an alco or anything I just like (well ...
A. 15 July 2008: 1978. A small town in East Germany.
The door burst open.
“What the hell do you think you’re doing?”
The voice was sharp and furious. And English.
I looked round, pausing what I was doing for a moment.
She looked completely... (read in full...)
How can I tell him we need to have more sex if we want to have a baby?
Q. My boyfriend and I would love to have a child somewhere in the near future but we have one problem, we hardly ever have sex. If my period is late he gets all excited but I know that I cant be pregnant because we barely had any sex that month. Take...
A. 15 July 2008: More sex is good, and this is something you may need to work on with him - but it's NOT a case of "more sex gets you pregnant".
In fact, less sex but getting the timing exactly right is far more likely to get you pregnant than more sex - particul... (read in full...)
He probably doesn't like me. Should I tell him how I feel anyway?
Q. Hello. I have a question about the relationship with my friend. I have liked him for over a year now. He's liked me in the past, but he might have moved on. He's not willing to date me, however. Or anyone for that matter. Afraid of commitment maybe? ...
A. 15 July 2008: Is there anything to lose by telling him? What's the worst that's going to happen?
If you don't take the chance then you'll never know for sure how he feels.... (read in full...)
Slept with a few girls but too scared to go to the clinic for a check?
Q. I've slept with a few girls, but too scared to go to clinic what should i do?...
A. 15 July 2008: Just go to the clinic for a check. Nothing to be scared of.
NOT going to the clinic IS something to be scared of.... (read in full...)
Working through it, or break up. Your views please?
Q. I recently read a post on your site, it was from a man whose girlfriend had cheated on him and it was said that after 2 or so years he still hadn’t gotten over it. The advice on this site was if he hasn’t gotten over it in that length of time he ...
A. 14 July 2008: I don't think you need to forgive or forget, but you need to be able to accept that it happened and to work on your relationship without the whole thing being constant suspicion or permanent blame. As you say, you can't dwell on the past forever - ... (read in full...)
I'm not worried about this other girl, but does this plan sound good with my ex?
Q. Just to start off I have a deep love for my ex and now we're planning to get back together but there's a catch. You see he doesn't have much trust towards women due to what many have done him wroung including myself. So he's been talkin to someo...
A. 12 July 2008: Threeway relationships rarely work, although a very few people do manage them successfully.
The odds of it working are really against it - and being bisexual or all having separate rooms doesn't necessarily help. Unless you have a real love for... (read in full...)
Men, can you recount about your relationships with younger females?
Q. Older men (i.e. 30 and up)...have you ever considered a relationship with a significantly younger female? (I am not asking for petafiles to respond.) Did you pursue the relationship? If so, what convinced you to? If not, what were the rea...
A. 12 July 2008: Yes.
No, I didn't pursue it.
Why not? Because I'm married, and I value my relationship with my wife above anything else.
And no, I have no regrets. The relationship was neither physical nor spoken. It didn't need to be. It was enou... (read in full...)
Every lad thinks I'm ugly and its really getting me down. Will I ever find a boyfriend??
Q. Ok, so Im 15 and every lad I know thinks Im ugly. Even the ones who, themselves never get girlfriends, call me ugly. It really, really gets me down. They dont count my personality or how well we get on for anything. I DO have a nice body and my ...
A. 11 July 2008: What attracts boys most, particularly as they start to mature a bit, is a little complicated - but it's most definitely NOT just about good looks.
I'm sure you don't look half as bad as you seem to think you do. Let's put it bluntly: you're f... (read in full...)
I don't even like him watching television if there's a girl with a short skirt on!!
Q. I have been with my boyfreind for 1 year and 3 months. i often argue with him because i have become so paranoid! he does'nt look at girls but my mind thinks that he is. i don't even like him watching television if theres a girl with a short skir...
A. 11 July 2008: You're going to have to accept it. It's not paranoia, it's fact. Boys, and men, look at girls.
If you find a boy who says he never looks at another girl and enjoys what he sees, then he's lying.
Where you are wrong is to think that it wi... (read in full...)
I hate myself for cheating, but I cannot seem to stop! I need to understand why I am doing this...
Q. Ok, i know people will have little sympathy for me but I cannot stay faithful. My parents died when I was 3 and I was raised by my aunt and uncle who never really had much time for me. They were'nt affectionate and in some ways seemed to resent...
A. 11 July 2008: Nearly everyone is capable of staying faithful, much in the same way that nearly everyone is capable of avoiding anti-social actions like stealing. You write clearly and intelligently, and I don't believe you have some sort of mental disturbance ... (read in full...)
We had a quarrel via the phone and now he switched his mobile off. I am tempted to talk to his mother, help?
Q. Basically ... I was going to meet up with my boyfriend today. 10 minutes before I get on the bus, he calls to tell me that he's not ready, and wants to put it forward by a day. We see each other every 2-3 weeks. I flipped ... kinda, I was probably...
A. 11 July 2008: Are you saying that what you really want to do is to apologise to him for over-reacting?
I'd say that it's quite understandable you were annoyed with him, and you really don't have a lot to apologise for. But I guess that would be a case of "win ... (read in full...)
I have made an appointment to see my doctor but I want some peace of mind until then from any nurses/doctors...
Q. Health question for any nurses/docs-i know its a long shot...Sorry to bother you with this but im getting so paranoid.. I am 25 When i was 3 years old i was diagnosed with an innocent heart murmur-its nothing to worry about and i have led a nor...
A. 10 July 2008: I'm not a nurse. I'm not a doctor. I have a little medical training, although this isn't an area I can really claim expertise. But I know some of the basics.
As I understand it, you say that the ECG picked up a thickening of the heart muscle. ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend, and now I'm confused about what to do
Q. I am so confused right now. I have a boyfriend of nearly eight months, and last week I met this guy who is totally cute who likes me back. I bumped into him yesterday and we swapped numbers, we hung out for a bit and then he invited me back to h...
A. 10 July 2008: It's not exactly the affair of the century, is it?
Would I be right in thinking that you feel guilty not because of what you did (which is almost nothing) but because of what you would like to have done?
If you really want to stay with your b... (read in full...)
My girlfriend accused me of domestic abuse. Does she have a point?
Q. My girlfriend and i have not been getting along so well recently. She has recently accused me of domestic abuse which i have denied..... however i looked up the term and am now unsure as to whether my behaviour could be termed as such...... i have ...
A. 10 July 2008: Hey, you have to learn to chill out and accept that no one is perfect in any relationship, and it doesn't do you or her any good at all to behave the way you say you are behaving when your partner does something that you aren't 100% happy about.
... (read in full...)
Are my feelings overriding my common sense? Is it too early for sex after only one month together?
Q. O.k i'm nearly 17 and i've been with my boyfriend almost a month. When we were younger we went out for about eight months but it is only recently that we rekindled our relationship and i have to say the past month he has made me sooooo happy. We h...
A. 9 July 2008: It's not something that anyone can tell you.
The right time is when you both feel it's the right time.
My "gut feeling" is that for a relationship that's going to last it doesn't hurt to wait a little longer. A month is not too long, even t... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and my girlfriend is VERY experienced whereas I worry a lot. What to do in the event we do have oral sex?
Q. Alright,even though some of this may sound wrong,I'm going to be completely honest about everything. I'm 15 years old in 3 months,and I have really low confidence in myself.I have a girlfriend and we've been dating for a month now. She's had seve...
A. 9 July 2008: Do what you feel comfortable doing. If it doesn't feel 100% comfortable, then don't do it or don't let her do it.
For a start you can get any ideas out of your head like those that seem to be worrying you. No, your penis is not too small. ... (read in full...)
He texted me 80 messages, but still, my confidence level is low, does he really like me or what?
Q. And please dnt tell me its in his kiss lol! im having this problem with a guy in work that i really really like we have had many converstaions about the whole situation and he totally knows how much i like him! he has told me that he is totally fl...
A. 9 July 2008: So this poor guy has sent you 80 texts and still you're not sure that he likes you?
Of course he likes you. Right now you're the best thing since sliced bread as far as he's concerned. What do you need? Jam on it too? You're driving him craz... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to act around my parent's friends, any advice?
Q. i am nervous about seeing a show with my parent's friends because I don't know them and never seen them before. I'm nervous because i'm afraid that they might talk bad about me, criticize me, laugh at me. What should I do? Since my parents told me ...
A. 9 July 2008: Firstly, it really doesn't matter what your parents' friends think about you or say about you. We're a funny lot, adults, but as long as you don't start swearing, shouting or doing the most embarrassing things in public then I'm quite sure they ... (read in full...)
I think my gay boss fancies me. Am I imagining it?
Q. Hi I'm a straight man, 21, but I think that my gay boss (24) fancies me. Even though he has said in the past that he doesn't believe in relationships between work collegues I think he's showing signs that suggest otherwise throughout the last few ...
A. 9 July 2008: It doesn't have to be a problem, does it? So he (probably) finds you attractive, just like a million straight bosss find one or more of their female staff attractive. It only becomes a problem if you make it a problem or if he "tries it on" - and ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my cousin, and now my period is three weeks late.
Q. I have a HUGE problem. I have a great steady boyfriend of almost 4 months, and I'm pretty sure I love him. The problem is, one night i got really, really drunk (my first time drinking). I've always had a thing for my cousin who is a few years older ...
A. 8 July 2008: Yes you have a problem. With a bit of luck your period is late because you're stressed, and not because you are pregnant. Go get a pregnancy test before you start panicking.
If the pregnancy test is positive, I would recommend talking to your ... (read in full...)
The top of my penis hurts when I touch it. Am I normal?
Q. Im 14 years old. And worried if masturbating every day is a problem, aslo whilest my foreskin is back the top of my penis hurts when i touch it. is this normal?? ...
A. 8 July 2008: The top of your penis is very sensitive, and yes it's not unusual for it to hurt a little if you touch it. It will become less sensitive as you get older - the thin membrane of skin that when you're young tends to stick to your finger when you ... (read in full...)
Computer Trouble, Or Is He Ignoring Me?
Q. I met a man on my holiday and we said we would stay friends. At first5 he ansawered my e mails but now he isnt so I can take it as a brush off. However If I sent e mails and they werent getting to him would it come back as undeliverable or not ...
A. 8 July 2008: Mails can get "lost in the system".
If he, or his Internet Service Provider, or his company techies if it's a business mail address/mail server, have an over-enthusiastic anti-spam filter, which is quite common these days with the amount of spam ... (read in full...)
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