My lie came to light and now my husband wants nothing to do with me.
Q. My husband left me last year because of a lie I told about my past. I have apologied for this over and over but he will have nothing more to do with me and is filing for divorce. I have tried calling, writing letters and everything but he will not ...
A. 9 June 2008: I think he would have been absolutely furious. I think that would have been most men's immediate reaction.
From what you say, I don't believe that's the primary problem - and I think that after twelve years of marriage most men would calm dow... (read in full...)
My lie came to light and now my husband wants nothing to do with me.
Q. My husband left me last year because of a lie I told about my past. I have apologied for this over and over but he will have nothing more to do with me and is filing for divorce. I have tried calling, writing letters and everything but he will not ...
A. 6 June 2008: Um, actually, no.
No one could condone this man's behaviour, but neither could anyone condone marrying him when you were still married. And not telling him. Your marriage to him was illegal, invalid and bigamous.
I disagree with Wa... (read in full...)
I have troubles coming to terms with that my boyfriend will always love his child more than me. I don't understand the concept of he loves his child in a very different way - to all parents out there - how different does it feel?
Q. I'm really struggling with something at the moment which i am reluctant to admit to anyone. My boyfriend has a child and i am struggling to come to terms with "The child must come first". Obviously i understand that a man/woman should love their ...
A. 6 June 2008: Yes, children always come first. Country Woman said it all.
But what you need to make sure is that his child coming first is not to the exclusion of you. If you are part of his life then you should become a real part of it - a part that he takes... (read in full...)
My lie came to light and now my husband wants nothing to do with me.
Q. My husband left me last year because of a lie I told about my past. I have apologied for this over and over but he will have nothing more to do with me and is filing for divorce. I have tried calling, writing letters and everything but he will not ...
A. 6 June 2008: If your lie was over something that you knew would be a major problem to him, something serious enough for him not to have married you in the first place, then realistically there's not a lot you can do other than accept what has happened.
But y... (read in full...)
Is he just using me to experiment with things he's always wanted to do?
Q. I've been seeing this guy and things are beginning to get serious. The other night he told me that his ultimate fantasy is "dp" which I just recently learned means double penetration. Where there's 2 guys on one girl. I would neverrr do that.. like ...
A. 6 June 2008: There are people who are quite happy with the "DP" sort of thing, but I think you have to be absolutely certain before you start. If you feel the slightest bit uncomfortable with the idea, then tell him it's not for you.
For most people, sex work... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 5 June 2008: Yo.
At last.
Brave man, Waz. I applaud you.... (read in full...)
Some men put work before their women, how is a proper ordering of priorities?
Q. What ranking is a woman meant to come in their partners life?? What should be coming before them and after?? Some men put work before them, is this right?? Or should a women come before work?? Just a general question really. Something me and...
A. 5 June 2008: We (by which I mean men in general - and it doesn't apply to everyone) see ourselves as the primary provider. That, basically, is why some men seem to work to the exclusion of all else - they take it to its extreme.
Being the "hunter gatherer... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she left everything... I need your help.
Q. this weekend my girlfriend and i broke up out of the blue. we have known each other for a while but have only been together for a couple of months. i met her at work and a few months later we started being intimate with each other. you see she ha...
A. 5 June 2008: The simple answer is that there is more to living than love.
Maybe she did love you. Maybe she was really in love with you. Maybe, even, she still is.
From what you say, I think a greater and very different love came first: the love of her ... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife sleep with other men because I sleep with other women?
Q. Actually i like sex and i am having sex with many girls. one day my wife has seen me during sex with another girl. that time she did not say anything but right now she has also staret to have sex with her male guys. she do the sex in front of me and ...
A. 5 June 2008: No. You shouldn't.
What is the point in being married if you are going to have sex all over the place? For me it's not a moral issue. It's fundamentally practical.
Sex bonds couples together. It's part of the essential chemistry betwee... (read in full...)
Is a compromise possible here? I love dogs - he doesn't.
Q. Hi I have a great relationship with my partner, but there is one huge thing we disagree on- dogs, and as time goes on, we realise we are both not budging on the subject! I have always had a dog since i was born, i was raised around many anim...
A. 5 June 2008: There was a song "Love me, love my dog."
It's sad, but some people are like that. I have exactly the same problem. I love dogs. My wife doesn't.
And that's why my picture on here is of a cat. Sometimes you have to decide what's most impo... (read in full...)
I don't want to play his games, but I love him. What can I do?
Q. I have been married to a wonderful man for 7 years. He is a great husband in all areas, except one: he wants to swing/have an open relationship. He's had them before with previous girlfriends, but didn't mention anything about it before we were ...
A. 5 June 2008: I think that's where you draw the line and say no, definitely not.
If you wanted to do it, then that would be another matter, but you've made it clear that you don't.
If it was something a little bizarre and kinky in the privacy of your ... (read in full...)
He says he's suffering from loss of sex drive, but has been using porn as 'relief.' I'm confused!
Q. My partner has confessed that he is suffering from loss of sex drive. I recently found porn on his PC and he says that he used it as relief. He said that if guys don't have sex for a long time, their testicles fill up with semen and it can cause ...
A. 4 June 2008: I think that at best it's a half-truth. Constant sexual arousal without release can cause major discomfort. I don't think it's actually "testicles filling up with semen", but it's not pleasant.
But he says he sufferes from loss of sex drive, s... (read in full...)
I nearly had sex with my Mum's 37 year old friend
Q. I'm 16, and I fancy my Mum's 37 year old friend. I have since I first met her, but I knew nothing would ever happen between us. But the other night, she was at my house with my Mum, and they had a few drinks. My Mum went to sleep on the couch, I ...
A. 4 June 2008: Good luck!
I read somewhere that women reach their sexual peak in their mid-thirties, but for men the peak comes at around 17 years old.
So... it could be interesting (understatement of the century?).
If you want to let us know how it goes.... (read in full...)
Should a 25 year old man take viagra?
Q. should a 25 year old man take viagra? im only asking this because latley ive felt very stressed and am finding it difficult to perform,the strange thing is i feel turned on but my penis wont become erect,what do you think the problem may be?...
A. 4 June 2008: Ask a doctor.
There's no particular reason why a 25-year-old shouldn't take viagra, but there are various potential health issues that might make it inadvisable at any age.
Also, if you can't get an erection at all, then viagra may not be the a... (read in full...)
Had sex with my cousin, we are both preteens! What can you advise us?
Q. I am 13 years old and my mother's sister's daughter is 11 and half years old. We are neighbours and from childhood we know each other. We used to show our p. parts and gradualy started fingering each other. Two days before we put it inside and did ...
A. 4 June 2008: Um yes. Don't do it again.
I've no idea what the laws are in Qatar, but in the UK it would be illegal - not mainly because of it being "incest", but because of your ages.
Again, I'm speaking for the UK, but I would guess it's very much t... (read in full...)
Why do men have affairs when their wives are pregnant?
Q. I have a question for the men..strange as it may seem but i feel i need to ask.Why do men whose wives are pregnant want a fling?? I know this isnt the entire male population but this has happened to me several times that i have been proposit...
A. 3 June 2008: It's not a popular view, but it's a very, very old instinct that "civilised society" has been fighting against for thousands of years and still it continues to surface.
It's really very simple - and I'm not trying to justify it, because I'd be t... (read in full...)
Lots of signs by boyfriend is cheating. What should I do?
Q. I'm a 22 year old female, my boyfriend of 3 years is 27. I need help figuring out if he has been cheating on me. He a tow truck driver and works all the time, the problam is when i go to my parents he doesn't answer the phone most of the time i call ...
A. 3 June 2008: OK.
It's difficult to trust someone who never seems to have the time for you. But, on the other hand, if he works so much has he really the time or the energy to be cheating with someone else?
Try to approach it logically, rather than alwa... (read in full...)
Nipple stimulation produces very intense sensations... is this odd?
Q. just a quick question about pleasure. when my nipples are stimulated i get an odd sensation like a craving but i dont know what for or how to get rid of it. im not a virgin...far from it but for example when im in the shower and the showerhe...
A. 3 June 2008: Me too. Does that mean I'm gay?
Sorry. I just had to say that after some of the questions here recently.
(It doesn't, does it? Really??)
Actually, the "me too" wasn't a joke. Showerhead-nipples and I'm so turned on that I just HAVE to..... (read in full...)
Can he go to jail for being with a 13 year old girl?
Q. Yes, I am 13 years old and I have a boyfriend and he is 17 years old, can he go to jail for being with a 13 year old girl?...
A. 3 June 2008: The laws in the USA regarding the age of consent are a complete mess and vary from state to state. If I understand them correctly, then nowhere is it legal for anyone of any age to have sex with a 13-year-old. Parental approval or disapproval ... (read in full...)
Will his mother ever accept me as a person? It would be better to be greeted with hug and smile, rather than 'ugh!'
Q. I am a 24 asian woman and dating a european man for over 5 years now. But, through this 5 years, I have had a really hard time talking to his mother. And being around her makes me uncomfortable. Everytime we stopped by at her house, I rather stay in ...
A. 3 June 2008: Are you sure it has anything do to with race?
My wife's father took a little over 18 years to accept me properly. He never spoke to me, except for the occasional grunt, then for some unknown reason he suddenly changed - now he talks to me about... (read in full...)
Lots of signs by boyfriend is cheating. What should I do?
Q. I'm a 22 year old female, my boyfriend of 3 years is 27. I need help figuring out if he has been cheating on me. He a tow truck driver and works all the time, the problam is when i go to my parents he doesn't answer the phone most of the time i call ...
A. 3 June 2008: As has already been said, if you can't trust him then you want to think seriously about whether you should continue this relationship.
And I don't just mean whether or not he is untrustworthy. I also mean that YOU have to be able to have trus... (read in full...)
A question about pleasure and pain in sex.
Q. this may be a weird one just to warn you :] when me and my boyfriend are together he likes me to slap him because it "turns him on" is this okay? I mean I don't want to hurt him if I do...I feel really bad about it. Is this like a pain fetish?? ...
A. 3 June 2008: It's probably more of a power-exchange/domination fetish than a pain fetish.
It's not weird. It's very common. Many, many people enjoy those sort of "games". Just watch out that you don't slap him hard enough to do any damage, and come back whe... (read in full...)
Going by the expiry date, when might this condom have been bought?
Q. Im in a relationship of 3 years, and i found a condom wrapper in the room and im trying to figure out when it might have been bought. The exp. Date on it is october of 2009. It was by some of my boyfriends thing from when he was married. But i cant ...
A. 3 June 2008: I know it doesn't help, but I think I ought to tell you that my wife recently found a packet of condoms of mine, and demanded to know why the hell I had them.
I hadn't a clue - until I looked at the expiry date: December 1984.
By the way,... (read in full...)
I'm ugly and it gets me down....
Q. Ok, so Im a 15 year old girl and I have major self-confidence issues. You see, Ive got an Ok body but my face is really ugly. I think its ugly and so do other people. Its my nose that makes me ugly - its too big and horrible and makes my other ...
A. 2 June 2008: Well, the reason you've not been kissed is more likely because you don't look people in the eyes - so the boys think you don't like them.
You don't have to be Miss World to find a boyfriend, I can assure you of that. In fact, many girls who are ... (read in full...)
I'm a 15 yr old guy and I cant stop masterbating???
Q. how do i get myself to stop masterbating? im 15 years old and im a guy i have problem. ive been masterbating for a long time. i mean a real long time about 3 years and some months. i cant stop idk know y i jus cant help like when i try to control ...
A. 2 June 2008: Masturbation is not bad, as long as you are doing it in private. Nor is it bad to be thinking about someone - anyone - when you do it. It only becomes a problem if you can't separate the fantasy from the reality, and that isn't going to happen ... (read in full...)
Sexless in New Jersey....
Q. Dear Cupid I've never had sex and this is what one woman said to me, "I'll have sex with any other penis on the planet, except yours". And that's the attitude of every woman I've met. Your (mine) penis is not going in my vagina, ever. So all the...
A. 2 June 2008: I like the advice from duskyrowe! but I have to suspect that there is something else going on here.
I'm not convinced that women in New Jersey are really so different from everywhere else in the world, and I know from experience that women li... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my sister in law!!
Q. I want to f**k my sisterinlaw, but I don't know how to proceed. It's just that she's so sexy!(and sweet) Everywhere she goes she wears a thin, low cut shirt of some time and no bra. I can see her nipples through her shirt. Her boobs are huge. I've ...
A. 2 June 2008: Oh. Oops.
Seriously, a desire for a sister-in-law is not unusual - and it's easy to misinterpret a normal family closeness for something more.
... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my sister in law!!
Q. I want to f**k my sisterinlaw, but I don't know how to proceed. It's just that she's so sexy!(and sweet) Everywhere she goes she wears a thin, low cut shirt of some time and no bra. I can see her nipples through her shirt. Her boobs are huge. I've ...
A. 2 June 2008: Yes, so do I. My sister-in-law is an extremely desirable lady.
But I'm not going to.
Even assuming the indication of your age is wrong, it's never going to work out, is it? Just keep your feelings to yourself. Enjoy the fantasy, but don... (read in full...)
My ex kissed me. should I tell his current girlfriend?
Q. ok my bestfriend (chavez) had a boyfriend (dukes)!! but they were alwayz a on and off couple!!but the 6th tried was the last!so my other bestfriend (rivera) liked him n so they went out!dukes is really close 2 me as a friend and as a ex-boyfriend ...
A. 1 June 2008: I think you should all stop playing games and try to behave like people who have a little respect for yourselves, for each other, and for each others feelings.
... (read in full...)
I sent a love letter to my teacher. What would he/she do?
Q. This question is specifically for teachers to answer, but if anyone else wants to have their say then that would also be appreciated. If a pupil gave an innocent love letter to you (by innocent, I mean that she made it clear she is aware of the ...
A. 1 June 2008: I'm not a teacher, but I've been a school governor.
I'm assuming this was a male teacher you wrote to? Either way, the answer is basically the same.
The teacher will probably smile, feel flattered, and put it away with the dozens of others... (read in full...)
I danced with another girl, now my gf dumped me for it. how do I get her back?
Q. I was going out with my girlfriend for about 2 months and she found out i was at a party and i was grinding with another girl and she broke up with me and said she never wants to c me again. How do i get her back? do u think shell take me back?...
A. 1 June 2008: Grinding? Well, I suppose you were asking for trouble.
It strikes me, however, that if a relatively petty indiscretion was enough to make her decide that she didn't want to see you again, then it wasn't much of a serious relationship in the firs... (read in full...)
I'm 20, she's 15. Can we date?
Q. Hi I've been hanging out with a girl I met online and we both like each other lots. We both like each other lots and hae said its likely that we may end up dating in the future. The one that worries/bothers me is the age difference and law...
A. 1 June 2008: Yes you can date. As you say, sexual contact isn't legally an option, and I think you need to be extremely careful about ANY physical contact at all.
I also think you need to take a lot of care in considering just how she feels about all of this.... (read in full...)
I added him on Facebook. Now I need to tell him why.
Q. Hi! I have sort of a question about whether to do something or not. I am a 17 year old girl who goes to an all-girls school. We have brother schools in which we are "supposed" to socialize with boys from. This is going to sound like a really s...
A. 31 May 2008: There's absolutely nothing wrong with telling him "I added your picture because I think you look cute".
It's not "creepy". It's not wrong. It's not any of the things you think it might be.
Go for it, and ignore Dr Vendetta's not-s... (read in full...)
The ultimate revenge. Should I go for it?
Q. Today i was told by a friend about a girl at my old school who now works an escort. This girl was the worst type of girl and once she made a complete fool of me and embrassed me in front of a lot of people and it took a while to get some ...
A. 31 May 2008: I'm afraid that Dr Vendetta has summed up the situation rather accurately.
Not politely; not tactfully; possibly not particularly helpfully.
But outstandingly accurately.... (read in full...)
If he has a crush, would he just stand and stare?
Q. one simple question if a guy has a crush on u..he would definitely make an effort to talk to u..what if he doesnt but just stares and looks at u..what is it???...
A. 31 May 2008: Absolutely he would just stare if he has a crush and he's a bit shy or simply nervous of rejection.
If you like him then go talk to him. Don't wait for him to make the first move or you could be waiting forever!... (read in full...)
He said he still had feelings for me, but I think it was the drink talking.
Q. Hi I went out with a guy for 2 and half years and we were in love but I ended it as he wasn't around for any more, I changed my mind but he didn't want to get back together a wk or two later we spoke about it and he said he didn't love me any ...
A. 31 May 2008: It may be true or it may not be true, but if he said it while he was drunk then you can't rely on it.
For many men, women somehow become far more attractive and desirable after a few drinks.
I know your question is completely serious, but the... (read in full...)
I want to find my birth father - but I have none of his details... Any ideas?
Q. Hi I have a problem in that I know nothing about my birth father - except his first name. I desperately want to find him and I have tried everything from my birth certificate (which doesn't have his name on it) to friends reunited and fac...
A. 30 May 2008: I have a similar problem - I was adopted and I want to find my birth mother or at least some more details about her, but I have had no success and I've been trying for years. And I have her full name and my adoption records, but still nothing.
... (read in full...)
Is it wrong if I throw away my boyfriends' divorce papers?
Q. When cleaning house, I came upon my boyfriends divorce papers. Is it wrong if I throw the divorce papers away myself?...
A. 30 May 2008: Whether or not they might be needed, you shouldn't throw them away.
Everyone needs to keep a little bit of their past - even if it's "bad" past. And everyone needs a bit of their own "space" with their individual history, good or bad. It may be t... (read in full...)
Why is my period late? And my bf has blood in his pee yesterday, what's that?
Q. i think i'm one week late with my periods, (it happened to me before).me and my bf had sex more than two weeks ago, without a condom. that night he penetrated me and i cum but he didn't, he just was not that turned on. after a while (about 15 min) ...
A. 29 May 2008: If your boyfriend has blood in his pee then he MUST go to the doctor. It could be a number of things, but there isn't really any option except to get medical advice as soon as possible. This really is important. Don't leave it.
... (read in full...)
A scream of orgasm? Or only a gasp?
Q. Is noisiness during sex overdone in films/dvds etc? When me and my girfriend have intercourse we do enjoy it but usually the only sounds we make are some gasps during the act and when I orgasm....
A. 28 May 2008: Sometimes they scream as soon as they see you naked...
Or were those screams of laughter? :(
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Where do guys liked to be touched?? (In a non-sexual way!)
Q. i was just wondering, where do guys like to be touched the most...not as a sexual way...for eg i am a girl who likes a guy to put his hands around my waist and play with my hair...so i was just wondering where do u guys like to be touched?....thx...
A. 27 May 2008: Oh dear.
I'm not sure whether I'm an average male, but I have to say that for me ANY touch by any reasonably attractive female (and most of those who aren't reasonably attractive) is most definitely sexual - whether or not that was how she mean... (read in full...)
We know what a 69 is but whats a 35?? Are there any more numbers that mean sexual acts??
Q. me and my friend were wondering whats 35, we know whats a 69...and would there happen to be more of these that mean sexual acts??...
A. 27 May 2008: I had forgotten that one, Susan.
Shall we?... (read in full...)
We know what a 69 is but whats a 35?? Are there any more numbers that mean sexual acts??
Q. me and my friend were wondering whats 35, we know whats a 69...and would there happen to be more of these that mean sexual acts??...
A. 27 May 2008: Hum. I thought a number thirty-five was chicken chop suey?
But seriously, I've never heard of any number other than 69 meaning a sex position. I wonder whether 35 simply refers to a number in one of the "sex manuals"? Like the famous (infa... (read in full...)
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