Do you think I should speak to my boyfriend about my lesbian fantasy? He has suggested a FMF before...
Q. I really want to have a lesbian experience just to see if I am bi or not At the moment I'm with a wonderful guy but feel myself fantasising about women more and more. I've always felt this way really, when I was about 12 or 13 I used to play a g...
A. 12 June 2008: Well, if you don't ask him then you'll never know (and that goes for the tying him to the bed too!!).
It sounds to me like you're as level-headed about this as anyone is likely to ever be, so I wish you the very best of luck in being able to do wh... (read in full...)
Do you think I should speak to my boyfriend about my lesbian fantasy? He has suggested a FMF before...
Q. I really want to have a lesbian experience just to see if I am bi or not At the moment I'm with a wonderful guy but feel myself fantasising about women more and more. I've always felt this way really, when I was about 12 or 13 I used to play a g...
A. 12 June 2008: Oh all right then! She reckons you should tie your boyfriend to the bed while you and your friend have your fun so he can't interfere - and then sort him out when you've finished! Too much for most people, I fear, but it does have a sort of kinky ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should speak to my boyfriend about my lesbian fantasy? He has suggested a FMF before...
Q. I really want to have a lesbian experience just to see if I am bi or not At the moment I'm with a wonderful guy but feel myself fantasising about women more and more. I've always felt this way really, when I was about 12 or 13 I used to play a g...
A. 12 June 2008: I think one of you will probably end up really jealous one way or another whether he joins in or whether you do it and he doesn't.
It might work, but do be very, very careful that he really feels comfortable with it before you actually do anything... (read in full...)
My sister gets me into trouble all the time. what do I do?
Q. I really need help on this.... Family problem really. Well im 13 and my sister is 9 and we have to share a room. I hate her. Soon as i tidy our room she trashes it or Soon as i tidy the room my mum looks at it then tells me its still a mes...
A. 11 June 2008: Yes. I know. Little sisters are really, really annoying and ALWAYS get you into trouble.
Do you want the BAD news? It doesn't get any better. My little sister is three years younger than me. I'm now 51 and she's STILL really, really annoying... (read in full...)
She has changed so much since she became pregnant. How do I get it to go back to how it was?
Q. I met my girlfriend about six months ago. I am a very successful professional and she is a single mother with two small children. We come from very different backgrounds, but still, after the first date we were hooked on each other. She would call ...
A. 11 June 2008: The cut-and-run option doesn't really seem practical if she's pregnant with your baby, does it? And that's quite apart from the very real responsibilities you have for her and for the baby.
I think there are two possibilities. One is that you... (read in full...)
Do you think I should speak to my boyfriend about my lesbian fantasy? He has suggested a FMF before...
Q. I really want to have a lesbian experience just to see if I am bi or not At the moment I'm with a wonderful guy but feel myself fantasising about women more and more. I've always felt this way really, when I was about 12 or 13 I used to play a g...
A. 11 June 2008: It has to be your decision, and it has to be a decision that you have thought long and hard about.
Don't rush it.
Try to decide what is really important to you and to your long term aims in life. Sex and sexuality is important, certa... (read in full...)
Do you think I should speak to my boyfriend about my lesbian fantasy? He has suggested a FMF before...
Q. I really want to have a lesbian experience just to see if I am bi or not At the moment I'm with a wonderful guy but feel myself fantasising about women more and more. I've always felt this way really, when I was about 12 or 13 I used to play a g...
A. 11 June 2008: I think you should be very careful with this, and be absolutely sure of your feelings before you do any of it. Work through all the possible scenarios of what might happen in your head first.
Threesomes do work for some people. For many others t... (read in full...)
Gallbladder problem. Will I regain weight?
Q. ok so I have gallbladder issues and since I've been having gallbladder issues I've lost weight.When they remove my gallbladder will I gain my weight back?...
A. 11 June 2008: Oh yes. This is a subject that I know FAR too much about, unfortunately!
Has the doctor explained it all to you? Probably not.
This is how it works:
Your liver produces bile, a nasty substance that is primarily liquid cholesterol. You... (read in full...)
Two ex'es have disappointed me, how do I assure that my third lover will not leave me too?
Q. hey i will start that i loved twice in my whole life i am 18 years and i get dumped by the 2 guys i loved in my life the first one left me cuz he dont want me to speak to anyone except him and he dosent want me to have friends ... the second one ...
A. 10 June 2008: Try to step back from it all and take a look firstly at what you really want out of a relationship and secondly a long, hard look at yourself.
Are you trying to be "perfect in everything"? Are you a "drama queen"? We can't tell from here! O... (read in full...)
I need your opinions on staying in my ex's flat for a weekend!
Q. Okay- I need advise. Might sound trivial but it would be good for me to hear other people's opinions. I was supposed to visit my old city this weekend for a Summerfest. Planned on staying with a friend who told me today he would be out till saturday ...
A. 10 June 2008: Is there anyone else you could take with you? A girl friend, maybe. I'm sure your ex-boyfriend wouldn't mind having two girls in his flat, and it makes the whole thing so much less uncomfortable and more fun if you have a mate with you.... (read in full...)
Problem maintaining an erection...
Q. I have trouble maintaining an erection but in my case I put it down to the drugs that I have to take to control my epilepsy. Is there anything I can do to help myself?...
A. 10 June 2008: If you suspect it's the drugs you have to take, then go back to the doctor and explain the problem. There may well be an alternative or something additional you can take that will help.
DON'T take anything else (like viagra) without checking... (read in full...)
Do I end it or not?
Q. so im dating(1.5 years) a guy 4 years older than me. lately ive been feeling a little disconnected and its starting to really bother me. the romance is dying, he's always busy, and he recently told me he was applying to a job which was on the other ...
A. 10 June 2008: Never end a relationship because you think you OUGHT to end a relationship. End it if you really WANT to, or if he really wants to.
The romance is dying? Not unusual after a year or so, but romance is something that both of you put into a relati... (read in full...)
Do you get in the middle? Boyfriend's parents are cruel to him...
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 years- we get along very well and each of us has gotten "family approval," haha. One thing has been bugging me though- they treat him so poorly. He's the middle child- has a brother 5 years ...
A. 10 June 2008: No, stay out of it. The best you can do for him is to be particularly nice to him to make up for the way he's treated at home.
If you try to get between him and his family, as good as your intentions are it will probably end in disaster. Reassur... (read in full...)
How do I walk out with my dignity intact? I am not a slut!!!
Q. I broke up with my bf last night. He kept bothering me about my past. In my past I made out with two strangers (older than me) when I was drunk. I also had a friend with benefits. I remained a virgin though. So I got fed up and broke up with him ...
A. 10 June 2008: Does it actually matter what he thinks? You know he's wrong, and you should also know that anyone who thinks like that has the problem - not you.
Of course you're not a slut. You're not even half way to being a slut. Good grief, many girls of... (read in full...)
How do I get him to realize that sex can be fun, and exciting!!?
Q. My partner of 4 years is 13 years younger than me. He is totally committed to me, or appears to be, but he is very naive sexually and emotionally. He refuses to talk about anything to do with either subjects and is very much a 'lights out, under the ...
A. 10 June 2008: Lots of men don't like talking about it, but you say that one of the things he first found attractive about you was that you're NOT a "lights out under the duvet" person. So you really do need to take the lead.
Assuming it's naivety rather t... (read in full...)
I like this guy who keeps asking me for sex and I don't trust him. What do I do?
Q. thre is this guy that i met and he is 17 and i'm 15.he is really cute and i like him. we went out for 2 days and then i broke up with him cause he kept ansking me to hve sex with him and i do not feel like doing that right now and when i tell him ...
A. 10 June 2008: It's quite simple really.
Never do anything you don't feel comfortable doing - and it's not just a matter of you not being old enough.
If he can't show you enough respect to consider your feelings instead of only thinking about his own desires,... (read in full...)
How can I get the attention of a lovely guy I see at my church?
Q. I know this may appear to be strange, but isn't it amazing the effect one can have on you when you hardly know them? There's this guy, he comes to my church, he knows my mum very well they get along, he's a family friend really, i hardly speak to ...
A. 10 June 2008: You are way ahead of most people trying to start to get to know each other because you have an interest, or at least an experience, in common - the church where you see him.
Starting with subjects as mundane as "weren't there a lot of people a... (read in full...)
I'm confused by this break up, all he said is he doesn't deserve me and that I can do better!
Q. I need advice please, i am a 27 yr old female and have just broken up with my boyfriend of 3 years a week ago. We were living together for 2 years. I happilly gave up my job and former life to make a life with him. I am at a job i enjoy, i passed ...
A. 10 June 2008: It's no more than a "nice" way of letting you down gently.
Phrases like that mean "I don't want to be with you any more but it's not your fault and I really don't want to hurt you so this is all I can say to try to make you feel better."... (read in full...)
Should my fiance's fantasy become reality?
Q. I have a wonderful fiance and we've been together for 8 months. He is HOT in every way, personality, looks and lovemaking. Once I mentioned that I wonder what it would be like to be w/a woman, and now, several times he has mentioned that it would be ...
A. 10 June 2008: I haven't done it, although I know a few people who have.
If you aren't absolutely sure you feel happy with this then don't do it. This sort of thing does work for some people, but more often than not there are emotional problems afterwar... (read in full...)
Am I being just another married man who wants to have his cake & eat it?
Q. I should start by saying that this is going to sound very stupid coming from a 57 year old man, but it is honestly causing me a great dilemma. Over the last 6 years we have spent many fantastic holidays in Phuket, staying in the same res...
A. 10 June 2008: Yo!
The "Freudian slip" in happytochat's reply says it all.
"...a concern for your lifes [wife's] feelings..."
The unintentional linking of those two words really sums it up nicely.... (read in full...)
Torn between a jailbird husband and my more stable lover. I need advice!
Q. Dear Cupid I am a hard working 50 years old young women, lol. I am searching for some good advice . I have been married 10 years, but has been in and out of prison the majority of those. When he did time I did time with him.All that I have bee...
A. 10 June 2008: I think this is one situation where you need to be totally selfish.
Forget the morality of any of it. Forget whether or not anyone else is going to get hurt. Concentrate on what really will be best for you, because no one is innocent here - I... (read in full...)
My ex says he will marry me now but only if I let him have anal sex!
Q. my ex bf wants me back now that I have a new bf, he is a good guy and while we lived together I had everything, except marriage and kids, he wants to give that now, but wants me to have anal sex with him, he says if I do not do it he won`t be able ...
A. 10 June 2008: If you seriously think that the basis of a relationship should be anal sex, then marry him. Although, I do have to wonder whether the having kids part of your requirement might be a little difficult to achieve?
Personally I doubt any relation... (read in full...)
Am I being just another married man who wants to have his cake & eat it?
Q. I should start by saying that this is going to sound very stupid coming from a 57 year old man, but it is honestly causing me a great dilemma. Over the last 6 years we have spent many fantastic holidays in Phuket, staying in the same res...
A. 10 June 2008: It's a lot of silliness, isn't it?
This is just the "mid-life crisis" that so many of us get - which is not an excuse for it, just a name for the itch that we get usually somewhere between our early forties and late fifties for the exciteme... (read in full...)
It started out as a silly dare, but then I got hooked should I seek counselling?
Q. hi, i think theres a problem. well, see it started out as a dare, but then i got hooked. ive never really had a girlfriend, well, ive had one, but it was only for three months so it doesnt really count. and my birthday is coming up soon, and i think ...
A. 10 June 2008: It's certainly not unheard of, but any sort of sexual activity with animals is generally not good - which is why possessing pictures of it has just become illegal in the UK under one of the paragraphs in the "Criminal Justice and Immigration Act ... (read in full...)
Should I be up-front about my conception issues?
Q. I found out a few years ago that it will be very difficult for me to conceive naturally. At what point do I tell a man I am considering dating/having a relationship with that I am infertile. Is that a right point to do this? On initial meeting? Once ...
A. 9 June 2008: EITHER before you go to bed with him, OR when you first discuss the possibility of having children - whichever comes first.
BUT be careful.
My wife was told she would have great difficulty in conceiving, after extensive tests when she and her... (read in full...)
What do 23 yr old guys want? Just sex or a relationship?
Q. At 23 years old do guys just want sex or are they ready for a relationship?...
A. 9 June 2008: All guys want sex. Most do anyway. It's the one thought that takes priority over almost anything else from around 13 years old until around 90 years old for most of us.
Are we ready for a relationship at 23? Sure. Most are. But I think it... (read in full...)
Late period, then extended period. What's going on?
Q. I slept with this boy over a month ago and we didn't use protection (i know it was stupid and don't really need a lecture), i was over two weeks late on my period which never happens and now i've been on for two weeks! I'm never late and i'm never ...
A. 9 June 2008: OK.
If you've already considered that possibility then I won't try to avoid it.
Yes, I think that's the most likely scenario from what you describe but I could be wrong, and going to have a chat with the doctor really is important whethe... (read in full...)
Late period, then extended period. What's going on?
Q. I slept with this boy over a month ago and we didn't use protection (i know it was stupid and don't really need a lecture), i was over two weeks late on my period which never happens and now i've been on for two weeks! I'm never late and i'm never ...
A. 9 June 2008: I think you should go to the doctor. You need to be checked over, but I'm sure you'll be fine.
I'm fairly sure I know what has happened but it would be unfair to make guesses without a proper medical opinion.
Don't worry. You'll be fine. ... (read in full...)
My lie came to light and now my husband wants nothing to do with me.
Q. My husband left me last year because of a lie I told about my past. I have apologied for this over and over but he will have nothing more to do with me and is filing for divorce. I have tried calling, writing letters and everything but he will not ...
A. 9 June 2008: I think he would have been absolutely furious. I think that would have been most men's immediate reaction.
From what you say, I don't believe that's the primary problem - and I think that after twelve years of marriage most men would calm dow... (read in full...)
What should I weigh?
Q. Ok just wondering here. I'm 17, female and about 5 ft 4 - 5ft 5 ish i'm not to sure which. I'm just wondering do you know what the average weight is for someone of that age and height? Because from being about 14 i was about 9 stone and the doctors ...
A. 8 June 2008: No, you aren't overweight.
You are nicely towards the upper end of the "ideal weight band" for your age and height.
A little extra exercise would probably get rid of the little bit of stomach roundness - it may well be that the muscle you d... (read in full...)
Creeped out when coach looks at me!
Q. Last winter 07-08 I had a basketball coach (I was 13/14 yrs old). I think that he liked me and now that I am playing for my high school team I saw him there watching me. What should I do? Should I be scared or just ignore it?...
A. 8 June 2008: We have this question over and over again on here.
Many, many girls in their early teens say that a teacher or sports coach or some other adult in a position of authority is looking at them or behaving towards them in a "perverted" way.
Put it ... (read in full...)
He behaves strangely...
Q. IS MY GUY BISEXUAL OR GAY ? Dear friends, Please advise whether the following hints would make my 20 years senior guy a bisexual: 1. He stopped having sex with his ex wife, when she asked to have sex with him one night, but "he was too exh...
A. 8 June 2008: No, it doesn't. None of it.
You are seeing what you want to see, picking out events and slanting them to suit your theory, in an effort - conscious or subconscious - to justify to yourself the break-up could not possibly have been your fault.
... (read in full...)
Should I be mad or worried?
Q. Hi all, I have been seeing this guy for nearly three months and everything has been great. he told me from the start that he was going on Vacation back to his home and would be gone for a month and I was cool with this everything has been great a...
A. 8 June 2008: Be mad, not worried.
The chances are that there's nothing to be worried about. He's on vacation, and you KNOW that few of we men can cope with more than one thought at a time. Uncomfortable as it is for you and thoughtless as it is for him to d... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and he acts like nothing changed!
Q. Okay, I'm 8 months pregnant and my boyfriend acts as if nothing has changed. I mean, we're still together I guess, and he stays at my apartment usually but lately..it's as if everything else is more important to him. I''ve always had a perfect ...
A. 8 June 2008: Most of us go to one extreme or another when our wife/partner/girlfriend is pregnant. Either we get as stressed, panicky and emotional as she is, or we act as though there was nothing out of the ordinary happening.
I suppose you could be grateful... (read in full...)
Men, what would you do if your partner came home with a sex toy?
Q. So I want to take a poll even if I only get a few answers its ok. The question. The senario. Just home from the local porn store. Just bought a new toy. One that is pleasurable for both individuals. This question is basically for men. Women you c...
A. 7 June 2008: Depends what the toy is and what it does. And it depends what's on TV.
It also depends on whether this is a first, or it's simply a variation on the whole range of toys, gadgets and the other things that I'm certainly not going to mention ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before I start dating again?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend, we both left on good terms and agreed to each find someone who better suits us, my question now is how long should I wait until I start dating or looking for someone?...
A. 7 June 2008: Don't wait. Start looking. Right now.
What's the time now? 18:40 in the UK so you'll be at least 4 hours behind us. It's Saturday night, so if you start now you can be in bed by midnight - and whether it's yours or someone else's is entirely... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before I start dating again?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend, we both left on good terms and agreed to each find someone who better suits us, my question now is how long should I wait until I start dating or looking for someone?...
A. 7 June 2008: Don't wait. Start looking. Right now.
What's the time now? 18:40 in the UK so you'll be at least 4 hours behind us. It's Saturday night, so if you start now you can be in bed by midnight - and whether it's yours or someone else's is entirely... (read in full...)
I had sex with my best friend's boyfriend and now I'm pregnant.
Q. i need help and quick. im 13 and about three months ago i had sex with my best friend's boyfriend. i regret it, because im pregnant. i dont know how to tell people. let alone my best friend. please help....
A. 7 June 2008: Go straight to your mother and tell her. Don't worry about anything else - in fact don't worry about anything.
Mothers are great in these situations. After being shocked for a moment, she will be wonderful and tell you everything you need to ... (read in full...)
A teacher's helper is scaring me. What should I do?
Q. for the last few months i have been in a new set for science the teacher is ordinary but theres a helper hes about 61 in that age range hes nice to people but sometimes he acts wierd around me hell sit there staring at me and ill look away scared ...
A. 7 June 2008: If anyone - him or any other adult - tries to touch you in any way, then go straight to the nearest teacher and report it.
Otherwise, the usual rules apply: Don't get into a car with anyone without your parent's knowledge and permission. Don't go... (read in full...)
How long does it take to fall in love?
Q. do u actually think a person can fall in love in a month?...
A. 7 June 2008: It can be instant.
Or it can take years.
You can see someone, work with someone, and feel very little for them - then meet them again years later after hardly thinking about them in between, and know immediately this is the one person you would... (read in full...)
I get bored with men really fast. How can I change this?
Q. I am a middle aged female. I seems to get bored with men really fast. I meet a man that excites me. After I see them for awhile (5-6 months at the most) I get bored with them and don't want to see them. I have seen guys that I have been with in the ...
A. 7 June 2008: Do you really want to change the way you are?
Obviously you do IF you are looking for a man to settle down with, but do you? Not everyone wants a comfortable, permanent partner.
This wouldn't be my normal advice because I think lasting re... (read in full...)
My lie came to light and now my husband wants nothing to do with me.
Q. My husband left me last year because of a lie I told about my past. I have apologied for this over and over but he will have nothing more to do with me and is filing for divorce. I have tried calling, writing letters and everything but he will not ...
A. 6 June 2008: Um, actually, no.
No one could condone this man's behaviour, but neither could anyone condone marrying him when you were still married. And not telling him. Your marriage to him was illegal, invalid and bigamous.
I disagree with Wa... (read in full...)
Are chavs victimised?
Q. are chavs victimised do you think?...
A. 6 June 2008: Define "chav".... (read in full...)
I have troubles coming to terms with that my boyfriend will always love his child more than me. I don't understand the concept of he loves his child in a very different way - to all parents out there - how different does it feel?
Q. I'm really struggling with something at the moment which i am reluctant to admit to anyone. My boyfriend has a child and i am struggling to come to terms with "The child must come first". Obviously i understand that a man/woman should love their ...
A. 6 June 2008: Yes, children always come first. Country Woman said it all.
But what you need to make sure is that his child coming first is not to the exclusion of you. If you are part of his life then you should become a real part of it - a part that he takes... (read in full...)
My lie came to light and now my husband wants nothing to do with me.
Q. My husband left me last year because of a lie I told about my past. I have apologied for this over and over but he will have nothing more to do with me and is filing for divorce. I have tried calling, writing letters and everything but he will not ...
A. 6 June 2008: If your lie was over something that you knew would be a major problem to him, something serious enough for him not to have married you in the first place, then realistically there's not a lot you can do other than accept what has happened.
But y... (read in full...)
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