I'm so confused, one min he is saying he loves me, the next hes telling me about all the chicks he has seen lately. whats going on????
Q. I am a 17 year old girl. I have really deep feelings for my best friend who I have been friends with for about 6 months now. When I first met him, I thought I had feelings for him more then a friend but decided to just wait, get to know him, and ...
A. 29 September 2006: Having feelings for someone comes the hurt when they are talking about other girls, this is normal so mentioning it to him doesn't make you obssesive just means you care and it bothers you.
Surely he should be able to relate to the way you are feel... (read in full...)
Why has my fiancee stopped giving me any affection? She is always pushing me away.
Q. hello i am a 21 year old male my fiance is 19 and i have a few simple questions that i have been racking my brain trying to figure out i have about drove myself to the point of crazy !!!! anyways me and my fiance have been togather for 5 years we ...
A. 29 September 2006: Sorry I wasn't implying to didn't help I was just stating how I felt when it was me and covering all bases with what you posted.
I think the only option you have now is to talk to her and tell her how you are feeling, you sound like you are doin... (read in full...)
I have been cheated on in every relationship. I am now with a new guy, how can I make sure I don't get hurt?
Q. Im 25 and every relationship i have had my partner has cheated on me. I was with someone for 4 years after 2 we got engaged , then something in my stomach kept niggling saying sumthing between us wasnt right. I am ashamed of what i did but i had ...
A. 29 September 2006: You could talk to him, ask him how he sees you and him as a couple for example. if your exclusive, just you and him and no looking or interests elsewhere, if he says that is how he sees it give him a few days to cut the other contacts off and check ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel uncomfortable with the idea of my bf's semen to be inside me?
Q. Is it normal to feel uncomfortable with the idea of my bf's simen to be inside me? Because I'm on the pill now, my bf and I started to have sex without a condom on. I'm not concern about my bf having STD. However, I'll be honest and admit I'm not ...
A. 29 September 2006: It's normal to worry about the affect your actions will have on the other person, but like you said when condoms were being used he did the same so surely he won't see anything wrong in you doing so :o)... (read in full...)
We are friends from work and he hugs me, he tickles me. He has a gf with 2 kids! Is this guy gay?
Q. I have a friend, we met at work, after a while we got close, he would hold my hand, tickle me because he liked how i laughed, hug me from behind, he would pull me onto his lap, embrace me, even once i felt him hard behind me. he's got a girlfriend ...
A. 28 September 2006: If I was in your shoes I would just have to ask and find out once and for all, I couldn't have what feels like something more just hanging there not knowing.
I would arrange to meet up with him and see how he is around you, talk about your frie... (read in full...)
I am 17 and falling for my dads girlfriends brother, what should we do? We can't just turn our feelings off.
Q. i am a 17 year old girl and recently went on holiday to spain with my dad his girlfrien and all her family. thing is me and her brother got really close just like talking and enjoying eachothers company. now we are back in england and we've swapped ...
A. 28 September 2006: Just remember the earlier you come clean to your Dad the better as he may get hurt on finding out you both hid it from him and things have a funny way of always coming out no matter how careful you are about it.
Good luck, hope it all works out for ... (read in full...)
I am falling for my online guy, but dont want to rush things. Advice please!!
Q. Theres this guy i have been talking to for abit on the internet he lives in the next estate but we've never met. I think im starting to fall for him. He is abit older and very good looking so i dunno if i even have a chance. I would like some tips ...
A. 26 September 2006: Always take chatting to someone over the internet with care, you don't 100% know that the person your talking to is really the person they say they are so before you get too deeply into this person you need to think about meeting them in a public ... (read in full...)
What do men really think of women that are good in bed?
Q. What do men really think of women that are good in bed? Recently, I heard that a couple of my ex-boyfriends had told people that Im good in bed and while my friends say I should be flattered I actually feel quite embarressed. Does it not mak...
A. 26 September 2006: I would be proud of the fact you got good ratings especially from ex boyfriends who normally won't say that many good things about someone.
As long as you haven't been sleeping around don't be embarrassed by this as you've done nothing wrong, just... (read in full...)
My bf is upset that I need some time to concentrate on my studies. What can i say to him?
Q. Hey guys.. well, im dating this guy called pete..and i spoke to him recently about how i cant concentrate on my studies because im spending too much time with him. Petes already left college but im in 6th form/college and im doing my A levels thi...
A. 26 September 2006: Like you said for him he didn't have to study it all came pretty much naturally for him therefore he won't really understand why you would need to devote time to your studies, you need to try and talk to him again and while telling him why you need ... (read in full...)
How can I respond to a letter from a girl? I don't want to bore her.
Q. A girl has wrote a letter for me. It was really long and enjoyed reading it... the thing is i have to write back now and i have never writen a letter before - and i don't want to write anything that she will find boring! i like this girl and i think ...
A. 26 September 2006: One thing I love about letters is you can just aimlessly write without really having to think as it just always seems to flow, I would start by telling her you really enjoyed her letter and if there is anything in the letter the you need to respond ... (read in full...)
Should I be jealous if my girlfriend massages another man?
Q. Should I be jealous if my girlfriend massages another man? My girlfriend has just started a massage course. This might at first seem like a dream come true. In the course they practice on each other. Most of the students are girls which is just gr...
A. 26 September 2006: I can see why your worried and concerned but it sounds like your girlfriend is taking this course seriously therefore she probably isn't even thinking anything wrong or different about having to massage other men that is of course if she actually ... (read in full...)
What do people do straight after sex?
Q. What do people usually do after sex? Do they both go clean themselve before cuddling up, or do they go straight to cuddle?...
A. 26 September 2006: It would all depend on the situation and where the sitution was.
In bed I would cuddle up afterwards, other situations would possibly clean up first.
Sometimes its nice to clean up first so you can just cuddle and not have to get up again.
... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel uncomfortable with the idea of my bf's semen to be inside me?
Q. Is it normal to feel uncomfortable with the idea of my bf's simen to be inside me? Because I'm on the pill now, my bf and I started to have sex without a condom on. I'm not concern about my bf having STD. However, I'll be honest and admit I'm not ...
A. 26 September 2006: Alot of women find this uncomfortable to leave seman inside them after sex, some because of fear of pregnancy and some just because they don't find it a nice feeling and the longer it is left the more uncomfortable it can feel.
If you are worr... (read in full...)
I don't think I am in love with my fiance anymore. I feel like I am staying with him for the sake of our daughter. What should I do? Any advice welcome.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we got engaged a year ago. He has a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship who does not see her mother and who I consider to be my child. We have had our ups and downs, but for the most part ...
A. 26 September 2006: I think you need to think about whether it really is love or just habit because it really sounds like you have fallen out of love with him and staying with him for the wrong reasons.
You need to talk to him and explain how your feeling, poss... (read in full...)
I really like this boy, but fear of being hurt is stopping me from asking him out. What should I do? Please help.
Q. hiya. well i just wondering ive kinda fallin in love with this lad hes 14 im 13 by the way and ive liked him 4 over a year. I've never felf anything like this and ive had loads of crushes in the past but i no this isnt that. i love him so much i ...
A. 26 September 2006: Tell him and see what happens you got nothing to lose only possibly gain from this, either way at least you'll know and can either start enjoying time together or move on from him.
Good luck, let me know how you get on :o)... (read in full...)
I like this boy a lot. He is 17 and I told him I was 15. I feel bad for lying as I am only 14. What should I do?
Q. i Like this boy ALOT but hes 17.. and i only just turned 14 but the thing is i told him i turned 15, but i only said that becuz i thought he would stop chatin to Me because im too young.. But hes really sweet and i feel really bad that im liein to ...
A. 26 September 2006: Firstly you need to tell the truth and explain why you lied the sooner you do so the less chance there is of him finding out elsewhere and the situation getting worse,
Good luck :o)... (read in full...)
Married for 30 years, I find out he has had an affair with a girl 20 years younger.. And everyone knows!
Q. My husband of 30 years has just had an affair! He moved out 6 months ago, saying the relationship was not working, and then I found out he was seeing a woman 20 years younger, is living with her, and has been on holiday with her. Everyone we know ...
A. 26 September 2006: You need to work out what you really want to come out of this situation.
Remember he has done it once whats stopping him doing it again? You take him back to him it shows with a little bit of work to your marriage and he has pretty much got away... (read in full...)
My bf told me he slept in the same bed with 2 female mates, he does not understand why I am annoyed. Please tell me I have a right to be pi***d off.
Q. recently me and my boyfriend were having a discussion about a friend of mine who slept in the bed with one of her best guy mates ( nothing happened) she has a boyfriend and i told my boyfriend that id disagree with that even tho they are close ...
A. 26 September 2006: Firstly I would be annoyed at my boyfriend sharing a bed with one girl let alone two and the fact of then not coming forward about this until a conversation brought up by you was along the same lines would just top it off for me but it is done now ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend dragging his feet over my pressing engagement?
Q. my boyfriend and i have beeen dating 22 months. i am ready for an engagement but he is dragging his feet. he tells me that when i get over two of the problems that he has with me...then he will move forward. the two problems that he has with me ...
A. 26 September 2006: There really isn't anything you can do to make him get engaged to you not only that don't you want him to marry you because he wants to and not because you have kind of pushed him into it in a way?
You need to start giving up on wanting this so bad ... (read in full...)
I am 17 and falling for my dads girlfriends brother, what should we do? We can't just turn our feelings off.
Q. i am a 17 year old girl and recently went on holiday to spain with my dad his girlfrien and all her family. thing is me and her brother got really close just like talking and enjoying eachothers company. now we are back in england and we've swapped ...
A. 26 September 2006: Your legally old enough, it's only 5 years difference and he isn't a blood relative so I don't see the problem, you both need to sit down with your Dad and his girlfriend and explain how you both feel and making it clear whatever happens you both ... (read in full...)
We are stuck in different stages of a realationship and I feel bestrayed and let down.
Q. O.k., I know there are stages in a relationship, but I am stuck in one and cant seem to move on. I still am in the beginning stages and he seems to have gone into the familiarity stage. You know, where there is less love speeches and gestures. I ...
A. 26 September 2006: Alot of women love the early stages of a relationship where as alot of men love the familiar stage, plus alot of men just don't think or realise until you point it out to them.
You need to talk to him and explain how you are feeling and find a happ... (read in full...)
I am on the pill and on my period, but could I still be pregnant? The signs are there.
Q. i was wonderin what the chances are of being on the contraceptive pill and still having a period but being pregnant? i av been on the pill for 8 months but i am getting symptoms of pregnancy, weight gain mainly on my stomach, sickness, being ...
A. 26 September 2006: I was on the pill and still having periods AND told I couldn't have children and I still conceived my little boy so it isn't uncommon and can happen.
Although there are plenty of other reasons why this is happening to you either way you need to go t... (read in full...)
My bf is a non EU resident. His visa has expired. Is getting married a good idea, as I don't want to lose him?
Q. i dnt no if this ques is suitable for this site so bare with me! i av bin with my current bf 4 9 months and we realy love each other however he is a non EU resident who has been living in the england for around 4/5 yrs his visa has run out and ...
A. 26 September 2006: Before you do anything you need to make sure he can't get a new visa himself and make sure that you really want to do this because at the moment it might seem a good idea but if it goes wrong and you meet someone else and in a few years decide to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my man that I want to be with him? I am scared of pushing him away
Q. i am currently involved with a man who has been separated from his wife for close to three years (living in two different countries now)i really like this guy and would really like to be in a permanent relationship with him, just how do i go about ...
A. 26 September 2006: If it's him you want then no reason to stop you just going for it, if it pushes him away then surely that's a good enough sign to show you that you need to move on and find the right one.
If your scared of saying something why don't you try havi... (read in full...)
I cannot get my ex out of my head. It's even harder now because he has a new girlfriend.
Q. im not sure but i think im falling 4 this guy, ive known him 4 2 years and we used to talk and we liked each other but i ended up falling in love with his work colleague. We then broke up (me and the colleague) and then i found out he had got ...
A. 25 September 2006: Well for starters you fell for someone else and probably hurt him in the process therefore he moved on and met someone.
You need to be sure of your feelings and make sure your not just feeling this way because your single again and he is with some... (read in full...)
Why has my fiancee stopped giving me any affection? She is always pushing me away.
Q. hello i am a 21 year old male my fiance is 19 and i have a few simple questions that i have been racking my brain trying to figure out i have about drove myself to the point of crazy !!!! anyways me and my fiance have been togather for 5 years we ...
A. 25 September 2006: I can't tell you why she is doing this as only she knows that.
Although I know when my baby hit the age of 7 months I started pushing away anyone close to me and started shutting myself off from people, I didn't realise I was doing it until some... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is away for a month. How do I cope without seeing him?
Q. i am missin my bf so much He is away for just over a month and I kinda feel like my life has stopped I feel like i have tried everything hypnosis taking classes going out with friends the works but i still feel low and emotional People around ...
A. 25 September 2006: Share with him how you are feeling not only will it stop you from feeling like you are carrying this alone it will also stop you annoying your friends with this, you'll probably find he is feeling the same way as you but like you he knows there is ... (read in full...)
I am 16 and have a boyfriend, but I am in love with a 19 year old guy. What should I do?
Q. I really badley need help ive loved a 19 year old since january im only 16 the problem is ive just got this new bf who is sooooo amazing and i love him. i thought the 19 year old didnt like me as more than a mate but i got a text message off him 2 ...
A. 25 September 2006: I agree with helpful girl, you need to take some time out to work through your thoughts and feelings to see who it is that makes the biggest effect on you as at the moment you could be swaying towards the one you haven't got simply because you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to change somebody's drinkink habits?
Q. How much drink is acceptable in a week. My boyfriend loves beer - he used to drink about 5 or 6 cans in the evening but was able to hold it really well. A few nights he went out clubbing and got very drunk and he cheated on me. We broke up but a ...
A. 25 September 2006: You need to let him see that drink is what caused you two to break up and that your worried that when out he may drink to the excess and do something stupid again and you don't want that to happen as he is already on his second chance.
There real... (read in full...)
Can you be best friends with the person you have just broken up with?
Q. How can you be best friends straight after a break up which your g/f made? i don't want to feel bad by not being her friend, but it seems hard to see her as a friend..especially saying best friends staright after a break up, i don't get it...
A. 25 September 2006: I think you can be friends with an ex I just don't believe you can be so soon after the break up.
I think you need to distance yourself away from them until you have had some sort of closure on the relationship before you can attempt to build a frie... (read in full...)
I'm so confused, one min he is saying he loves me, the next hes telling me about all the chicks he has seen lately. whats going on????
Q. I am a 17 year old girl. I have really deep feelings for my best friend who I have been friends with for about 6 months now. When I first met him, I thought I had feelings for him more then a friend but decided to just wait, get to know him, and ...
A. 25 September 2006: These feelings are normal, you love him so of course the thought of him with someone else is going to hurt.
You and him are friends so when another girl is becoming a friend of his you feel it is taking away your place in his life, the only plac... (read in full...)
Does anyone else here find long distance relationships really hard and depressing??
Q. Does anyone else here find long distance relationships really hard?? And depressing?? I usually see my boyfriend once a fortnight, but he couldnt make it this weekend for what I thought was a pretty stupid, unimpressive reason. We were going to go...
A. 25 September 2006: Any relationship is hard, long distance has its good and bad sides, the good is when you do see them you try to make the most of the time together and therefore most the time things don't get in a rut but on the bad side you don't get to see them as ... (read in full...)
I have been cheated on in every relationship. I am now with a new guy, how can I make sure I don't get hurt?
Q. Im 25 and every relationship i have had my partner has cheated on me. I was with someone for 4 years after 2 we got engaged , then something in my stomach kept niggling saying sumthing between us wasnt right. I am ashamed of what i did but i had ...
A. 25 September 2006: When you've been cheated on you start to think that everyone will do the same to you and paranoia and insecuritys set in, it's normal happens to us all but what you've got to realise you've only been with this guy a few weeks and it's still early ... (read in full...)
My friend knows I am in love with him, he gives me mixed signals but just does not seem to care. I really don't know what to do anymore.
Q. Hi, Im in a proper mess, im desperatly in love with my friend and he knows this, and I dont expect him to be in love with me back. It just no matter how much I tell him (in a text) he never comments, never runs a mile and well its destroying me ...
A. 25 September 2006: I'm torn between the fact that he doesn't feel the same way but doesn't want to lose your friendship therefore causing the mixed signals or whether he does feel the same way and is scared of something causing the mixed signals only one way to find ... (read in full...)
Are we in a rut... Or more than a rut?
Q. I am going out with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years we are now deciding to buy a house together. He got very drunk one night and ask me if I thought we "Light one anothers fire" I didnt answer and ask him if I light his fire and he said sometimes. He ...
A. 25 September 2006: Sounds like your just in a normal rut I don't think it's anything bigger to worry about you just need to put abit more effort into the relationship.
As long as you both still love each other than thats really the main thing, all the other thin... (read in full...)
Torn between two brothers!!!
Q. dear agony aunt, I'm 15 years old and i have a problem that has been dragging on for months. There is this guy, he likes me very much, and i like him, but i'm not aloud to date until i am 16. He happily agreed to wait until i was 16 to date me, a...
A. 25 September 2006: Well until you are 16 you can't do anything about dating either one of them, you do need to work out which one you really do want to date when you are allowed to as the younger brother is waiting around for you until you are 16 and if it's not him ... (read in full...)
We broke up, now he's depressed and I feel guilty!!!
Q. I finished with my lover because our relationship wasn't going anywhere. I was with him 2 years but i wanted more then what he could give me. Now he keeps txting me saying he cant sleep and that he is suffering from depression,i feel guilty and i do...
A. 25 September 2006: In one simple answer.. Yes he is!!! You need to make sure he knows you aren't going back to him and that he needs to move on from it, explain to him again the reason you two split up, maybe being away from you has made him realise that he does want ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep getting pregnant to men I don't really love?
Q. I am 23 years old and have a 4 year old child. At the age of 17 I had an abortion and it was a really harrowing experience as I didn't tell anyone. Then earlier this year, I had another, but this time felt able to tell family and friends, although ...
A. 25 September 2006: Firstly I don't understand why you are getting involved with men you really don't want to be with. Secondly I don't see why you aren't doing more to stop yourself from getting pregnant all the time.
You really can't keep falling into this trap and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 1 month tells me he still lives with his ex. He says this is purely for financial reasons. What do I do?
Q. my boyfriend, of one month, came up at the weekend, and he told me that he still has to live with his ex, he said it is over, but she stills wants to be with him. he says they sleep in separate beds, and he is only still they because he cant afford ...
A. 25 September 2006: I would be very careful here, yes he might be telling you the truth and until you come along thinking about sorting his living situation out probably hasn't been an issue.
I don't see how he can't move out if you want to do something that much you ... (read in full...)
How do I shut off my feelings???
Q. I am in a university position in the housing department. I advise the resident advisors (house moms, if you will) and i have fallen for one of our residents. He has also reciprocated feelings for me, and knows im not supposed to date him as per ...
A. 25 September 2006: I agree with Yos, if you both have strong feelings towards each other and want to be together then follow your heart, yes your job is important but there are plenty of other jobs out there if you can't have both but you need to be honest and hope ... (read in full...)
Does he care about an US or is he just curious??
Q. My ex of 6 years and I have been done for 4 months. He has a new gf, of 3 months. He told me that he was tired of me complaining about bills, work and my debt. We lived together for two years. We didnt have sex for a year or so. I thought that we ...
A. 25 September 2006: Before you do anything you need to think about whether you really want someone that has done all this and made you feel the way he has back in your life.
If the answer is yes then you need to take the chance and contact him and see where he is seei... (read in full...)
Is my husband depressed? And what can I do to help him?
Q. I am beginning to wonder whether my hubby is depressed and need to know what I can do to help. Its almost like he has become stuck in a rut doing a job an hour away from where we live and it is not stimulating him. He makes excuse after exc...
A. 25 September 2006: It sounds like with a job he doesn't like, debts and alot of other things going on he is getting to the point where he doesn't see a way out of these problems so he isn't going to even try which could well be a form of depression brought on by ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a male friend. I have no problem with this, but he keeps stepping on my toes.
Q. My girlfriend has a guy friend, I have no problem with this. But this guy is stepping on my toes. Always buying things for her, writing poems, etc. It feels like he's moving in on my territory. I try not to feel pressured. I don't want to be ...
A. 25 September 2006: I would talk to her and tell her how his behaviour towards her is making you feel, if she loves you she will talk to him and ask him to calm it down.
I had a friend who was the same way with me and because we was just friends I didn't realise what... (read in full...)
Shou;d her and I start a relationship, again? My friends, family say NO..what do you think?
Q. My ex-girlfriend and I started dating in HighSchool and dated for 4 years. She broke up with me because she needed "independence" but yet started dating another guy a couple months later. I hated her for several months and even forgot her and then ...
A. 25 September 2006: I've always believed that everyone within reason deserves a second chance and if i was in the situation your in right now I would go for it as if I didn't I would always wonder what I have missed out on and if I lost my chance with the person I ... (read in full...)
We are friends from work and he hugs me, he tickles me. He has a gf with 2 kids! Is this guy gay?
Q. I have a friend, we met at work, after a while we got close, he would hold my hand, tickle me because he liked how i laughed, hug me from behind, he would pull me onto his lap, embrace me, even once i felt him hard behind me. he's got a girlfriend ...
A. 25 September 2006: Well it sounds like he has some sort of attraction towards you, whether he will or wants to actually do anything about that is another thing.
You don't want to get yourself stuck in this situation not only because you work together, your frie... (read in full...)
I feel like she has me hanging around until she meets someone else? Am I wasting my time, here?
Q. in the begining of july i got back with my x girlfriend after being broke up for almost a year and a half (i broke up with her and couple months later i noticed i loved her too much and regreted it and contacted her and she was with someone els...
A. 25 September 2006: Well from what it sounds like she is blaming you for the reasons as to why she is being the way she is with you, she is treating you badly and not wanting to say what the real reason is she is finding fault in you which is unfair as if she isn't ... (read in full...)
I constantly look down on myself. Could it be because I think my father hates me?
Q. help! i think my father hates me. my father wasnt around my whole life so when i was about thirteen i decided to meet him. over the next few years iv seen him maybe 3 times. he dosnt call on my birthday christmas or ever. he loves his other children ...
A. 25 September 2006: I would think that because you feel unwanted and let down by your Dad you feel that it is your fault and that there is something you have done to make your father be like this therefore you are worrying that if you are yourself then your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
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