Concerned about reps intentions towards my girlfriend
Q. My girlfriend works in an office, reps call weekly to see her. One guy phoned her every day, with some business question. She thought he had a crush on her. Then we got together and he stopped phoning so often. Then one day on a visit he told he...
A. 29 September 2006: Sometimes it just helps to know someone else would feel or act the same way if they were you.
Jealousy is an uncontrollable emotion and everyone has a certain amount of it in them and the different situations affect our jealousy to different leve... (read in full...)
Boyfriend states I'm too possessive
Q. My long distance boyfriend of a year recently broke up with me stating I was being too possessive. Now he wants us to talk everyday but not have the "title". He said he still cares about me but he needs to focus on work more and figure out if we are ...
A. 29 September 2006: Just try to be strong and hang in to giving him the space and not contacting him and showing him you are weak, you need him to see he wants and misses you and that you aren't possesive and able to back away when needed to.
Good luck, keep me post... (read in full...)
My girl suffers with depression and bulimia, I support her every step, but she keeps pushing me out!!
Q. Hello. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend back in December to date a new girl i know from work. It was not a clean break on my part with my ex and if i am being honest i liked the security she was offering me by wanting to stay and sort things out, i ...
A. 29 September 2006: From what you've recently posted I actually would start to agree that you need to give up on her and move onto someone that can give you the love back that you give out, we all make mistakes in our life and most of us use them as a learning curve ... (read in full...)
I think my ex still wants me!
Q. I really fancy my ex boyfriend still ,how can i get him to like me back , i see him looking at me . . . i wonder if he thinks what if ? ... like i do ...
A. 29 September 2006: Well I would try asking him when your together next if he fancies going for a walk in the park, then after doing that a few times here and there try hugging him and taking things slowly like that, if he responds from all of these and you seem to ... (read in full...)
Is she having second thoughts about us ? Cant understand why all of a sudden she is so distant ??
Q. My girl is giving me the cold shoulder, why? We have been dating for three months, and things have progressed very fast. We both agreed that the way it was going was fine. I'll be honest, I fell in love with her and we have already been talking ...
A. 28 September 2006: Alot of women don't realise that men do worry about things like this and that they need just as much reassuring and confirmation that they are loved, missed and wanted as us women do.
Hang in there and try not to push her, things sound likeshe does... (read in full...)
Is it considered cheating if my girlfriend is a paying member of adult dating websites?
Q. Is it considered cheating if my girlfriend is a paying memeber (previously an unpaid member) on Adultfriendfinder.com, and has nude pictures of herself on there for other people to see. She is away at school, and we get to see each other like 1-2 ...
A. 28 September 2006: However wrong that maybe I think I would have been curious and done the same, I hope for your sake so either doesn't take the bait or tells 'fake you' that she isn't interested, has a boyfriend etc because doing something like this is definantly a ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined things by sleeping with him early on in the relationship?
Q. Hi there, I am 25 and have just started seeing a guy (few years older) who I really like. We have been seeing each other for about a month now. The last weekend I stayed at his and we slept together for the first time. At first we tried not to ...
A. 28 September 2006: I would just leave it at the casual text you sent last night and now leave it in his hands as to contacting you and sorting out seeing you, I know it's not much help as you do like him and want this to work but if he did use you then you have to ... (read in full...)
I think my ex still wants me!
Q. I really fancy my ex boyfriend still ,how can i get him to like me back , i see him looking at me . . . i wonder if he thinks what if ? ... like i do ...
A. 27 September 2006: Firstly you can't get someone to like you back.
But you need to talk to him and see where you stand as you won't lose anything from asking just possibly gain.
If you ask and he isn't interested in getting back together at least then you can hope... (read in full...)
My ex and my friend - how can it be?
Q. There are rumours around school that my ex and my friend love each other and should go out ... however i dont rly think that my ex wants to go out with her ... but how can i be sure ? ... without asking him how will i know if they are in love ? ...
A. 27 September 2006: You probably know your ex better than most so I'm sure you would just know if this was the case, but when it comes down to it he is your ex therefore free to do what he wants with whoever he wants even if the fact it's your friend isn't the most ... (read in full...)
Poor Ratings Query
Q. Can anyone tell me why I have such poor ratings?? I thought I was giving good advice. Please answer....
A. 27 September 2006: We can't always give the answer that the poster of the question wants to hear, this doesn't make our advice wrong or bad just means it's different to what someone else thinks, but I feel that is the good thing about this site, being able to have ... (read in full...)
My girl suffers with depression and bulimia, I support her every step, but she keeps pushing me out!!
Q. Hello. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend back in December to date a new girl i know from work. It was not a clean break on my part with my ex and if i am being honest i liked the security she was offering me by wanting to stay and sort things out, i ...
A. 27 September 2006: I know someone with depression and as the depression got worse they went from wanting support and love from everyone to just shutting themselves away from all the important things in their life and starting just doing things that they could use to ... (read in full...)
I think I fancy dads new girlfriend, should I tell him ?
Q. im 14 dad broke up with mum few years ago and now seeing lady younger then him (bout 5 yrs younger) She is nice and trys to join in and have fun with us I think dad likes here lots thing is i fancy her what should i do I dont know if i should...
A. 27 September 2006: Your 14, your hormones are all over the place, it is normal to have a crush on someone older and in alot of cases this turns out to be someone close to you and out of bounds.
You need to move on from this and let your Dad be happy with his new girl... (read in full...)
I am married and my online friend has fallen in love with me. Am I cheating?
Q. i am a 29-year-old married female having a 1-year-old child. A month back i made friends with a 20-year-old male on the internet and have been in constant touch with each other ever since online and over the phone. He claims to have fallen in love ...
A. 27 September 2006: Anything done behind someones back and lying to someone and that is something that the other person wouldn't approve of is cheating them in some way in my eyes, whether this is classed as cheating all depends on the people involved as everyone has ... (read in full...)
I am starting to develop feelings for him, but he is giving me mixed signals. What should I do now?
Q. Im 15 the guy i like is 16. I have only been talking to him for about a week and havent met him yet. We have so much in common and we get on really well. I think im starting to develop feelings for him. I told him this but im not sure if his ...
A. 27 September 2006: I would continue chatting and getting to know each other in a friendly way as it has only been a week and some people find shows of affection at such an early stage.
You need to take things slowly, take your time to get to know him and for him to g... (read in full...)
Why does my husband put me down when I try to have sex with him? Is he cheating?
Q. My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years and, I am lucky if i have sex with him once a week. The times that we do have sex is when I come on to him and, half of the time he says he don't fell good or he's in a bad mood. I don't know ...
A. 27 September 2006: I would talk to him and tell him how you are feeling right now, there could be many reasons why he is acting like this, cheating is one of them things but so is depression low self esteam etc.
You've got nothing to lose by confronting this issu... (read in full...)
Are we better off being friends then lovers? Advice needed
Q. I've been in a serious relationship for about 4 years, some of which has been on and off. We were best friends before we dated for about 3 years. How do I know if we are better friends then bf/gf?...
A. 27 September 2006: Friendship is enjoying someones company and sharing interests and time together.
Partners are people that want the same as friends with the attraction and stronger feelings and of course a sexual side to this.
You need to work out what you feel and... (read in full...)
Does he still love me or is he just messing with me head? Somebody please help!
Q. OK here it goes. To make a really long story short, my ex and I haven't been together for almost 10 months (with the exception of sex). We were really great friends before we started dating and we were together for 5 years. When we broke up he ...
A. 27 September 2006: He wants it all his own way and so far getting it.
You need to put your foot down and make this a equal relationship if you want a relationship, if you don't or he won't then you need to stop sleeping with him and try and make a friendship from this... (read in full...)
I really like this 16 year old guy, im only 13 and a bit too shy to approach him!!
Q. I really like this guy who is 3 years older than me ( 13 to 16), i know he likes me too but he has told my friends that im a bit young but he would go for me if i was older. I really want to talk to him but i dont know how to approch him because of ...
A. 27 September 2006: It's an encouragement for the future that someone that you liked returned your feelings, and if in a few years time the feelings are still there then go for it but for now you are only 13 therefore any boyfriend you do get involved with should only ... (read in full...)
What do girls in general like to see in guys ?
Q. just wondering why do girls in general like to see in guys...
A. 27 September 2006: Everyone of us girls are different and want different guys, the best thing you can do is be yourself and not try to be someone your not as someone will love you for just being you and I know I'd rather be loved for being me than for being someone ... (read in full...)
Did my wife really stop in the middle of the act because she felt bad, or did she cheat ??
Q. did she cheat on me or not ?? me and my wife have been living together for 12 years, and have we have 2 kids. Our realationship has had its ups and downs over the years, but somehow we have made it work. About 6 months ago we had a huge fight,and...
A. 27 September 2006: Well even though you were still married you weren't together at the time and you had called an end to everything with her and moved out I would say it wasn't cheating as at the time she was no longer with you, although I would be very hurt in the ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my mum being so controlling and stopping me from living with my brother ?
Q. Hi everyone, i have a serious and important question that i need advise. Im 20 and i been together with my bf for 3mo but been best friends since 8th grade. Recently back in june my mom and me got into a huge fight and she kicked me out but i was ...
A. 27 September 2006: Your 20 therefore you have a right to move out if that is what you want to do, I would try talking to your mum and explain to her that you don't like your relationship with her being strained and hoping that from moving out you and her can gain a ... (read in full...)
Will this have affected me long term ?
Q. A few week ago i got close with this boy and he fingered me, ater a while it started to hurt when he was trying to put more fingers up. And it stil hurts abit now, im still a virgin and could this have had any affect on me or could i have lost my ...
A. 27 September 2006: If you wasn't relaxed enough you will find that you will feel discomfort from this especially if he was trying to use more fingers than your body would allow.
Hope this helped :o)... (read in full...)
Is she having second thoughts about us ? Cant understand why all of a sudden she is so distant ??
Q. My girl is giving me the cold shoulder, why? We have been dating for three months, and things have progressed very fast. We both agreed that the way it was going was fine. I'll be honest, I fell in love with her and we have already been talking ...
A. 27 September 2006: I would think she probably needs a little bit of space as you've spent alot of time together recently and although you both agreed you was happy with the speed things were going at in three months you have both gone from single and free to do what ... (read in full...)
I have a vaginal odour despite cleansing, anything I can take to reduce this ?
Q. i have recently found that i have vaginal odour problems and when i have sex it comes up more. I wash all the time but how can i get rid of the problem ? Are there any tablets i can take for this ?...
A. 27 September 2006: Although this may just be a problem that can be dealt with, with fem wash it may also be a sign of an infection of some sort which your doctor will be able to take some swabs and treat the problem properly.
Hope this helps :o)... (read in full...)
Concerned about reps intentions towards my girlfriend
Q. My girlfriend works in an office, reps call weekly to see her. One guy phoned her every day, with some business question. She thought he had a crush on her. Then we got together and he stopped phoning so often. Then one day on a visit he told he...
A. 27 September 2006: I would be concerned in this situation if I was you aswell but that doesn't mean I think there is anything wrong here I just feel it is natural that you are feeling concerned and jealous regarding the way this guy is towards your girlfriend.
He may ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined things by sleeping with him early on in the relationship?
Q. Hi there, I am 25 and have just started seeing a guy (few years older) who I really like. We have been seeing each other for about a month now. The last weekend I stayed at his and we slept together for the first time. At first we tried not to ...
A. 27 September 2006: Sleeping together was a decision made between you both and was something you both wanted to do therefore I don't see how he can think badly of you for doing so.
As you said he is away working for a week so the fact he hasn't contacted you may just... (read in full...)
Do you think that women sometimes worry too much?
Q. I would like an opinion please from people: Do you think that women sometimes worry too much about how often between dates or seeing each other that a guy chooses to contact us? Guys - if you like a woman a lot will you choose to contact her e...
A. 27 September 2006: We are all different people with different feelings in situations.
Where as we all think it's just as women that worry about things like this you'll find alot of men have these worries and concerns too.
Hope this helps :o)... (read in full...)
Boyfriend states I'm too possessive
Q. My long distance boyfriend of a year recently broke up with me stating I was being too possessive. Now he wants us to talk everyday but not have the "title". He said he still cares about me but he needs to focus on work more and figure out if we are ...
A. 27 September 2006: I would let him go and give him some space to figure out if you are right for one another as all the time he is getting to be free and still get what he wants from you he won't do anything about the situation and not be any closer to knowing whether ... (read in full...)
My gf gets very physical during sex. Does she expect me to do the same?
Q. Right, I have been with my girlfriend for a few months now. All is good, but, Im a little confused about our sex life. There is a bit of an age gap between us, and to my knowledge women enjoy a romantic passoinate experience in the bedroom, but this ...
A. 27 September 2006: I would suggest asking her if there is anything you can do or anything she would like you to be doing.
... (read in full...)
Found taboo porn on my husband's PC...
Q. well... i'll keep it simple. i have been happily married for 2 years been together 6 know 15. We just had alittle girl about 7 months ago. during my pregnancy i came across something disturbing on my PC...PORN, but not just any PORN...these girls ...
A. 27 September 2006: How young is YOUNG?
There are alot of people out there that find different people sexually attractive and use the internet for that fact as in real life they wouldn't do anything about it or even find the same things a turn on.
You need to talk to ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel that white women are more beautiful than black women like me? Do I need professional help?
Q. i am a single black woman and i have issues with beautiful women. my self image was destroyed a while back and now when i see that black women are not as beautiful as white women so basically what im saying is what could be wrong with me or do i ...
A. 27 September 2006: Everyone is beautiful to someone.
We are all different and individual and this is what attracts other people to us, what makes you beautiful to one person doesn't always make you attractive to another that is the joys of being different.... (read in full...)
Im waiting for he current relationship not to work, so I can get back with her!!
Q. I'm trying to work my way back in with my ex, will it work? Please read my last post first: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-love-and-want-to-marry-this-woman.html Well, as I mentioned, we have been talking a lot lately, mostly me contac...
A. 27 September 2006: If she didn't want to be with her current boyfriend and wanted to be with you then she would be as you are making it quite obvious that this is what you want from her.
You can't wait around forever for someone as this time could be wasted and coul... (read in full...)
Is it considered cheating if my girlfriend is a paying member of adult dating websites?
Q. Is it considered cheating if my girlfriend is a paying memeber (previously an unpaid member) on Adultfriendfinder.com, and has nude pictures of herself on there for other people to see. She is away at school, and we get to see each other like 1-2 ...
A. 27 September 2006: Not only is she advertising for everyone who is potentionally looking for someone that she is single she is also posting nakid pictures of herself for everyone to look at, which really is something only you should be seeing.
She is mad at you for ... (read in full...)
My bf recently became possesive to the point of following me around everywhere, is this normal ?
Q. i've been going out with this guy for 3 years,he has recently become possessive and is following me almost everywhere,he even knows my passwords!!!is this normal??...
A. 27 September 2006: Have you done anything to cause this possesiveness he has gained?
If you haven't then there is no reason for him to have got like this but I would try talking to him as he may have got the wrong end of something and just needs to get reasurance from... (read in full...)
I would like to offer some help with his cocaine addiction, but he wont answer my calls, why doesnt he want to know me now ?
Q. I have a strange tale and a question that I wish could be answered. I met a young man at work who first pursued me with friendship and flirting. Within the two months that we saw each other about every day we developed a strong attachment, and ...
A. 27 September 2006: I would walk away from the situation and feel lucky to be out of it all, you need to stop contacting him and if he wants his property he knows where it is and can contact you and arrange to come get it.
You can only help someone that wants your help... (read in full...)
He said before we moved in together that I would despise his smoking, I said I would be okay with it.. Thing is im not and I want to bring it up but dont know how to!?
Q. I was led to believe by my boyfriend that he didn't smoke. It turned out that he was a very heavy smoker, was trying to quit because he knew I wouldn't like it, and was avoiding or hiding it when I was around. By the time I found out his attempts...
A. 27 September 2006: I would talk to him and explain to him that you are worried about the health side of his smoking and see what he comes back with.
The thing is he warned you and you said it wouldn't be a problem so you have to be careful as making a big thing abou... (read in full...)
My bf works away and I get mad if he doesn't text. What can I do?
Q. Hi Im gonna sound like such a bad gf but here goes My bf works in the working away for a few months Obv working (never the same hours two days running) is a good reason that he can not reply to my texts all the time and i understand this (when...
A. 27 September 2006: We can't always reply to a text that comes through our phone for whatever reason, I'm sure he replies as soon as he can and at least he does reply, I've been in situations where I've texted and not got a reply and when I've asked why I've got the I ... (read in full...)
My best mate doesnt like my Bf what can I do ??
Q. one of my best friends (a guy) really doesnt like my bf My bf is the sweetest guy ever but my friend wont have any of it. Thing is they have only met once and now my friend wont even contemplate meeting him again For a while me and my friend h...
A. 27 September 2006: He may see more in you than just a friend, care for you so is just worried of you getting hurt or he could even just be jealous of losing your attention and not wanting to share you as he is so use to you spending so much time together and you not ... (read in full...)
My bf says I just lie there during sex, what can I do to improve this ?
Q. My bf claims i don't 'do much' during sex except lie there and make approving noises. Neither of us particularly enjoy having me on top. What exactly can i do when he's on top. Am i actually meant to be doing some of the 'thrusting' and if so do i ...
A. 27 September 2006: You need to start moving with him against his thrusts and caress him and as he is on top you have most his body to touch and caress make the most of it, try showing him how much you want him by grabbing him and pulling him closer and more into you, ... (read in full...)
Are these other symptoms still signs of thrush or something else ?
Q. I've had reoccuring thrush since i became sexually active about 3 months ago. I knew it was thrush at first because all the symptoms were there and it smelt yeasty, but sometimes i get it and it doesn't smell and it's lumpier and there's more of it. ...
A. 27 September 2006: I would go see your doctor if you are worried about this as he can tell you what it is and give you something for it.
I know thrush treatments can be brought over the counter but I still feel if it keep returning then worth seeing your doctor for ... (read in full...)
Shes my friend but her ex now wants to go out with me, this would upset her so what should I do ?
Q. My friend has recently finished with her boyfriend and he now wants to go out with me. I feel this would upset my girlfriend. What should I do?...
A. 27 September 2006: I'm the same as jmum, I believe that you do not go near your friends boyfriend, someone she wants to be with or someone she has been with therefore making this a no go area.
No matter what your friend says about this she will be hurt by this and ... (read in full...)
How can I become less sensitive ?
Q. Is being a sensitive man a bad thing? I am sensitive to other peoples feelings and to my own, it's not over the top, and not very obvious until you get to know me well, but how can I become less sensitive? Thank you....
A. 27 September 2006: Don't ever change for anyone, you are the person you are and people should accept that, the people that matter will love you for who you are and not who they can change you into the others don't matter.
Like Astrid said beware of people ready to u... (read in full...)
It was a no strings sex encounter, the fact I slept with someone doesnt make me a cheat right ??
Q. Before my boyfriend and I actually got together,we basically started with screwing each other.We both barely knew each other and so forth. From what i had assumed we were just messing. I slept with him and slept over his place 2 nights in a row ...
A. 27 September 2006: No you didn't cheat as you was honest and upfront about what you wanted from your now boyfriend and he was aware of where you both stood.
The problem is he had feelings for you and it was his friend therefore you've hurt him and slept with some... (read in full...)
What sort of questions should I be asking him if we are to plan our future together ??
Q. I have met a wonderful man and I think he is going to ask me to marry him soon. I want to be sure I have asked him all the best questions so I know him as well as possible since I may be spending the rest of my life with him. What questions should I ...
A. 27 September 2006: Asking questions and giving out answers to our lives isn't what tells us we are making the right choice in marrying someone we feel it and just know it's right.
As you spend your life with someone you learn something new about them everyday and it's... (read in full...)
My recent thoughts of other guys are confusing me!
Q. i am happily married with two young kids. i love my wife but recently i have been dreaming of masturbating another man? i know im not gay im very confused by this can you help please!!!...
A. 27 September 2006: Dreams are never what they seem, behind every dream is a completely different meaning to what you are seeing.
I wouldn't worry too much over this maybe you mind is unsettled when you go to sleep at night so maybe try winding down and clearing your... (read in full...)
Im married and work over seas, Ive fallen for someone else and am thinking of divorce, but feel pity for my child, what should I do ?
Q. I am a married guy working overseas away from my wife and kid. I met a girl who at first was my best friend but we eventually became lovers despite the fact I am already committed (she knows). I am suddenly thinking of divorce but I feel pity to my ...
A. 27 September 2006: You need to take sometime to spend with your wife and away from your new lover and maybe the fact you aren't seeing one at the moment and the other one if there is clouding your look on this.
Your wife is someone you know and maybe it's not exci... (read in full...)
My bf is off to Oz, for 2 montsh he wants to break up, as doesnt feel we will last, I dont and want to try!!
Q. My boyfriend is goin to Australia for 2 months on friday week and thinks it would be better if we broke up as it would be too hard on us to try and continue our relationship with the distance between us. I don't want do that and would be willig to ...
A. 27 September 2006: All you can do is try and see how it goes, if you both can't keep it up or find it too hard then at least you know you tried.
Good luck :o)... (read in full...)
My girlfiend is completely uninterested in me. Is she ok for me?
Q. my girl doesn't want to spend time with me,i can't touch her(not sex),only see me when passing by,doesn't express herself/feelings to me, take things without returning them,turn down outing request,doesn't feel fry with me. but want me to be co...
A. 27 September 2006: I would say she is playing you for a fool and you need to either talk to her and tell her how she is behaving and how you feel and see if it makes a difference to her behaviour or get out and find yourself someone that will want to be with you the ... (read in full...)
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