Is this normal ?
Q. Me and my bf had sex without a condom, whilst i was on my period (time of the month), i was wondering, if this is ok, it was the first time we did this, we have been together a year... im worried now.. is this normal??????...
A. 22 September 2006: Some people don't like the idea of having sex during their or their girlfriends time of the month some do, this doesn't make them normal or you normal it's just different peoples preferances.
If you enjoyed it and so did your boyfriend and neit... (read in full...)
I like this guy (my brother's boss) who is much older. Does age matter and should I have my brother hint to this fellow, I like him?
Q. Hello Before I start I want to say a few things to get the picture strat.I have a son thats 8 1/2, he is the greatest! and my life!I 25 very soon to be 26 I not a playboy center fold but i did win Miss Bass lake swimsuit 2003. OK I'm falling for...
A. 22 September 2006: I feel age only matters to the people in the relationship, if it isn't an issue for you or him then it shouldn't make a difference to what happens between you both.
I wouldn't get your brother involved as it is his boss and if your brother is the ... (read in full...)
How can I make my boyfriend aware that I need to feel more secure when we are apart without sounding demanding!!
Q. How do I talk to my boyfriend about how i need to feel more secure and wanted in the relationship? That i need more than a couple of texts a week to feel like he actually wants me. When he was pursuing me he was contacting me daily and callin...
A. 22 September 2006: When we get with someone they set a standard, texting all the time, ringing just to hear our voice etc then things slip it happens to us all and we want it how it was but that is the honeymoon period.
You can either talk to your boyfriend and tell... (read in full...)
Married 15 years, he's cheated twice, decided to make a go of it, but whats to stop him doing it again!!!
Q. Hi I've been married for 15 yrs and husband cheated twice. Once 10yrs ago and now again we've now decided to try and make a go of it.But I feel betrayed and not sure if I still what to stick around I feel I cannot trust him its like I see him as a ...
A. 22 September 2006: There is nothing that will stop him doing it again.
What you need to work out is whether you want to make a go of things on the chance of it never happening again and working out or to be made a fool of again and being right back here again hurt... (read in full...)
Kind of feeling that I want to end the relationship, but I do love her and cant see life without her, but she does act selfish.. What can I do ?
Q. Me and my fiancee have been together for 13 months now,we are both in our early 30's,when we met we fell in love very quickly.We are supposed to be moving in together at the end of this year.We are also best friends and have a solid relationship, ...
A. 22 September 2006: You need to talk to her explaining to her how you are feeling and that you feel that if this can't be resolved you feel that maybe a future together maybe a mistake, a relationship is a two way thing abit of giving and taking from both sides and ... (read in full...)
Anyone any ideas how I can solve these sexual problems ??
Q. Hi I have abit of a tight foreskin and the tip of my penis is very sensitive. How can i stop it from being tooo sensitive, when my boyfriend is kissing down there it makes me feel uncomfortable and i start to lose my erection. Any ideas what i can ...
A. 22 September 2006: I had a boyfriend with the same problem and the more he left it the worse it got, he had to see his doctor and had an operation and was circumcised, although it all depends on the extent of the problem as to whether you will have to be circumcised ... (read in full...)
Whilst on holiday, I met a wonderful guy, then had to come back home to my boyfriend. What should I do?
Q. Hiya, Im 19 and I've been in a realtionship now for over 3 years with a guy. He is nice but he has strayed before in the past so im finding it difficult to trust him. He tries to make decisions for me. He does try to control me. I know that he lov...
A. 22 September 2006: I think you need to be on your own while you sort through you head, it's really hard to make a decision while you are in a relationship with someone or what sounds like two people.
Your now home so you'll be missing the one that you can't see ther... (read in full...)
The boy I fancy fancies my friend. Can I make him love me?
Q. I met a boy and i fancy him he touches me but he said he fancys my friend what hould i do to make him love me?...
A. 22 September 2006: You can't make anyone love you!
All you can be is a friend and maybe one day he might see you as something more but you can't hold your hopes on that as he may never look at you as more than just a friend.... (read in full...)
Old college friend has made me realise my true feelings for my boyfriend. Should I leave him?
Q. Hi, I am currently in a relationship where I have been living with my boyfriend. We have been together over a year now I am starting to think we are not working. we are very different. I have also recently been reunited with an old college friend w...
A. 22 September 2006: I would suggest walking away from them both until you work out what you want, the grass always seems greener on the other side so maybe its just the want of the unknown or you could be right and not want to be with your current boyfriend anymore ... (read in full...)
I am a girl who prefers to hang with guys, why can't girls understand that?
Q. I am someone who likes to hang around with guys, and I hate it when certain girls and women try to talk and hang out with me. (In fact, there are very few that I like, or can tolerate, because I know too many who are mean to me for no good reason, ...
A. 22 September 2006: Sounds like you've got alot of friends and that your happy therefore I don't see a problem.
Who you choose to be friends with is your business and if some people don't like it then they ain't worth being a friend of yours anyway.... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband of 14 years with his best friend. He stayed with me but now I have met someone else. What should I do?
Q. I have a a problem and don't know what to do about it I have been married for 14 years and have children, I fell in love with my husband's heart he is so giving and wanted to take care of me I was not physically attracted to him physically, but he ...
A. 22 September 2006: IF you no longer have feelings for your husband then new or man or not you shouldn't still be with him for whatever reason, I know you think you are doing whats best and right for everyone but your not, if you cut your marriage you are giving your ... (read in full...)
How can a loser ever win the heart of a stunner?
Q. Hi I've just started my 2nd year at uni and there's a girl, where one of my friends lives near, who also goes to the same uni as me and similar student bars. I'm not joking she is utterly beautiful, stunning hot etc. and my friends says she is smart ...
A. 22 September 2006: I would go for it she can only say no and if she does you can move on from this, rejection isn't a nice feeling but we all learn from it and there is always the 50/50 chance that she might say yes and if you don't say something you will never know ... (read in full...)
How do you know if someone is using you?
Q. How do you know if someone is using you?...
A. 22 September 2006: Some people do play hard to get and make some one put more effort in to something so they can see if that person is serious, but they stil give something into it, if that person haves you giving everything into something and they are giving nothing, ... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love for the first time, what should I do?
Q. im in love with a girl for the first time, what should i do?...
A. 22 September 2006: I take it from what you have said that you are with this person?
If so... just take it all as it comes, love can make you do some silly things, love should never be rushed you should just allow everything as it feels right for you both.
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Cant understand why I suddenly feel like cheating when not with my girl ???
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a few months now, we are happy together and things have been going very well. She says she is inlove with me and I feel that I am inlove with her. But there is one major problem that I just cant figure out! I am ...
A. 22 September 2006: Attraction towards the opposite sex is something normal and uncontrollable, what we can control is what we do and how we deal with the attraction, if you love your girlfriend as you say you do you will just ignore the attraction and stay faithful to ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 22 September 2006: I was just reading through other replies and the idea to be able to go back into your answer to edit it before it is posted would be handy as sometimes you may not notice a mistake until its too late or might have something else you would like to ... (read in full...)
Im 7 months pregnant, at first he was supporting me, now he blames me and I dont know what to do!!
Q. hi i am nearly 7 months pregnant i am 22 and my boyfriend is 33 he has 2 kids by a previous partner and this is my first i was told at 16 that i would unlikely concieve naturally but i did and i am now excited my problem is that at first my ...
A. 22 September 2006: I was the same as you, I was told I wouldn't be able to conceive naturally although I did continue to take the pill I fell pregnant, at the time I found out I was no longer with the father and on telling him he blamed me because of course it had to ... (read in full...)
How can I help my bf deal with his problems?
Q. My bf believes in keeping his problems to himself, but I know he's really unhappy because he keeps drinking and smoking more heavily and he's acting different. How can I help him? He has no job and he's annoyed because I've started college so our ...
A. 22 September 2006: I've had this problem with my boyfriend more than once, things get tough for him and he has his problems which he doesn't share with me because he only knows how to deal with his stuff on his own and when things get too much he finishes with me ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he's flirting with other girls
Q. My bf is really confusing. One minute he's sending me e-mails telling my that he's so incredibly lonely when I'm not there with him, and not being able to see/hear/touch/kiss me drives him nuts, and the next he's flirting with other girls right ...
A. 22 September 2006: Maybe he doesn't love you but maybe he might not even realise what he is doing, some of us need to be told for us to see and realise what hurt our actions are causing others, talk to him and tell him how you feel, see what he comes back with and see ... (read in full...)
Would a secret wedding be a bad idea?
Q. My bf and I don't get on very well with our families, or eachothers' families. We want to get married but we don't want all the hassle as we know that inviting them will cause tension. Would a secret wedding be a bad idea?...
A. 22 September 2006: A wedding isn't about what your family wants its about what you and your parter want, try talking to your families telling them how you feel and that if this doesn't resolve itself and soon you will have a wedding just you and your partner as you ... (read in full...)
I feel like he's just bored with me
Q. Is he just too afraid to break up with me? I have been with my man for 4 years we have two kids togather and one from a previous relationship of mine. I feel really neglected and have spoken to him about this on numerous occasions over the past two ...
A. 22 September 2006: All this worrying trying to work out whats wrong is only stressing both you and your partner, the more you drive yourself and your partner about this issue the more of a problem you are going to get, every relationship hits a point where it feels ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to think if a relationship has never made you happy your wasting your time
Q. i think that id rather end up happy on my own with great friends and a full life then become so obsessed with marriage and finding Mr Right il end up with some 1 i dont really love just 4 the sake of it. im more than open to a relationship but...
A. 22 September 2006: All the time you are looking for that 'one' you will never find them as you look at everyone as being a candidate for that position, no you can't change someone and mould them into what you want them to be they have to be themselves and if that ... (read in full...)
Does he want me or not? What do I need to do to convince him that I love him?
Q. Too good to be true - we love each other i know it... I feel as if i'm on trial tho trying to convince him cos he can't believe i'm interested in him. He says he's not ready to move straight into another relationship? He worried that i want too ...
A. 22 September 2006: I don't think he even knows what he wants or how he feels, you need to tell him that you and him can't be having these talks about what can and should and shouldn't be happening between the two of you while he is still in a relationship, you also ... (read in full...)
We argued and he moved out. Is this my fault or was he looking for a reason to go?
Q. Me and my partner have just split up for the second time in 3 years we have a child together. We had a row and I asked him to sleep in the spare room. He has now moved out. Is this my fault or was he looking for a reason to go?...
A. 22 September 2006: I can't say whether you pushed him or he was looking for a reason without knowing more information regarding this.... (read in full...)
I'm leery of marriage? Is there people out there who have been married a long time and still happy?
Q. Hi all, I come from the land of Divorces. I think only one or two marriages in my family, thus far, have survived. So I was thinking today what my future marriage(s) will probably follow the same path. And now that divorce rates are so high...I ...
A. 22 September 2006: I've personally never been married not through lack of not wanting to just lack of finding that 'one' we all hear so much about, I know quite a few people who feel the same way as you regarding marriage but at the same time I do know alot of people ... (read in full...)
Anal secretions during sex...how do I stop it?
Q. I have been having sex for over a year with my boyfriend and (only) the last few times that i have had sex with me on top I have had anul secretions? Why is this and is it normal? It really grosses me out and smells nasty, why is this happening and ...
A. 22 September 2006: I would go to see your doctor because there maybe many reasons for this to be happening, I wouldn't like to make a few suggestions on what this maybe as I'm not a doctor and this could be for many reasons and really does need checking out even if ... (read in full...)
He is seeing her again, but I still miss him
Q. Hi, So me and my ex boyfriend have been on and off for about the past 2 1/2 years. We are both in college, but 1000 miles apart, and the distance is the reason for the on and off. The reason why we first broke up was because he was cheating...
A. 22 September 2006: Tell him how you feel, be honest with him about your feelings for him and the situation, tell him you understand the long distance has been the problem and you would like to sort things out when he comes home and go from there, that way you will be ... (read in full...)
My husband told me that he is bisexual and now wants to explore some of his fantasies together
Q. I’ve been searching the web for advice about having a kinky partner, and happened upon several requests for advice for partners that are chatting. Well, I have no advice, just a similar story – and now a request for advice. My husband and I ha...
A. 22 September 2006: I've always found when you snoop you only ever find things you really didn't want to see and wish you hadn't because it opens something up you wish you hadn't started in the first place, I would suggest you have a think about what you want, do you ... (read in full...)
Im happy but am starting to feel depressed and I dont know why!!!
Q. hi, I'm a 15 yr old girl and have a good life. Generally im happy and have a great best friend who is also a wonderful boyfriend. Lately however,i get these feelings that i can only describe as depression. The terrible thing is that i enjoy th...
A. 22 September 2006: You need to talk to someone, your parents would be a good start, failing that your doctor can refer you to see someone you can talk to about this. This may well just be normally teenager worries and mood changes but worth checking it out as if there ... (read in full...)
Caught in my unstable relationship and now I fancy a new girl!!!
Q. Hello, I am 16 years old, and have been in a quite serious relationship with a girl now for over a year. But i cant really see it lasting for much longer, due to us seemingly drifting apart more each and every day. I have recently started at a new...
A. 22 September 2006: Well you can't carry on with your girlfriend while you don't really want to be with her and thinking of going after someone else especially not because you just feel you would find it hard to finish with your girlfriend, the way it sounds to me is ... (read in full...)
She is so rude to me!!!
Q. My boyfriend was divorced before I met him. He has a daughter who now lives with his ex-wife. My boyfriend and I will take the little girl out during the weekend and spend some time with her. I get along really well with her, which I'm glad. When w...
A. 22 September 2006: If we are honest with ourselves how many of us actually like our ex's new partners? And the fact of trying to be polite and things with that person is definatly trying. Some of us decide it is easier to just be polite towards them and hide our real ... (read in full...)
My bf thinks i cheated on him, but I didn't
Q. my bf thinks i lied and cheated on him, when i didn't i dont know. what i should do? i love him soo much he also will get mad at me if i dont answer him right away. i keep telling him i didnt cheat but he keeps saying i did from an email that he ...
A. 22 September 2006: You need to talk to him, ask him what things make him feel you have cheated and you can confirm and reasure on each situation, you need to make it clear to your boyfriend that you love him and want to be with him and would never do anything to hurt ... (read in full...)
Is sex with and in-law incest?
Q. I have a close girlfriend, who just confided in me about her sexual encounter she had with her brother in law, that would be her husband's brother. She has been married and known him for over 10 years. I really do not know what to tell her; that i...
A. 22 September 2006: The only thing your friend is doing here is Adultery and betrayal of the people that love and care about her and this guy although this is wrong this situation is not incest as incest is when you have intimate relations with a blood relative. ... (read in full...)
I have high anxiety and really worry when not in contact with my boyfriend and dont know how to deal with these panic attacks!!
Q. hi everyone Right, now this is going to sound mad but I have no one else i can ask so im coming here to my virtual friends. My bf and i are getting on great. We have been together a few months now although we were 'friendly' for a while befo...
A. 22 September 2006: I would go see your doctor and explain this to him and he may refer you to someone that can help, as you can't carry on like this and in most situations these may only get worse and more uncontrollable, your problem may not even be anything to do ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 22 September 2006:
Hiya Andrew,
I agree it would be nice to see what questions rated what so you can learn from your answers whether they had a good or bad rating (especially bad), although I do believe these ratings should still stay anon and being as it's not just... (read in full...)
I suffered an accident and now have to find a desk job, I cant find any career advice, anyone help ?
Q. I suffered an accident at work some time ago that has left me unable to work in a physical capacity. My doctor has told me I need to look for a 'desk job'. Trouble is I am having great difficulty finding career advice. Unfortunately I cannot ...
A. 22 September 2006: If you was to return to college while you are unemployed with a family to support you will either be helped with the college costs or the course will be free although I do know round where I am they are only free to people doing a fulltime course ... (read in full...)
What should I tell them about my weaknesses should they ask in an interview ?
Q. I am going for an interview, and the question I dread the most is "what are your weaknesses".. Surely if I tell them "I am always late", etc - they wont touch me with a barge pole!...
A. 22 September 2006: Always being late wouldn't need to be a worry or a weakness if you tried to deal with it instead of just accepting it is a weakness, if you want to get a job and you don't want to lose it then you need to address your punctuality problem as not only ... (read in full...)
Any loan alternatives?
Q. I have been living on my overdraft for the past 5 months,I always pay my bills and rentals on time, but has been refused a loan with all the lenders to pay my overdraft, am in full employment ,so what is the other option because i cannot continue ...
A. 22 September 2006: I would go through your incomings and outgoings and work out what you have possibly free every month that has no use to it, I would then every month put that amount into a savings account and build it up and as it gets to a point transfer it over to ... (read in full...)
He's in college and he wants to meet me
Q. hey guys help me out here, i met this guy on myspace and he wants to meet me,heres the catch...hes in college and im in high school.i dont know what to do!!!...
A. 22 September 2006: I would meet him although I wouldn't meet him alone, not only because he is older but also because you met him online you just got to be so careful now and until you feel safe and feel you know abit about him you should continue to meet him in ... (read in full...)
How do I tell this boy I like him?
Q. i really like this boy but we are apart at the moment because hes gone to collage. we text all the time but i dont know how to express my feelings for him. i think i love him but i am not sure? i really miss him and wish i could be with him 24/7. we ...
A. 22 September 2006: I've never really been keen on texts as I find the things people should be saying to your face they use texts to get out of it although it can be good in situations like this where you are worried about what to say or if to say anything, there is ... (read in full...)
Am I right to break up with my boyfriend because of his promiscuous past?
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend, as I cannot get over his promiscuous past. However, I'm scared to do it, as I've had a boyfriend constantly from being 16 (I've been with my current boyfriend for just over a year, I'm now 20) and I don't know ...
A. 21 September 2006: If you want to be with him don't break up with him because of his past as you will regret it, if you don't want to be with him then you can't stay with him just because your scared of being alone or not finding someone else as that isn't fair on ... (read in full...)
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