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writes: I am in a university position in the housing department. I advise the resident advisors (house moms, if you will) and i have fallen for one of our residents. He has also reciprocated feelings for me, and knows im not supposed to date him as per ethical standards of the position. I dont know what to do, i've fallen, hard, and so has he, but i'm afraid of losing my job over it. It is already to a point that people are noticing that there are sparks and are talking, so i am bringing it to my superior tomorrow, but I dont know how to shut this off, or how to get around it. Help?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to say thankyou to Yos and Toria. I actually was able to speak to my boss and she decided to due the age of the two of us (he's 25, i'm 21) that she thought we should take things slowly and if we want to actively pursue a relationship, we'll move him. I awkwardly told him this and he quickly asked how soon and when he could move.
Yay :-)
thankyou so much for listening
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
 I agree with Yos, if you both have strong feelings towards each other and want to be together then follow your heart, yes your job is important but there are plenty of other jobs out there if you can't have both but you need to be honest and hope that your superior can understand how you are feeling.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Yos  +, writes (25 September 2006):
 My personal philosophy is that if two people are really good and right for each other, then everything else is secondary. Only you two know if this is the case, but if it is, then I'd not let some rules stand in the way.
I'm not suggesting lying. If you two are going to become a couple, then make sure your supervisor knows and explain why. You might find them more sympathetic than you expect. These things happen, its only human, and as long as it is sincere then you should be fine.
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