Am I right to break up with my boyfriend because of his promiscuous past?
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend, as I cannot get over his promiscuous past. However, I'm scared to do it, as I've had a boyfriend constantly from being 16 (I've been with my current boyfriend for just over a year, I'm now 20) and I don't know ...
A. 21 September 2006: If you want to be with him don't break up with him because of his past as you will regret it, if you don't want to be with him then you can't stay with him just because your scared of being alone or not finding someone else as that isn't fair on ... (read in full...)
How do you know if your boyfriend is cheating?
Q. how do you know if your boyfriend is cheating? or even if your man is meeting other girls? i was at college and decided 2 ring my boyfriend, he was on the bus and asked me if i could ring him back in a couple of hours he was with his mate and then i ...
A. 21 September 2006: Talk to him, explain what you've just explained here and see what he says, you can't go on wondering but at the same time with such little information I can't really say yes he is or no he's not, when asking him watch his reaction and body language ... (read in full...)
Can a man improve the taste of his semen?
Q. What can a man do to improve the taste, texture and oder of his seman? ...
A. 21 September 2006: Different foods and drinks change the taste and texture of seman, I was told by someone that pineapple juice helps in making the taste more bearable and I got my boyfriend to try it and it did taste alot better but then that may not have been the ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a girl loves you?
Q. how to know whether a girl loves u ...
A. 21 September 2006: I've always believed and felt that everyone has a different way of loving, I'm not sure you ever really know if someone loves you, you can only believe or feel that they do from the way they are around you and the way kiss and hold you, I just think ... (read in full...)
Married guy from work likes me so now his best mate is asking me a lot of questions? Did he put his put his friend up to this?
Q. At the last Christmas party a colleague confessed all to me that he had fancied me for 18 months, (he is married) and wants us to be together, he isn't with his soul mate etc... We got off with each other but nothing else happened. Last weekend ...
A. 21 September 2006: Like you said if his marriage is happy so should he be but then you don't see how happy he is when he is at home with his wife, you can't become his mistress as not only will you be used but all the time he knows he can have both he will always keep ... (read in full...)
He's helped me with the baby...now he wants to move and live his life! What should I do?
Q. Hello all, i really need some advice, my other half and i have been together for 2 years i was 2 months pregnant when we met and he took both me and the baby on, we had loads of problems with him accepting the baby but now they are 2 peas in a pod, ...
A. 21 September 2006: I don't see how he can't retain his youth and be living with you, I think from this he has spent the last couple of years being the family man and worried about what he has been missing out on, maybe you should talk to him tell him there is no ... (read in full...)
I want to find out if my bf wants to marry without having him think I'm forcing him to! Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend was divorced before I met him. He was very young at that time and got married after his little girl was born. He's a very responsible guy now and before, but only a little on the conservative side. His wife left him because she soon ...
A. 21 September 2006: I can understand his worries, he's been hurt badly and because he was married to her he puts the two things together, there is a good chance that in time to come once you both are living together and there is full trust in your relationship he may ... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex, how can I know if Im pregnant or not, without taking a pregnancy test or waiting for my next period ???
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend but I am scared that I might get pregnant cause we didn't use protection. I know we were suppose to do that in the first place but it just happened unexpectedly. I'm not on an contraceptives and it was my first time. My ...
A. 21 September 2006: There is no way of knowing for sure without one of these methods preferably a pregnancy test as some people continue to have periods even when pregnant, I know myself that I continued to have my period for the first four months of my pregnancy and I ... (read in full...)
I want to make it right and stop acting with paranoia, but is it to late ?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have split up and gone on a break for a week because i have emotionally drained him with paranoia.He says we can get through this and we will meet up again after our break but how can I give him back his strength and get him ...
A. 21 September 2006: If your boyfriend hasn't done anything to cause you to be paranoid then something else has therefore you need to get to the bottom of this issue, try seeing your doctor and he maybe able to refer you to see someone to talk through your issues and ... (read in full...)
Why might she be hesitant about a relationship even though we get on so well and what can I do ??
Q. i have posted about this before and got all positive responses but things are moving and i wanted some more opinions, basically what's happened is i have fell in love(!) with my m8s cousin, the problem is she is just 17 and I'm 22 and we have become ...
A. 21 September 2006: From the way you two act with each it sounds like you are already together just without the confirmation from the other person, try talking to her, obviously tell her again that you like her and enjoy spending time together and would like to make it ... (read in full...)
I'm all for him doing his own things, but when it means 2,3 or maybe 7 nights away I feel neglected!
Q. i have been dating a man in his sixtys for 2 years. he is a lover of the outdoors and loves to fish and hunt. this is fine with me except i don't like for him to take 2,3 and 7 night trips to do it. i don't mind local fishing and hunting. he ...
A. 21 September 2006: The things he does now has he always done them? Like before you got together? If so you can't really ask him to stop doing something he enjoys that you knew about before you got with him, I do understand that you want his time and attention but ... (read in full...)
Ive always suffered from anxiety and I worry my BF will ask me to leave, can someone please help me to have a life!
Q. Hi, I hope someone can help. I used to suffer from agoraphobia and I guess I still do to a degree but I have worked really hard to overcome it. My boyfriend is the type who appears to be attracted to independent, unclingy, intelligent wome...
A. 21 September 2006: Well firstly you need to go see your doctor and see if he can refer you to see someone because problems don't just go away on their own and you need to sort through this somehow, secondly I would start by telling your boyfriend exactly what you are ... (read in full...)
In a long distance relationship for 3 years, he went awol for 3 months, but said he loved me, then when he came online he ignored me!!!
Q. I've been in an long distance online relationship with this guy for 3 years and we would talk practically everyday and alot on the phone. everything was completely fine until all of a sudden he just hasn't come online anymore for nearly 3 months ...
A. 21 September 2006: You say its a long distance online relationship but you don't mention whether you have actually met this guy or whether it is completely 100% online and phone.... (read in full...)
Im so confused, we got on great platonically, she split with her bf I complimented her and she hastily left! Why would she do that ?
Q. Help, i'm confused and embarrassed. Over the last few months at a local evening class, I've been chatting briefly and platonically to a lovely girl whom i have always been attracted to. I was delighted to hear from her buddy that she found me attra...
A. 21 September 2006: I think maybe it was too much too soon! She's just come out of a relationship probably got alot going on in her head trying to sort through that and then you say what you say, her hasty retreat may well have just been fear or just wasn't expecting ... (read in full...)
Did I get dumped by text?
Q. well I've been dumped, and I dont know what to do or feel anymore.... and I know i should just be getting over it and not writing this... but... I was seeing a guy for a while, since around April. We were getting along great and enjoyed 'staying...
A. 21 September 2006: To be honest its very hard to really know what someone means in a text, I've always found its not what the person says its how the other person reads it, the take care bit on the message tells me that they don't expect to hear from you again, ... (read in full...)
Call for moderators to help out with DearCupid!
Q. Hi everyone, This is another appeal for volunteers to be moderators. You get to approve and categorise questions and approve answers. If you could spare say ten minutes a few times a week, then this could be for you! Just add your name in thi...
A. 21 September 2006: I would like to become a Moderator, I have been a Agony Aunt on this site for sometime and use it quite regulary, (apart from a period of time I had off while I was having a baby) I have as much time as needed to give to this so giving time to this ... (read in full...)
Did I misread the signals? Was he really interested? What do you think?
Q. I have liked a guy I work with for a while. But I also liked his friend and they both knew this (but they did not know I liked the first guy too!). Anyway, after a couple weeks, I decided that the second guy was not right for me. But I still like...
A. 20 September 2006: He could have given you his new number hoping you would use it or just because he see's you as a friend and wanted you to have it, I would text him something simple like 'hi how are you?' and get a text conversation going with him and see where it ... (read in full...)
Was this mysterious romantic card sent to me by my ex's sister..a woman I have feelings for? Do I ask her?
Q. Yesterday I received a birthday card from someone called "you-know-who". The hand writing looked rather similar to that of my ex-wifes' sister. Two years ago I mentioned to her that I had feelings for her, but nothing came of it. I have not ...
A. 20 September 2006: Well it would bug me not knowing where it came from, as you said you haven't received one from her with her name on like you normally do so I would ask her you've got nothing to lose only maybe gain from it, she may well have signed it 'you know ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him how I feel without coming off looking needy?
Q. from mens point of views please!!! i have posted before and i would like some more opinions and advice please from men, as men know how a man thinks. i have been dating a man for a few months now, we live quite far apart but try to meet up a c...
A. 20 September 2006: I know you asked for mens views but as I was reading your worries became familiar as I have been in this same position as you are now, I spoke to my boyfriend about it at the time and he didn't even realise what he was doing he was so use to texting ... (read in full...)
My man doesn't want to bring up my children. Does he not love me enough?
Q. If your man says that he doesn't want to bring up your children (and there not his) does that mean he doesn't love you enough?...Or would most men run a mile?...
A. 19 September 2006: Anyone finds it hard to come into a relationship where there are already kids involved, even harder if its full-time and not just at weekends, but surely he knew when he met you that you come with kids and therefore should except that is the person ... (read in full...)
We started cuddling and holding hands. What does this mean?
Q. well i recently posted about me liking a guy but our parents are best pals well today i went to his house cos im close wif his faimly and his mum and dad had to go out. so she left me and him alone. i was lying on the couch and started driftin...
A. 19 September 2006: It could be he has feelings for you or it could be he is a very affectionate person, I would talk to him and ask him about it better to know where you stand and then you can go from there.... (read in full...)
All I left my friend was a note when I left because he was becoming obsessive!
Q. Dear Cupid!I have a tough question to ask about a clingy friend. We have been good friends for about 3 years, remaining close even though we resided in opposite sides of the country (we met when I lived in the southwest). L has been very helpful ...
A. 19 September 2006: I get the impression that maybe his feelings towards you maybe more in a romantic nature and maybe felt that you moving in was more than what it really was, I think you should call him and explain to him how you feel that you don't want to lose his ... (read in full...)
Who initiated sex, me or him?
Q. I stayed over at my bf's apartment this weekend. He woke me up in the middle of the night and started touching me sexually. I thought my boyfriend wanted something, so I started kissing him and showing I'm interested going further. (BTW, this is not ...
A. 19 September 2006: I could understand if this was the first time you'd had sex with your boyfriend but as it isn't does it matter who initiated and who didn't? As long as you both had fun and enjoyed it thats the only thing that matters.... (read in full...)
5 years of long distance is taking its toll because I now have feelings for someone else!
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for about 5 years. I see my girlfriend on the weekends, and we both love each other very much. Recently my girlfriend was away for a few months, and while she was gone I developed feelings for som...
A. 19 September 2006: Is there a reason why you live so far away from each other after five years? And why you haven't worked through one of you moving to be closer to the other person? You need to work through what you want and who you want and only you can do that, it ... (read in full...)
My fiancee just had a little girl to another man and now she won't let me see her!
Q. My fiancé had a little girl 2 weeks ago due to a drunken one-nite stand with her best friend. It happened before we met and she found out when she was 6 months pregnant, it doesn't bother me that I’m not the dad but my girlfriend doesn't want to see ...
A. 19 September 2006: I've been in this situation myself, I was pregnant before I met my boyfriend and didn't find out til a few months into my new relationship, when I had the baby as all women my life changed and I needed time to myself to deal with the change that had ... (read in full...)
My friend lost her virginity even though she is a Christian and now she has lost all self respect! I want to help her get it back!
Q. One of my best friends has been dealing with the loss of her virginity for the last 8 months and I have a question about trying to advise her. She is a very christian girl that believes in waiting till marriage and that her virginity was the sing...
A. 19 September 2006: All you can do is be there for her as and when she needs you, people have to realise these things themselves but you can try talking to her and telling her that things happen for a reason and that doesn't make her a bad person it only makes her ... (read in full...)
I am hurting so much after our breakup - when will my broken heart mend?
Q. I'm hurting really bad. My days are consumed with thoughts. I need to know I will forget him and I will have a normal life. I cannot give details for I fear someone I know will read this. I cannot discuss this with anyone. I can hold out and live ...
A. 19 September 2006: We all feel hurt, heartbroken, let down you name it at some point in our lives, some of us feel it more than once, in alot of cases the heartbreak will go away and you will move on from it and meet someone else, sometimes you never forget that ... (read in full...)
I need ideas on how to keep my jealousy under control!
Q. Hi there, I'm hoping you can help me out here! I'm in a 9-months-and-counting long-distance relationship with a girl quite a bit younger than me. By long distance I mean, an hour drive and I only get to see her on weekends (this is very hard on ...
A. 19 September 2006: We have all been in situations that have increased our jealously some more than others, jealously is a normal emotion and at some point we all suffer from it to different extents, the best thing I suggest is talking to your girlfriend and explain to ... (read in full...)
How do I get to know this girl?
Q. hiya!! in my second week at college ive seen a girl whom i truly like. I think shes absolutely stunning and seems quite charming. I'd really like to get to know her but the problem is i just dont know how to get her on her own, or just gain any ...
A. 18 September 2006: I would just start by introducing yourself and asking her name and offering if she needs any help with anything you are there as you are both new to college, that way you are bringing yourself to her attention and giving her the chance to make the ... (read in full...)
Will the pill fix period pains? But will I put on weight?
Q. I get realy heavy painful periods and i have had advice from people saying 2 go on the pill as i am sexually active anyway but its very rarely i would, but is it true that people gain weight from this?? please help i dont like suffering from painful ...
A. 18 September 2006: I use to suffer really bad with period pains too and I went on the pill to ease them and from then on I have never had any period pains to that extent just the mild niggles just before my period started, I never put on weight the whole time i was on ... (read in full...)
Is using food to enhance our sex life safe?
Q. My fiancee is wanting to use food, all different kinds, when we play, the thing is he wants to put it in my vagina then perform oral sex...is this ok? ...
A. 18 September 2006: I have be partipating in food sex for as far back as I can remember and I'm fine, it is a very fun thing to do and can add spice to the sexual relationship you already have with him, if you don't feel happy doing it then you shouldn't feel like you ... (read in full...)
My BF looks at other women when we have sex!
Q. Why does my boyfriend have to look at other women while we are having sex? He also does not like me to make eye contact while we are having sex. We have been together for 4 years and I have not yet experienced the intimacy that I need. He i...
A. 18 September 2006: You have to tell him how it makes you feel when he does this and be totally honest with him, ask him to at least try with the one to one intimacy with you because it may just be because he has always looked at other women he don't know if he can ... (read in full...)
I want a sexual relationship with her...but we can't express that to each other. How can I do this?
Q. I like a lady she also like me,and i wants to have sexual relation hsip with her but both of us unable to open our wishes and tell. how I can ?...
A. 18 September 2006: I don't understand how you both can't express your wishes!!! You can only take things slowing and as they come, going on the responce from the other person.... (read in full...)
Prior to me moving to his location we broke up as there were too many girls in the picture.. he now wants to get back when I move, is it worth it ?
Q. My long-distance boyfriend of a year recently broke things off a couple months prior to me moving to the location of where he lives. We started to fight alot because there were alot of other girls in the picture and he wasn't open and honest enough ...
A. 18 September 2006: Only you can answer that question, only you know what you want and whats in your heart, although if it was me I probably would be inclined to give him another chance and see how he proves himself if he don't show him the door, always better to have ... (read in full...)
How do you get pregnant!? ( well same question asking about swallowing semen again!)
Q. well, this might sound dumb, but it's impossible to get pregnant from swallowing cum right? and can this make u sick, cause i gave my bf head last night and he went and i swallowed all of it, but i felt sick afterwards. im always careful after too, ...
A. 18 September 2006: You can't get pregnant through swallowing cum!!! If it makes you feel sick you can either not swallow it or not carry on til he cums! also he can try eating different foods because some foods do make a big difference to the way it tastes but it may ... (read in full...)
My girl kissed another, shes says shes sorry, but now im confused!!
Q. okay so ive been wih my gf for a couple of months now everything seemed to be going fine, w had a greta night the other day together until my younger brother walked in on us, im 15 and she 14, but yesterday she went to a friends party and came back ...
A. 18 September 2006: Everyone deserves a second chance! It's what they do with that second chance that matters, you will know the answer to what you want to do in your heart but if you give her that second chance make sure she knows she messed up and knows this is it ... (read in full...)
I centre my life around my relationship, but would like to get other things back!!
Q. I have a fantastic relationship with my bf and we love eachother very much. However, the things that used to be important to me (nothing to do with relationships) no longer are. I used to be very ambitious and had very definite plans on what i ...
A. 18 September 2006: Haven't we all been here!! where nothing else seems important or matter anymore because you have something far more special that you want to cherish! You need to have your interests not only does it keep you into the things you love and enjoy, it ... (read in full...)
I keep getting thrush when I have sex with my bf.
Q. I keep getting thrush when i have sex with my bf, but he doesn't have it. Is it possible that he is just 'carrying' it? Or that something else is causing it that is brought on by sex, because that's when i get the thrush back again. ...
A. 18 September 2006: Alot of males just carry Thrush without any signs or symptoms so it could well be that he is a 'carrier' of thrush, I would get him to see a doctor failing that you can buy thrush creams over the counter.... (read in full...)
At what point did I lose my virginity ?
Q. I'd like peoples' opinions on this, i lost my virginity at 22, so I believe and just want confirmation of this. Myself and my girlfriend did everything sexual from this age, but not full sexual intercourse. She was very tight so my penis wouldn't ...
A. 18 September 2006: Personally when I was younger I tried sex and the same thing happened as you, his penis went a certain way in but tension on my part stopping me from relaxing caused the fact it never went in fully, to me I didn't lose my virginity at that point! I ... (read in full...)
I dont love my husband, but have a lover, he wants me to move near him, but wont leave his wife!!
Q. Im married with 3 children but im not very happy as i dont love my husband anymore.I have a lover who i have been with for a number of years,the thing is he has a partner who is 25 years older then him but its not a sexual relationship just ...
A. 18 September 2006: Only you know in your head and heart what you should do!! but if you don't love your husband you shouldn't stay with him but on the other hand don't leave him to jump into something with someone else who doesn't have the respect to you to actually ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me it was him or the smoking, Im finding it hard what can I do ?
Q. my boyfriend told me to pick him or smoking i picked him but finiding it hard what can i do....
A. 18 September 2006: Will power and if that fails go to see your doctor who will give you some advice and some information on what you can do and who can help you in quitting.... (read in full...)
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