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I met a guy, who gave me his number, I called and think his phone dies, now I can't reach him.
Q. Can someone tell me what happened? I met a guy who works in the fitness center at my college. I was getting my id renewed and he took my picture and we chatted a little and he seemed like a nice person and very friendly, funny, and cool. He gave me ...
A. 11 October 2007: Sorry girl, I was not trying to be obnoxious. I was trying to be cute and say use your head and not your passion.... (read in full...)
What if he really is just too busy?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue a few weeks ago and my mind is reeling. We are both teachers, and he signed on to do a lot of extra activities this year (and got suckered into a few more). He got in way over his head without ...
A. 10 October 2007: He might come back but do you want to wait for a maybe?... (read in full...)
How do women want to be treated, nice doesn't seem to work, or am I too nice.
Q. OK, Im starting to get the picture, My gf is seeing that im insecure, boyish emotionally and not allowing my normal, assertive nature to show in my relationship... How do I change the way I see myself in relationships. I need to show the strength ...
A. 10 October 2007: Always be fair but always hold to what you say. Think before you speak.... (read in full...)
How do I get him back and get him to see.
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for 4 years and we had a big fight. He is not ready for marriage because we fight a lot. the cause is my insecurity and frustration as he ia taking all his time to decide. I love him a lot and don't wanna ...
A. 10 October 2007: 4 years is more than 10% of your life so far. Patience has to yield to logic before it's too late. Give him a 6 month ultimatum and then dump if need be.... (read in full...)
I know what the dictionary says, but I don't know what he meens.
Q. My current bf told me that no matter what I said or did sexually I would never appear slutty because I'm so sweet. My last boyfriend said approximately the same thing and this is a word that has been used often by men to describe me. I know the ...
A. 10 October 2007: They mean girl next door holsom and inocent "looking." That kind of beauty always fade with age and lifestyle. Don't believe them literally they may not be the gentlemen they appear to be.... (read in full...)
I told my FWB that I'm being tested for cancer and he left! Just how shallow is a FWB situation?
Q. Here's one for you women in friends with benefits situations - Guys just how shallow is a FWB situation? I recently told my "good friend" of 9 months that I had to be tested for cancer and he emailed me that it was a good time for him to disappear...
A. 10 October 2007: Ditto my earlier advice.... (read in full...)
I'm a Senior in High School and have never had a girlfriend.
Q. Well I'm a senior in high school and put simply I have never had a girlfriend yet and I'm really getting desperate her. I feel more and more that I am losing myself. I'm becoming emotionally unstable to live or function. I feel pain when ever i look ...
A. 10 October 2007: It's all in the numbers. You need to meet and ask out 100 girls to fint the "One." There is no shame in being told "No" 99 times. I think you need to get yourself in gear. Always remember there are many girls out there that are as shy as you.... (read in full...)
I feel down, stuck in a life rut, what should I do?
Q. i feel totally stuck in a rut Im 24 and dont have that many friends but the ones i do have seem to be too busy to do stuff at the moment My bf works a lot so see him once or twice a week I have hobbies but feel stuck in life at the min Maybe i just ...
A. 10 October 2007: Why not spend some time surfing the net?... (read in full...)
Do I tell him I know I wasn't his first, or just let it go?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and he is the only person I have slept with. However, before we started dating, he was in a relationship with a girl I knew from school, who I have now became good friends with. My boyfriend is ...
A. 10 October 2007: Ask him about it. Otherwise, it will eat you both up.... (read in full...)
Should I answer the phone and tell her why I don't want to have anything to do with her?
Q. I recently ended my relationship with my now ex of 2 years due to the ridiculous amount of problems that we faced. She was extremely demanding and always threatened to end our relationship if she didn't get her way. She would endlessly compla...
A. 10 October 2007: You owe her the curtsy of telling her she has been dumped and that you hope she'll treat her next bf better.... (read in full...)
Things are complicated. I'm falling for this new guy and I have a boyfriend of 2 years..
Q. Things feel so complicated. iv met this guy. and i wonder if he likes me. he always hangs around with me if we have spare time for however long he carrys on with me n play fight im christian n i invited him to my church for a charity concert ...
A. 10 October 2007: New guy likes you. Dump bf. Don't cheat bf. Growup.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend I met on msn, never met in person. I hate myself for what I did. He calls me a liar.
Q. Hi guys i dont know what to do man i am all stressed out yo. I am 16 and currently talk to a male over the internet for about 3 months lets say, he is 23. he told me he loves me but he lives very far from me and so the chances of us meeting are very...
A. 10 October 2007: You are taking these online fantasies way too seriously. Take some time to cool off.... (read in full...)
I'm 16 dating a guy who's 22. Do you think that's wrong?
Q. I'm sixteen and i just started dating a 22 year ol that i met at a concert.. Our relationship is purely innocent. The idea of sex hasnt even came up. He is really respectful and we connect and a different level than age. I really and truly in my ...
A. 10 October 2007: Everyone else will think it's wrong because a guy that age knows how to flatter an immature girl of 16.... (read in full...)
She said she had a sex dream about me, but turned down my offer to have sex.
Q. A woman at my job told me she had a sex dream about me. She even said I was good. I asked her if she wanted to have sex with me and she said no. Why would she say that and then not want to take up on the offer. I let it go, no means no right? Or am ...
A. 10 October 2007: You were supposed to be polite, acted amused and after a week asked her out to dinner. She was just trying to tell you she liked you and you acted like a hound dog finding red meat.... (read in full...)
Her parents found out we were having sex, and didn't take it well.
Q. About one month ago, my gf's parents found out we were having sex. They went ballistic! I think they overreacted and made things overly complicated instead of just dealing with it. I am not a college kid trying to get laid! I have been with my girl ...
A. 10 October 2007: Tell her it will be the longest week of your life but you'll be there waiting.... (read in full...)
I feel so bad, I can't say goodbye, and can't stop crying.
Q. Every year, I have to go to America to visit aunties and uncles that live over there. I have a great time when I am with them as we are all very close, but when I have to come home, it breaks my heart knowing that I will be so far away from them ...
A. 9 October 2007: You are reflecting on the good time you had. Now you are realizing nothing good lasts forever. You are just experiencing life and don't know how to react. Your heart should be smiling.... (read in full...)
How can I make her fall in love with me again?
Q. my girlfreind who lives with me says she luvs me , but not in luv with me we still together , how can i make her full inluv with me again ?...
A. 9 October 2007: She has probably found someone else she fancies and wants to let you down easy. Try to do new things with her and become more exciting.... (read in full...)
Am I falling in love with my best friend?
Q. So, my best friend is a guy who lives in CA. I live in TX. I cannot stress it enough, we are EXACTLY alike in personality, and he is the only person that I can talk to about certain things.We've already talked about me having feelings for him, and ...
A. 9 October 2007: You view the world through rose colored glasses. Keep your relationship as a friendship until you gain more worldly experience and can see this guy as he truly is.... (read in full...)
How can we get his mother out of the way?
Q. im head over heels in love with my boyfriend and he's ready for sex and so i am i we really wanna do it next time we meet up (we are in a long distance relationship) but his mum is always home and we know that theres never gona be a time or place ...
A. 9 October 2007: Wait til the old folk have fallen asleep.... (read in full...)
I am 14 and like a guy who is 17
Q. hey, i really like this boy, he's 17 but im only 14, he's called me cute and has been flirting alot, and i would like to go out with him but im not sure what to do, or if he even likes me in that way. please help! thanx!!...
A. 9 October 2007: A good 17 year old boy wouldn't date a 14 year old girl. A 14 year old girl should not date a 17 year old guy. This is a reciepe for trouble.... (read in full...)
I told someone I didnt like him, but I really do
Q. i really liked this guy and i thought he liked me. i made a stupid mistake and told someone else i didnt like him..and she told him. then a while after that i told him that i liked him over the internet. he didnt reply and didnt talk to me for ...
A. 9 October 2007: Hopefully you've learned that honesty pays and manipulation can go arwy.... (read in full...)
Legal question???
Q. is it illegal for beauticians( or whatever their exact title is) and anyone else in that line of work to see a minor(under 18 in the u.s.) nude if they are removing hair or other things? what about a masseuse? What do woman think of a groomed, not ...
A. 9 October 2007: Most states would require the written consent from the minors parent. Most women appreciate grooming by a man.... (read in full...)
How do I get over this guy?
Q. I was seeing this guy for 3 months - we slpit 2 weeks ago. At first it was a casual thing but then we started seein each other more and more. I began to fall for him and wanted more commitment and I think this scared him as he finished things. The ...
A. 9 October 2007: By realizing you were just a knoch on his bedpost. You were being taken avantage of. He uses his looks to use women and you fell for it.... (read in full...)
I like him, how do I go about meeting up with him.
Q. where do i go from here. I've known this guy through a lot of my friends, and we've talked a little at parties. Although recently we've gotten closer, we often send flirty txt messages, and we have both hinted that we like eachother, and want to ...
A. 9 October 2007: Ask him out and see how he responds.... (read in full...)
His ex is trying to split us up. How do I keep my cool?
Q. what do i do when all his ex is tryin to do is seperate us ? how do i keep my cool and keep it together ?? ...
A. 9 October 2007: Ignore her. So long as he's not responding she's no theat.... (read in full...)
Is he suffering from commitment phobia?
Q. After reading up on commitmentphobia I wonder if my ex suffers from this and that is the reason behind our break-up...I'm not sure how much I totally believe in it (versus just not being the right one), but I do think he has some intimacy/commitment ...
A. 9 October 2007: This is a situation you should want to get out of. All the problems you raise are very unlikely to be solved. They will just continue to recur. Don't see him again and look for a better guy.... (read in full...)
I need to know if she like me. How do I find out?
Q. how can i test the waters with a girl i like? Sometimes i feel she likes me and sometimes she doesn't. I want to find out, could i somehow hint her and see her reaction maybe by complimenting her? ...
A. 9 October 2007: Ask her out for a soda and see how she reacts.... (read in full...)
So many mixed signals! Can you help me make sense of this?
Q. ok, so last year i met "rachel" in college, and we became best friends. she lives about an hour and a half drive from my house. she introduced me to many of her friends including her then boyfriend "tom". me and tom became friends as did i and his ...
A. 9 October 2007: Tom and Frank are playing games. I suggest you dorp out and find a real bf.... (read in full...)
We broke up over something stupid. How can I get him back?
Q. I want to get my ex-boyfriend back. I know I love him and I feel as though we broke up for something stupid. He's been giving me mixed signals and such, but I don't know how to approach it. Any advice? By the way, I am supposed to go over to his ...
A. 9 October 2007: When you go to watch the movie next week, don't argue over anything stupid. Be pleasant.... (read in full...)
I met a guy, who gave me his number, I called and think his phone dies, now I can't reach him.
Q. Can someone tell me what happened? I met a guy who works in the fitness center at my college. I was getting my id renewed and he took my picture and we chatted a little and he seemed like a nice person and very friendly, funny, and cool. He gave me ...
A. 9 October 2007: Doesn't sound like a guy you should waste your time on. Use your brain.... (read in full...)
I have a new partner, we want to live together, but because of her pension we can't.
Q. i have met a new partner we have been seeing each other for 6 weeks we get along extremely well we are both aquarians the idea of living together in the future came up and she has straight out said that due to her pension if we were to move in she ...
A. 9 October 2007: I think you are moving way too fast. 6 weeks is to short of a time to think of making the kind of decisions you are contemplating.... (read in full...)
Darn it if I don't have a crush on my new boss!
Q. I know this topic has been discussed before, but I need my own responses. I am 35 and living happily. I started a new job about 3 months ago and have already developed a crush on my new boss. I have an overwhelming urge to tell him, but also feel ...
A. 9 October 2007: It is wrong in the eyes of most companies for an employee to become romantically involved with a supervisor. Both parties jobs will be at risk. Still sometimes people take this risk. If the romance is real someone must move his/her job before the ... (read in full...)
Should I go on a date with this new guy?
Q. A boy who Ive known for a while has asked me out on a date. The thing is, I know he is not over his ex who split with him last year. I feel like a rebound but then I also feel like I should give him a chance because he has to move on. I also sti...
A. 9 October 2007: Yes you should go out with the new guy. Go slow in becoming intimate until you are sue of your mutual feelings. Moving too fast is a sign of rebounding.... (read in full...)
He never called - does he really love me?
Q. I am feeling so hurt and confused. I have grown to love someone that does not love me. He says he does but I don’t think that is the case. We were supposed to meet yesterday but he never called. I ended up calling him twice and sending him a ...
A. 9 October 2007: You are picking the wrong kind of guys. Think what attracts you to these kinds of guys. Try to learn from your mistakes. Do you change your attitude after you start getting close to a guy? I say it is time to start over and make a better choice.... (read in full...)
Is he really as busy as he says?
Q. Lately my boyfriend doesnt call me as frequent as he used to sometimes back and when i call him he tells me how busy he is lately. Im starting to have ideas of maybe he's not interested in me an more thuogh he still claims to love me and never break ...
A. 9 October 2007: You should know what he is doing and decide for yourself how valid his excuse really is. If he still calls you a couple of times a week and sees you once most weeks, you don't have a real problem.... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I feel rejected by my parents for conflicts i had with them in past. Now i fear that other people would do the same, as may be i was the person who had something wrong with himself, and that parents are always right. I am scared of developing any ...
A. 9 October 2007: Just move on with your parents as if nothing had happened. Be close with them and ask their advice. Tell them you will always love them no matter what. I bet they will forgive you anything.... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my friend likes me?
Q. how can i find out if my friend likes me? I see her talkin to a other boys but don't know if she likes me more than them. Any way to find out? If somebody says take her out and see, how do i take her out? I need an excuse she always asks why?! ...
A. 9 October 2007: Just pick out something you do for fun that she might enjoy, then ask her if she would like to ______ on Saturday.... (read in full...)
Have I scared him off?
Q. the guy i really like, now has decided we should stay friends, after months of saying we would go out etc, i am totally gutted, but i think i've been too full on and scared him off, he now thinks i'm mad so i've ruined any chance with him! i'm ...
A. 9 October 2007: You can't win them all. He probablly does not feel that chemistry. The chances of changing his mind are low. More likely you will just hurt yourself.... (read in full...)
Should I be alarmed that he hasn't written yet?
Q. hi, im currently living in the carribean right now and i meet him on the internet weve been speaking for like 8 months now but in aug. he left to the army, his russian/jappanese and we told one another how we felt, I said i liked him and that i ...
A. 9 October 2007: With the military you never know what is going on. Does he have your address and know how to write you? Do you have his address and could you write him first?... (read in full...)
How do you ask a guy that has a girlfriend if he likes someone else?
Q. Need help wit a friend. Okay my friend likes one of our other friends. The thing is that he's going out with our other friend. She really likes him and all but him and his girlfriend really like eachother. I don't know who to ask him if he does like ...
A. 9 October 2007: Why waste time on a player like him? You will not become more than a fling to him. Stay away.... (read in full...)
Why are women so horrible to me?
Q. I'm not sure if I like women anymore. I'm always nice to them and ask their advice, but all they do is be horrible to me and treat me like I'm something they had thrown out. I don't know why though. It's not just the women I date it's people who I ...
A. 9 October 2007: You are not reacting properly to their put down. Say "That's crude and I'll get even with you." Then take some action against her within the next week that if much more troublesome to her. Then say, "That makes us even."... (read in full...)
He's a cheating liar, do I talk to her?
Q. I need advice my boyfriend has cheated many times. The last time he said he was ready to be all about me. So part of the deal was for him not to talk to any females and I see that he has texed a girl who he just meet before he got caught. They known ...
A. 9 October 2007: Your guy is set in his ways. He's not going to change. You deserve better than him. Dump him and find a more faithful guy.... (read in full...)
I told my FWB that I'm being tested for cancer and he left! Just how shallow is a FWB situation?
Q. Here's one for you women in friends with benefits situations - Guys just how shallow is a FWB situation? I recently told my "good friend" of 9 months that I had to be tested for cancer and he emailed me that it was a good time for him to disappear...
A. 28 September 2007: He may be scarred by the situation. Keep in touch, he'll probablly get over it. Maybe he deals with stress poorly. Think back to other situations that stressed him. How did he cope?... (read in full...)
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