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He's a cheating liar, do I talk to her?
Q. I need advice my boyfriend has cheated many times. The last time he said he was ready to be all about me. So part of the deal was for him not to talk to any females and I see that he has texed a girl who he just meet before he got caught. They known ...
A. 9 October 2007: Your guy is set in his ways. He's not going to change. You deserve better than him. Dump him and find a more faithful guy.... (read in full...)
He's verbally abusive but I love him
Q. Dear Cupid, You really got it wrong this time. I just broke up with my boyfriend of one year and am going through some hard times. I really love him, but after struggling for this whole time we were together I finally see the part of him I could n...
A. 9 October 2007: For awhile date no one. After a few months go out once a week and see how it feels. Date a few different guys. Find the kind of guy you want to live your live with.... (read in full...)
Who do I choose? My friend or my first crush?
Q. For those of you who don't know what's going on, please go to the following link to read about it. thanks. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-i-tell-her-how-i-feel.html Well, I haven't quite told the whole story. It's a bit complicated, b...
A. 9 October 2007: Are you guys up to a threesome?... (read in full...)
What does it mean when my husband told me another women respected and knows that he was married?
Q. I wanted to know what does it mean when my husband told me that another woman respected and knows that he was married? Plese help me i've been thinking about it but unsure. ummm... during that time my husband was always over at the nei...
A. 9 October 2007: He is saying she refused to have sex with him because he was married.... (read in full...)
Should I keep loving him or forget him?
Q. man ok see theres this guy and i am totally in love with him. We did go out before we were together for about 4 months and then he listened to a bunch of rumors and thought that i was cheating on him so he broke up with me i pleaded for him to take ...
A. 9 October 2007: Stay with the kid.... (read in full...)
How can we re-light our fire?
Q. Hey i have been with my boyfriend for about 3 months, we have been moving quite fast though, i feel like he is losing interest in me. We do not talk for whole days and don't see eachother regularly anymore since he started a job and i started ...
A. 9 October 2007: Your dalliance with him has burned out. Time to move on.... (read in full...)
My mans stuck on comfort! I want some romance.
Q. what can you do when your man gets into the comfort zone of your relationship and you feel taken for granted ? ive been in a relationship for 2 years almost and have talked to him about the way i feel it turns into a fight or him saying he will t...
A. 9 October 2007: You need to ramp up your verbal communication skills. Read to books or take some classes. I don't know if he's hopeless yet.... (read in full...)
Leave loveless marriage for crush?
Q. i have been in a basically loveless marriage for about 10 years...i really don't know whu i even got married to this guy in the first place...he's a nice guy and all and a lot of women would probably love to have him, good looking and all. but i am ...
A. 9 October 2007: Don't date the guy at work until you are divorced.... (read in full...)
Get girl or keep friend?
Q. One of my friends moved out to another state for a job. He proposed to his girlfriend of two years, but after living with him for 2-3 months she decided she wasnt happy and she moved back out here. When she came back she told me she liked me and ...
A. 9 October 2007: With him gone I think it is OK to take her as your gf.... (read in full...)
How can I restore a friendship with my teacher that very nearly became 'off-limits'?
Q. alright. i have searched my general topic and am aware there are HUNDREDS of people asking related questions and getting answers..but before you pass this off as being another student teacher relationship question...hear me out! it's a bit of a read ...
A. 9 October 2007: Send him holidy cards with your pictures (nonsexual)and write a remeberance of him as a teacher and motivator.... (read in full...)
Stay in unrewarding relationship for her daughter's sake?
Q. I'm 24 my girlfriend is 21. We have been living together for over a year and a half. We really don't have anything in common. We have totally different personalities, but I don't know if I should leave because I love her daughter who is two with ...
A. 9 October 2007: You need to see if there is a way to compromise the different personalities. Maybe seek professional help.... (read in full...)
Stay with immature girlfriend for our daughter?
Q. When my girlfriend is mad she likes to push my buttons, it seems as if on purpose. It could be something as silly as me wanting the bedroom door shut in order to catch some shut eye, and her refusing to leave it closed. It's like we have reverted ...
A. 9 October 2007: I suggest you leave her for a day each time she pulls one of these tricks on you. Do it two dats the second time and keep adding a day each time she does it. Stop whe she wants to talk about the underlying issue. She's trying to control you for ... (read in full...)
Is she still cheating? She's confusing!
Q. my girl friend cheated on me on my sons first birth day. i realy dont know what to do.one minute she makes plans for the futchure and the next she dosnt want me around.is she still cheating?should i just give up?please help im realy hurt and ...
A. 9 October 2007: If she is repeating her cheating behavior you should insist that you both go for counciling. If she doesn't want to stop and you're not the cause, then I say dump her and get on with your life.... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, so why do I feel this way?
Q. My boyfriend hurts me so much lately. I dont even know where to begin. He has told me that he is gonna marry me within one year. He says I dont have an engagement ring b/c of financial reasons. right now he is talking about buying a house in a ...
A. 9 October 2007: He considers himself a macho man. You at least have the right to voice your opinions and he has the obligation to respect you opinions. If he is not respecting you, his super macho may just be too much for you to tolerate.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my teacher how I feel?
Q. I'm a legal adult now. I really like him and want to buy him presents or do something else nice for him *blush*. Unfortunately there's still a large age gap between my teacher and myself (He's actually around my dad's age *ugh*). I was ...
A. 9 October 2007: It is very risky legally for him to have any romantic contact with you. But yo could send him a thank you gift for being a wonderful teacher. Maybe a pen or tie. Maybe a calendar or a food gift certificate. Don't sign the card LOVE.... (read in full...)
What are risks with oral sex?
Q. so recently i performed oral sex on my girlfriend and im just curious as to what risks there are? we are both virgins and we have only been with each other. is there anything i can do too make things safer without losing pleasure...
A. 9 October 2007: No sexual conduct is without risks. If neither of you have a disease the risk is slight. If you are both healthy and don't think have a disease and have done nothing sexual with a third party the risk is slight. If either if you have genital sores ... (read in full...)
Is this the real deal?
Q. Im a twenty year old female attending school two hours away from my hometown. I have an apartment at school where I stayed during school breaks for the last year. I met a guy at my job, and we have been dating for 10 months now. I love him so ...
A. 9 October 2007: From what you said I see no reason why you can't continue with him. Talk more with him about what he expects to make of his future and his love for you. Tell him you want to be married and have family (if you do). Watch how he copes with problem. ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for me?
Q. I recently made a big mistake with my boyfriend. Something hurtful, really hurtful. I called to say sorry but he said that this time he'd had enough, that I keep doing the same things that destroy our relationship. I told him 'please help me ...
A. 8 October 2007: He has an interest in you. Can you tell him you are getting help and are doing better?... (read in full...)
He keeps giving me mixed signals - what does he want?
Q. im really confused. i really like this guy called **** from my part time job but hes giving me really mixed messages as to how he feels back. when everyone from work goes out for a few drinks hes really flirty with me, and if we go round someones ...
A. 8 October 2007: Yes, he is interested in you. Keep at it and he'll soon be asking you out.... (read in full...)
How do I stay away from him?
Q. i'v known this guy for a year now we are more friend then any thing. I have really strong feelings for him, from when we met we have always kissed and cuddled and things you do when your into someone but he has alwAys told he didnt wont a ...
A. 8 October 2007: Why would you want a guy who is cheating on his gf? Stop, he's easy for you for a reason. Spend some quality time looking for a quality guy.... (read in full...)
I plan to marry again. What is the Catholic stance on this?
Q. I am Catholic, I was married previously in a civil ceremony, but 4yrs into the marriage it was blessed by my Parish Priest. My spouse is deceased (3 yrs ago) I am planning to be remarried, this individual is not Catholic, but is divorced. What do ...
A. 8 October 2007: Not in a Catholic church. Try another.... (read in full...)
Update to my last question
Q. This is an update to my last question... I just talked to him and after a very long, kinda weird conversation, i found out we both feel the same way. We both have wondered if the other person is "the one" and we both feel very frightened of that ...
A. 8 October 2007: Odds are below 50% because you are so physically apart. But the odd ore not immpossible. What's the harm in trying?... (read in full...)
Could she still get a drivers license?
Q. a friend of mine has a daughter. she has her permit only, and she has got in a car accident with her parents in the car. no one was hurt just the cars. her six months are almost up, could she still be able to get a license at age 16 in Ca? please ...
A. 8 October 2007: Contact the licensing office. Having had an accident doesn't permanently stop people from getting a license.... (read in full...)
If he knows I like him, will our friendship change?
Q. i like this one guy alot. i always have the urge to talk to him and be with him. but when i picture him as my boyfriend it seems kinda weird. idk if he seems like the kind of person that would be a boyfriend because hes kinda a dork which is exactly ...
A. 8 October 2007: Sounds to me like he could be a good bf for you.... (read in full...)
How can I restore a friendship with my teacher that very nearly became 'off-limits'?
Q. alright. i have searched my general topic and am aware there are HUNDREDS of people asking related questions and getting answers..but before you pass this off as being another student teacher relationship question...hear me out! it's a bit of a read ...
A. 8 October 2007: There is no good relationship that can come from this situation beyond friends. You would be hurting him if you press the issue. Find a different boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay, and should I suggest a threesome?
Q. hi am just staying over my boyfriends. we are both 21, been together for a year now. i diacovered he is checking out gay porn and gay sites to meet gay men and have sex. i didn't mean to pry but it was there! i thought we had a pretty spicy se...
A. 8 October 2007: Don't think about threesomes. If he is really seeking men to have sex with you need to get out as soon as possible. You need to move into a relationship where you can live happily eve after.... (read in full...)
My parents are always arguing. How can I make them stop? They're doing my head in!
Q. why do my parents constantly argue!!!! i dont think i can cope with this any more. they argue all the time over petty little things, like my dad didnt hover the car befre we went away so my mum started an arguement n then it led to a massiv rowand t...
A. 8 October 2007: It is not your job to figure this out or try and fix it. All you can do is streer clear and avoid being hit. Try to love them both and sympathize with both but never take sides. Suggest they get professional help.... (read in full...)
Why would she want to cause me any aggro?
Q. ok, well my life is so confusing right now lol. me and my ex broke up about 2 weeks ago. i really did like him and bla bla bla so on and so on. well he new girlfriend. i have gym with her so i kno who she is and vice versa. well me and my ex staye...
A. 8 October 2007: You are way too interested in you ex and his gf. Is your goal to get him back?... (read in full...)
Can I fall in love with my husband again? How?
Q. I have been married for 9 years and I feel I deeply love my husband but after so long the "in love" stage seems to be gone. I am starting to think this is the reason why I have fallen in love with another man. I haven't told anybody and I don't pl...
A. 8 October 2007: Find something new you can do together with you husband. Try to get something he would like. Picnicing, hiking, model railroading, stamp collecting, refinishing furniture, the ideas are endless.... (read in full...)
Is my husband telling the truth?
Q. I have been married with my husband for 10 years, Last week while they were taking him some X-rays, I readed his text messages (It was the first time I did it)and I discover that his Research assitant was inviting him to celebrate something and that ...
A. 8 October 2007: You know him best. People always have to deal with all styles of other people. Let him deal. It's OK for you to keep an open eye.... (read in full...)
Is there a problem here?
Q. my boyfriend says he loves me and says he sees a future with me but doesnt call me much and shows little affection and care.what should i do?and what could be the problem?...
A. 8 October 2007: What is he doing with the time when you're apart. Unless there is a real good reason, I say move on.... (read in full...)
My wife is a slob around the house and neglects me. Can I trust her to live up to her promises?
Q. I have known my wife for 7 years. Married to her for 5 years. During this time my wife has had 5 operations and has been diagnosed with Lupus. I have Multiple Sclerosis so my health isn't the greatest either. For the past 2 years or more I ...
A. 8 October 2007: How sad. Your wife has low self esteem and is depressed. She needs more professional help and may not get a lot better. One thing that may help is to give her a written list each day of things you want her to do. Make it small and reasonable, with a ... (read in full...)
My gf is insecure about how she looks. How can I help her get over this?
Q. Hi me and my gf have recently started having sex. W ehave been together over a yr and have been friends since infant school. It just she loves the sex,as do i. but she doesn't like the fact of doing it because shes taking her clothes off. She ...
A. 8 October 2007: Keep telling her she looks great to you and that's all you care about. Try making love in the dark. Time and experience may increase her confidence.... (read in full...)
How do I fight my attraction to this guy?
Q. I am married, for 10 years and I have been a stay at home mom for the last 6 years. I recently started going back to school and working. What I am going through right now is I am attracted to another guy at my work and I'm trying real hard to ...
A. 8 October 2007: It is OK to be attracted and have fantasies so long as you don't act on them. Keep it in your head.... (read in full...)
Do I talk to him or should I ignore him?
Q. My daughter's dad and I haven't communicated for the past week. We usually do things on the weekends however, since I made the last comment of having sole and physical custody of our daughter. To cut a long story short, he wants to be part of our ...
A. 8 October 2007: Your daughter will hold a grudge against you when she is older for keeping her from her father. You are punishing her for something not her fault.... (read in full...)
Should I just walk away from this friend from 20 yrs ago as he is married with kids?
Q. I recently met my best friend from high school after 20 years. I was his first love and he was really in love with me but I never knew about it. He is currently married with kids but says he is not happy in his marriage. Tables have turned around ...
A. 8 October 2007: Try to imagine your life in 10 years and how it would be if you are happy and contented. Then imagine what roads might lead you there. Be realistic, don't pin your hopes on winning a lottery.... (read in full...)
Do I talk to him or should I ignore him?
Q. My daughter's dad and I haven't communicated for the past week. We usually do things on the weekends however, since I made the last comment of having sole and physical custody of our daughter. To cut a long story short, he wants to be part of our ...
A. 7 October 2007: You shouldn't get back with him, but you should allow him some reasonable visitation with his daughter.... (read in full...)
How long should I spend on MSN getting to know him?
Q. I met a guy four weeks ago and met up with him again a week later. Since then, we have been talking on MSN alot and texting a bit. He has not made any attempt to meet up again. He did mention something about getting to know me on MSN first. I know ...
A. 7 October 2007: 30 days max... (read in full...)
I love my fiancee but it has lost the spark... unlike when I kissed my mate!
Q. i love my fiance with al my heart but since i had our daughter nearly 5months ago, nothin has been the same! i kissed my mate last nite and i feel terrible, but when i think of this mate i get butterflies an i think i like him, dont know wat u do...
A. 7 October 2007: Turn up the heat on the sex, otherwise he will start to see you only as a mommy.... (read in full...)
Where should I spend Christmas and New Year - his place or mine?
Q. My bf planned for us to spend a week's vacation to their place this coming November. This is ok with me. I asked him to spend Christmas at my place then New Year at their place, but he insisted on spending both holidays at their place. His re...
A. 7 October 2007: I think it is time your bf met your parents.... (read in full...)
Having a Bridget Jones moment and seeking suggestions on how to handle my "hugh grant"!
Q. I'm having a Bridget Jones moment and I would like any suggestions concerning how to handle my "hugh grant" character. Initially, as usual, the first few dates were wonderful. Now he only seems to be interested in sex which, by the way, we have not ...
A. 7 October 2007: Move on and stop your dancing with a player.... (read in full...)
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