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Having a Bridget Jones moment and seeking suggestions on how to handle my "hugh grant"!
Q. I'm having a Bridget Jones moment and I would like any suggestions concerning how to handle my "hugh grant" character. Initially, as usual, the first few dates were wonderful. Now he only seems to be interested in sex which, by the way, we have not ...
A. 7 October 2007: Move on and stop your dancing with a player.... (read in full...)
I've lost him - what can I do?
Q. Ive lost him! last night i met a really gr8 guy and we hit it of pretty much straight away in the club we wer in. things like that just dont normally happen to me i was totally flattered as in my oppinion he was drop ded gorgeous! Al...
A. 7 October 2007: Keep this night as a special memory. Don't expect to track him down and find prince charming.... (read in full...)
Why do men seek attention from other women?
Q. Hi there, I recently read some of your response and would like to ask you the following. I have a wonderful man. Treats me with respect, love, loving words, very complimentary, we wake in the morning and he holds me and tells me I'm beautifu...
A. 7 October 2007: It is the nature of a male. He could learn not to do it but it may be hard. He has fantasies, but if he does act on them you should be content.... (read in full...)
Shall I take her back? She's lied to me in the past.
Q. My ex left me 3.5 months ago because she lost her love for me. She's sort of seeing someone else at the moment but nothing serious for about 3 months although she had lied about not seeing anyone, I accidently found out. Her reason for lying...
A. 7 October 2007: You can't trust her. She has done this twice. Why not find a more loyal gal?... (read in full...)
I'm a 24 year old virgin. How do I get close to girls?
Q. Like the title says im a 24 year old male virgin with next to no experiance with girls. I mean really none, not even kissing etc, also not big into partys and disco's, prefer meeting up, hanging out, going to cinema, renting dvd just chating ...
A. 7 October 2007: You need to spend some time asking girls out on dates. Invite them to dinner, movie, bowling or anything you can do. Making friend first is what you need to do. Then if you find a girl you really like you can talk through your lack of experience. It ... (read in full...)
Is there a future for us? - we have fallen in love
Q. recently been involved in an affair with someone from the past,both of us have fallen in love .He does not love his wife and has told her he wants to leave many times even before i even come back into his life but always ends up staying for the 3 ...
A. 7 October 2007: How well does your husband get along with his wife?... (read in full...)
How do I pop the question to my boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for around 2 years, and it is as brilliant as the first day we met. I'm so in love with him and him with me. I've decided I'd like to propose to him: he'd never expect it and it'd be so unconventional. Thing ...
A. 7 October 2007: I think you should reconsider. But then, I don't know the guy.... (read in full...)
I'm 3 years older than her. Does the age gap matter?
Q. I like this girl that i met through my brother, and my brother is 13, the girl i like is 14 and im going to be turning 17 though. I'm worried about the age gap. I'm in 12th grade and shes in 9th, and yet i have a late brithday so i'm the age of an ...
A. 7 October 2007: Yes seanh20069 a 22 year old girl is mature enough to date any guy over 18, including a 25 year old. The situations are not comparable when talking about a immature child.... (read in full...)
My B/F's step-dad is horrible! What can I do?
Q. Last night me and my boyf went for a drink with his step-dad(who he sees as a real dad) and a few other men from his work.Things were going ok at first but then we went back to his dads area and his dad went in this pub that I don't like because ...
A. 6 October 2007: Your bf will turn out just like his dad. Run away from him as fast as you can and find a better bf.... (read in full...)
We're on/off, on/off - am I using the right tactics?
Q. Hello. Bit of advice needed. Have had an affair for 6 months now and its been very draining on me as i am in love with the girl. It started out she was flattered with the attention, she worked in a different office and i e-mailed called etc. She...
A. 6 October 2007: You and her deserve each other. Just realize there is no more to it and keep at it.... (read in full...)
He only wants me for sex. How can I get it back to how we were in the beginning?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for around 3 years.We work together and it consists of long hours and not much fun. All it ever seems is our relationship evolves round the job, he only comes near me for sex, when i just want comfort I don't get it, we d...
A. 6 October 2007: You should show more self respect and ditch him for a guy who will treat you better.... (read in full...)
How do I overcome my shyness to talk to her?
Q. I am an 18yo male, never had a gf, i am normally shy but have come out of my shell recently. Anyway there is a girl i REALLY like at work, I have a laugh with and am quite good work friends with, however i have wanted to say something for the last ...
A. 6 October 2007: Ask her if she wants to go to movie with you Saturday night.... (read in full...)
I'm 3 years older than her. Does the age gap matter?
Q. I like this girl that i met through my brother, and my brother is 13, the girl i like is 14 and im going to be turning 17 though. I'm worried about the age gap. I'm in 12th grade and shes in 9th, and yet i have a late brithday so i'm the age of an ...
A. 6 October 2007: Don't take advantage of such a young girl. You may live to regret it.... (read in full...)
How can I re-kindle my girlfriend's affection?
Q. my girlfriend of almost 2 years moved away to NJ for college. We used to spend every hour of everyday with each other especially the summer before she left. We were very affectionate. Now the weekends she comes home she shows no interest, i talked...
A. 6 October 2007: Realize she doesn't feel like you do. She's trying to let you down gently. Time to move on.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to talk about a future with me.
Q. me and myboyfriend were together for 1year and i love him so much. i used to be playa but i stopped doing that! i wanna spent rest of my life with him but he's not that crazy about me. he said he love me but when ever i talk about future he get mad ...
A. 6 October 2007: Are you a trained dog or what? You should not be wasting your time on a guy who treats you like a love sick puppy dog. Get out there a find a guy who will treat you right.... (read in full...)
He says he want to be with me, but I'm not sure.
Q. I really need help. I first meet my (off right now) boyfriend at work a year ago. We became friends fast and would talk on the phone for hours. He soon told me that he liked me and wanted to date me. I didn't like him at all, but since he was my f...
A. 6 October 2007: Stay away from him. He has no real love for you, he is just using you. Respect yourself and find a better bf.... (read in full...)
How do I start the dating game again?
Q. My first marriage of 13 years was to a lovely woman I met in college (my first true girlfriend) who unfortunately was a child victim of sexual abuse from age 5 to 13. This came up 1 year after we were married. It led to her being committed for ...
A. 6 October 2007: It's all in the numbers. You need to meet and ask out 100 women to find just one who clicks with you. You can't say you don't like meeting women in certain ways. At that rate you'll never find a gf.... (read in full...)
How socially acceptable is a 6 year age difference?
Q. I recently went to help on a school trip (yr 7s) for a couple of days and whilst I was there I met a guy who was 22 and has just finished his teacher training and maths degree. Although we didn't get to talk much because of being on separate acti...
A. 6 October 2007: It is not unusual for a girl your age to be attracted to an older guy. It would be wrong for him to lead you on or touch you in any sexual way. Stay away from him.... (read in full...)
Am I a lesbian?
Q. I'm just 15.. Not in a serious relationship.. But urgghh.. I have this confusing and hurting obsession towards my teacher, who happens to be a woman. She's aged 40, married..there's no sexual attraction duh..however, I love her so much, like my ...
A. 6 October 2007: Loving other women does not make you a lesbian. Wanting to have sex with women instead of men is what makes a lesbian.
Wait a few years and see how you feel.... (read in full...)
I need someone to tell me I'm not a slut for having sex at 11. And how do I tell my mum about the pregnancy?
Q. When i was 11 i had sex for the first time and got pregnant i just need someone to tell me im not a slut, am i ?? i am 11 and pregnant how do i tell my mum and what do i do??...
A. 6 October 2007: You need to admit you made a mistake. Now you have to do the right thing. That includes informing your parents as soon as possible. If they can't help, go to a religious welfare group and ask for help.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want our children to see my parents during holidays (they interfere too much); I feel I've lost my identity trying to please everyone!
Q. where to begin. at the minute im having housing problems, i have to wait till the council gives me a house one catch though it could be anywhere in my area,me and my partner cant afford to get a private house so we are stuck in this situation, my ...
A. 6 October 2007: Your bf is wrong and mean. What kind of guy are you choosing to live with? Why is he not a good provider? You need to calm down and think though a problem each day and the follow through with action. It's your life to live.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my partner wants to terminate. What should I do?
Q. Hi I am 24 and I am aslo 10 weeks pregnant. I have been with my partner for only 4 months so got caught really quick - yes, we were both stupid. I had a termination last year at five months due to medical conditions and my current partner ...
A. 6 October 2007: Split up with this guy, he doesn't love you and he is just using you. His past record should have clued you in. I suggest you seek help from a religious welfare group on how to make the best life possible for your baby. Adoption may be best. Don't ... (read in full...)
I have Bulimia and I need help. I think I might be killing myself.
Q. I'm 19 and I've suffered from bulimia since i was 11 years old but now although i acknowledge there’s a problem I’m terrified to get help. I’m also highly worried about what i have done to my body and the irreversible damage I may have caused, I’m ...
A. 6 October 2007: It's never too late to change to healthy habits. I suggest you find a eating disorder group and join. Make menus for a week ahead and follow them and your weight. Keep tract in a daily diary. Make small adjustments to your calorie to keep your ideal ... (read in full...)
My borfriend is training me to be his ex.
Q. my bf and i have a huge fight at least 1 time a week because i feel as though he is trying to train me to be his ex how do i get over it ...
A. 6 October 2007: Hey, he is himself and does what he knows. It's up to you to show that you are different and unique. You need to do a little training yourself.... (read in full...)
I left a note saying I had a crush on her and she said thanks. I'm having trouble reading her, is she flirting or avoiding me?
Q. Been trying to get a signal/response from a female at work.I left a note saying I had a crush on her.She said thank you after finding out.I mostly have to initiate the conversation at work.I am having trouble reading her.Is she avoiding me?What ...
A. 6 October 2007: If she's polite but doesn't contact you when she has a chance you can bet she's not that interested.... (read in full...)
He stopped texting, but I've caught him looking at me! I've also seen his buddy giving me strange stares. What's this mean?
Q. i'm 16 and there's this guy who texted me everyday for a period of time. but now he has stopped, but i've caught him looking at me several times already. either that or i've caught his good buddy staring strangely at me. what does this mean?...
A. 6 October 2007: Keep texting him and sending emails. He may have computer problems. Don't automatically expext the worse.... (read in full...)
I've liked my close guy friend for 7 Months! I've been told he acts differently towards me, I'm completely lost as to what I should do.
Q. hey, i'm 14 and i really really really like this guy, ive liked him for 7 months now, im extremely close to him, we're really good friends, the thing is i never told anyone i liked him, until today when i told my 3 best friends. They were complete...
A. 6 October 2007: Don't be so eager to give up on him. Stick with it. It may turn out alright.... (read in full...)
He keeps hurting me! I keep loving him! Should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi guys. I've met this great guy, let's call him Tom in May. We met at work. He was really sweet, he bought me flowers and everything was perfect.We started dating.In July I had to leave the town for a month. He replied for my two e-mails and that's ...
A. 6 October 2007: No more chances. The next moves, if any, shold come from him.... (read in full...)
I don't want to make the first move and ruin our friendship... What should I do?
Q. I am 15 and have never had a proper boyfriend. I am not completly worried about this as i love having so many great friends that are boys. Recently i have noticed that this one boy (lets call his bob) has been constantly looking at me and blushing ...
A. 6 October 2007: Take the risk and talk to him. Why would you think that if you talk first it will spoil the relationship? Get real.... (read in full...)
My brother keeps hurting me more and more. I don't know what to do.
Q. My brother and I have always fought mainly playfully but recently he has been hurting me more and more. My mum and dad know but they don't know what to do any sugestions about options that we could try...
A. 6 October 2007: Have them make him sleep in the car each time he fights with you and vica versa.... (read in full...)
He's 21, I'm 14 Should I ruin my plans OR dump my love.
Q. hi ive ot a problem because i'm young(14) and my boyfriend is older(21).please don't tell me how wrong our relationship is n illegal i've heard it so many times. my mom isn't worried shes meet the guy and she lets him stay round every night which i ...
A. 6 October 2007: Make him use a condom or refuse sex. Maybe give him oral. Join the forces and tell him to wait if he wants too. Otherwise, you'll need to find a new guy when you return. That would not be all that bad.... (read in full...)
I'm 15, my boyfriend is abusive, I'm afraid and don't know what to do.
Q. well to put a long story short. i have been with my boyfriend since my 14th birthday and i was 15 in may, 17 months i have been in the relationship and for about 9 of it it has been terrible. i have wanted to end it but i cant cos he says if i do i ...
A. 6 October 2007: You have low self esteem if you let him do this crap to you. I say send him on his way or you run as fast as you cac. Surely there are many other guys out there that would treat you with the respect you deserve.... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I like her?
Q. ok her i go i realy like the girl im going out with and i cant get my mind off her she has said to me previously that she likes me to and wants to be with me and wants things to wotk out but she wants to make mates but i want it to be more than mat...
A. 6 October 2007: With a girl her age you can count on a high level of maturity. You take a big risk trying to pin her down. Usually that type of question gets asked latter when you're certain of the answer.... (read in full...)
I don't know how this can help but...................
Q. Below is an account for the last three years of my relasonship with my partner, i don't know what i want to acchive from writing this i don't even know why i'm writing this but i am still in this relasonship and i hate it but can't leave why? I do...
A. 6 October 2007: You two sound like pitt bulls ready to fight over anything real or imaginary. I think you both should join AA and anger management. The result may be the best course is for you two to go your separate ways.... (read in full...)
A girl he knows for three weeks, told him to stop being friends with his best mate.
Q. is it right to stop friendship with your best male friend cause a girl he knows for three weeks tells him to?...
A. 6 October 2007: I guess it depends on what confidence he has in her advice.
Or, what he expects to get out of his action (her?).... (read in full...)
Am I abusive? Is he abusive? or both of us?
Q. Am I abusive, is my fiance, or are we both? Yesterday I broke up with my fiance for the 50th time, and he just sat there and booked a trip online and said he loved me but that he wasn't going to try to stop me anymore. We argue so much that I just ...
A. 6 October 2007: You were the initial agressor and he was defending the property, which maybe he shouldn't have. You both need to get some anger management training.... (read in full...)
Dating advice.
Q. What is the best way to go out with someone? Please, I need big advice!...
A. 6 October 2007: Ask her to go with you to an event you usually attend, like a movie, ball game, or dance.... (read in full...)
I was drunk, can't remember if we had sex, and he won't tell me.
Q. ive liked this lad for ages, and was thrilled when we went on a date, we madeout n stuff but hes kinda just usin me and messing me about, like when i wanna see him he won't and he will ignore me, but then he changes aand he acts like my bf, so the ...
A. 6 October 2007: You acted poorly and should visit a doctor or a clinic to see if you are pregnant or caught a disease. If everything turns out alright tell your guy about your big mistake and that you would never do that again.... (read in full...)
I'm confused over a guy at work.
Q. Hello, im confused over a guy in work. When i was working late he would come and talk to me all the time but with other people present,so it was hard to talk to him. He would invite me to his office to talk,but i never got around to going. The brie...
A. 6 October 2007: A manager should never date someone under his direct or indirect control. That said guy at work talk to girls to pass the time and sometimes they break the rules and fall in love. You both have to accept the risk if you start seeing each other.... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, how do I get this other guy off my mind?
Q. hey everyone. i am so confused lately. i have a bf but i started liking some other guy. i really want to forget the other guy. i want to work on my relationship with my bf. but that guys makes it hard for me. i see him everyday at school. and my bf ...
A. 6 October 2007: You are immature. You need to know that you must control yourself. Just because some other interesting guy comes along doesn't mean you have to act on it. Would you expect less from yor bf?... (read in full...)
She always flirts and I'm worried she will cheat, what should I do?
Q. I am with my first girlfriend ever and also the first girl I have ever slept with. We have been together for 6 months and she says I make her happier than anyone else ever has. Well we were close friends for nearly 3 years before we started going ...
A. 6 October 2007: Really fellow, is she the kind of girl you want to be with. I think your hopes for a LTR is slim to nil.... (read in full...)
My borfriend is training me to be his ex.
Q. my bf and i have a huge fight at least 1 time a week because i feel as though he is trying to train me to be his ex how do i get over it ...
A. 5 October 2007: That depends on how good of a trainer he is. Maybe he likes to control you and you like it. Don't find problems where there are none. Then again maybe you are untrainable.... (read in full...)
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