Like what
he writes?
... Add *ommy7 to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *ommy7 a private message | | | *ommy7's profile:I am an educated guy with a doctorate degree. When I worked I solved problems and gave advice. I tend to be specific and direct. I like to argue issues and don't take criticsm personal. I live off investments I've made over the years. I love reading books and surfing the internet. I travel a little every now and then. I rarely plan things in advance.
I will answer your mail. |
|
How can I get over wanting to have a child until my husband is ready in several years? I've even thought of "accidentally" getting pregnant!
Q. Hello. I'm 26 and have been married to my husband for a couple of years now; we've been together for over four years total. Last year at this time, I had a miscarriage (the pregnancy was unplanned, but we were both really happy - until it ended)....
A. 11 October 2007: After reading your reply I think you should have the baby now. I think your husband has cold feet because of the awsome responsibility. I felt the same when I was in his place. Now with hindsight I think he should want to move ahead because of all ... (read in full...)
I met a guy, who gave me his number, I called and think his phone dies, now I can't reach him.
Q. Can someone tell me what happened? I met a guy who works in the fitness center at my college. I was getting my id renewed and he took my picture and we chatted a little and he seemed like a nice person and very friendly, funny, and cool. He gave me ...
A. 11 October 2007: Sorry girl, I was not trying to be obnoxious. I was trying to be cute and say use your head and not your passion.... (read in full...)
He touched me, and now he's ignoring me again. Why?
Q. I'm addicted to this guy. He's nothing special to look at. He's just got something about him that makes me want to be with him all the time. It's been two years almost since we broke up and we hardly talked. But then randomly out of the blue he ...
A. 10 October 2007: Great Expectations about a guy who just wanted to cop a feel.... (read in full...)
WHY do people masturbate?
Q. Hi this may sound really stupid but its always been something i'd like to know the answer to. Why do people, both men and women masturbate? Are there any particular reason why they do it? I have before and i've never known why mainly just because i ...
A. 10 October 2007: It feels good and is relaxing.... (read in full...)
How can I get over wanting to have a child until my husband is ready in several years? I've even thought of "accidentally" getting pregnant!
Q. Hello. I'm 26 and have been married to my husband for a couple of years now; we've been together for over four years total. Last year at this time, I had a miscarriage (the pregnancy was unplanned, but we were both really happy - until it ended)....
A. 10 October 2007: Do you intend to stop working?
How long would you be off work?
Can you agree how much saving you would need to make him feel comfortable?
The longer you weight the more expensive the costs of raising a child becomes.
Taking the pill puts you he... (read in full...)
We've traveled the world together and she breaks up with me now because I lied about watching porn! What do I do?
Q. I have been with a girl for almost a year. We traveled the world together, weve been to saudi arabia, italy, greece, everywhere. she broke up with me because i lied about looking at porn. I have never been this depressed what the heck do i do, i ...
A. 10 October 2007: Write her a letter of apology and promise it will never happen again. Then give her some time. Wait until she contacts you.... (read in full...)
Does splitting chores help the bond?
Q. ok is it a good idea to do things with my man like go do laundry together and stupid things that need done will this help our bond ...
A. 10 October 2007: Yes, the more things you do together the more you find out how well you can work together.... (read in full...)
Do I tell him how I feel?
Q. Last year, when I entered college as a freshman, I met this guy and we hit it off right away. He was from my hometown, but he had a girlfriend (2 years younger) who was still at home. We hung out almost every night, with no sexual contact or even ...
A. 10 October 2007: A lot depends on the type of fraternity he joined. If it is a drinking/party type of frat, I say drop him and move on and meet a larger group of friends and dates. Some more experience might be good for you, before you make such a big decision.... (read in full...)
What do I do? She's pregnant but I don't know if I want this baby.
Q. Im with this great girl who is 3-4 weeks pregnant just found out yesterday she is happy but im not sure if i want this baby at this time. i was married before for 3yrs and we are separated. Lately we have been talking and she is willing to make thi...
A. 10 October 2007: You need to do everything you can for the best interests of the child. You shouldn't be focusing on poor "you."... (read in full...)
I fear for my anorexic boyfriend. Please, can you help?
Q. My boyfriend lives in another country and i love him ever so much. I don't get to see him ever but he is anorexic and i'm finding it difficult to support him. As an ex-sufferer, i know what he is going through. But no matter what i say, he seems to ...
A. 10 October 2007: Can you report him to his parents or his school?... (read in full...)
I am curious as to why hetrosexual males want anal sex?
Q. I am curious as to why hetrosexual males want anal sex? I personally have always considered it to be a homosexual activity and wonder why straight guys would wish to engage in this when they have other options?...
A. 10 October 2007: Most guys hear about it or see it in a porn flick and become curious and want to try it. A very few find it to be something they want to keep doing.... (read in full...)
Do we have too much sex?
Q. Im 17 and my bf nearly 18 and we've been going out for 6mnths now. I love him more than anyone. But whenever we have the oppurtunity we'll have sex- multiple times usually and are very adverturous! Its starting to feel dirty and meaningl...
A. 10 October 2007: If you don't enjoy it stop it. Most young guys who first start getting it want to see how far they can go. That's normal but it doesn't last too long.... (read in full...)
Is sex REALLY like this?
Q. Hi, I am a 14 year old girl and have just began high school a few months ago. I have viewed porn a few times and now that I have seen people engage in sex, I wonder... is this what sex is really like? Because I think it seems way too extreme for ...
A. 10 October 2007: Porn can range from normal sex to bizzare sex that can't be done by normal people. What did you see that you thought was too extreme?... (read in full...)
Can a man be "raped" by a woman?
Q. I would like to know if it is possible for a man to have sex with a woman against his will?...
A. 10 October 2007: It can happen but is very unusual. There is statutory rape, economic rape, rape by trick, rape by drug and so on.... (read in full...)
How can I become MORE than just good friends with her?
Q. There is this girl that is one of my good friends, we messed around with each other and kissed a few times and now I like her, she kind of likes me too but she feels bad because she friends with my ex and I'm friends with the guy she was talking to ...
A. 10 October 2007: Just keep asking the girl out and see where it goes.... (read in full...)
How can we improve our sex life?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship and I'm nervous about the last time I saw my boyfriend. I was really turned on like the first 5 minutes he was there, but after a couple days, we'd go out and he'd get tipsy or drunk [because he was going to be ...
A. 10 October 2007: Zestra is widely recognised as the Scientific Gold Standard for increasing arousal in women seeking to heighten the whole sexual experience or for those wanting to enhance their libido.. Zestra is a sensual massage oil that is intimately applied... (read in full...)
My bf is insensitive and we rarely see each other. How do I break up w/ my him? Also, I'm cheating on him w/ my boss! Should I still date my boss?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. untill a few months ago it was great, but for a long time our relationship has been disintergrating, especially over the summer where certain incidents have driven us apart. one example is that ...
A. 10 October 2007: You are a selfish b****. Do him a favor and leave him alone.... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back and I want him back, as well, but I don't think he's actually ready! What can I do?
Q. Hi. I need help. My ex boyfriend has started to come back around just to chat as friends, but I feel he wants more than that. I don't think he is ready and I think he is scared of a relationship, even though ours was good. I do still like him and ...
A. 10 October 2007: If you can't accept him as he is, stay away. Otherwise, go for it right away, you're wasting time.... (read in full...)
I can't get my juices flowing. What can I do?
Q. hi, my husband and i are having sex problems. he thinks I dnt luv him and that he doesnt turn me on i gave birth a year and 5mos ago and have been through a really rough time. My husband was deported the day of the babys birth, then i moved wi...
A. 10 October 2007: Try some store bought lube like KY Jelly. Put it on him and yourself. Make it your new game. When having sex try thinking only of you husband.... (read in full...)
My childrens mum walked out just before our wedding. How do I tell our 6 yr old that I don't know when she's coming back?
Q. i was meant to be getting married Sat. 20th Oct. but my partner left me. our 6 year old is totally in denial about this and keeps talking about when me and his mom get married, which obviously isn't going to happen now. i keep telling him that...
A. 10 October 2007: Explain the whole thing to him in simple terms. Correct him when he speaks illogically. Repeat the explanation if necessary. Help find a new interest to occupy his mind.
Don't make a big deal about it. It's just the way it is.... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying a relationship with someone that wasn't ready 5 yrs ago?
Q. Once again I've sabotaged what could have been a potential relationship with a man I still have strong feelings for! I'm a fairly confident woman around men, but as soon as I'm attracted to someone and I develop feelings for them, I turn into one of ...
A. 10 October 2007: Are you saying you are married and want to begin stalking an old bf? If so, I say wait until your divorce is final. You already know what this guy thinks about stepping out. You may ruin any chance you may have.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be jealous!
Q. hey guys would like your help please Me and my gf have been together for 10months now we're both virgins n are planing to have sex for the first time. my gf told me that she loves i think i feel the same but i have a problem is that she told ...
A. 10 October 2007: Your anger is the normal male emotion, but it is not rational. Your emotion can only hurt you and your relationship. Maturity is being able to control those irrational emotions. Concentrate on the here and now and what you want to accomplish.... (read in full...)
He is blaming all our problems on me!
Q. He is blaming all our problems on me! How do I get past the my ex's cheating with their ex's and most importantly how do I not push him away? ...
A. 10 October 2007: Everyone is unique. Some learn, some don't. You can only play the hand you hold.... (read in full...)
How do I get over this guilt so that I can have some self-confidence and be the girl that he loves?
Q. Hi... I'm 22 and in a serious relationship that has had its ups and downs. To begin: Let's call my current boyfriend "B." We've been seeing each other for about 2 years "off and on" and have broken up twice. The first time we broke up basical...
A. 10 October 2007: Chaulk it up to immaturity. Now that you realize you won't repeat the same mistake you have nothing to worry about. We all learn from our mistakes.... (read in full...)
I proposed to him indirectly and now he's told me not to call him anymore...
Q. I am in love with a guy and I proposed to him indirectly but he got angry for no reason and asked me not call him anymore. I still love him, can't forget him because I believe there is a reason for me to have met him. His character is so similar ...
A. 10 October 2007: Send him a written apology for being so bold but tell him it was your passion that got the best of you. Say from now on you will do as he asks.... (read in full...)
We became engaged and our relationship w/ my family went downhill! How can I get it sorted?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 25 yrs old guy and i find myself to have become more reserved since i got engaged. My fiance is quite nervous about the whole thing and she says it is difficult for her to tolerate when someone says something bad to her. Being se...
A. 10 October 2007: It is your job to reassure her and try to get everyone to get along. Over time things should get better.... (read in full...)
He likes me, he likes me not
Q. How do you no if someone fancies you and flirting with you...
A. 10 October 2007: If he's doing something to attract your attention he has some interest in you. You need to talk to him.... (read in full...)
Is old sex trauma interfering with sex now?
Q. Ok, this is a bit awkward but here goes... My bf and I have always had really good sex. He was a virgin when we met, I wasn't and had been with a few men before - and this didnt both either of us. We're quite adventerous and really enjoy sex...
A. 10 October 2007: Are you taking any medication for the PTSD? Dryness could be a side effect. After awhile using lube can be just fine.... (read in full...)
I want a threesome, she's reluctant. What do I do now?
Q. Ok here's the story, I hooked up with this chick I met a little while ago and we get along famously. We speak often, have a good time when we go out, great sex albeit a little infrequently due to distance constraints. It hasn't been going long ...
A. 10 October 2007: You think it would be fun to help another guy screw your gf? Drop the 3-some thought, it's way out in left field.... (read in full...)
Can I believe my horoscope?
Q. Are Star Signs always true? I'm a Pisces, and he's a Virgo. Our Star Signs are incompatible, yet we're crazy for each other. I love everything about him, because he's so different from me. I've found that I've got bored with the people...
A. 10 October 2007: Horoscope making is done for amusement. Life decisions made on the basis of a horoscope is a coin toss, but is often better than making no decision.... (read in full...)
All we seem to do when we're together is argue! Should I stick with or move on?
Q. My boyfrind has very demanding job which means he has to travel alot. when we r together all we seem to do is argue. I want to know if its work that is our problem or if its something deeper. we had an arguemnt the other day that culminated in the ...
A. 10 October 2007: His time away from the job should be pleasant for him. Unless he has treatable depression you need to get out.... (read in full...)
His other woman might be pregnant. What do I do?
Q. i'm in a relationship with a man who has someone else and she might be pregnant what should i do ?...
A. 10 October 2007: He needs to support his child and you need to decide if you want to stay with him. Had he promised you an exclusive relationship. You need to be tested for disease.... (read in full...)
My husband gets angry when I'm not in the mood.
Q. my husband gets very angry when i do not give him sex is this normal or is it something i should say something about.he wants it up to 2 times a day and if he does not get it then he is in a very bad mood all day. what do i do?...
A. 10 October 2007: At your age twice a day is not excessive for many guys. Did you have a pattern before you married? Or, did this come out of nowhere?... (read in full...)
Why should I give him a BJ? I don't get anything out of it!
Q. ok it seems my man wants a bj all the time but he wants me to finish it without my getting any pleasure what should i do about this ...
A. 10 October 2007: You should demand that you do your choice some of the time. If you don't like bjs you two won't last long. Sex will become a pain and then be replaced by arguments.... (read in full...)
What's the furthest you should go with a boy?
Q. Whats the furthest you shuld go with a boy? I mean, i like to make out with them but they always want me to go further, and im not even 15 yet. I dnt wanna giv them BJ or or toss them up, but this makje sme seem like a total virgin! Wat shuld I do? ...
A. 10 October 2007: No more than 10 minutes of making out is as far as a 14 year old should go. You should accept dates that are aimed at nice fun times. Otherwise you are hanging with the wrong crowd.... (read in full...)
Do I talk to my man about my ex?
Q. I was in a marriage that my ex was having affairs.I think im still trying to deal with that. my ex wants to go get help and work on things. i have been dating a guy for about 9months now and my ex is upset that im seeing this man.He wants our fami...
A. 10 October 2007: Dump the new guy. You two do not mesh well. Consider either a new bf or you ex. Either way it's a risk.... (read in full...)
Can I tell if he likes me or not?
Q. I like this dude and we had spend time together but we aint been around each other in month and whenever he sees me he stares at me and he watches me while I dance in the club. Whenever we did spend time he didnt really talk that much. His brother ...
A. 10 October 2007: He likes you but you'll have to do most of the talking. He may be too shy for you.... (read in full...)
Am I normal? I don't feel it!
Q. Why the heck am I still stuck on my ex BF. He has moved on with a new girl, I am also in a reationship. I broke it off with him. When he wants to come back, I tell him no, yet when he is with someone else, I want him. Is this normal, I don't fe...
A. 10 October 2007: You need to put the past behind you and look toward your future. Try to envision where you want to go and make your decisions accordingly.... (read in full...)
Is a long distance relationship with no communication possible?
Q. hi,i have a long distance relationship for 19 months.i m 29 living in spain and she s 23 in canada. we met by internet when she was in usa for studies.during this time there,our relation was excellent.we use to speak for hours everyday on msn,phon...
A. 10 October 2007: After Christmas make a firm time plan with her or walk on.... (read in full...)
How can I accept it's over, when I don't understand the reasons?
Q. My ex broke up with me 5 months ago, everything was fine, we had been together for 3 years and i asked for commitment. He told me he was sorry but he couldn't offer it to me and as he new i wanted a future with him he had been backing off for the ...
A. 10 October 2007: You need to size up a guy's intentions within 6 months. Always move on when the vibes aren't right.... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to break up with my boyfriend?
Q. Hello! I had a little problem...which is why I'm writing to you guys (tried to figure it out by myself..turned out that got me even more confused). I've got a pretty good bf of over a year and a half, but I just don't think he's entirely the bes...
A. 10 October 2007: Why would you want to trade down to a dog? Wait until a nicer guy comes along.... (read in full...)
What if he really is just too busy?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue a few weeks ago and my mind is reeling. We are both teachers, and he signed on to do a lot of extra activities this year (and got suckered into a few more). He got in way over his head without ...
A. 10 October 2007: He might come back but do you want to wait for a maybe?... (read in full...)
I met a guy, who gave me his number, I called and think his phone dies, now I can't reach him.
Q. Can someone tell me what happened? I met a guy who works in the fitness center at my college. I was getting my id renewed and he took my picture and we chatted a little and he seemed like a nice person and very friendly, funny, and cool. He gave me ...
A. 9 October 2007: Doesn't sound like a guy you should waste your time on. Use your brain.... (read in full...)
| *ommy7's friends
These are mutual friends, so *ommy7 has
added them and they have added *ommy7!
|
