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... Send *he old Man? a private message | | | *he old Man?'s profile:Born in 1960 and growing up in the Midwest, I hit the ground running at a very young age. I had experienced things at age 10, that many didn't until their late teens, if ever.
I was married right out of high school, it lasted maybe a year, and have not been married since. I was never gifted with having children of my own. However,I dated and had a long term relationship with a woman with two beautiful daughters in which I spent nearly 10 years of my life with. With that, I don't claim to be an expert on raising kids by any stretch of the imagination. However, it was a great experience of seeing first hand the things that kids will try and pull on their parents, and how some parents are blind to what their kids are doing.
When I hear someone say "my kid wouldn't do that", I laugh inside, OK, sometimes out loud! Being a man about the town, I've witnessed peoples kids doing the things they thought they'd never do.
I've lived my life the way I wanted to. I didn't let anything stand in my way. I've pretty much done it all. Booze, drugs, trouble, chased women, raised hell and had a great ole time while doing it!
Though being a wild one, I managed to maintain being self employed from age 21 until 4 years ago.Standing at 48 years old and single,I now have a "job", and am looking to start another business.
Life has thrown some me some real hard balls, Many of which I behaved myself in to. I try make the best of every situation, and learn from my mistakes. I have settled down tremendously, and am hoping to live the second half of my life the way most people do their first. (Marriage, maybe kids??)
I joined this site to share my life lessons with others. I am a realist, and I call things the way I see them. I am very open minded and a good listener. I also believe that often times, we know the answers to our own questions, but just need for someone to tell us.
I've always been the one that people came to for advice. One of my favorite things I tell people is,
"I can straighten out anyone in the worlds problems, except for my own"!
If you would like to talk with me, please feel free to use the private mail feature.
I'm here to have fun and hopefully meet some new friends along the way!
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I think my friends back home have replaced me with a girl I can't stand!
Q. Hey Agony Aunts and Uncles, I think my friends back home have replaced me with a girl I can’t stand! I am 26, and live in a city far from my hometown (by choice). I have a job I love, some wonderful and supportive friends, and a boyfri...
A. 3 February 2009: Pride.
Let it go. If it bothers you that someone you had sex with but admittedly wasn't "romantically" involved with, is now involved with someone that you don't like, yet you are now involved with someone else. I appears as though you still ha... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any ideas on how I can break up with him once and for all?
Q. If anyone out there can help me, I would be so very grateful... I have a lying, cheating, stingy, emotionally and slightly physically abusive boyfriend. I know I should break up with him. I know he is bad for me. I have caught him on Adul...
A. 3 February 2009: Until you've decided that you've had enough, there is nothing anyone can say.
You say he's beginning to get abusive with you. He cheats on you. Yet, he denies it, and you ALLOW it.
In time the small slaps that you are getting now will turn in... (read in full...)
Am I a fool for waiting for her for so long already? How can I make this marriage work?
Q. hi I've been on here afew times...but deleted my account for various reasons.... I am in a very hard situation that I don't know what to do.... Basically, my wife (married for 5.5 years) took an amazing job back in her own country (12hrs fl...
A. 2 February 2009: You're in a very bad situation! She has already told you that she would not quit her job, even if it means divorce.
With her putting no effort into your marriage, it's obvious that you are wasting your time!
You are wasting your life waiting for ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my fiance, but my ex threatens to tell him we have slept together!
Q. Hi, I am a 23-year old girl from a very good family.I am completing my education from a very reputed college in India.My problem is that years back , when I was in grade 11 in school, I had this huge crush on my classmate. He was cute,friendly bu...
A. 2 February 2009: Tell your fiance' what is going on!
Just be honest with him.... (read in full...)
I have no network of friends he's conquered them all
Q. I've been thinking of leaving my boyfriend for about a year, but I feel completely lost and helpless. We've been together for three years, but I feel like most of the time he has been emotionally and psychologically abusive. At the beginning of ...
A. 1 February 2009: You are an honest person!
Getting out of this relationship is definitely in your best interest. No one deserves to be cheated on! Let alone all of the other mind bending things he's done.
It's usually an abuser who will chase off the friends,... (read in full...)
How do you know if you're just an ego booster?
Q. Just wondering if there are any warning signs. Say I think we have great chemistry, but in reality I'm just boosting his ego. We have been flirting a lot and we've known each other for quite a few years. The main reason I'm asking is because he's ...
A. 1 February 2009: I'd ask him if he's looking for a relationship, or just dating!
The ego boost thing goes both ways. An older man is obviously more experienced in how to treat a woman, etc... Some women enjoy the attention and all the other things that they don... (read in full...)
So what do you say to this situation?
Q. Hi everybody, I'm just writing this to get an idea of peoples reaction to this situation. I see someone most days I go to work and we have a little chat going. I find her very attractive, lovely smile and pretty eyes and she is different...
A. 1 February 2009: Go for it!
You just might be surprised! Inter generational dating is becoming more common in the USA. I don't know what the young guys are doing wrong, but apparently they're not taking care of business!
My only advice if you date her is, don'... (read in full...)
21 year old dating a 15 year old?
Q. So I recently have been attracted to a younger gal. The thing is shes 15, and I'm 21. I've been to dinner with her family many times, and they like me a lot. They invite me to a lot of occasions, dinner and drinks every week or so. But I'...
A. 1 February 2009: Does the term 15 will get you 20 mean anything to you?
No no no... 15 is entirely too young for you to be dating!
Friends yes,dating NO!... (read in full...)
She doesn' t like older guys, if I express my feelings I think she'll cut me off
Q. I am 40 year old single male. I live in a duplex. My neighbor is a 21 year old very attractive female. She is sassy, fun, and spontaneous. She doesnt have a washer and dryer, so this is how we started to get acquainted. We have a good friendship....
A. 1 February 2009: I don't think you're being far fetched at all! The inter generational dating thing in the USA is recently becoming more common.
You say that she spends more time at your place than she does at her own, you cook for her, run errands, etc...
... (read in full...)
Am I her shameful secret?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been seeing a girl for around four months. She works with me, but not closely. At work we always take breaks together and mostly have lunch together. We sort of started to see each other outside of work, we have slept together...
A. 1 February 2009: When you say that she wont tell you how she feels about you, that sends up the proverbial red flag! As the old saying goes, "if a gal wont tell you what her feelings are for you, she has none".
Now I'm not saying that she doesn't like you, but... (read in full...)
What should I tell him? I still want his attention..?
Q. There is this guy that I met, he lives with my friend and I went over to their house. The guy asked for a kiss and I told him that I shouldnt cause I just got out of bad relationship. Then, we had more drinks and he tried again and this time I ...
A. 1 February 2009: If you continue kissing him, you are only leading him on!
If you don't want things to go any farther, then just don't put yourself in that position.
If he is a party guy, he is looking for a party girl.
You cannot expect to keep kissing h... (read in full...)
Why do I get erections for absolutely no reason???
Q. I'm a 16 year old boy and I'm kind of getting worried, I don't know how to say this but about 4 - 6 times a day doesn't matter whereever it is my penis just becomes erect randomley.... sometimes it's if I look at girls and Ii understand that but I ...
A. 1 February 2009: You're 16, it's normal! don't worry about a thing.... (read in full...)
Why has my girlfriend gone off sex?
Q. I have been with my current girlfriend for about 18 months now. I am at uni, a mature student, she has a young 18 year old daughter with a young baby son of 8 months who lives away from her mother. My girlfriend doesn't seem interested in sex any ...
A. 1 February 2009: There is something else wrong in your relationship. I cannot say what, but there is.
It's normal for her to be concerned about her daughter, but that should have no effect on the two of your sex lives.... (read in full...)
I really want a wedding and kids but sometimes I can't stand him!!
Q. I'm 23 and me and my bf have been together for almost 3 years. The first year he did a lot of bad things and I wished that I had broken up with him but I stayed with him to try to make it work. He is a much better boyfriend now but I have a hard ...
A. 1 February 2009: If you don't trust him now, you wont trust him later.
Getting back in to the dating scene can be scary, but after a while, you'll be fine.
Getting married and having kids is a wonderful and beautiful thing, but it must be with someone that... (read in full...)
I am furious right now. He doesn't mean a thing to me, so why does he have this power to make me feel even more miserable about my life?
Q. I warn you. This will be long, but I need help on this situation, and I'll try to make it short. I am a Senior in High School, my old high school closed down, and I transfered to a new school. For three days, I dated this guy who was bisexual. There ...
A. 1 February 2009: My suggestion is for you to stay away from him.
Perhaps the reason he gets to you is that he attacks you on very personal levels. It doesn't matter that you don't like him or not, but it's what he is saying that hurts you.
Something that probabl... (read in full...)
What are some things we could try to bring the romance and spark back into our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. When we first got together I was absolutely smitten by this man. I had found text messages from another girl on one occasion and he had actually cheated on me on another occasion. ...
A. 31 January 2009: Sad to say, but once the trust is broken, and the faith is lost. It's usually pretty much is a downhill run!
You've already caught him twice. Yeah, you just found text. Did you get the "real" story, or maybe you interrupted it before anything... (read in full...)
I feel so lost in life...
Q. I really need advice as I feel I cannot see straight. I am in my mid-20' but I feel so lost in life. I live at home with my loving, but strict parents. I can't really invite ppl over bc my family is so dysfunctional. But I can't stay out late or...
A. 31 January 2009: Long distance relationships are very hard! I have done that before. I will not say I'd never do it again,but as I say, they are hard. There is definitely a different set of rules there!
Being that you are losing interest in him, I think you're righ... (read in full...)
Help, is there more to it or am I making something out of nothing?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, and we both love each other a lot. However ever since I started being with him he has been very protective over me. I have a facebook account and added someone I knew from school, he got annoyed ...
A. 31 January 2009: I'm one who sees this as a combination of what BRITTBABII2, and Griffo says.
It is often that the one who is doing the accusing, is in fact the one who is hiding something!
If in your shoes, I'd have the talk that Griffo described. By no... (read in full...)
July 31st I signed my name...
Q. That night I could not sleep, I had every emotion going through me. Emotions of fear,anxiety, and anticipation corralled into a single moment of the imminent birth of the child that I carried in my womb for these many countless months. I feared the ...
A. 30 January 2009: Speechless..........
I'm with *Angle*... (read in full...)
Should I contact this girl even though I haven't seen her in 1.5 years?
Q. A few years ago I met this amazing girl, she made me feel better than I ever thought possible. We fooled around a bit but didn't get serious. The last time I spoke to/saw her was about a year and a half ago and ever since then I have thought about ...
A. 30 January 2009: Go for it man!
She just might be thinking about you as well!... (read in full...)
Can sex be used to control someone or a relationship?
Q. I've never done "it", but can "it" be used to control someone or a relationship?...
A. 29 January 2009: I'm sorry for the misunderstanding!
By the tone of your e mail, I sense that there was some mis communication.
I just wanted to say that the way the question was posed It could be have been interpreted either way.
example,
1. Is t... (read in full...)
I'm worried about bachelor party, strippers & lap dances!
Q. Hello, I'm getting married and well, of course I'm excited. My fiancee is great. He truly is. But I have a bit of a problem regarding the bachelor party. I don't think he'll cheat. But of course there will be strippers. it's a tradition, and...
A. 29 January 2009: First off, you can stop with the "better looking" stuff! Give yourself some credit!
As you quoted him saying,"Honey, at most I'll get a lap dance, it's not a big deal, I love you and I'm marrying you. I think you're attractive! Don't worry". ... (read in full...)
Is she being immature about this?
Q. My wife and me had our first daughter (she's 6 weeks). I usually like to party after work with some friends so I can wind down (7 times a week) and won't be until 10:00 pm (my wife will be mad at me if I stay any longer). Anyway when I got home one ...
A. 29 January 2009: Sorry dude, I'm siding with the chicks on this one!
You go out 7 nights a week to "wind down"? You tell her to shut the fu*k up,
When does she get to wind down?
You're a piece of work pal!... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get attracted towards really old people? (30's-50s) I'm only 13!
Q. Hey I don't know if it's a normal teenage thing just like my friends say that our hormones are going mad? is this true? I dunnno why but I find old people more attractive.... Like somewhere in their mid 30's-50s I know it sounds wrong and gross (I ...
A. 29 January 2009: It is very common!
That is however, where the maturity of the older man has to step in and not allow anything to happen.
I started noticing this happening when I was around 30.
You're not weird! You're fine.
... (read in full...)
The best friend!
Q. ... okay so there is this senior.. that i'm really good friends, we can talk about everything and anything.. i never felt more comfortable with a guy... but he takes me like his little sister and he has a girlfriend... i just realized that i think ...
A. 29 January 2009: Like you say, he has a girlfriend.
If he were your boyfriend, and some other girl decided that she liked him a little more than a friend, what would you want HER to do? What would you want HIM to do?
It's obvious that you are younger than he,... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend bisexual?
Q. Ok, so last night by boyfriend was not sober and I went to his house this morning. I went into his bathroom and I saw a dildo on his shower, I didn't want to say anything about it cause I didn't want to embarrass him. I walked out of the bathroom ...
A. 29 January 2009: Any chance there was another girl???... (read in full...)
I feel like I am the other woman even though he was with me..she's still in the picture
Q. I am so deprest, this year has been a very hard year for me. My fiancee and I broke up like 10 million times last year because he cheatted on me. I called of the engament but I woul always find my self accepting him back. This year he cheated on me ...
A. 29 January 2009: I realize that the two of you have a child together, but that does not mean that being with him is in either yours or the childs best interest.
It sounds like he has some very serious growing up to do.
Hun, You deserve better! So does your so... (read in full...)
Do I have baggage? Or is he trying to control me?
Q. I have been dating my fiance for two years and we have been living together for the past year and a half. We have been engaged since May. Both of us have been married before. I have been divorced for 5 years and he has been divorced for 10 ...
A. 28 January 2009: AWE GHEEZ,,, this sounds like my parents!
I have no solid advice for you as to how to correct it, but I can only say, that it just gets worse!
Your cooking story brought me a smile. My mother, 100% Italian,from Italy, a fantastic cook! ... (read in full...)
Hoe can I prove how sorry I am after I cheated on my BF?
Q. Dear cupid I'm 16, i lost my virginity when i was 13, but anyway, im 16 now and i have a boyfriend and i went to a party and i met this guy who i didn't realize is my boyfriends 2nd cousin, i had sex with him at my boyfriends house and he cau...
A. 28 January 2009: You say you swear on your little brothers life, how well do you like your little brother? How about YOUR own life ?
Girl, you did it good! In his own house, with his cousin! That's about as low as you could have gone!
Maybe he'll forgive yo... (read in full...)
If we're happy, is our relationship still wrong?
Q. Dear agony aunt Im 18 and recently started a new job, theres a guy there who is is 55 and we have got really close. He is such a lovely man and i love him and he loves me, we have had sex but recently people at work have been saying things about us...
A. 28 January 2009: I see nothing wrong with it. I've dated much younger than myself also. I think everyone else has pretty well said the same things as I would, so I wont repeat!
We (older guys) are so much easier to talk with about your feelings, so don't be afrai... (read in full...)
How do I find a good guy who cares instead of the bad boy who doesn't?
Q. I have always been the girl to get the wrong guys. I am through with getting hurt and I wanted some advise as to how to get the good guys who actually care about me and just not wanting sex. I have heard guys like it when girl play hard to get? Is ...
A. 28 January 2009: Being a little bit of a challenge is good!
Your age also creates a bit of a handicap. Girls your age are more apt to be ready to settle down than the guys your age. You may consider someone older.
You probably wont meet him in a club. If you... (read in full...)
Help me choose between two men!
Q. Please help me chose between these 2 men, I feel like I love both of them. Please dont judge me, I really need some perspective on this. Man A Healthy Own House Car Car License Great Job Rather Anti-Social Independent Stubborn Funny W...
A. 28 January 2009: Guy A. He has more pro's than cons.
In time he'll tell his workmates about you.
Joe~... (read in full...)
Can sex be used to control someone or a relationship?
Q. I've never done "it", but can "it" be used to control someone or a relationship?...
A. 28 January 2009: Sex is too often used to control someone in a relationship.
Some females use it like a punishment/ reward, or as though it is some special "gift", and that she holds the "magic prize" Though men tend to want it more than women, women have to under... (read in full...)
What is his game?
Q. This is a really long problem. started seeing this guy 6 years ago whilst still married with 2 young kids. Ended up falling in love and moved in with him. As my husband threatened me with all sorts of nasty things i.e. kidnapping the kids, turning ...
A. 28 January 2009: He wants to keep you on the side line in case things don't work out with his new girl.
What you did was wrong all the way around. But, he is using that as an excuse to keep you in the position of feeling that you need to make things up to him.... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back and my current b/f has given me an ultimatium. I don't know what to do!
Q. Please can someone help me. I have been given an ultimatum by my boyfriend of 6 months and I am not sure what to do. I am happy with my current boyfriend in every way apart from the fact he has been smoking weed and taking cocaine occasionally for ...
A. 28 January 2009: The first thing you need to understand is that a cocaine addiction is not something you kick OVERNIGHT. You say that he did it every night, but just quit because you asked him to.
That's not how it works! This is not a case where "love" conq... (read in full...)
Sexually involved with co-worker now he's seeing another co-worker
Q. Okay.. I went out with my coworker over course of 2 months we were having sex.. Now a few weeks later he's in a relationship another coworker. I'm really uncomfortable with this. I haven't told them because I want them to see that I'm okay with it ...
A. 28 January 2009: You're in between the proverbial rock and the hard place.
It is pretty raw of him to just up and start dating someone else without saying something to you. It sounds like you are being the mature one in this situation!
If things go sour b... (read in full...)
My g/f of 5 years wants to see what else is out there!
Q. Hey everyone, So I'm currently in a 5 year relationship and me and my girlfriend have been having some problems. Last night she told me that she loves me to death and cares for me yet maybe wants to see what else is out there. We are high school ...
A. 28 January 2009:
Your story is one that I wish everyone who is young and wanting to get married, would read.
I realize that you love her and want to protect her from what's out there, but maybe it's those bumps and bruises that is what she needs to realize what... (read in full...)
He's in a relationship with a girl who hates me
Q. Hi Ok idk how to explain this but I'm going to try ok.I am currently a sophmore in high school and I'm pretty sure I'm in love with one of my best friends.I met him at the beginning of my freshmen year when I joined the swim team.we started off as r...
A. 28 January 2009: A couple lessons to learn early in life are,
Don't try and break up someones relationship!
Don't get involved with someone who is involved with someone else!
As a senior, his 10 month relationship with this other girl could prove to be ra... (read in full...)
Could he maybe like me even though he said its not appropriate?
Q. This camp canocler I've know since I was 5 is like realy mean to me but he yells at my guy friends when they touch me even when they throw me in the pool. QAnd my brother asked him if he liked me and he said that was not camp appropriate and it w...
A. 28 January 2009: I think he's just watching out for your best interest.
Their question was not camp appropriate, and neither is them touching you or throwing you in the pool.
I realize that throwing people in the pool is all done in fun, but in boring realit... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my boyfriend but its getting boring
Q. I'm an 17 year old girl.I've been daiting my boyfriend who's also my best friend for a year now (he's 20). We have what you'll call “the perfect relationship”.everybody wants to hve wht we have and we're happy with each other and we really do lov...
A. 28 January 2009: If you were truly his diamond,
He'd want to let the whole world see you shine!... (read in full...)
Pubic hair question!
Q. I'm 14 years old and just barely got pubic hair and it is mostly around the base of the penis and on my testicles is there something wrong with me because I started too late. Also how long does it take the pubic hair to grow to the top of my crotch? ...
A. 28 January 2009: There is nothing wrong with you, different people grow at different rates.
How long it will take to fully grow in is an unknown. It may take a few years, or it could all grow within 6 months. It all depends on genetics. i.e. do you come from a hair... (read in full...)
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