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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 3 years. When we first got together I was absolutely smitten by this man. I had found text messages from another girl on one occasion and he had actually cheated on me on another occasion. After he had cheated on me that one time our relationship has gone downhill. Now I have gotten over the fact that he did it, I didnt' forgive but I have forgoten(sometimes). Now I know he doesn't communicate with me as much as we should but I also feel like he doesn't love me like I used to love him. Now when I say I used to love him as I still do but that spark I once had has dimmed and it's about to go out. He has said the same for him has happened. So what I want to know is should we keep trying? and what are some things we could try to bring the romance and spark back into our relationship.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (1 February 2009):
 Sorry i forgot to answer the other part of your question some of the things you can do to ignite the spark is start dating again go out for meals, drinks, take in a movie, go for long walks, take baths together, give one another massages,try different sexual positions, dress up for him!! be respectful to each other and do things both of you enjoy make use of every minute you have together because time is precious!
Gina
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (31 January 2009):
Like all relationships that go through this you either make the decision to try again or leave! For the one that was cheated on it is hard to regain that trust you had and to feel what if all the time?
For the cheater they have to decide can i commit? can i stay the course without another cheating phase? never an easy thing for any couple one will try harder usually the cheater and the one who wont makes the cheater feel what is the point? so it is very hard to meet in the middle with this at times but meet you can but you both need to want it just as bad as each other!
Yes the sparkle has went out of the relationship because cheating does that! it is up to the both of you whether you want to ignite that spark again.
Gina
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reader, The old Man? +, writes (31 January 2009):
 Sad to say, but once the trust is broken, and the faith is lost. It's usually pretty much is a downhill run!
You've already caught him twice. Yeah, you just found text. Did you get the "real" story, or maybe you interrupted it before anything happened? who knows??
Often times in a situation like this, you will be trying your ass off, and he wont be receptive. Next thing you know, he's trying, and you could care less. Then there's the chats of "let's try together", one will, the other wont!
You can continue to pull your hair out,wondering each day if there is someone else, or you can bite the bullet and move on.
Biting the bullet is a faster more intense pain, but it doesn't last near as long, nor does it scar your soul. It merely allows you to learn a lesson to carry through life!
Like eating crow, bullets aren't half bad when prepared right!
Hope this helps,
Joe~
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