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... Send *he old Man? a private message | | | *he old Man?'s profile:Born in 1960 and growing up in the Midwest, I hit the ground running at a very young age. I had experienced things at age 10, that many didn't until their late teens, if ever.
I was married right out of high school, it lasted maybe a year, and have not been married since. I was never gifted with having children of my own. However,I dated and had a long term relationship with a woman with two beautiful daughters in which I spent nearly 10 years of my life with. With that, I don't claim to be an expert on raising kids by any stretch of the imagination. However, it was a great experience of seeing first hand the things that kids will try and pull on their parents, and how some parents are blind to what their kids are doing.
When I hear someone say "my kid wouldn't do that", I laugh inside, OK, sometimes out loud! Being a man about the town, I've witnessed peoples kids doing the things they thought they'd never do.
I've lived my life the way I wanted to. I didn't let anything stand in my way. I've pretty much done it all. Booze, drugs, trouble, chased women, raised hell and had a great ole time while doing it!
Though being a wild one, I managed to maintain being self employed from age 21 until 4 years ago.Standing at 48 years old and single,I now have a "job", and am looking to start another business.
Life has thrown some me some real hard balls, Many of which I behaved myself in to. I try make the best of every situation, and learn from my mistakes. I have settled down tremendously, and am hoping to live the second half of my life the way most people do their first. (Marriage, maybe kids??)
I joined this site to share my life lessons with others. I am a realist, and I call things the way I see them. I am very open minded and a good listener. I also believe that often times, we know the answers to our own questions, but just need for someone to tell us.
I've always been the one that people came to for advice. One of my favorite things I tell people is,
"I can straighten out anyone in the worlds problems, except for my own"!
If you would like to talk with me, please feel free to use the private mail feature.
I'm here to have fun and hopefully meet some new friends along the way!
Thanks for reading!
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Pubic hair question!
Q. I'm 14 years old and just barely got pubic hair and it is mostly around the base of the penis and on my testicles is there something wrong with me because I started too late. Also how long does it take the pubic hair to grow to the top of my crotch? ...
A. 28 January 2009: There is nothing wrong with you, different people grow at different rates.
How long it will take to fully grow in is an unknown. It may take a few years, or it could all grow within 6 months. It all depends on genetics. i.e. do you come from a hair... (read in full...)
Is it fair....? Help with age difference.
Q. Is there a big difference between 1980 and 1982 in years because I feel big difference. I'll be turning 30 and someone in born 1982 will still be there 20's so is it a big differcne. 30 years old is very depressing and I feel so over the hill. ...
A. 28 January 2009: The only thing that changes as you age is your outlook.
Well,,,, maybe a few aches here and there. At 45, the super slide may not be in your best interest, but you will still be you!
As far as dating, age is only a number. If you're attracted... (read in full...)
My husband insists on keeping things from me.
Q. I have been married for three years now and my husband insists on keeping things from me. He says these things do not involve being unfaithful and I could not handle them. He always has to have some air of mystery like he's a secret agent or ...
A. 28 January 2009: In marriage there should be no secrets! Best friends don't hide things from one another.
If he tells you there is nothing going on, he should feel no need to lock his phone.
Follow your gut, it will never lie to you!
Joe~... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting? Is it okay to be so realistic about marriage? I really don't want to be naive.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while. When we started dating, I never thought we would be together as long as we have. Well, I had a problem trusting him (needless to say). But I can honestly say I'm madly in love with him. He seems so ...
A. 28 January 2009: Being that you're 15, you have a long time to worry about getting married. As another poster said, you'll be missing out on so much. What you see as perfect at 15, may not sound so desirable at 19.
Take your time, there is no need to rush into any... (read in full...)
I really don't want to get hurt...
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a while and I really really like him, I've fallen too deep and that goes against everything I've ever wanted and stand for. When we started for the first 2, 3 months we seen each other all the time like 4 - 5 times...
A. 28 January 2009: If the only time he wants you around is for sex, than it sounds like you need to find someone who will treat you right!
Joe~... (read in full...)
Will I ever be able to trust him while she is still in his life?
Q. My boyfriend of 10 months still has regular contact with his ex, he dated her for 5 years, she is 23 he is 40. A few week ago he went to meet her and she stayed the night at his, he told me he was going home to watch the footie with his neighbour ...
A. 28 January 2009: My dear, you have the perfect recipe for disaster!
Being that he lied to you to be with her is one problem. Even though she turned him down, he still tried! That's another.
Though they may not get back together because she hurt him. She still f... (read in full...)
I feel I'm being bullied and I'm in my twenties!!!
Q. A guy down the local keeps on starting on me - getting in my face and demanding I do stupid things for him and coming over and interrupting my conversations by taking the piss and he's really threatening. I've never spoken to or seen the guy before ...
A. 27 January 2009: First of all, I'd find someone who knows him, yet someone you can trust, a mutual friend. Explain to them what is going on. Maybe have him talk to others discreetly. Then, sometime when the bully is there, go to the bar, get two beers, one for y... (read in full...)
How can I hint at her to give me a blow job?
Q. Hey, I recently started fingering my girlfriend and was just wondering what I could say to get her to start giving me bj's. Weve talked about it lightly and she said she would rather give bj's than handjobs. I kinda think it's fair that she sh...
A. 27 January 2009: To say that it's fair that she gives you a blow job since you're fingering her is far from accurate!
What you're asking for in comparison to what you're giving are a long ways apart! A little fingering does not equal her giving you a blow job.
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What do you think is wrong with me? I feel so run down...
Q. I am always extremly tired, I bruise very easily and bleed from my stools and am very moody over the littlest thing lately. This has been happening for a month. Can anyone give me suggestions as to what this might be. Of the top of your head or by ...
A. 27 January 2009: I'm no expert, but by the sounds of things, I highly recommend that you go and see a doctor!
Being tired and cranky could be as simple as the weather.
But bruising easily and blood in the stool is nothing to mess around with!!!!
See a docto... (read in full...)
Is he playing me or trying to?
Q. My boyfriend of a few days now got off work early yesterday and wanted to hang out. But I had to work late. Plus, I had school work. We talked throughout the night. Then, I said let's hang out on Friday...due to my busy work and school schedule....
A. 27 January 2009: Allowing each other to have friends and not putting heavy restrictions on one another is a good thing!
I understand that this is a new relationship? Neither party should be expected to just drop everyone in their life. Often times that happens,... (read in full...)
What "season" am I?
Q. What season am I, so to speak? I think this has to do with looks but i'm not sure... just curious i have long, wavy, medium brown hair with a reddish tinge dark brown eyes very pale skin (pink undertones) ummm... need i include anything else...
A. 27 January 2009: With what you've described, and from what I've read in your other posts,
I'm going to say you're a "fall"!
To give a more accurate, I'd have to know more of your personality. That says alot! What is your favorite time of year?
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I am considering having an affair with a married man
Q. I've known a guy for about a year through some other male friends, and have never been that bothered with him. Last time I went to see my friends I spent most of the evening with Mr X and we found that we had a similar hobby, exchanged numbers and ...
A. 27 January 2009: It sounds as you've answered your own question. You lost your marriage because of cheating. You know how much it hurts. Yet you are considering doing that to someone else? Consider her feelings. Forget about him. There are plenty of single men out... (read in full...)
I want to let go so we can be friends in the long run
Q. ok so my ex (21) and I (22) were trying to do the friend thing. it was difficult because the relationship was brought up frequently (on my part more so). he would keep on telling me how much he loves me, misses me, and wishes he could be with me and ...
A. 27 January 2009: You are doing the right thing by adding space. Becoming friends after a relationship isn't something that can happen in the matter of weeks, if at all! You both need to leave each other alone, no contact or communication. Go out with others and put ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to be able to kiss other guys
Q. Hey guys, I am 19, and my GF is 18. Basically, my girlfriend loves me says I am perfect for her, says she wants to marry me and everything. Prior to this, I guess our lowest point is when she kissed a guy out clubbing drunk (i know no excus...
A. 27 January 2009: It sounds like your girlfriend is happy with you, but she is still curious of what else is out there. It's best she gets this out of her system before you two move in together. My caution to you is that being she does this when drinking, the ki... (read in full...)
Was what I did wrong?
Q. well my best friend is dating this girl that i really liked and he knew it to. then one day she had enough with him and she wanted a break but she wanted me to tell him that didn't though. so after school me and my best friends ex where alone and ...
A. 27 January 2009: I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but yes. While you're young, you have many friends, and one or two best friends. As you get older, people go off their own ways, but you and your best friend will more than likely keep in touch. What you ... (read in full...)
Why do so many men like big butts?
Q. I know that a lot of guys like big boobs because that means that the woman has a lot of milk to feed their offspring, from a biological point of view. But why do so many guys like big butts? And I don't mean, like HUGE but they seem to like the ...
A. 27 January 2009: I've never understood the big boob, big butt thing. I hear guys say stuff like "man she's got big ol' rack"! Not me, I like small boobs and a small butt. A flat firm tummy is a huge plus!... (read in full...)
Heaven for the trolls and immature people on the internet? the haters?
Q. Why are people so incredibly mean on the internet? I'm just really wondering. I know that people say that they don't have a heart and they are just starring at a pixel or username, but why do those immature brats keep forgetting about the person...
A. 27 January 2009: Prior to coming to this site, I spent a lot of time on the Craigslist "Rants and raves". Many people used a handle, or some sort of moniker to identify their posts. It was a community, but not a very nice one.
I could not believe the hatred!
I s... (read in full...)
Do guys like petite girls?
Q. Do guys like petite girls? Do they think their smallness is cute and delicate? Or does it creep guys out (especially older guys) that they're small like children?...
A. 26 January 2009: Absolutely!!! I, as well as many other men find petite/small women to be very attractive! In my eyes, they are in fact "delicate". That's a good thing! Joe... (read in full...)
Last week he called me and said he loved me but wasn't in love with me...
Q. Dear cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months. Last week he called me and said he loved me but wasn't in love with me. He doesn't want to break up. He still wants us to be together, and he doesn't want to date other girls. He gave me ...
A. 26 January 2009: In mens language, "I love you but am not in love with you", translates into:
I find you fascinating, attractive, fun to be with, and I enjoy your company. I care for you deeply, I want what's best for you. I don't want to hurt you, you are a gr... (read in full...)
Could it be that he is afraid of his own feelings...?
Q. I've recently lost the last of my family that I could talk to. I don't feel like there is anyone one this earth that really knows me except for an ex married boyfriend. We haven't seen each other in 20 years but I ended up calling him because I feel ...
A. 26 January 2009: He's married! Leave him alone. Not to sound harsh, but if you were married, would you want your husband to go off and be a deep close friend with one of his ex's? I'm sure he cares about you, but it sounds as though his wife is his priority. No... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is losing interest in me slowly.
Q. My boyfriend is losing intrest me in slowly and I think it's because even though I'm 'mature' for being 15, I'm not perfect and him being 18, almost 19 makes him super mature, and sometimes I can't always keep up. Any advice about what I can do s...
A. 25 January 2009: Sweetie I know it hurts, but something else to consider is that you're 15 and he's 18 going on 19. I understand that you are a mature 15, but you're still 15 nonetheless.
He could also be looking at things from a legal stand point too. When we turn... (read in full...)
Is it me? I 'm crazy? Smell bad?? WHAT???
Q. Is it me? Am I crazy? Do I smell? Am I gay, and the only one that can't see it? Why the hell is it that every girl I ask out is taken without me knowing, or not wanting to be in a relationship? Am I destined to be alone forever? I used ...
A. 25 January 2009: Just hold on there Boscoe, don't go doing anything stupid!
I feel your pain. I went through a slump that lasted a few years. I felt like I could walk in to a whore house with a back pack full of cash, and by damn if that wasn't the day the girl... (read in full...)
Am I being racist?
Q. Hello all! There is a guy who likes me a lot but is not the same race as me. He is such a great guy but I only see him as a friend because I dont date of my own race. I dont know if this sounds racist, because I dont think I am a racist. I have ...
A. 25 January 2009: To django Respecting lies??? She didn't lie, she may not have kicked him in the gut and said "I don't find you attractive", she said NO, and he should accept that! She does not owe him any explanation as to WHY she doesn't want t... (read in full...)
I have a hard time saying no but I can't yes to everyone either!
Q. I have a problem... I think its simple,I'm just really really terrible at saying no... SO..heres the problem I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3 months,we didn't see eachother enough and that was my fault...I also split with him because I...
A. 25 January 2009: Time has taught me that an ex, should remain an ex. Whatever it was that was the problem before, will become the problem again. As far as you not being sexually attracted to him, you're not being shallow, just honest! Though sex is not the most ... (read in full...)
I can't get over my ex b/f
Q. Short version: We were together for a short time but he's made such an impact on me that I can't imagine my life without him. It was passionate, real, so much love. We talked about moving in together, marriage and kids. He is 36 and I'm 33. He b...
A. 25 January 2009: Him saying that he's not able to maintain a relationship is his way of saying that he doesn't have the nads to tell you that he still wants to be free to date others, but have you as a back up unit.
You want to get his attention? Stop calling ... (read in full...)
My 2 guy friends want to share me
Q. I have two guy friends that both like me. (They are friends) They want to share me somehow they both feel that it's ok for both of them to be with me. When one's not around they feel its best for me to have one around if they are both not available. ...
A. 25 January 2009: I'm confused. What do you mean by "share you"?... (read in full...)
Am I being racist?
Q. Hello all! There is a guy who likes me a lot but is not the same race as me. He is such a great guy but I only see him as a friend because I dont date of my own race. I dont know if this sounds racist, because I dont think I am a racist. I have ...
A. 25 January 2009: Honey, Don't fall into the trap! Society has us all sitting on needles and pins that if someone of another race does something that we don't like, that we are being racist!
You said yourself, "I am just not physically attracted to him".
It does... (read in full...)
Straight girl gay guy, best friends? or more?
Q. I cant tell anyone I know :( and am so sorry that its lengthy but have a lot of complications! * Am I in love with my gay best friend? * Is my gay best mate not gay? Facts... *We're 22, *, best mates for 7 years and Still going strong. *dated...
A. 25 January 2009: The first red flag that you sent up was that
"- he's so controlling, jealous and possessive about me, he hates it for example if I see other friends and do things without him."
That will only get worse! It's great that he wants to spend time wit... (read in full...)
Wnats the big deaL?
Q. Me and my girlfriend (of 4 years) went to a bar last week (it was her birthday). Long story short I had a bit to much drink. (this is what she told me b/c I don't really remember the night very well) I started flirting with a random woman in front ...
A. 25 January 2009: What's the big deal???
Dude, get a clue! You flirt with some other chick in front of your girlfriend, you dance with some other chick, you blow grits on your girlfriends dress. If you don't know what the big deal is, you deserve every bit of what ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to split up with my b/f
Q. So basically I want to split up with my boyfriend but I don't know how. I've spoken to a couple of friends about it and they both have very different opinions. One friend thinks I should just it over and done with as soon as possible as I've wanted ...
A. 25 January 2009: Dragging it out will only make things worse. Neither of you are happy, he wont do anything about it, just end it.
It's like a Band aid, you can pull a little bit at a time,watch it pull your hairs out, and it just hurts every little bit of the w... (read in full...)
I sort of had to chose between a guy and a friend
Q. I'm dating this guy and everything is good with him and I'm happy being with him, but now I've lost my best friend. I wrote about this before, she was once like in love with him but they never dated or anything, and he and I began to hang out. ...
A. 25 January 2009: You were just being honest when you said that your happiness comes first. I have to agree, you are between a rock and a hard place!
From her side, I see jealousy. You took away her fantasy??? I don't know if that's the right word, but... Howe... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a girl my age to be interested in older men? Could they reciprocate?
Q. I'm 17, and lately I've been into older men (30's-40's). Boys my age just don't interest me in anyway whatsoever. I know this isn't a phase. What I want to know is if this is normal for a girl my age.And also,I would like to know if guys in their...
A. 24 January 2009: I'm 48, and to answer your question at it's face value, You being 17, NO! That's for obvious reasons. However, 18 or +, absolutely!
Maturity is an important factor. I've known some 18-25 year olds who were calm and mature as the day is long. Then... (read in full...)
Why do older men think they have a chance with younger girls?
Q. ok i'm a 22 year old woman and i have a question about old men, like 40+. basically why do they try and flirt with us younger girls, why on earth would we be interested in someone who is old enough to be our fathers?! seriously, i hate it when i a...
A. 24 January 2009: You ask,"why do older men think they have a chance"? The answer is simple. WE DO! I'm a 48 year old male with no kids, not "wealthy", but I get along. I asked myself that question for quite a long time. Until the answer came to me like a vision... (read in full...)
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