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writes:I am so deprest, this year has been a very hard year for me. My fiancee and I broke up like 10 million times last year because he cheatted on me. I called of the engament but I woul always find my self accepting him back. This year he cheated on me with the same person that I know of, she states that she love's him. But everytime he would see me finally ready to move on he would come back to me. I finaly tried to break that sycle buy moving out of the house we shared becuase everytime him and I would break up he new I depended on him. One week later when I move out I find out he is with that girl, I cant tell you how upset that maid me. A week after that he gets cought doing something stupid with the law and now he is in jail, dont know when he will get out. After five days of him being in there I finally talk to him for like two minutes, I told him I wanted to visit him but that the other girl keeps setting up appointments to see him. I feel like I am the other girl even thow I have his 4 year old son and we have been together for seven years. He wants me to do a couple of things for him, I think I might but after that I think I should just let that other girl handle everything ealse.Please I need help I have not had any sleep for 4 days, I cant eat I am down to 100 pounds.
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reader, love850 +, writes (29 January 2009):
I agree with everyone on here. I wouldn't be losing weight and sleep over a loser. If he cheated on you once and he also continues to cheat with the same girl or whoever else why are you putting yourself through this. I know you all have a child together and everyone wants to be with their childs father and live the all american family dream but screw him. Let him support your child and that's it. As far as a relationship with you and him tell him hell to the no. Let his sideline ho do it! I know men can probably say the sweetest things while they are in jail but don't fall for it. Because when he gets out he will be back to his same lying lifestyle!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 January 2009):
You know what you need to do.
Stop being his dependable doormat. Tell him to sort his own problems and start sorting out yours. Work out how you are going to look after your son and raise him the best you can alone.
You do not need this lowlife. He is not good for you or your son.
Do you want your son to grow up learning that it is ok to keep hurting a women and using her like his dad uses his mum? Or do you want him to grow up seeing a strong independent woman who will take no crap from anyone? You will be his best guide in what to look for in his own relationships. He looks at your relationships to learn what is "normal."
Sort your life out and show him that NO women will respect a man who cheats and gets him self locked up and then starts asking for favours.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, The old Man? +, writes (29 January 2009):
 I realize that the two of you have a child together, but that does not mean that being with him is in either yours or the childs best interest.
It sounds like he has some very serious growing up to do.
Hun, You deserve better! So does your son.
Being that he is continually cheating on you, with her, or anyone else, there is no sense in marrying him. It will not last! It sounds as though he wants his cake and eat it too. If he truly loved you he would tell this other girl to get lost! He is too immature to settle down and accept the responsibility of you and his child.
You say you are losing sleep, can't eat and losing weight. My advice to you is to get rid of him! Leave him in jail, let this other girl have him, it sounds like they were meant for each other. Forget about his worthless ass!
Joe~
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