Why are men so bothered about the size of their penis????
Q. I know men will never get over this, but why on earth are they so obsessed with penis size? Personally I think a large penis is not that enjoyable, as it just hurts. What is wrong with a nice 5 or 6 inch average penis? Why do they always have...
A. 8 January 2009: Its all to do with the same reasons women feel self concious. The media dictates that men must have a six pack and be hung like a horse. Look at the underwear posters for men, theres an entire french loaf packed down there.
Porn is probalbl... (read in full...)
I feel she wants to handcuff me during sex to get questions out of me! Should I do it?
Q. hello aunties, Two weeks ago when I was sleeping with my neighbor, her husband found out about us and beat me.. 2 days back I met him in the gym again, he pushed and began teasing me about how he tied me and hit me, everyone was looking at us. ...
A. 8 January 2009: It smells like a trap. She will either try to get rid the the evidence. Let her husband come in and beat you up. Take comprimising pictures of you and blackmail you.
I'd just stay away.... (read in full...)
We are arguing all the time and I'm not sure what is going on anymore
Q. hi thank you for taking the time out to read this, well to start things off, i have been with my girlfriend for nearly 15 months now, i am 17 she is 16, anyway when we started going out she was only 15, we got to talking about diffrent things and ...
A. 8 January 2009: This is a classic symtom of mistaking sex and love. You seem to really be emphasising that sex is the most important thing. Its what you are droning on about and basing your relationship around. I have no doubts that you are feeling down but... (read in full...)
Pregnant using a condom?
Q. Me and this girl are wantin to have sex, but she dont want me to use a condom. She takes pills, can she still get pregant, if i dont use a condom...
A. 6 January 2009: Well its very unlikely that she will get pregnant if she is on the pill. Of course you only have her word that she is on the pill, so that comes down to trusting her. If you do then go ahead. There is about a 1% chance of pregnancy on the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is friendly with so many pretty girls!
Q. My bf has A LOT of girl friends. In fact, all his friends are pretty much girls, apart for two of them. He is 20 years old and I am 19. Him having so many girl friends doesnt annoy me too much, its more so the way he acts around them that upsets m...
A. 6 January 2009: They all seem close but what you need to remember hes known his friends longer than you. You are the new commer to the equation and still have a stretch to go before you are equal to his friends.
It also seems that he is just a really nice guy... (read in full...)
Lost My Virginty at 14, Help!!
Q. I just moved to a new city same state. At my old school I was just getting involed with boys. I was in 7th grade then. And now I am in 8th and I moved here over the summer.So Im in 8th grade now suopose to be in 9th. But lately I have been making ...
A. 5 January 2009: Well dearcupid.org is a place to ask questions and you have asked none. I'm not normally harsh but here is the problem. You couldn't say no and keep your legs closed. He is just a boy and of course he is going to tell his friends. In f... (read in full...)
All my friends have done it but me and now I've met a guy who wants to take my virginity, should I do it or not?
Q. Hey i knw am under age n all... buh am just having second thoughts... all my friends have done it. there's this guy at skwel a little bit older than me and we only started talking on msn..( as friends) then he mentions tht he wants so bad.. 4...
A. 5 January 2009: You should not just sleep with him. The chances are that only a handful of your friends will have slept with someone, the rest just say they did as to not feel left out. Why would you want to just sleep with a guy for the sake of losing your virg... (read in full...)
People's sex education knowledge is horrifying! Why don't people know the basics???
Q. This isn't really a question, it's just something that has shocked me and I would like to hear other people's views. Basically I can't get over the amount of people who don't know about the basics of sex. For instance people who think they can get ...
A. 5 January 2009: The main problems are: 1. The sex education delivered in schools is taught by teachers that do not necessarily know all the facts themselves. 2. The parents tend to know even less than their children past the obvious wear a condom and that w... (read in full...)
I want oral sex! How do I tell her?
Q. i'm 15 and my girfriend is 14, my girlfriend and i have been goin out for three wonderful months and counting..... she used to say that we would wait for the perfect moment to have sex, then soon after she started saying that we would never have sex....
A. 5 January 2009: Well i will just forgo the usual illegal and your young etc.
How about next time you are alone just ask her if she will suck your dick. Kiss her and get her turned on then ask her is prolly the best way round it.
Remember, penetri... (read in full...)
Do men like virgins?
Q. Do men like virgins?...
A. 3 January 2009: Men seek virgins because of the following insecurities:
1. They will be the first and this makes them instantly the best you have ever had. This is an ego boost to them.
2. A virgins vagina will typically be tighter and so it makes a small pe... (read in full...)
I really don't know what to do there's 3 years of a difference between us and now I feel folk will talk about us for the year gap
Q. I really like this guy who has a child but I used to go with him a couple of years ago and when we split he got into a relationship a couple of weeks later which he was unhappy in but within a few weeks his girlfriend announced she was pregnant what ...
A. 3 January 2009: You seem to have doubts, I would go with them. This is a situation that you do not want to be involved to that level in at your age. Also there is a chance you could be the next to get pregnant.... (read in full...)
I was just wondering if I could've caught it off him by doing what we were doing?
Q. Hey, just a quick one. In the summer me and this boy had a bit of a fling. We weren't in a relationship or anything and one night after a couple of drinks we did stuff. Stuff as in I sucked and tossed him off and he fingered me. Now, in January ...
A. 3 January 2009: It is possible to get chlamydia through the actions you described. Do not engage in any sexual acts until you get yourself checked out.
Chlamydia is the most common STI if im not mistaken and it is on the increase.
... (read in full...)
We agreed that the only way to stay together is to have a baby... should we do it??
Q. ok ummm im 13 and my gf is 17 weve been together for nearly a year and i love her with all my heart ........do you think that its a big age diffrence for us? also her parents hate me so much! i cant talk to her anymore kuz they caught us having ...
A. 2 January 2009: No. You will unlikely be together forever and a baby is not an excuse to play on. Neither you or her are old enough to think of the massive life impact this would have.
Think of all the family that would be dragged into what im sure will be a blo... (read in full...)
Should it be allowed for teacher's to date students?
Q. I've been searching google and stuff, about the laws and reasons of teacher's not being able to date students. I was just wondering what people's views on the law was.... Because, I understand that teacher's are in high authority position and in ...
A. 2 January 2009: Well the first point is that in most respects Teachers are adults and their pupils are children e.g. under age.
Pupils falling in love with a teacher and wanting to confess to the whole wide world isnt new news. Its just that 99% of the time the... (read in full...)
Fetish? OR mentally unstable?
Q. Is there something wrong with me? Alright im 17 years old, have been sexually active since 14, but at 15, during sex with my boyfriend at the time, he asked me to slap him as hard as I could repeatedly around the face cos he liked the pain of it, it ...
A. 1 January 2009: Drinking someone elses blood carries risks and I have to say I wouldn't advise you doing that again. But hurting someone is actually more common than most people think.... (read in full...)
Do I fake it or tell him the truth?
Q. if my partner isnt good in the sack do i fake an orgasm or just tell him?...
A. 1 January 2009: You tell him the truth. And instead of just saying he doesnt make you climax, suggest ways in which he can. Communication is the key.... (read in full...)
I'm so upset my 16 year old daughter lost her virginity
Q. Im a mother with strong beliefs .right know i can't think straight just found out that my sixteen year old (girl)lost her virginity and im so hurt im purely old school hey you want that you got to pay the responsibility. my husband wants to beat the ...
A. 1 January 2009: Young people having sex, it happens. Think of it this way, would it be better to have lost her virginity to a guy she likes and is in a ralationship with ? or lose her virginity at 18 on a one night stand ? The boys mother understands that... (read in full...)
I have strong will power but around him, I just melt!
Q. Okay well, this is my first post on this site and I really need some advice as I have nowhere else to turn. I'm going to sound like a horrible person, and I guess I am on some level, but I can't stop. Here it goes. I've been with my boyfriend for...
A. 30 December 2008: The joys of life.
In the end getting close would not only put you on bad terms with your cousin but also your bf that you claim to love.
Just distance yourself from him and tell him that it needs to stop and shun all his advances to make... (read in full...)
14 and worried about getting pregnant!
Q. hey im 14 and i have a 17 year old boyfriend and i want to have sex with him he says he is ready when i am as long as its not years and years he said , now im fine with that im just worried of getting pregnant its so scary on tv i dont want it im ...
A. 30 December 2008: Well firstly I think you are a little young to be thinking about sex. Not to mention that it is illegal for your boyfriend.
Make sure that you want to have sex and its not because your boyfriend is putting any preassure on you. You mentione... (read in full...)
Will my ex husband's behavior damage my son?
Q. Hello I hope you can help me with my problem. I am divorced and live with my 3 daughters and son who is the youngest. Last week at school there was a slight accident with my son. The headmistress had advised the other female teachers to take...
A. 30 December 2008: Im not sure if this is legit as it seems a bit far fetched for a man to attack a woman in front of a class of children. But i'll answer anyway. Yes this behaviour will damage your son. Children sense everything and every action will either help... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm ready!
Q. Well, I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 14. We've been dating for about 2 months now and we had our first kiss about 2 weeks ago. I Love him and I think he's the perfect boyfriend. I just spent time with him yesterday and we made out for a couple hours. He ...
A. 29 December 2008: If you dont want him to, just say NO.
It might seem hard but you need to stand up for yourself.
Only let things go as far as you feel comfortable. He is going through puberty and sex will be on his mind alot. So dont let him preassure you in... (read in full...)
Would it work better if we didn't use a condom?
Q. Hi this is gonna sound so stupid but me and my boyfriend tried 2 have sex and couldn't.... it wouldn't go in and he was wearing a condom. Now he thinks there's something wrong with him and I don't know what to do.... Would it work better if we ...
A. 29 December 2008: Do not try it without a condom.
A condom is also lubricated so if anything it should make it easier.
If this is your first time then you are likely quite tight (i hate saying that) and being at all nervous can affect this as well.
Try ple... (read in full...)
I'm really worried about my brother and think he is on a downward spiral!
Q. I am writing about my 34 year old brother who I am deeply concerned about. He has never had a girlfriend, the most he has ever done is kissed one girl in a spin the bottle game. He is a hopeless romantic, has a good job as a pharmacist for over 10 ...
A. 28 December 2008: Im going to draw on experience here and let you in on whats going on.
First things first.
Setting him up with women is like giving a 5yr old the keys to a car and saying drive, they wouldnt know what to do.
Every year is like being punch... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's behaviour normal?
Q. I’ve never really been in a relationship before so this is all new to me. Well I was wondering if my boyfriends’ behavior is normal. We barely talk on the phone because I’m not really a phone person, I’d rather chat online or in person. Well when...
A. 25 December 2008: I'd say thats normalish, its a bit more than i'd expect but it comes down to male pride. Society demands that men keep their personal emotions hidden and dont act all lovey dovey. To show them in public is to show weakness.
It sucks but thats th... (read in full...)
My brother is addicted to porn and I don't know what to do.
Q. my brother(33yaers old) is always looking up porn sites which are very disturbing. like teenage girls having old enough to be there great grand father its sick. this 25 sites a day there is no talking to him. escort web sites about 20 sites again, ...
A. 24 December 2008: Do you know anyone with IT experience ?
If so they should be able to sort your computer out so you all have different accounts etc and you shouldnt get the links hes visited.... (read in full...)
My wife has hacked into some of my web pages and done very juvenile things. Are there any repercussions for this?
Q. My wife (In the middle of a divorce) has hacked into some of my web pages and done very juvenile things. Are there any repercussions for this? How can I get her back without breaking the law? I have the evidence, but I don't know if what she did was ...
A. 24 December 2008: I would advise you not to try and get back at her. The whole point in her childish acts is to make you challenge her. She wants to get under your skin. Dont do anything and act like it never happened, that will be the greatest revenge because she ... (read in full...)
Turning on my partner...
Q. Hiya, hopefully this will be a fun question :) I remember reading an article in a magazine a while ago about turning on your partner. Under the 'dirty talk' bullet point, it suggested whispering something sexy/naughty to them unexpectedly, eg whilst ...
A. 23 December 2008: if he is looking at something in a shop window get behind him and put your arms round him. Move up to his hear and let out a quiet moan (breathe but add that little twist), then just say slowly and in a sexy voice "I feel so horny".
As you cont... (read in full...)
Anger problem in overdrive!!
Q. I have sort of got a bit of a anger problem, whenever I play football games on my xbox I get so mad and start ranting and raving my head off. I get so stressed I start shaking and need a cigarette. Thing is when ever my loved one is with me I ten...
A. 10 December 2008: Stop playing the games. Its as simple as that.... (read in full...)
Do I trust my instincts? Or my friend?
Q. I am currently very attracted to a girl, she seems almost too good to be true. According to my friend, who is best friends with her, she is psyched about me liking her. When I talk to her she seems a bit dry. Not much to say in the conversation. ...
A. 10 December 2008: Tell your friend that you have approached her and she wasnt interested, now you are not going to do anything about it unless she gives a positive sign. This will by magic find its way to the girl and one of the following will happen: 1. The gi... (read in full...)
Faking it...
Q. When my bf starts to massage me with his fingers to try and get me to have an orgasm, I become embarrassed an I cannot get an orgasm so I fake it. Help me so I can stop faking and start feeling an orgasm?...
A. 10 December 2008: Faking is the worse thing a woman can do.
Tell him that its not working, but instead of slamming the cover shut on it suggest ways in which it can be improved.
Communication is the key to pretty much everything. Tell him you get embarrassed ... (read in full...)
Should I hire a private investigator to see if he's really single?
Q. I'm 24, and currently single. My best friend's 23, and had a lucky escape from a guy she met in a bar. She said he was 5 years older than her, single, and seemed like a nice guy, but when she told her friend about him, her friend suggested she hire...
A. 10 December 2008: That is a step too far. There is nothing to suggest that this guy is not being truthful. Think about the long term implications if you and this guy got together and he found out you had him followed ? Im sure he would be angry that his privacy had ... (read in full...)
I'm confused. What does :P mean?
Q. hi thanks for taking the time to read this what could my friend mean when he said to me that "you wont be single for ever and the fact we enjoyed fooling around together is proof of that!!"? i told him i was confused and he said "i hope you unde...
A. 10 December 2008: Sounds like he is interested in you (in the relationship kinda way) and is testing the water to see where you stand. Its a form of flirting, he mentions not being single, already having been somewhat intimate with you.... (read in full...)
We have unprotected sex regularly, how come I don't get pregnant?
Q. Hiya i seriously need help :( well basicaly im a 15 year old girl i lost my virginity at the age of 13,and now im 15 ive bing having sex with my partner on a regulr basis(every weekend) on a saturday but the thing is we hardly use a condom but what ...
A. 25 November 2008: Why on earth would you want to get pregnant at 15 ? You should use protection not only to stop pregnancy but STI/STDs. Getting pregnant at 15 will pretty much ruin your youth. But since you asked, there are various reasons why you might no... (read in full...)
Is it weird to have sex for the first time when on your period?
Q. my boyfriend is coming round tomorrow, and seeing as this is the only day we have my house to ourselves, we were planning to sleep together. this would have been my first time, but I was happy with this, and we've had it planned ever since i knew ...
A. 4 November 2008: Best thing to do is discuss it with your bf. If you and he don't mind then by all means do so. I'd recommend the shower though to avoid the mess.... (read in full...)
Condom or the pill?
Q. Soo... umm... I've been with my girlfriend for about 4 months and shes already discussed with me about having sex, but shes a virgin and soo am I, but I'm not quite sure whats the best thing to do, bucause she doesnt want me to use a condom, she ...
A. 20 October 2008: I would advise both. Pill is easy for women, condom is easy for men. And if she is a virgin, how would she know how it would feel with a condom ? ... (read in full...)
I got drunk and ended up losing my virginity to my boyfriend, I don't recall this, have I been taken advantage of?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months, a week ago i got very drunk and ended up going back to stay at his. The next morning my boyfriend told me we had had sex. i do not remember this at all and i felt he had took advantage of me as ...
A. 8 October 2008: Maybe this will be a warning as to the dangers of drinking too much.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend betray me by masturbating? I want to end it!
Q. Dear Cupid , I just caught my boyfriend masterbating I feel like if he has betrayed me. I ask him if he doesnt like our sex but he answers that he does. So why does he do it. It makes me feel like i dont mean nothing to him. do you think that its...
A. 19 August 2008: Well for men especially its a lose-lose situation. If a guy chases a woman for sex hes only interested in that, if a guy masterbates then he is guilty of betrayal.
See what im getting at ?
Either he can masterbate or hassle you all the time... (read in full...)
My girlfriend kissed two girls while drunk, how should I handle this?
Q. ok so my girlfriend went to a party got drunk and kissed two other girls, i dont know what to do about it, i just want to know what would you do if it was you in this situation ? please help me :(...
A. 19 August 2008: I would do nothing. Girls are generally more comfortable with themselves than guys. They also dont have the big fear factor that guys have with kissing the same sex. It sounds like it was a drunken laugh. So I would think nothing of it, or if you ... (read in full...)
He sometimes rubs my stomach, but I don't really like him lifting my shirt up.
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 months however, i am very self-conscious of my body, mostly my stomach. im not exactly fat but i do have red stretch marks on my stomach. he sometimes rubs my stomach but i dnt really like him lifting...
A. 19 August 2008: If he is rubbing your stomach then I don't think you have anything to worry about. He obviously likes it or he wouldnt keep doing it.
Tell him of your concerns and how you feel about it. ... (read in full...)
I told him I want to have sex with him, so isn't the ball in his court now??
Q. I told this guy at work 5 weeks ago that I want to have sex with him. He seemed very receptive at that time, but nothing's happened yet! I went away on vacation for 3 weeks and just returned to work last week. I've been ignoring and avoiding him, ...
A. 20 July 2008: Did you perhaps say it in a way that could be concieved as a joke ?
Maybe he thought that you were just messing with him, its not a situation men are generally put in.
If you still speak and think he's game, just tell him that you were serious... (read in full...)
I am very attracted to a sweet, nerdy guy, thing is, I want to date him, he likes me according to friends, my problem is, if I date him, I don't want him to tell a lot of people, is this mean?
Q. I really fancy a guy, I haven't seen him in a few weeks so i texted him. He hasn't replied and I think he may be on holiday. But his friends tol me he liked me. The thing is he is a bit of a nerd... and it would destroy my reputation a bit to go ou...
A. 18 July 2008: No is the simple answer. If you have a chance to be happy with this boy then dont cover it up.
At school I understand that reputation is a big thing (wasn't too many years ago I was at school) but its only a short term thing. Once you get into sen... (read in full...)
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