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writes:I told this guy at work 5 weeks ago that I want to have sex with him. He seemed very receptive at that time, but nothing's happened yet! I went away on vacation for 3 weeks and just returned to work last week. I've been ignoring and avoiding him, except we had one conversaetion, cause I don't believe in chasing guys, and when you tell a guy you want to have sex with him should you have to say or do anymore? Isn't the next move up to him?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 Yes although he is probably to busy cowering in the corner to pick up the ball.
Did you really just go up to him and say "I want to have sex with you"?
Intresting approach, should have tried it when I was still attempting to date.
I think you scared him.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 July 2008):
 I agree with FinnMcCool.....That is chasing guys.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 July 2008):
Well since you've made it clear that you only want to be a casual shag and not a girlfriend then he's not exactly going to treat you like a princess is he?Perhaps he's not looking for a one night stand and isn't as easy about having sex with random workmates as you are?Since you are now avoiding him, he has probably assumed that the offer has been withdrawn or you are getting sex from one of the other guys you work with. Ask him out for a drink after work, and after a couple of pints he might be a bit more open to a cheap night of passion.Good Luck!! xx
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (20 July 2008):
 Did you perhaps say it in a way that could be concieved as a joke ?
Maybe he thought that you were just messing with him, its not a situation men are generally put in.
If you still speak and think he's game, just tell him that you were serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): You don't chase guys huh? Telling a guy you want to have sex with him is blatant chasing - can't you see that? That sort of line would have me running a mile from you 'cos I'm thinking, if she's that free n easy with me, I'm surely not the only one. Anyway, just 'cos you demand sex from a guy, why should you expect him to jump? I'm sorry but you do seem to have an overinflated view of your own self-importance.
Ease off the gas a little babe - try a little subtlety. Write this guy off as you've probably scared him off forever and learn from your mistake.
Whatever happened to courtship?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (20 July 2008):
 Of course the next move is his. I might suggest to all that there are more subtle ways to tell a potential partner of any gender that you are interested but, in any case, the next move is theirs once the signal has been sent, even if just a wink.
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