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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi this is gonna sound so stupid but me and my boyfriend tried 2 have sex and couldn't.... it wouldn't go in and he was wearing a condom. Now he thinks there's something wrong with him and I don't know what to do.... Would it work better if we didn't use a condom?
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reader, the1st1  +, writes (29 December 2008):
USE a condom, unless you want to get pregnant, even if your on birth control it can still happen. if it is because he is big, or your to small, then try to get him to get his fingers wet or use KY jelly, and he needs to use 2 fingers, or you can do it yourself. 2 fingers, slide them in and slowly spread your fingers apart and move your fingers in a circular way. do it until you feel like its stretching, the more you do it the better it works. that it what women do to stretch themselves befor having a baby so its easier and they wont tear, it will also work for sex. trust me
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reader, Lowher  +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Well, your vagina is made to push a baby out of.. so i seriously doubt that he cant get it in. But if he's your first, or you haven't had in a long time... Then it's going to take a while. You need to take it slow. He needs to understand that this isn't a rush job, this is something you cant rush. Try foreplay, it's the natrual alternative to using lube.. and its the best way to make sex last longer. And as for the condom part. It may break without a certain amount of "lube", be it natrual stuff that your body expells or the bottle stuff you buy from the corner store. But use a condom, seriously. And dont think your weird because it cant get in, It took me a while before my ex boyfriend could, and i bleed after. thats something to look forward too. hope it helps
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reader, egrl202 +, writes (29 December 2008):
No! Always wear a condom. He should see a doctor, to get this problem figured out, and if he is normal maybe you should talk to the GYNO.
If you dont feel comfortable going to the doctor, look online for a medical website, and ask the doctor online, or visit a website that has a sex Q&A section. Also make sure these sites are legit, no wikipedia or something like that.
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reader, The Gentle Man  +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Do not try it without a condom.
A condom is also lubricated so if anything it should make it easier.
If this is your first time then you are likely quite tight (i hate saying that) and being at all nervous can affect this as well.
Try plenty of foreplay and get him to gently try putting a finger in first then if he can a second finger. This will gradually help you relax and get used to it.
Just a side note,
you should never have sex without using a condom.
Hope this helps.
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female
reader, kerrynn3 +, writes (29 December 2008):
no it wouldn't. if this is your first time, its not going to go in so easily. you have to work at it. but always wear protection!!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): Well, if you're a virgin, then yes, it will be hard the first couple tries. But always ALWAYS use protection! Especially at your age.
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