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Should I tell her I love her online or to her face?

Q.   hi, i know a girl for 3 weeks and she lives near my house, i had a long conversation through one night and i got out with her one time and we walked through the city, i gave her flowers and she said that is very kind of you and she huged me. ...

A.   30 August 2008: If she is telling you that she is too busy to go out then that is her way of say she isn't interested. I wouldn't tell her at all until you even know if she is really in to you because it sounds like she's not. But if you do tell her tell her face ... (read in full...)

I want to be able to see my daughter because I have quit on drugs, any advice?

Q.   my exhusband has not let me see our daughter in almost 5 years because of my past drug use i now have been clean and sober for 5 years what should i do and coull you show me some web sites on how this effects my daughter to not see her mom...

A.   30 August 2008: You have to go to court to get your rights to see her back. They will do a lot of drug tests on you and you will start out being watched with her. The thing is is that you dont say your daughter's age. If she is 12 or older she can refuse to see you ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my best friend's mum that she hurts herself?

Q.   hi everyone i need some advice obviously my very good freind has recenly started cutting her self and she makes me very worried ....should i tell her mom ? or should i leave her alone?thz alot,me!...

A.   26 August 2008: Dont tell her mom. Find out why she does it and try and be there for her. Tell her she can call you whenever she needs to. I used to cut and when my dad found out it just made it worse. My boyfriend of the time who is now my fiance helped me through ... (read in full...)

Do we give up our baby for adoption or not?

Q.   I'm 6 months pregnant and my boyfriend doesnt think we are ready both emotionally and financially to have a baby. He thinks the responsible thing to do would be put it up for adoption. We're both 24, and we both have stable careers and all...but ...

A.   25 August 2008: I agree with the first poster. Also no one can tell you if you can give up your child. If you really feel that is the right choice for you not him then to make it easier you can look into an open adoption. In an open adoption you still see the ... (read in full...)

When a guy likes a girl is it common for them to act different around the girl?

Q.   When a guy likes a girl is it common for them to act different around the girl? For instince: Guy 1: gets me soda at work, gets the door for me and acts way more outgoing around me. He is usually much, much more quiet. Guy 2: is much more ha...

A.   25 August 2008: Yes it is normal. They are trying to get your attention. Most people are so worried about the person they like liking them back they act how they think that person wants them to be. After dating a while they will be more like them selves.... (read in full...)

I can't fall asleep until really early in the morning, but when I do I sleep for 12 hours. What is this?

Q.   I know this has nothing to do with love and what not.. but I think I have sleeping issues? I'm definitely a night person and I can stay up really late, even if I want to sleep early. I just find it difficult to sleep. but when I finally do, I sl...

A.   25 August 2008: Its normal all of it. You sleep a lot because of your age. I'm 19 and I still sleep for 12 hours and I feel dead if i dont. During the summer you more than likely stay up late because of the heat. My guess is that you feel better at night when it ... (read in full...)

My parents won't let me date at 16. How can I get them to loosen up?

Q.   Ok, Im sixteen but I cannot date. So do any of you guys have a idea of what I could say to persuade my parents otherwise?...

A.   24 August 2008: My advice is try asking for group dates. Tell them what friends you are going with and who you will be dating. Also tell them where you will be and when you will be home. Also call and t=check in a couple times.... (read in full...)

Is it safer to use two condoms?

Q.   ok this may sound dumb..but would it be better to use 2 condoms? or does that make the chance higher that the condoms will break...

A.   18 August 2008: It makes the chance a lot higher that the condoms will break. One is enough and if you are worried then get on birht control your self as well. Also I really hope you are 15 and not 13 because 15 is better than 13 but still not great. I hope you and ... (read in full...)

Will dwarfism and lack of confidence make me less appealing to boys in middle school?

Q.   So, I know I have a wonderful boyfriend, but I'm going into middle school. Now, I've heard this is where, some boys actually FINALLY like girls. And we're being combined with another school. So MORE BOYS!! Yay. But I have a disease, with dwarfism, ...

A.   18 August 2008: School will be hard for you because some people are so mean. Mostly because their parents never told them to not be rude. My advice is dont ever change who you are because one day someone will love you for who you are. Also remember no matter who ... (read in full...)

Contraceptive injection-how long it takes for the body to get back to normal??

Q.   I was on the contraceptive injection from December 2007 to April 2008, I still haven't started my periods again after 4 months, do you know how long it takes for the body to get back to normal??...

A.   18 August 2008: They say it takes 9 month to a year. Thats why they tell you if you are planning on having a baby dont be shocked if you dont get pregnant for a year.... (read in full...)

Small bump + big baby = CONFUSED!

Q.   heya :) well I'm 28 weeks pregnant with my first baby - a lovely little boy! :D Although everything has gone ok so far my bump is pretty small for the stage I'm at =S...alot of people have commented on how small it is in fact, some saying i will pro...

A.   17 August 2008: You are ok remember that at this stage your baby is very small no more than a couple inches. As long as your doctor didn't say that you need to gain weight you are fine. Also the medical average of weight a woman is suppose to gain is 25 pounds but ... (read in full...)

Any tips that can help me pass my driving test?

Q.   Hey everybody... Okay, I understand that this is a website for relationship troubles [hence 'dearcupid'.com] but this is the ony place i could think of coming for help with a problem that isn't anything to do with a relationship. I have just book...

A.   17 August 2008: My best advice is dont drive too carefully. Thats why i failed the first time. I was so nervous that I failed for being to carefull which made me mad and the second time I passed.... (read in full...)

I hate myself for being so thin. I try to out on weight but I just get angry. It's affecting my moods and there for, my relationship. HELP!

Q.   hie, i am a 20 year old girl and i hate myself. i am a size 6 and i know some women would love to be but i hate it. i never diet or starve myself i just wont grow. this has resulted in my having a short temper and pushing away my boyfriend who i ...

A.   3 August 2008: The only thing that I can advise is drink a shake called ensure. They give it to people who are under weight because it is full of vitamins and a bunch of other things your body needs. Gain weight is really hard if you have such a high metabolism. ... (read in full...)

I'm wondering, is there such a thing as love at first sight?

Q.   Quick question. Is there a such thing as love at first sight? I never really believed in it but three weeks ago at a party i met this cute girl and we've been dating since. Im 15, she's 14 turning 15 and she lives quite a while away, but it feels ...

A.   3 August 2008: I personally dont believe in love at first sight. I think that you have to know someone to love them.... (read in full...)

This has been eating away at me for years! I found a video of my brother having sex with my sister's husband!

Q.   Please advice. This I something that happened years ago and it has been eating me inside! I found a video of my brother having sex with my sister's husband. It was a complete and absolute shock! I literally ran away from it and haven't mentione...

A.   1 August 2008: I think you should tell your sister. It will hurt your family and she might be mad at you for a little while since you knew years ago but she will calm down and it will blow over and she will turn to you again. You sister really needs to know bec... (read in full...)

I have a lot of UTIs.... and I get this smell... can anyone help me?

Q.   Well im 17 years old, and i have been with this guy for two years now. Well in the past i have been with alot of guys. But i was tested and i never had nothing. But like if i have sex with my boyfriend like alot, i get UTI's all the time.. and i ...

A.   25 July 2008: Everyone else has said good things but missed one thing. Your boyfriend could be the cause too. Mine was. I wash well and I use special products like summers eve to make sure I am clean. I rarely douch unless I am about to get a pap smear. M... (read in full...)

Am I crazy and sick for thinking my boyfriend is getting off with my kid's underwear?

Q.   Hello I am very disturbed right now and need to get some feed back. Maybe I am crazy. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. Certain times I get the feeling that he has a sick sexual side. Besides the fact that we have major issues a...

A.   25 July 2008: I agree with all the other posters. You need to leave because he seems off. You dont say your daughters age but I hope that she is still young enough to not pick up on the underwear thing and I really hope he hasn't sexually abused her. Based on... (read in full...)

Weightloss pills... do they work? Which ones are good?

Q.   so I've been looking to lose weight and I'm exercising and what not. but I've really been considering using dietary supplements but idk how old you have to be to purchase them from a drugstore. do you have to be 18 or can you buy them at age 15...

A.   23 July 2008: Diet pills dont work! I tried then at 13. Got them from a friends mom. The over the counter ones do not work and they but you at high risk for heart attacks. The diet pills that you get from a doctor you can only get at 18 and they are even mor... (read in full...)

I have a pain in my left testicle, but no lumps. Any advice would be appreciated.

Q.   Hey, im 16 and i have a problem that has been worrying me greatly over the past few weeks i feel a pain in my left testicle, it is very mild, i have felt for any lumps but found nothing I dont have the courage to tell my parents and i am scar...

A.   21 July 2008: I would go to the doctor if you think it is that bad. Better safe than sorry. One other thing that might be a little personal. If you haven't masterbated then you should try that. You testicle might hurt because of backed up sperm and it would su... (read in full...)

Reducing excess tum skin, excercise or tummy tuck op?

Q.   ok im 15 years of age i used to be quite large as a child but now i have lost the weight with growing up ect i am an average sie 12 and i must admit i dont appear to be Fat or overweight when you look at me however from where i have lost...

A.   20 July 2008: Before thinking about a tummy tuck think about the scar. It will wrap all the way around the front of your waist line. You will have to wear your pants a little high and wearing a bathing suit that sits low is out of the question because you will ... (read in full...)

Do guys REALLY want skinny girls?

Q.   ok heres my question do guys really want really skinny gf's???? i know its talked about all the time but nobody ever asks real everyday men! i'm 14/16 is that too big? is that normal? what do you guys think of women and their bodies...

A.   20 July 2008: Think about it in a sexual perspective. If you put two really skinny people together then you get pelvic bruising. Who wants to have sex with someone who leaves bruises all over them and not in the good couldn't help my self had to bite back a ... (read in full...)

How do know if he's happy? If I'm doing it right?

Q.   Hi everyone! i got something bothering me. I've just started having sex and i don't know if i'm doing it right! How do i know if I satisfy him or not and i'm still terribly shy that i can't even walk naked in the room in front of him! Is there an...

A.   20 July 2008: Talk to him about it ask him what he likes. Mostly watch his face and if he cums then he likes it.... (read in full...)

I feel like I'm overdosing on sex with my boyfriend! Is this just a guy thing?

Q.   Im 18 and my BF is about 2 be 19 in 3 weeks we got together on september 19,2007... since than all he wants 2 do is have sex all the time and I dont know if its like a guy thing or what but I dont know what 2 do about him I love him 2 death but I ...

A.   20 July 2008: Tell him that you want to cool it on sex. Me and my fiance have been together almost 4 years and we average having sex about twice a day. If your sex drive isn't as high as his tell him. When my fiance and I were still in the first year of our r... (read in full...)

Was she seeing this guy before she broke up with me? How else did she move on so fast?

Q.   My girlfriend of 3 1/2 years split up with me then then just 6 weeks later she tells me she is dating someone new. Already! I can't help but think she was seeing this guy before she split up with me, or that she left me for him although she says she ...

A.   20 July 2008: My bet is that you guys had problems on and off for a while. A girl normally doesn't just turn cold and leave for no reason. My bet is that every fight caused her to feel a little more lonely and a little less happy and that something happened ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my family I'm bisexual?

Q.   Hey Guys, Basically Im 16 and Ive recently discovered im bisexual. Im Not out yet, except to a few close friends. I really want to tell my family, and get the whole thing off my chest, but almost my whole family are homophobic. I have a gay cousin w...

A.   19 July 2008: It is ok to be attracted to who ever you are attracted to. As far as telling your family since you are bi and they are so negative I would wait until you had a serious relationship with a man. You may end up spending the rest of your life with a man ... (read in full...)

Not even a birthday present from my boyfriend. What am I worth to him?

Q.   It was my birthday last weekend. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. He's a very sweet guy, but not very good when it comes to suprises for me, or buying gifts ahead of time. I was over at his parent's house the day before my birthday ...

A.   18 July 2008: I know how you feel my birthday is in a week. My bf has been there for my 15 up to now my 19. My 15th is the only year I got a present and I dont get one this year either. It hurts my feelings because I always save up and make his birthdays great ... (read in full...)

If I find a new guy will it make my ex realise how much he likes me?

Q.   My boyfriends recently broke up with me, but I know he is still into me. It is a long story, but he pretty much broke up with me because he was scared. I am not sure if it is because he knew I was falling in love with him or if he fell for me. He is ...

A.   18 July 2008: No you shouldn't find a new guy. You are not over your ex and if you try to move on to an other guy your going to really hurt this new guys feelings. Either try to fix things with your ex or try to get over him and then move on when you really are ... (read in full...)

Any good food for losing weight, that you could recommend?

Q.   So i've recently decided that its time to loose a few pounds, meaning like 30 or so. I'm not obese, but i do have a little extra fat around my stomach and thighs... I've been working out like running and doing ab things, but do any of you know like ...

A.   18 July 2008: Broccoli is a good food. It is high in fiber and it is a veggy that you can get full on quick. Drink a lot of water because it will trick your body into thinking that you are fuller than you are. Also make sure to still eat fruit. Fruit makes a ... (read in full...)

I worry about shaving my pubic area... how can my friends do it?

Q.   Basically, 1. I am 16 and a 32D. All my friends are sizes 30F or 32F etc. I am scared i don't get any bigger because i haven't changed in a year. I am really worried. 2. Recently my friends have been speaking about shaving their pubic hair and o...

A.   18 July 2008: I am a 38G and I would give anything to go back to a D cup. D cup was the last bra size that I had that didn't hurt my back. I am only 19 and am looking into breast reduction surgery because my back cant handle the weight of my boobs. Dont wish for ... (read in full...)

Is there a vibrator-like device that could be strapped on the clitoris during intercourse?

Q.   I am wondering if there is any toy available that allows a simultaneous clitoral stimulation during intercourse? I know that we could stick a vibrator on the clit during intercourse but the vibrator usually gets in the way and I would like to have ...

A.   18 July 2008: There is a toy called a butterfly. I haven't used it but it basically suctions to the clit so that you don't have to hold the bullet. I heard of it and saw it at a sex toy party but I'm sure you can find it online.... (read in full...)

Fallen in love with my best friend, do I risk the friendship, if pursue her as more than a friend?

Q.   i am currently in grd 10 i have a best friend who's a girl,she has been my friend for 3 yrs,she has bin sitting with me in every class,i have had a crush on her at the 8th grd but it all passed,i fel in love with her along de way.weneva she looks nd ...

A.   10 July 2008: Umm it could work out but the truth is that if it doesn't there isn't a high chance of the friendship working out after. My advice is to follow your heart or you might just always be wondering what could have happened. ... (read in full...)

This will be our one year anniversary of dating, and he has new job, and must be at work, do I try to get him to take off from work or plan something for another day?

Q.   i need help so badly 2mro is mine and my bfs one year anniversary and he mite have 2 work yikes! bad bad bad i need help he cant take ne time off bc he just strtd this job so wht do i do he strts work at 12 in the afternoon n he usually stays at his ...

A.   10 July 2008: Dont have him take work off move your plans to another day. However wear something sexy when he gets home and suprise him with some love making it will be something to remember for that day and who cares if you dont get to do your other plans until ... (read in full...)

Which one of my sisters should I believe?

Q.   hi i'm getting married next month and since i'm a virgin i asked my sisters for help. my eldest sister says that i should stop the intercourse after i lose my virginty immediately, otherwise i will damage my vagina. but my other sister says it's o...

A.   10 July 2008: After he first goes in have him stop inside you until the pain stops then have him continue to go slowly until all the pain stops then you are good to go. The only intercourse that can mess up your vagina is if he is like 4 inches wide and 13 inches ... (read in full...)

I am happy with my boyfriend, even though he is 28 years older than I am, does the age difference matter, if the relationship is working??

Q.   i am currently going out with sum1 28 years older then me ever since i've met him i've felt happy and more confident he supports me in everything i do. but then there's my dad who's telling me he's just using me and also my sister who wont talk to ...

A.   10 July 2008: I dont think that the age difference matters. Who ever you love is who ever you love. However keep in mind that if you want a family you might not be able to have one with this man. He is quite older than you and you are still young and its seems ... (read in full...)

Do I send the flowers to her work or her house?

Q.   Sending flowers to a girl. She works in a restaurant as a waitress/hostess. No idea if I should send the flowers there or to her house. If she worked in an office then it might be better to send them to work, but a restaurant may be kind of ...

A.   10 July 2008: Every girl likes flowers in front of everyone so why dont you send the flowers to her house then go to her work with like a single rose (or whatever flower she likes) give it to her and let her know that she has a dozen more waiting at home for her. ... (read in full...)

Can I make friends at work if everyone is much older?

Q.   I start a new job in the morning. I went to the office im working in today and discovered that the people who are starting tomorrow with me are at least 15/20 years older... im quite intimidated as this is my first serious job and im only 18.... t...

A.   10 July 2008: First off How are you? is just a way to say hi and sadly most people do not really care how you are. Its more of a common way to say hi and be polite. Second keep your problems out of work environment because you dont want rumors started that cause ... (read in full...)

We need some advice on anal sex

Q.   Hello everyone! This is somewhat embarrasing to ask (I try to keep my sexual life private), but I've been wanting to know how to do this for a while. Well, me and my boyfriend have decided to have anal sex but even after searching about it I still...

A.   10 July 2008: Ok you live in the US so I'm going to assume that you have a walmart near you. (they are everywhere). There is a lube there it is about $2 its an off brand its the walmart brand off KY Jelly. Get the off brand not the name brand. I have tried KY and ... (read in full...)

Confused about who my baby's father is...

Q.   hi my name is valsha and i am 18 weeks pregnant if i messed with my friend on feburary 24 is it possible that my baby is his....

A.   7 July 2008: that was 20 weeks ago so it could still be his if they have your date wrong which some doctors can get it wrong. Or it could not be his. A DNA test is the only way to know since that is only a two week diffence.... (read in full...)

He's a nice guy but he talks too much!

Q.   i met this guy a few months ago,he looked really attractive fortunately he seemed to have a crush on me. we got to flirt about, exchanged numbers and we r in touch. i thought i would fall out with him if he ever asked me out which he did but the ...

A.   7 July 2008: You haven't said how long you two have being talking. Some guys talk a lot when they are nervous. The nicest thing to do is say: Are you nervous because you wont let me get one sentence in ever? Maybe then he might laugh admit he is and realize that ... (read in full...)

I'm engaged but I still crave the attention of men, is something wrong with me?

Q.   I crave attention from men. Im engaged to an amazing guy, we've been dating for 3 years, and I love him. I don't have low self-esteem, trust me it's not that, I just love for guys to flirt with me. Is something wrong with me? I've never cheated on a ...

A.   7 July 2008: I have been in a relationship with my fiance for three and half years and their is nothing wrong with wanting anyone else to find you attractive. It only becomes a problem if you do want to cheat. Just remember everytime you get that urge to want to ... (read in full...)

Could I get pregnant by having sex during my period?

Q.   i want to know, if i have my period and i have sex with it, could i get pregnant?...

A.   7 July 2008: Its not very likely but it could happen. Some woman do ovulate at the same time that they have their period its just rare, To make sure that you dont have a baby then just use a condom to be safe.... (read in full...)

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