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Did I do something wrong during sex?

Q.   Sometimes when my boyfriend and I have sex, I'll get on top. But a few times when I was on top, out of nowhere, he said "owe". I immediately got off. Then he asks what is wrong and I don't answer him because I'm confused. Then he says that he thinks ...

A.   26 October 2008: You might have bent his penis funny or if both of you are skinny you could have hit him in a painful way with your bone. The only certain way to know is ask him. By getting off and not saying anything you are basically telling him that even if he is ... (read in full...)

My 14 yr old friends are planning to have sex....

Q.   One of my friends and his g/f are going to have sex on Sunday. They are both 14, and they are only going to use a condom... how can i stop them from doing it?...

A.   25 October 2008: If what your friend is doing is ruining your relationship then your relationship is too weak and anything can break it. Maybe stop worring and your friend and focus on your own problem in your relationship since thats something you can actually fix.... (read in full...)

My 14 yr old friends are planning to have sex....

Q.   One of my friends and his g/f are going to have sex on Sunday. They are both 14, and they are only going to use a condom... how can i stop them from doing it?...

A.   25 October 2008: You cant stop them if they want to they will. The only thing that you can do is give them better birth control ideas.... (read in full...)

Is it weird that I asked my mum to put in a tampon for me?

Q.   Hello, i am quite worried. I have had a period for 2 years, and i wanted to start using a tampon. i couldn't get it in, so i called my mom and she put it in for me. Is that really wierd :S I don't know, i'm just a bit freaked out....

A.   24 October 2008: I dont think that there is anything wrong with it however people can be mean especially in high school so i think that it is better if it is between you and your mom. Even your best friend could let her tongue slip. I think that the next thing to do ... (read in full...)

I am wondering what this is doing to my body?

Q.   Hey, I was just wondering what this is doing to my body. At the moment I am eating nothing all week apart from on Fridays when I have a binge. After this binge I am sick but I only make myself sick three times after each binge, no more and no less....

A.   18 October 2008: I dont know what your weight means but you do have an eatting disorder. I had one when i was 14. I was 5 ft 3 and 150 pounds when i started i threw up once a day for almosta year drinking soad to keep up my blood sugar up so i woukdn't pass out. ... (read in full...)

Girls... -what are your views on male virginity?

Q.   A question for females only, what are your views on male virginity?...

A.   17 October 2008: I think that it is very important. My fiance and i were both virgins when we got together and being able to share the beautiful act of making love with only eachother means the world to us. I think that guys who have been with a lot of girls are ... (read in full...)

Ladies... what does the word "masculinity" mean to you?

Q.   One for the ladies. I would like to know what 'masculinity' means to you....

A.   17 October 2008: To me it means a man that can protect me. That can be with his strength if i here a noise in the house or with his words when someone is mean to me or if I have a bad. ... (read in full...)

How long do I need to wait until I bleed again?

Q.   i am a girl. i hve a bf with whom i had sex.when i had sex for the first time i bleeded. later i didnt. but now we broke up and i am engaged with someone else and i dont want him to know that i am not a virgin.so, after how much gap of time or perio...

A.   16 October 2008: If you are asking how long you have to wait until you will bleed again during intercourse the answer is forever. You will never bleed again because you already ripped the thing called your hymen which is what caused the bleed. I think you have b... (read in full...)

Should a woman text/call, or should she wait until the man contacts her?

Q.   I've been on a couple dates with a guy i really like, and have known him for a month now. We have a great time when we see each other. He has told me he liked me before. I just dont know how long i should wait until i call or text him. I dont want...

A.   14 October 2008: I dont think its just the guys responsibilty. Call him and say hey i was about to go do blank and i wanted to know if you wanted to come. If he says he cant then say ok if you change your mind give me a call and then go do whatever it is you ... (read in full...)

Found birth control pills in my wife's drawers....is there a way to confirm if she is taking them?

Q.   I found various birth control pills in my wife’s drawer. I had no idea she was taking them. I have wanted to have a baby for some time now. Is there a way to medically confirm she is indeed on the pill? Any other way? She won’t admit she took them. ...

A.   14 October 2008: If there are pills missing from the pack them she more than likely took them. I think instead of asking if she took then ask why. She must not want a baby and doesn't feel like she can tell you so find out why.... (read in full...)

What can I say to make her feel comfortable enough to send me some sexy pictures?

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 2 years now, we don't live together and we are like two peas in a pod. We are greatly in love and have everything in common. Now the problem... Recently I was forced to go on a business trip in ...

A.   14 October 2008: If she doesn't feel comfortable she wont just change her mind. Why not just close your eyes and think about her body. A lot of girls aren't comfortable enough to send naked pictures to anyone.... (read in full...)

Did he really mean it? Or it was just said in the heat of the moment?

Q.   Hello, I was having sex with my 8 month's boyfriend yesterday, and I told him that I loved him while we were having sex. I do feel it, and I am very emotional, and we have shared that we have strong feelings for each other, so when I told him that...

A.   13 October 2008: Just from that I would say no but the only way to truly know is to ask him if he loves while not having sex. He might just have said me two because he didn't know what else to say.... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant - what would YOU do in my situation?

Q.   I'm pregnant by a married man who is going through a divorce.we are both in the army and he is deploying he thinks the best thing to do is abort the baby but I don't believe in abortion and want to keep it we both do in away. But he is worried about ...

A.   6 October 2008: I would keep the baby. You can be a good mom even if he gets overwhelmed and leaves. Every one never feels that it is the right moment and then some how pulls everything together for their little one. If so many other people can be deployed and ... (read in full...)

Can I continue making her cum

Q.   I have been lucky enough to be able to make my first (and older) GF cum every time we have sex. Usually within minutes, so I was quite surprised many females have never experienced this pleasure and my GF who has had several partners previously, ...

A.   5 October 2008: I am a very lucky girl who can cum for a few minutes and then go again but then again sometimes i get really sore after and i have to stop. When she cums ask her if she wants you to keep going or if she is sore she will tell you.... (read in full...)

Is it normal to have a swollen vagina after sex?

Q.   is it normal to have a swollen vigina after sex? what does it mean?...

A.   5 October 2008: Yes it is i usually means that you had rough sex. The outside of the vagina is being hit during sex and can get red and swollen if hit hard.... (read in full...)

Is it possible to straighten a bent penis?

Q.   my dick erecrtion goes downward like a banana shape, and i am worried if that may not satistfies my gf, or any other girl i might meet, so my question is: could i make it straight through a medical surgent? ans is it dangrous? please if any body has...

A.   5 October 2008: No you cant however i'm sure you will be fine. My bf is great and his goes to the left. Doggie for whoever you get with will be great because your penis will point toward her g-spot!... (read in full...)

I can't get pregnant. What are my chances?

Q.   I am an 18 year old petite 5"5 inch girl whos been tryin for 3 months of unprotective sex to get pregnant.. How high is my chance of getting pregant? And for my size, is it possible for me to give birth without problems? -Michell...

A.   5 October 2008: Your height is not a problem. As for your chances only a doctor can tell you for certain but as long as you are healthy and nothing is wrong then your chances should be great!... (read in full...)

Should I get my tongue pierced?

Q.   Should I get my tongue pierced? What is everyones opinion on whether it looks or is sexy or not? Alot of my friends say that it is very good for... pleasing a guy And can I take it off for serious interviews etc? What are the chances of it get...

A.   5 October 2008: The one thing to keep in mind is that over time it will stretch. My friend got hers done about 7 years ago when it first got popular and now she has to buy big bars because the smaller ones fall through because the hole has gotten bigger with time. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't always cum during sex, does he have a problem?

Q.   my boyfriend doesnt always cum during sex does he have a problem? ...

A.   5 October 2008: Not enough information!... (read in full...)

If a college girl spends nights nude in bed with her boyfriend, and gives him handjobs, but no sex, would she be thought of as a slut?

Q.   If a college girl spends nights nude in bed with her boyfriend, and gives him handjobs, but no sex, would she be thought of as a slut?...

A.   5 October 2008: A slut is someone who has sex with multiple people. She is only with her boyfriend who i am sure she loves!! She is not a slut!... (read in full...)

What's the best way to use a vibrator on my girlfriend?

Q.   My girlfriend and I have talked about using some sex toys but neither one of us has any experience with them and she's a bit quiet in the bedroom and usually likes it better when I take charge. Any tips on the best way to use a vibrator or the ...

A.   4 October 2008: I use a bullet with my bf and i only use it on my clit. I always start out with it on a spfter setting until the sensation isn't as intense and then go up after. I was shy with it but my boyfriend took charge and made me feel better and i loved ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to try new things without discussing it or am I right to be upset?

Q.   I am sexually active with my bf of 9 months. Last night we had sex and he pulled out and jizzed all over me. He's never done that before. We use birth control and he didn't need to do that. I got mad because he didn't ask first. He says he shouldn't ...

A.   4 October 2008: I agree with Mark25. My boyfriend has asked me first and then based on what he knew i was comfortable with was spontaneous. That was just one of your boyfriends fantisies that he wanted to be statisfied and he should have asked not every girl likes ... (read in full...)

Pains in my chest! Why is that?

Q.   im now 16years old and im a girl i had a heart operation when i was 15 i fownd out in ur 9 going up to year 10 i had a hole in my heart i still get pains in my chest is it cos my boobs are still growing or cos i had the operation ...

A.   4 October 2008: go to a doctor only they can tell you if everything is ok. Good luck!!... (read in full...)

Which one of us is more likely to be the father??

Q.   I had sex with my ex on 6th of september, 3 days after her period, she then had sex with another guy on the 14th of september. she is now pregnant, who is more likely to be responsible for the baby, me or the other guy?...

A.   3 October 2008: the only thing that can tell you is a DNA test a woman can ovulate at anytime... (read in full...)

How should we split up the bills?

Q.   I have been living with my boyfriend for many years. He owns the house free and clear, and has since before I moved in. Since moving in, I have paid various bills, all food/non-durable items, half the property taxes and given him money monthly to ...

A.   30 September 2008: You should pay half of everything. Only half. Also you should only have to pay rent if you are renting a room since he doesn't have rent. I think you are getting used!!... (read in full...)

This uni course has me exhausted and without sexual energy, what can I do, as my boyfriend misses sex?

Q.   2 weeks ago I started a really intensive uni course and due to my exhaustion I just don't feel like having sex. It's like I've got no sexual energy. My boyfriend misses having sex but what can I do? I've found in the past that having sex when I ...

A.   21 September 2008: I know how hard school can be and trying to balance a healthy relationship is hard too. I am in my second year of school and have been with my fiance for 4 years. What I do at the end of the day is have him give me a back and foot massage. It helps ... (read in full...)

I'm 15, have sex regularly and not always protected. How comes I haven't fallen pregnant yet?

Q.   hello im a 15 year old girl, have sex near enough regularly and some of the time i use a condom but its like rarely. im just wondering how come i havent fell pregnant yet?is there something wrong with me or is it normal?please help! x...

A.   21 September 2008: Maybe you are lucking out. However as the first poster said if you are doing it with multiple boys there is a chance that you could have contracted a STD and now cant have children. I think its time to use a condom and get to a Gyno fast for STD ... (read in full...)

I'm 14, he's 16, and I really don't care what people in school say, we just really want a baby.

Q.   I am 14 years old and my boyfriend is 16. we really want a baby. we have picked out a baby name and everything. i know my mom and dad would be really upset with me, but i really want this, so i dont know what to do. I mean everyone is always t...

A.   21 September 2008: I was just like you I was certain I wanted a baby. I am 19 and am so glad that I dont have a baby. My decision on being ready for a baby changed drastically when I actually had the financial responsibility of living with my fiance. You two are ... (read in full...)

Is it common for women to cry during or after intercourse?

Q.   I have heard that women sometime cry during intercourse or after sex. Is this common? What does it mean? I appreciate your time....

A.   21 September 2008: It is either because we love what is happening or we hate it. She is crying because it is so beautiful or she is crying because she doesn't really want to have sex and she doesn't know how to say NO. Its the only to reasons a girl will cry.... (read in full...)

How do I cover up my blemishes? I have fair skin.

Q.   I have fair skin with some blemishes and i want to cover them up with out making it worse.i want to make it as theough my skin is flawless but like i havn't used any thing.Does any one know of a really good concealer to use which is good for my skin ...

A.   21 September 2008: I'm not sure what you can use to become tanner but I also have very light skin. What helps the most is use a little bit of liquid cover-up over the red spots. Just dab it but dont try to rub it in. Make sure that it blends on the edge of the zit but ... (read in full...)

What's most important in the kiss?

Q.   I was wondering how much of pleasure from kissing comes from technique and how much is from connection. If you're in love with a person, and they suck at kissing, will it still be fun?...

A.   21 September 2008: Its all in the connection! One of my exs drooled all over me and it grossed me out. However when my fiance did the same thing i was shaking from how incredible it was. So the same thing happened with two guys but the one that I only liked grossed me ... (read in full...)

When I was born, my belly button cord was cut too short. Will this affect my chances of conceiving?

Q.   When I was born, I got my belly buttn cut too short so it kept coming undone and bleeding so they burnt it.. would that effect my chances in getting pregnant? ive been having unprotective sex for almost 3 months and still nothing, it maese curious.....

A.   21 September 2008: Your belly button has nothing at all to do with conception. Think of it this way look at how many girls get tummy tucks and ruin it by getting pregnant. When you get a tummy tuck they make you a new belly button. If you are really worried go to a ... (read in full...)

Can producing too much semen be a problem?

Q.   Hi all, I've been told a few times now that I ejaculate quite a lot of semen/sperm, so I started to read about it and discovered that the average man ejaculates about 2-6 ml of semen. I did my own little test (with an old medicine cup!) and my me...

A.   21 September 2008: No it just more than likely means that you are a baby making machine. LOL! If you are truely scared you could bring it up at your next doctors visit but i'm positive your fine.... (read in full...)

My 15-year-old friend is having sex with her 38-year-old uncle! What should I do?

Q.   My 15-year-old friend is dating her estranged fathers brother who is 38! They've had sex at least 10 times and she thinks she has fallen in love with him! This is disgusting! It's incest! At her party he was acting all sleazy around her, ju...

A.   21 September 2008: You need to tell her mother and try to have some proof. Write her a note that talks about what is going on and get her to responde that way she cant deny that it is happening to protect him. He is more than likely using her just for sex and making ... (read in full...)

What is this 'ball with a hole in it', inside my vagina? Please help!

Q.   Hey me and my boyfriend have been sexually active for around 5 months and weve been together for seven! Where both 16 by the way! Well anyway before we had sex my boyfriend was fingering me quite hard and when he went home i went to the bath...

A.   21 September 2008: I'm not really sure what you are descibing. However if i read it right you said that you felt it with your finger so there is absolutely no chance at all that it is you cervix. Your cervix is at LEAST 5 inches in mine is 7 so unless you have one ... (read in full...)

What do I do about the church guy?

Q.   this is a typical question i'm afraid but i'm just totally stumped on what to do. i have recently dumped my boyfriend because he was getting way too grippy, i mean he was talking bout getting married and he was sending me wedding vows off of rand...

A.   20 September 2008: Ok relationship dont always work out at your age and I would have been a little worried about how clingy your ex was too. Normally I would just tell you to talk to the new guy and see where it goes but you said you think you pissed him off. So ... (read in full...)

Just lost my virginity..so what's this piece of skin hanging in my vagina area?

Q.   I just lost my virginity, and i was bleeding heavily as soon as we did it. We stopped but i was still bleeding. I noticed the next day that there was about an inch long piece of skin just hanging on my vagina. what is it? And how do i get rid of it ...

A.   20 September 2008: I'm not sure if you are talking about the inner lips or something hanging directly out. I dont see why your parents would find out if you are 22-25. Just go to your gyno and ask what it is. I just have a huge feeling that you are much younger than ... (read in full...)

Am I going through a phantom pregnancy, is that possible at my age?

Q.   hey, I'm Fifteen years old. recently i have gone through a bit of an emotional upheaval so to speak :P the guy im in love with had sex with another. i also got drunk and kissed a guy. Recently i've been feeling a bit ill my symptoms are : naseua, ...

A.   20 September 2008: It sounds like you have all the symtoms of stress. At your age things get overwhelming because you are still trying to learn to cope with stress. You will do that the rest of your life but some things will seem a lot more stupid when you get older ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's 4 year-old sister hates me and I got mad at him!

Q.   I been with my boyfriend for awhile (almost a year.) But his sister (who's only 4) hates me. One day when I went over to his house. He couldn't answer the door so his sister answer it. And cover me with silly string (he saw the whole thing.) I ...

A.   20 September 2008: I think that you should understand that she is 4 and you are taking her big brothers attention. She probably feels left out and her feelings are hurt and because she is 4 she doesn't have the maturity to talk to you about it so she is mean to get ... (read in full...)

Is there a test to see why I have problems with pregnancy?

Q.   hi, what it is, i have 2 boys age 2 and 4, i got pregnant in jan and had eptopic at 8 week. i found out i was pregnant in aug and just had a miscarriage and i was nearly 2 months. Is there a test to see why, cos its mad, and i want reasons why....

A.   16 September 2008: Only your doctor can determine a cause for a miscarriage. If i were you i would go to a gyno and see what they have to say. Explain everything that has happened and they will see if you have a medical reason or not. Its some times easy to miscarry. ... (read in full...)

I watched porn and got aroused. Then there was all this stuff down below... is it normal?

Q.   I found porn films in my brothers bedroom and I started watching them and got turned on but I had all this white and clear stuff down below and I mean a lot is this normal....

A.   16 September 2008: Yes its normal. It is your natural lube. It is what makes having a penis inside possible. if you had no lube at all there would be a lot of pain and more than likely some ripping during sex. Its natures way of making sex possible. Guys get hard ... (read in full...)

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