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How will I know if I'm having real labor pains?

Q.   how will i know if i am having true labour pains instead of braxton hicks contractions??...

A.   30 January 2009: At your age it is very common for you to have fake labor pains. Your body and uterus are not ready to have a baby so you are going to be more uncomfortable. Talk to your doctor and also you will know when you are in labor.... (read in full...)

Is she being immature about this?

Q.   My wife and me had our first daughter (she's 6 weeks). I usually like to party after work with some friends so I can wind down (7 times a week) and won't be until 10:00 pm (my wife will be mad at me if I stay any longer). Anyway when I got home one ...

A.   29 January 2009: Your daughter needs to be feed every two hours that doesn't include how long it takes to feed her all the diaper changes baths clothes changes from spit up crying time from discomfort and the many other things a baby does so i would say if you are ... (read in full...)

How will I know if I'm having real labor pains?

Q.   how will i know if i am having true labour pains instead of braxton hicks contractions??...

A.   29 January 2009: Talk to your doctor they will tell you. Also if your water breaks that is a huge sign!... (read in full...)

I want to leave my husband and take my kids with me.

Q.   I have two kids, 2 and 5 years old respectively. My husband and I sleep separately since a year ago, no sex, and we only fight every day. I am not employed because I have to look after the kids, but I attend night classes. My husband is working. ...

A.   28 January 2009: You need to be employed and have a place that is at least two bedrooms three if the children are seperate genders. If you dont have these two things then he will win custody of the kids. I would stay until I finished school and I would just try not ... (read in full...)

My guy and my half-sister...I am convinced something is going on...please help!

Q.   Somebody please help me???!!! I have this aching feeling that my half sister whom i have had a rocky relationship with is creeping with my dude!!! He once had a show 2 years ago..and she showed up wit friends because she knows someone else in ...

A.   28 January 2009: Always go with your gut it is there to protect you! Make the decision and I bet you see them together in a couple months! Break up with him if you feel that it is the right thing to do! Good luck and keep us posted!... (read in full...)

Help needed in the sex department!

Q.   This is rather embarrassing but I need some help in the sex department. My boyfriend and I have been having great sex for about 3 months now, but I'm always feeling like he does more for me than I do for him. I also have this serious phobia of ...

A.   28 January 2009: One big thing is a massage. Just but giving him a full body massage would be nice. Use you hands and kiss his back and I am sure he will love it. Also something that I consider very close is kiss and touch his face.... (read in full...)

What name should I call him?

Q.   Hi everyone. This is a bit of a silly question, so don't laugh at me :P Me and my boyfriend have pet names for each other (I'm Bunny, he's Bear - yes, it's sickening. Told you not to laugh!), and we use them so often that we barely ever call eac...

A.   28 January 2009: I use both. My fiance and I are the same way in that I only use his real name when he is in trouble or if he is in bed which makes it more special when I say it in bed. Try using both at different times during sex. Good luck!... (read in full...)

Family fighting over what to name our dog!

Q.   so this question may seem a bit wierd but my family keeps fighting and its really annoying, especially when this is supposed to be a positive experience. okay so im 14 and my family (me, my sis, my dad and my mom) are about to get a new black lab ...

A.   26 January 2009: Another idea is to have everyone choose one name that they like the most and put it in a hat folded and pick one and that is the name!... (read in full...)

Girls and sexual relationships.

Q.   I have been wondering in what ways do girls change when they start having sexual relationships? For example does your period stay the same or it changes completely? or your body do you actually get thicker? or your mood does it change? or in any ...

A.   26 January 2009: No your period doesn't change unless you are pregnant, no you dont get thicker unless you are pregnant, and same with your mood. You aren't any different! Who ever explained sex to you did a horrible job!... (read in full...)

What happens to the cum???

Q.   I really want to know... okay I'm a 14 year old kid and was just curious about this... when a guy has sex with a girl without a condom, and cums inside her.. where does the cum go, does her vagina obsorb it or somethng? What happens to the cum?? ...

A.   25 January 2009: Some of it comes back out but what remains inside is just absorbed by the body. And as for the other question yes the girl can feel it coming bac out it feels weird and kinda tickles.... (read in full...)

Hair style suggestion for prom?

Q.   Hey guys hope everyones okay :) After being forced to grow my hair (which I now have) I find myself in a dilemma. The reason behind growing it is my prom coming up soon. But I don't know how to have it. Can anyone suggest any sites or styles t...

A.   25 January 2009: Google up-do and it will give you tons of ideas and some sites tell you how. You might want to get an idea and take it to a professional to do. Good luck!... (read in full...)

How to get rid of hickee fast

Q.   The other night me and my fiance were makeing out when she decided to bite my neck, which really drove me wild. the problem is that it left a hikee (im not sure if thats how you spell that) Im a manager at my work so i cant have marks on my neck, ...

A.   24 January 2009: I dont know if this works but i heard if you take the time to put a cold spoon on it for a few hours it causes the blood to move away from the surface. My friend said it worked. Good luck!... (read in full...)

Where is the sweetest part of a girl?

Q.   where is the sweeties part of a girl?...

A.   23 January 2009: Her heart ... (read in full...)

Depo contraceptive injection.

Q.   I had one shot of depo contraceptive injection in july 2008, it ran out in september 2008. Me and my partner have now decided we want to try for a baby. What are the chances of this happening soon? It is more likely as I only had one shot of the ...

A.   21 January 2009: Yeah you should be just fine. If you didn't lose your period on the depo which it took me nine months to lose mine the it didn't really affect anything. However there is a small chance that it could take a year but as long as your period is normal ... (read in full...)

Is it ok to have sex & orgasm when pregnant?

Q.   Well you see i am 20 and i just got marries and i am having my first baby i am 13 weeks pregnant and i am as horny as hell. I want to have sex more than ever but my partner says he doesnt want to hurt the baby. is it safe to have sex and an orgasm ...

A.   21 January 2009: Yes it is very safe and doctors incourage it because it makes labor easier and the orgasm late in the pregnancy help start labor which is also a good thing. Since it your boyfriend who is worried at you next appointment when he and the doctor are in ... (read in full...)

How to know when the time is right

Q.   Virginity.. How do you know when yuur ready to lose it? How old would be a suggested age and how long should you be with a person. Any tips on the whole topic or virginity and sex at all would be helpful....

A.   20 January 2009: I was 15 and i had been dating the guy for three months but had been talking to and seeing him for 7 months. I knew I was ready because I knew he was the kind of guy who wouldn't leave me right after. We just broke up yesterday and still live ... (read in full...)

Graduation dress ideas please?!

Q.   My Bf is Graduating this year but i'm not.. He wants me to get grad photos with him but i have no idea what to wear. Help please! Advice and links to example dresses and hair styles would be much appreciated! :)...

A.   20 January 2009: If you just google dresses you will find stuff same with the hair but keep in mind it is expensive. The hair could cost anywhere from $60 to $200 for just an up do. The dress range too.... (read in full...)

Why do I feel so sad and empty after I masturbate?

Q.   Alright well sometimes I masturbate. I'll just want to really want to, so I do. But then right after I'll fee l really sad and empty for some reason. Any idea why?...

A.   20 January 2009: I think that you hate the fact that its not an emotional connection with someone else. I think that you should wait until it hurts and you need that release or that you meet that right person and use masturbation as a way to wait for him and you ... (read in full...)

I need you--I love you...the same thing?

Q.   My boyfriend always says i need you is that close to i love you? he's never asking for sex or anything. Like he's just saying no i need you or something like that....

A.   20 January 2009: no its not the same thing. I need you means that you are doing something for him. I love you means that he cant imagine his life without you. Not the same thing.... (read in full...)

Any tips on how I can delay my ejaculation?

Q.   Okay guys this is kinda embarassing for me but i plan on having sex for the first time soon. I am really worried about how long it is gonna take me to ejaculate. This girl that i am with is super hot and she wants to role play and that is gonna ...

A.   19 January 2009: If you masterbate before she comes over it will make it harder to come so you can try that. Also if it feels really good during sex stop and kiss her neck and whn you feel more in control begin again. Good luck... (read in full...)

What does "I need you" mean when a guy says it?

Q.   what does it mean if a guy says i need you? is that close to love?...

A.   19 January 2009: It depends on the context. It can me they love you or it could me they need sex from you it all depends.... (read in full...)

A question abut transexuals!

Q.   I know transexuals have penises, but I was wondering if they have testicles and do they cum? or do they just not have everything a guy does down there?...

A.   18 January 2009: A transexual can be a woman who dresses as a man but it is more often used to describe a man who dresses as a woman. It is not a birth defect its a choice in life. So to answer your question if they have the penis they have the balls and can cum. ... (read in full...)

Any couples still together after high school?

Q.   ok ive been with my bf fi a year. and im not going to college for another yr but i grad this year. he wont graduate till next year. and im not going to college for a year. i would really like to know is there any couples out there that've graduated ...

A.   15 January 2009: I have been with my guy for 4 1/2 years and I am 19 hes 21. If you want something to work it will.... (read in full...)

How to prevent UTI

Q.   how often do women get urinary tract infections after sex? and what can be done to prevent it (apart from taking antibiotics and other medicine)?...

A.   15 January 2009: I have been with the same guy for 4 1/2 years and have been having sex for 4 years and have only had one. If you and the guy are close take a sexy shower before to make sure he is clean. Or if he smells a little funny ask him to go clean himself. ... (read in full...)

The only way for a woman to get pregnant is if she's having sex right?

Q.   The only way for a woman to get pregnant is if she's having sex right? If not, what other ways?...

A.   14 January 2009: I just found this: Its a link to a question that regards sperm that was asked on this website. I hope it helps. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/which-one-of-these-sperm-vs-oxygen-facts.html... (read in full...)

Is it possible that my hymen is still in tact?

Q.   hi, my boyfrind and I recently had sex. He was my first, and he didn't go in all the way, and I'm wondering if I still have a hymen because when he tries to go in all the way it's like the worst pain I've ever felt.. so my question is... is it ...

A.   13 January 2009: Only if he went in less than two inches but based on the way you described the pain I would say no, he broke your hymen.... (read in full...)

The only way for a woman to get pregnant is if she's having sex right?

Q.   The only way for a woman to get pregnant is if she's having sex right? If not, what other ways?...

A.   13 January 2009: As a matter of fact once sperm hits air it can live for three hours. Inside the vagina it lives for three days. I am a medical student specializing in pregnancy and neonatology so the person who said i was wrong needs to do research. Also as the ... (read in full...)

Since losing my virginity, I'm constantly craving sex... is this normal?

Q.   i first had sex a few months back with my boyfriend, but sinse we did, i've been craving it constantly afterwards, its not an issue for him as he's obviously not going to say no as a teenager, but is this normal/natural to happen or is it just me? ...

A.   13 January 2009: I lost my virginity to a guy that i am still with 4 1/2 years later. When we first started i wanted and got it about 8 times a day. After about six months it started to go down a lot. now i wanted a couple times a week. It will go down once its not ... (read in full...)

My 9 y/o son is taking pictures of his privates, should I be concerned?

Q.   My son who is 9 received a digital camera for christmas. when i looked at it to day he has taken pictures of his privates on it. should i be concerned or is he just curious etc? please help!...

A.   13 January 2009: I think he is just curious and its probably easier for him to see with a picture than a mirror. The only thing that you might want to address is that the pictures are private and should not be shown to other. Especially e-mailed. Just make sure that ... (read in full...)

The only way for a woman to get pregnant is if she's having sex right?

Q.   The only way for a woman to get pregnant is if she's having sex right? If not, what other ways?...

A.   12 January 2009: You can also get pregnant if you get fingered and a guy has cum on his hands. You can also get pregnant from anal if cum runs down to the vagina. ... (read in full...)

What age were you when you lost YOUR virginity? (I was 23)

Q.   This is kind of an idle question I suppose. I've noticed and been kind of alarmed by a large number of sex questions being asked by kids in the 13-15 year old age range. (It seems awfully young to me.) I'd like to have kids of my own some day ...

A.   12 January 2009: I was 15 and am now 19 and still with the guy i lost my virginity to. He was a virgin too and had just turned 17. I knew he was the one and so far am right and it is a decision i dont regret.... (read in full...)

I'm having health problems and the doctors say its just stress!

Q.   I am really annoyed and seriously at my wits end. I have been having some medical symptoms and have now been to THREE different doctors now who have all fobbed me off and sent me away saying my symptoms are stress related or something of this nature ...

A.   12 January 2009: You need an MRI. It sounds like you had a trama to a part of your brain. If you have fallen and hit your head. It could also be a warning sign to a tumor. Tumors apply pressure to the brain and cause misfires which it sound like you are having. Go ... (read in full...)

Does it give you strength if you make the first move in a divorce?

Q.   Hello there, My husband never want to touch me , look at me etc. I tried marriage counseling,but he never did anything to make things better. Can I keep trying to fix this marriage alone,without his contribution? My question is... When do you say ...

A.   12 January 2009: It sounds like time to move on. As far as more power no there isn't both have to agree on the terms. its pricy but worth it. good luck!... (read in full...)

She is having some of the symptoms of being pregnant... could it be possible she is?

Q.   Ok so my gf and I are really scared. A few days ago I rubbed my penis against her vagina. I am 99% sure there wasn't any pre cum on my penis because there has never been before. She is having some of the symptoms of being pregnant like feeling sick ...

A.   11 January 2009: I think she is scared and is giving herself those things. For one you cant know if you are pregnant in a few days because the egg is still making its way from the tube to the uterus for attachment if it is fertalized. She also wouldn't have ... (read in full...)

Which finger does a promise ring go on?

Q.   My boyfriend just gave me a promise ring. I am very excited but did have one question. Is there a certain hand or finger to wear it on? Do you wear it on the left hand like an engagement ring? Or is there no etiquette at all? Thanks in advanced for ...

A.   10 January 2009: I started wearing it on my left hand and after i got engaged I moved it to my right. Its up to your guy because left often means engagement ring.... (read in full...)

Problems with sex.

Q.   I had sex with my girlfriend the other day, there was white stuff all over the top of the condom. Is it possible that the girl can still have white come even if she didn't have an orgasm?...

A.   10 January 2009: Yes its her natural lube. mine can get really white some times too. Its completely normal.... (read in full...)

How far would a partner need to go for it to be considered as cheating???

Q.   hi What would your girlfriend/boyfriend have to do for you to consider they have cheated on you? Thanks I'm really confused right now :( x x x x...

A.   9 January 2009: to me touching a boob or penis out side the clothes on purpose is cheating because it suggest sex and a kiss is enough to end everything, but that is just my feeling on it.... (read in full...)

She keeps pausing to catch her breath during oral sex, which is ruining it for me!

Q.   Hi i ve got a simple question.. My gf is not able to give me a blow job. Whenever we try for it she gets prob wit her breathin. My cock is just 5 inches.. Not tat big to choke her.. Its like she sucks my cock for 30 sec then pauses to catch her ...

A.   9 January 2009: It sounds more like her mouth hurts tell her to try licking and giving you a hand job when her jaw hurts.... (read in full...)

Which one of these sperm vs. oxygen facts is true?

Q.   Ok... i was looking stuff up online about anal sex and read on one site that sperm is dead once it is exposed to oxygen. Then on here i read somebody's answer to a question that said if the sperm drips down and enters the vagina the girl could still ...

A.   9 January 2009: If sperm drips into the vagina a girl can become pregnant. If sperm is say on the bed it takes about 3 hours to die and if it is in the vagina it takes up to 3 days to die. So make sure you are careful.... (read in full...)

Can anybody offer insight on how couples manage financial issues in their relationship?

Q.   Couples fight about money. From what I understand this is one of the main strains in a marriage. Do any married or otherwise long term couples on here have any advice on how they feel they have best managed this issue to the point where it d...

A.   9 January 2009: I have been with my fiance for 4 1/2 years and we have lived together for 1 1/2 years. To deal with money we each have our own and our own responsibilities. We always make sure that we have our bills paid and have food in the house (which we split ... (read in full...)

I think I might have an infection, please help!

Q.   I lost my virginity on new years....... ever since I have been itching a little bit and there has been like this muddy type substance and the color is like a brownish greyish.... I wash real good and it goes away... but the next morning when I wake ...

A.   4 January 2009: It sounds like a yeast infection which you can get with a condom or not. He probably wasn't clean enough down there and you got an infection. You need to go to a doctor because only they can tell you for sure and only they can help you... (read in full...)

Do I have to say in front of mom that I've had sex

Q.   I'm going on bith control, my mother will be in the room with the doctor as well but do i have to tell him that i've already had sex as my mother does not know and i dont want her to. will it do any harm if i say no i've not and sex?? ...

A.   4 January 2009: It is important to tell the doctor because if you have had sex then they will do a pregnancy test and STD test before they put you on the pill. They will also encourage u to get a papsmear to make sure everything is ok. Keep in mind that your m... (read in full...)

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