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writes:I crave attention from men. Im engaged to an amazing guy, we've been dating for 3 years, and I love him. I don't have low self-esteem, trust me it's not that, I just love for guys to flirt with me. Is something wrong with me? I've never cheated on a bf but Im starting to think its becoming a posibility. HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): Why are you so in need of validation? Flirting is all about someone else telling you your worth. When you are happy with yourself, through and through, you won't need other people to tell you that you are beautiful or desired. It is a cheap substitute for truly liking yourself.
Figure out a way to find your own fulfillment. Artificial validation will never bring the peace that truly loving yourself can.
It almost as if you get to the point where someone tells you, gosh you are beautiful and you respond with "thank you" and on the inside you are saying "yes, I know it, you don't need to tell me".
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (7 July 2008):
I have been in a relationship with my fiance for three and half years and their is nothing wrong with wanting anyone else to find you attractive. It only becomes a problem if you do want to cheat. Just remember everytime you get that urge to want to do something with the guys that are flirting with you: To them you are just another piece of ass and to your bf you are everything in his life. That thought should send you home each night. I really hope that helps!
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reader, jenk36  +, writes (7 July 2008):
Nope, flirting can be a fun and safe way to remind yourself you are still a sexual person and improve your sex life by boosting your confidence. Just don't take it too far!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMaybe I should clarify.. my fiance is great. He is always giving me attention. Our relationship is amazing. Our love isnt fading, but always growing stronger. I cant live without this guy. He makes me the happiest ive ever been! I get an outragous amount of attention from him. Its nothing he is doing wrong, its me. How can i stop the craving?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 Maybe you're feeling what many other people feel: that they will miss out on the fun because they will be devoted, as in "restricted", to one partner.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 July 2008):
Well a lot of people find their love fades after 3 years. So you could just be coming to the end of your relationship.
However, why don't you flirt with your boyfriend? Does he not flirt with you? If you are stuck in a "friendly companion" rut already then imagine what married life is going to be like!
Spice it up at home or end it.
Good Luck!! xx
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