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I watched porn and got aroused. Then there was all this stuff down below... is it normal?

Q.   I found porn films in my brothers bedroom and I started watching them and got turned on but I had all this white and clear stuff down below and I mean a lot is this normal....

A.   16 September 2008: Yes its normal. It is your natural lube. It is what makes having a penis inside possible. if you had no lube at all there would be a lot of pain and more than likely some ripping during sex. Its natures way of making sex possible. Guys get hard ... (read in full...)

How much do I tell my four year old about the birds and the bees?

Q.   My daughter is 4 years old and starting pre-school this week. I was wondering what she should know about about the "birds and the bees" before she goes to school. I'm not sure what the age appropriate discussion would be. I've done some research ...

A.   16 September 2008: I just read the other responses and some of them you need to be careful with if your daughter asks a lot of questions. I was a very curious child so be careful what story you do. Dont lie but remember that if you say that babies come from mommie's ... (read in full...)

How much do I tell my four year old about the birds and the bees?

Q.   My daughter is 4 years old and starting pre-school this week. I was wondering what she should know about about the "birds and the bees" before she goes to school. I'm not sure what the age appropriate discussion would be. I've done some research ...

A.   16 September 2008: I think that anything really about babies can wait another couple years but sadly there are a few things you have to cover. 1. Private parts. She has to know that no one should touch or see her private parts. And she shouldn't touch or look at ... (read in full...)

Should I get my dolls out of the dumpster and break my promise or leave them?...

Q.   I am a serious packrat and can never get rid of anything. At my old apartment I had the spare bedroom full of Cabbage Patch Dolls and stuffed animals that I had accumulated. When I moved in with my boyfriend I agreed to downsize once we had settled ...

A.   15 September 2008: Cabbage patch dolls are worth a lot of money. Like the other poster said sell them. I think you would handle it better if you knew someone else was getting to use them instead of them just sitting in a dump field. Tell your boyfriend that you are ... (read in full...)

Does anyone know what this discharge is?

Q.   I am having this "jucky" discharge from my vagina, its red/dark red/brown thick discharge it doesnt smell and im not hurting. Does anyone have a clue of what it is? ...

A.   15 September 2008: it sounds like blood. If you are not do for a period then you need to go see a doctor so the can find out what is going on. I'm going through the same thing and my doctor thinks i have an ovarian cyst I just have to wait for an ultra sound. It could ... (read in full...)

Has he lost interest because of the weight I gained during pregnancy?

Q.   weve been leaving in a same house with my boyfriend since we get started our relationship it take 1year and 8months and i get pregnant. after i gave birth of our son that was two months ago i gain weight 140lbs before im just 110lbs only! where not ...

A.   15 September 2008: Your boyfriend doesn't sound like he loves you. You just gave him a child and he is telling you you are fat. Its not like you spent 9 months eatting ice cream watching tv. No you were creating a person. Hunny if your boyfriend loved you you could ... (read in full...)

How can I know my girlfriend is ready for sex?

Q.   How can i know that my girlfriend is ready for sex?...

A.   15 September 2008: When you too talk about the subject in a mature nonpressuring way she will tell if she is ready!... (read in full...)

I choke during fellatio every time, what shall I do?

Q.   MY bf is too big for me to give blowjobs, everytime i do it i choke, i want to carry on but i cant breath what shall i do?? ...

A.   15 September 2008: You dont need to put the whole thing in your mouth. Put as much as you can and every little bit take it out of your mouth and just lick the parts you cant reach. It will spice it up with a little varity when you do that too because he wont know if ... (read in full...)

Men do seek me but they only want sex. This guy wants emotional bonding with me but at his terms. Do you think he's taking me for granted?

Q.   I am a separated woman in a relationship with a separated man.Both of us dont want to get back in our tragic marriages. He is the shy types and i am a hard die romantic but both of us like each other as we are simple honest people. I have met all ...

A.   14 September 2008: If i were you stop calling him. Tell him that you are tired of doing everything yourself and when he is ready to assume so responsibility you would be more than happy to talk or go along with his plans. Tell him exactly how you feel and see if he ... (read in full...)

What is this brown stain in my underwear a week before my period is due?

Q.   hey guys, well friday afternoon; just as i came back from school i went to the toilet and noticed a brown stain in my underwear - ive started my period since a year and half - and im not due till about 7 days - but no brown stuff is appearing ...

A.   14 September 2008: Its just a little bit of dry blood its normal.... (read in full...)

I didn't mean to make him cum!

Q.   I stayed at my mom's friends house, while my parents left town. Her son, whom is 24, has always picked on me, and He was tackling me and tickling me on the bed, so I rolled over ontop of him, and started tickling him, he moaned my name after a few ...

A.   12 September 2008: I think that he is just waiting and hoping you might forget. Dont say anything to him about it and give him the impression that you did forget. It will mean a lot to him. wait a short amount of time and then start randomly talking to him. Like hey ... (read in full...)

They'll only be able to see each other every other weekend, can this work?

Q.   Hi just a quick question about distant relationships, iv got a friend who has met a really amazing girl who lives about 1 hours 30mins drive away, and they see each other like every other weekend, will this work? and can they work if any one is in ...

A.   12 September 2008: I was in a relationship for alomost 4 years and 2 1/2 years of that was long distance. I had to move before we had been together for 6 months. We were a strong couple and we would talk everyday and would see eachother about every two weeks for the ... (read in full...)

When is a woman too old to have a baby?

Q.   I'm speaking of age with everything being wonderful in the marriage and communication. Do you think having a child at 40 is crazy? Unsafe? ...

A.   12 September 2008: You are very welcome!... (read in full...)

I was told the most precious person in my life... my nanna, has a tumor. Every minute I'm awake I'm thinking of her and worrying. Please help.

Q.   Hi Everyone, i just need some help. yesterday i came home from my holidays and was told the most precious person in my life.. my nana, has a tumor. she has been ill for ages, and now we have had our worst fears confirmed. i am unable to cope with...

A.   12 September 2008: The only thing that you can do is milk whatever time you have left. Doctors never know what will happen. My boyfriends grandfather was diagnoised with lung cancer about a year and a half ago. After treatment which was really hard on his body he was ... (read in full...)

When is a woman too old to have a baby?

Q.   I'm speaking of age with everything being wonderful in the marriage and communication. Do you think having a child at 40 is crazy? Unsafe? ...

A.   12 September 2008: There is nothing wrong with wanting a baby at your age. You couldn't be more financially or emotionally stable at this point in your life. There is a chance at having difficulty getting pregnant and a chance of a complicated pregnancy and a ... (read in full...)

What should I get my wife for her birthday and anniversary?

Q.   what should i gift her on my wife's birthday or on our marriage anniversary ? how to celebrate or treat her to make her happy (as i never did alike) and believe that i care for her ?............

A.   12 September 2008: Every girl loves jewelry. However if you want to show her you care listen when she talks I'm sure she will say what she wants at some point in a very subtle way so that if you get it it will mean alot.... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant and my husband doesn't want sex with me. I feel so unwanted!

Q.   i was wondering if anyone could help me out. i am 3 months pregnant and my husband wont have sex with me. he has never had a problem with it with my other pregnancies. but 8 months ago i had a miscarriage and i dont know if that would be the reason ...

A.   12 September 2008: I think and i could be wrong that he is worried that he might have caused the miscarriage. Maybe he is worried to he will hit your cervic and cause you to lose the baby. The thing is only he knows why he doesn't want sex so you have to ask him.... (read in full...)

What is so sexy or unique about anal sex? The idea disgusts me! Should I try it?

Q.   Hi uncles and aunts. Lets cut to the chase... I wanna know what is so sexy or unique about anal sex! More than just once, my bf has been moving to my back site before i could lead him to the correct one. Lol! Sometimes i think he'd be doing that ...

A.   11 September 2008: My guy says that it feels different which he like. Personally anal sex isn't that great it has its brief moments but I mostly just do it for my guy not for myself. If you really cant stand the idea then dont do it. If you are up tight and not sure ... (read in full...)

I am thirteen, and have had my period for a while now, I want to use tampons, my mother is strongly opposed to my use of them, what is wrong with tampons at my age?

Q.   Well I use tampons secretly behind my moms back. I find pads uncomfortable. I asked when I can use tampons and she tod me when you're WWWWWAAAAAAYYY older! She's afraid I'll hurt myself (im 13!) and that I'm too small to use something "big". AND ...

A.   11 September 2008: I think that your mom doesn't want you to wear a tampon so you dont break your hymen. I started using tampons as soon as i got my period when I was 11 but my parents didn't care. I dont really know how to deal with your mom. It seems like she is ... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend is telling me, six months after our break-up, that he is not over me, but I am over him, I feel guilty, what do I do now?

Q.   My ex boyfriend is telling me 6 months after our breakup that he is not over me, but I was over him 6 months ago. I feel guilty though. What should I do?...

A.   11 September 2008: Tell him the truth. Dont lead him on. Tell him that you are sorry he is not over you but you have moved on with your life and dont feel that he is the right person for you. As far as guilt dont worry about it. I think you feeling it just shows how ... (read in full...)

Can I get a purity ring even if I'm not a Christian?

Q.   im not christian and i want to wear a purity ring. my parents dont know abou them so i dont want to explain how i wont have sex. so i was wondering can i get one even though im not christian? also can i buy it for myself and not get my parents t...

A.   10 September 2008: If I were you I would by the ring myself. You dont have to get your parents involved and what ever you want a piece of jewlery to mean to you it will. A one carat dimond ring can be an engagement ring, a promise ring, an anniversary ring, a ... (read in full...)

Does my vagina hurt because of the rough sex?

Q.   My boyfriend and I of a year, have been having sex for about 4/5 months. Sometimes, he wants sex when i don't but i don't tell him i don't want to but when we do, i like it and glad i do it. Last weekend, we had sex as soon as i came off my perio...

A.   9 September 2008: Yes having sex a lot will cause soreness. When my fiance and I lost our virginities to eachother we were bunny rabbits. We would have sex 8 times a day. So over all we would have sex for about 6 to 7 hours. I would get really sore. I also liked it ... (read in full...)

What's the best way to tell him "I love you"?

Q.   hey ive been with my partner for about a year unoffically and about 5 months offically and i think im ready now to tell him that i love him but we havent said it to each other before... we have both said it in a jokey way or said it and then real...

A.   9 September 2008: The first time that I said I love you to my fiance it was after our first fight. It was a stupid fight that some girl started and we went out side talked about everything that happened and I suddenly realized that the reason I got so upset was ... (read in full...)

Our attempt at having sex failed because I was too tight and he was too big. What can I do about this?

Q.   umm ok so me and my bf are really really close. and we've done just about everything...except sex. we tried the other nite and...hes huge...and i think i was to tight. both of us r virgings...i dont kno what to do. it was really emabrass...

A.   9 September 2008: Start with him fingering you with one finger then two and then finish with three. After that have him put a lot of lube on himself and that should help him slide in. It will always be a little uncomfortable to adjust to him when he first goes in but ... (read in full...)

Should I worry that we have sex all the time?

Q.   Me and my fiance have sex all the time. We love eachother and would die for one another, what we have is something special. We werent always like this. I was afraid to kiss her for the first 3 months we dated and after that i was terrified of sexual ...

A.   8 September 2008: Its normal after my fiance and i started having sex (which we are eachothers onlys) for the first about 8 months we would have sex at least 8 times a day. It will eventually slow down but enjoy it now while it lasts.... (read in full...)

Why do I keep on getting these bumps after I shave?

Q.   I am really worried so any help will be great! Im 15 and have quite a embarressing problem. I shave all my pubes off, as i dont like having hair down there. The other week after shaving a day or two later a hard lump appeared and it wouldt pop ...

A.   8 September 2008: It is an ingrown hair. Everyone who shaves gets them and usually they take forever to go away. I can get them (I shave everything too) and they wont go away for a month. My boyfriend who also shaves everything gets them too. They are very normal and ... (read in full...)

When a man is aroused by a sex scene in movies or porn, is it due to the beauty of the woman or the act of sex?

Q.   When a man is aroused by a sex scene in a movie or a porno, is it because of the amazing beauty of the individual woman or the act of sex itself? Thanks....

A.   8 September 2008: My boyfriend says its the act of sex and that he doesn't know why.... (read in full...)

Can having sex weeks before your period make your period late?

Q.   i want to know if you have sex a few weeks before your period can it cause you to come n your period late ? if so, how late ...

A.   8 September 2008: The only way it would make you late is if you are pregnant. However if you are really stressing out about your period then your period can be late from stress. As far as how late I cant say but after a week take a pregnancy test just to make sure... (read in full...)

Sex is painful, not pleasurable! Any advise?

Q.   I have been sexually active for 8 months now, and sex still hurts. I use lubrication in which helps but I still find that sex is painful more than enjoyable and even at times where sex doesn't hurt, I'm expecting it to hurt and therefore cannot r...

A.   8 September 2008: You dont give much information as to what you do sexually so i'm going to make some assumptions. I'm going to assume that your boyfriend is a nice size guy and that you get fingered. Being fingered can cause the stinging. he might be cutting you ... (read in full...)

I used a fake id to ask my bf if he had a girlfriend and he kept saying no!

Q.   Hi!! i have a botfriend but i ws not so sure if he took things with me seriously so i kinda decided to check things out myself. so i made a fake id and added him as another girl.And i asked him out on that id. He told me(thinking i was the other gi...

A.   7 September 2008: Ok I looked at the first persons profile and what he said to you he said to someone else so I think he might have his own issues so disreguard what he said. the second poster has a very good point so i'll address the after if it happens. If he st... (read in full...)

Does anyone have any useful books/websites on sex education?

Q.   Ok, I was just wondering if anyone had any useful websites for me to look at or good books to read on sex ed. as I missed it at school and don't really know that much and I want to learn....

A.   7 September 2008: This website has information about STDs, birthcontrol, and it has a little section on issues that are related. http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ Hope that website helps. It is more informative than the class because the class doesn't talk abo... (read in full...)

I always try to be confident when he's mean, why is he such a jerk?

Q.   hi me and my boyfriend have been going out for nearly 9 months. we have both said we love each other...my friends think we should break up.. my problem is he confuses me by saying stuff like my boobs are to small he can be a jerk and mean . i a...

A.   7 September 2008: I would leave him verbal abuse is just a first step. he is trying to make you think that you cant get anyone else and then he will start controlling who you see to ruin your relationships and then there is a good chance that he will start to be ... (read in full...)

I slept with him hoping we'd get back together, does that work?

Q.   I just dont know what to do anymore, i think that im over my ex then i see him with another girl and i fall apart. we broke up more than a year ago but we slept together a while ago and i thought this might mean that we could get back together..I ...

A.   7 September 2008: Having sex with someone when you aren't together will never get you with them. Why would he need to have a commitment with you if he can have sex with you and someone else. Its not cheating if your not together. I know that it will be hard to ... (read in full...)

If my boyfriend cums on my vagina, can I get pregnant ?

Q.   I'm a virgin and want to know, if my boyfriend cums on my vagina can I get pregnant even though my hymen isn't broken? Thanks ...

A.   7 September 2008: Yes you can. Your hymen has lots of small holes in it. Thats what lets you have a period. If the seman gets into the vagina it can easily pass the hymen and you could get pregnant. Be safe and use some sort of birth control.... (read in full...)

I have to get a DNA test but can anyone help me narrow down the conception date?

Q.   If my last period was on November 20-29th(not sure the exact day) and i gave birth on August 19th to twin girls both weighing 6pds, could i have conceived on December 15th? I know i need to get a DNA test between 2 men. I was with one guy for the ...

A.   6 September 2008: Why dont you just get both tested?... (read in full...)

Do I have an infection in my big toe? What made it go green?

Q.   right what does it mean when a aprt of your big toe has gone green? Is it just an infection? and is it easily sorted? its just down the side bit, not on the nail but on that area and then the bit of skin that goes down the right hand side of that ...

A.   6 September 2008: you need to got to the doctor. It sounds like an infection and if left untreated your going to lose your toe. Just go to the doctor.... (read in full...)

Which one's the daddy?

Q.   first day of my last period was july 16th 2008 i messed with another man on the 22 the 23 and 24th of july i got back with my babydaddy on the 27th of july and stayed with him they my due date is april 23 2009 i am pregnant with twins i need to ...

A.   6 September 2008: It seems like it is your babydaddys but the doctors could be wrong about the date. The only way you will ever really know is to be tested.... (read in full...)

What is the contraceptive coil like?

Q.   I am living with my boyfriend and we both have no STDs but we use condoms for contraceptive purposes. However, I do not like the feel of them as I find the way they crease uncomfortable. Plus I find them a hassle to always think about, they decrease ...

A.   6 September 2008: ok in response to the person who said you dont have to have a slightly larger uterus than normal. I tried to have it put in and after having a lot of bleeding during the insertion and having my uterus push it back out because my uterus which is... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to have fallen for my (dead) best friend's girlfriend?

Q.   Just to start things off, my best friend went out with a girl for 2 years before coming to university. They broke it off in the first week of university. He then started going out with another girl, and they were going off and on for a year before ...

A.   6 September 2008: It is normal to fall for her. You two bonded over a tragedy. You two were there for eachother in a moment of great sadness. Its completely normal to fall for that person that has helped you. I think you should see were she stands on her feelings ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend got sick after we had anal sex. What can I do to help her?

Q.   Hey everybody recently me and my girlfriend had anal and vaginal sex and she has been sick for 2 days straight and she says she feels as if her asshole ripped and her vagina is ripped also and when we were doing anal she was bleeding... She got a fe...

A.   6 September 2008: Go to the doctor now. It sound like she has an infection and needs to be seen now. If infections are left untreated they can get into the blood stream and could result in death. Put modesty a side and have her get help NOW!... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be virgin at 18?

Q.   I'm a male, 18, and still a virgin but all of my friends aren't. I'm afraid that i will be made fun of for being a virgin if they ever find out. Is it normal to be a virgin at 18?...

A.   6 September 2008: Who cares what is normal! Be proud that one day you will have a very special connection with the woman you love because she will be the only one who you have ever be with. My fiance and I lost our virginities to eachother and it is something tha... (read in full...)

What is the contraceptive coil like?

Q.   I am living with my boyfriend and we both have no STDs but we use condoms for contraceptive purposes. However, I do not like the feel of them as I find the way they crease uncomfortable. Plus I find them a hassle to always think about, they decrease ...

A.   5 September 2008: Ok my country calls it and IUD so thats what i'll call just because thats what I am used to. Anyway the only way that it works is if you have ever been pregnant. The uterus has to be over 6 inches which its not if you have never been pregnant bu... (read in full...)

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