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Which guy is the father?!??

Q.   well basically i split up with my boyfriend christmas just gone and started to have another sexual relationship with someone else. I slept with him once (few times that night) january 8th den got bk with my original boyfriend febuary 14th. I then ...

A.   23 June 2008: It sounds like it is your bfs. However something is wrong with the time line because if you are twelve weeks then you found out you were pregnant the day you conceived which isn't very likely. You should ask the doctor to try and guess a new due ... (read in full...)

Am I pregnant, or just gaining weight?

Q.   I am so confused to whether i may be pregnant. I have had stomach aches like i'm hungry, but i'm nauseous at the same time...but that went away after a couple of days. Now i have had gas for about a week, and wow is it embarrassing...i think i...

A.   23 June 2008: I think you should go for a regular doctors appointment and tell them whats up. They will give you a pregnancy test so you will find out if that is it. You could also get an over the counter pregnancy test for about $12.... (read in full...)

How can she relax so I can give her oral sex?

Q.   Okay so my Lady is great and she does it all for me. What I really want is to do it for her. I want to give her great Oral sex but she is to tickleish down there. When I try and go down on her she squeezes her thighs on my head and screams due to ...

A.   22 June 2008: I get that way too. Start by wetting your finger and having a rougher touch on her clit. Not so rough it hurts but enough that it doesn't tickle. Next try rough kissing around that area legs, pubic area, and vaginal lips. Slowly start making the ... (read in full...)

Any suggestions of how I can find an appropriate hairstyle?

Q.   I Want to change my hairstyle, and have been growing my hair for quite sometime now. im not sure that i want long hair anymore and i want it changed but i dont no what to. does anyone know any good webites that i can look at of can you te...

A.   22 June 2008: Just look up stuff on google but also if your hair is really long (10inches or longer) then donate it to locks of love for people who have lost their hair to cancer. Guys do this too. Good luck!... (read in full...)

How do I become confident with kissing?

Q.   dear readers i am almost 15 and have boy troubles. i have never had my first kiss as i am always scared on my inexperience and his experience as this happens i always end up chickening out and honestly i dont know anyone who hasnt had there 1st ...

A.   22 June 2008: If you and the person really care about eachother it wont matter. I was my fiance's first kiss and he was my fifth (only one before him was any good because I didn't really care enough for the guys). When my fiance first kissed me he got spit all ... (read in full...)

Is female squirting abnormal? Is there anything I can do to lessen the amount of liquid?

Q.   Is a lot of "come" unusual. I met my boyfriend almost two years ago. He was my first sexual partner and before I met him I could not orgasm. It took 6 months before I could finally climax. Since then my sex life has been quite good. But I have...

A.   22 June 2008: It happens to me all the time. It is what is called a G-spot cum and you are just fine. Guys really do love it. The only thing I dont like is I always end up having to sleep in the wet spot which sucks but to see his smile and the pride on my ... (read in full...)

Changes after the first sexual contact?

Q.   After you have sex for the first time, do you keep wanting it more afterwords? I don't want it to affect my decisions, and I don't want to hurt anyone by doing it with them too early. So, how does doing it once change you? Sorry if I wasn't clear ...

A.   22 June 2008: It is common to start to crave it more after you first have it, but you always have self control. Sexual urges shouldn't control you life. If you need it really bad then do it for yourself. You dont need another person to get that release. It is ... (read in full...)

What's a good movie genre for a date? I want one that will make it easy to touch her hand or kiss!

Q.   i'm due to go on date to cinema with my friend. I want to kiss her, but problem is there's no romantic film out to watch, in fact there's so many horror movies. Is horror movie good to watch? Any genre film which will make her or make it easy for me ...

A.   22 June 2008: Horror movies are good if she gets scared. When she gets scared she will move closer to you for protection. If that fails then the next time that you two go out see a romantic movie. One bit of scientific info: (I'm not lying)! It has been pro... (read in full...)

My female friend asked me out, but I'm not gay!

Q.   i think my best mate (whose also a girl) fancies me, shes asked me out but i dont feel the same way, and im not gay. help!...

A.   21 June 2008: Just tell her the truth that you are not attracted to women. That you dont want to hurt her feels and that it is not personal. It is up to you if you want to keep the friendship and if you do just be honest about not being gay. I'm sure she has been ... (read in full...)

How do I figure out who is the father of my baby?

Q.   my last period was on the 15th may ithink ,i just found out im pregnant bout 4 to 5 weeks gone and baby due around feb 22 2009 ,but on the 8th june i started sleeping behind my bf back ,im not sure who the father would be ,i dunt no if i was ...

A.   21 June 2008: So you started sleeping with your ex two weeks ago and you are 4 to 5 weeks pregnant so it sounds like it is your boyfriends but when the baby is born do a DNA test and tell your bf about your ex.... (read in full...)

Why is this happening?

Q.   I use summer eve after I have sex and I have discharges what does that mean? Its brownish black......

A.   21 June 2008: That sound like blood and you need to go to the doctor ASAP! It is not ok!... (read in full...)

Period problem! Normal to sometimes have a thicker, darker period? I'm worried!

Q.   I really need some advice. My periods are usually pretty regular, for example if i had a period on feb 21st, i'd probably have one around march 22nd or 23rd. Now, during feburary I took the morning after pill. It was all fine, no sickness. Then i...

A.   21 June 2008: The brown color is more than likely dry blood mixed with regular blood it is normal. Also if your flow is heavier than normal then you may have ovulated two eggs and now have twice as much to get rid of. If you can go have a papsmear just to make ... (read in full...)

Does anyone know what being a prostitute is really like? And is it dangerous?

Q.   I'm 20 and i have a house, which i'm renting, but i recently lost my job and i owe rent. I also owe money for other things. Someone i know has said they can get me a job as a prostitute, i don't know if i can do it, or if i'm that desparate. Does ...

A.   21 June 2008: Ok if you are comfy doing that then why not do something a little safer like be a stripper at a club. They make good money there is someone there to make sure no guy hurts you and you wont get an std unless you sleep with the customers. Why not work ... (read in full...)

Is that a decent size for a kid my age?

Q.   I am 15 years old with a 6 and a half - last measured about 6 months ago - and was wondering if thats a decent size for a kid my age. I am told its nice, but want to hear it from many other people. What do you guys think?...

A.   21 June 2008: Your size is fine and my guess is that when you are done growing you will be about eight inches so dont worry about it!... (read in full...)

My best friend is a priest and fell in love with a woman. What should I advise him?

Q.   i have a friend. he is a priest.he fell in love with a woman. he is facing in a very crucial decicion-making of wether to give up his career and disregard his vows as a priest in order to be with that girl for good or to just forget her.what can i ...

A.   21 June 2008: Tell him to follow his heart. Tell him to weigh his decisions and then what is the worst that could happen if he choses either one. I dont know about priest vows but if it didn't work out with this woman could he go back and be a priest? If he ... (read in full...)

Have I done the wrong thing by shaving my vagina?

Q.   i shaved my vagina have i dun the rong fing ive bin doin it for about 2 year and always wanted to no have i dun the rite fing...

A.   21 June 2008: I got pubes at 8 and i started shaving because i felt that i was too young to have them. 10 years later i dont regret it. It is all how you feel about it.... (read in full...)

My wife doesn't enjoy sex - how can I make it better for her?

Q.   I am married for one year. My wife is very sexy and loving.But the problem is she feels lot of pain during intercourse.I haven't done yet full insertion because she screams in pain when I try to go into her full.So far I have to content with oral ...

A.   17 June 2008: First off send her to the doctor. It sound like she has internal problems that are not your fault. Something might be wrong with her cervix or her uterus. Also you might be hitting her cervix. I had an exam where the dr messed with my cervix I was ... (read in full...)

My parents don't want me to see him, he has a one year old son!

Q.   I am in love with this guy who has a 1yr old son and my parents are totally against it because the baby's mom is very dramatic. My parents are forbidding me to see this guy because they think they only doing what's right for me. Really, what should ...

A.   17 June 2008: I think that as long as he treats you good and is a good dad (not blowing his baby off for you) then it is your decision. The only thing to keep in mind is that jumping into a parent roll can be hard and if things dont work out losing the baby can ... (read in full...)

Did we go all the way?!? I'm not sure even thought it really hurt...

Q.   I had sex for the first time with my boyfriend the weekend just gone. It really hurt but i dont no if we went all the way because paople say after sex it hurts for a couple of days and you bleed. I havent had any of that so does that mean we...

A.   17 June 2008: Yes you did. I dont know if you wear tampons or not but if you do then that is why there was no blood. It didn't bleed the first time i had sex because I wear tampons the reason that it did hurt during was you were being stretched to fit him. You ... (read in full...)

Do any women use vibrators to climax during sex with their partner...?

Q.   Does any woman use vibrators with there partner to climax??? any ideas for for positions to climax faster, it is hard with this new partner to climas without a small vibrator i use....

A.   17 June 2008: I use a vibrator in missionary and doggie. I use a bullet and sometimes with the deep penitration and the vibrator on my clit I climax in three minutes. Its great and you should try it. I have a small bullet and a fat bullet and i think that the ... (read in full...)

I get depressed about my "small" boobs...

Q.   im 18 and just wondering if my boobs will grow anymore or if im gonna have to wait till i have kids or the next stage of my life? im a size. 12A sometimes 10A and i feel like i have the body of a 14 year old. i was a late developer didnt get my p...

A.   16 June 2008: I got my boobs from my dads side of the family and they are uncomfortably large. I myself am a 38G. I started growing at 8 and didn't stop until recently at age 18. If your boyfriend is happy then dont worry as much. When you get pregnant after ... (read in full...)

I need some nickname suggestions -- please help?

Q.   hi i need some advice i like this girl shes not my gf but wat nicknames could i call her and not sond 2 full on lol please help me find some nicknames to cal her we are in our teens help thanks ...

A.   16 June 2008: I got my nickname from my lip gloss. It smelled like sugar cookies so my bf started calling me that. I dont really know what you could call her and not sound like you have a connection unless you call her what everyone else calls her. You might want ... (read in full...)

Are these signs I need glasses?

Q.   When I read I begin to get a headache come on and I need to blink excessively and my eyes sometimes water. The sun and computer screens make my eyes hurt after a while even when distanced away from me. I've begun leaving curtains closed wh...

A.   15 June 2008: You might want to have that checked in to it is very possible. Nothing wrong with a check up, but it also sounds like you are having migraines which could be cause by needing glasses as well. My advice is to just go to the eye doctor for a check up!... (read in full...)

I'm confused and worried about my first time -- suggestions?

Q.   hey, all my frinds have tryed to explane how it feels the first time you have sex alot say it hurts but some say it doesnt feel like anything. but how do i know if it would hurt me or not? i mean im not saying im going to jump into bed with a g...

A.   15 June 2008: If you wear tampons it wont hurt that much except for the stretching that is required to fit him in. (it doesn't stay stretched in fact you will have to stretch each time.) The more turned on you are the more wet you will be and the less pain you ... (read in full...)

They're making fun of me - how do I deal with that?

Q.   almost every one at school makes fun of me because i'm not strong,athletic,or tall what do i do...

A.   15 June 2008: As hard as it sounds just ignore it. Everyone who wants to make fun of someone will find something to make fun of. If your tall short fat thin skinny athletic smart dumb blonde redhead... It never ends. Just let it go in one ear and out the other. ... (read in full...)

To shave or not to shave, that is the question...

Q.   do boys like when your vigina is shaved or hairy?? my boyfriend tells me he likes it shaved...but i domt like shaving it......

A.   15 June 2008: Do what you are ok with doing. However shaving is a huge trend now. Everyone likes that area shaved. Guys expect it and so do girls. If you are ok with shaving do it, but dont get upset if your guy gets turned off by hair it is what is expected now. ... (read in full...)

He said he's never doing it again!!

Q.   my boyfiend went down on me last night...he said i was the first girl he ever did that to...but he said he would never do it again....he said he only did it to prove to me how much he loves me....i think its just somethin wrong wit me down there and ...

A.   15 June 2008: Some guys just are not comfortable doing that. Just like some girls aren't ok with giving head. You cant force him if he doesn't like it. Just do what you are both comfortable doing. There isn't anything wrong with you it is just what he perfers... (read in full...)

How can I help my girlfriend?

Q.   I have a gf who has alot of emotional issues, and hinderances, and would like to ask your advice on how to better understand and communicate with her. Are there definity things that I can do or is this just going to be a long hard hopeless ...

A.   15 June 2008: I sound just like your girlfriend only anti-depressants didn't help me. I think that when you two are closer together in terms of distance and she is farther away from her father then things will get even better. She will always have hard days just ... (read in full...)

Did I loose my virginity or am I just on my period???

Q.   ok this is how it went down...last night my boyfriend tried to finger me but it hurted so i told him to stop, so we tried again but it still hurted...so we stopped trying...he told me my hole was too tight and it was hard to go in...i went to the ...

A.   15 June 2008: ok it is your period but you could have broke your hymen since it is only one to two inches in. Also the burning when you pee is because he accidently scratched you. Tell him to make sure he cut and FILES his nails or he will continue to scratch ... (read in full...)

Did I loose my virginity or am I just on my period???

Q.   ok this is how it went down...last night my boyfriend tried to finger me but it hurted so i told him to stop, so we tried again but it still hurted...so we stopped trying...he told me my hole was too tight and it was hard to go in...i went to the ...

A.   15 June 2008: ok it is your period but you could have broke your hymen since it is only one to two inches in. Also the burning when you pee is because he accidently scratched you. Tell him to make sure he cut and FILES his nails or he will continue to scratch ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend doesn't want to have sex. Help please!

Q.   Hi, my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with me at the moment. Its been since last sunday that we had sex. I am really frustrated, but trying not to let it show. I asked her what was wrong and she claims that she has no sex drive. 2 days ag...

A.   15 June 2008: If you guys are fighting then it is easy for her to lose her sex drive. It happens to me all the time. When me and my bf fight i feel unatrractive and feel that anything he says is to sleep with me. Try talking things out. Also stress can kill a sex ... (read in full...)

Not sure I want children, will I regret this?

Q.   Evening everyone. I come from a large Italian family and Im due to marry my fiance who is also Italian in October. My problem is that im not sure I want children. I have discussed this with my fiance and he is convinced that in a few years I will...

A.   14 June 2008: I think that you have made up your mind. As far as your fiance you have told him you dont want kids. He knows what he is getting into and it is his fault if he ends up unhappy. You haven't lied to marry him. Dont have kids if you dont want them!... (read in full...)

Is it possible for a partner to carry on 'pleasuring' after orgasm with it continuing to be enjoyable and then able to create another orgasm?

Q.   ...When i think i am reaching then achieving orgasm my heartbeat and breathing becomes faster, the sensitivity increases and there is uncontrollable, like, twitching of my legs and well the pelvic area, this seems to build till i get a tingley pins ...

A.   14 June 2008: I think you got there. Very few woman can have multiple oragasms. I have had 8 in one session. I can get a little sore sometimes but other times when it is hot i just want more and more. I have climaxed by my guys fingers three times then came twice ... (read in full...)

Is it possible for a partner to carry on 'pleasuring' after orgasm with it continuing to be enjoyable and then able to create another orgasm?

Q.   ...When i think i am reaching then achieving orgasm my heartbeat and breathing becomes faster, the sensitivity increases and there is uncontrollable, like, twitching of my legs and well the pelvic area, this seems to build till i get a tingley pins ...

A.   14 June 2008: I think you got there. Very few woman can have multiple oragasms. I have had 8 in one session. I can get a little sore sometimes but other times when it is hot i just want more and more. I have climaxed by my guys fingers three times then came twice ... (read in full...)

I'm feeling low after failing a subject at school... What step should I take?

Q.   I failed a subject in school...What do i do? I feel really bad....

A.   14 June 2008: Think of it this way: We cant be good at everything! Everyone has the things their great at, the things their good at, and the things that they suck at. Dont get discouraged just because you found something that your not good at everyone finds that ... (read in full...)

Why is my boyfriend talking like this when we are having sex?

Q.   I don't understand my boyfriend's language towards me sometimes. While we'll be having sex, he'll be like "let me hit it from the back" or he'll be like, "i wanna f***" it makes me wonder am i just someone he wants to f***. He does treat me well at ...

A.   14 June 2008: It is very normal. Sometimes people like to make sex dirtier. If you are uncomfortable with it tell him that you like sex a little less kinky and a little more passionate. To keep the dirty talk going but tone it down a bit have him tell you what he ... (read in full...)

Does having sex in a pool raise the risk of pregnancy?

Q.   would it be ok if i had sex in a pool with a condom or will it raise the risk of pregnecy...

A.   14 June 2008: It doesn't change the risk of pregnancy, however sex in a pool of hot tub can cause all sorts of problems in the vigina. Look up some of those problems!... (read in full...)

I will be staying a week with my boyfriend and want to make love for the first time!

Q.   On the 20th I'm due to go down south to see my boyfriend for the week. His parents will be away for the week too. So we'll be home alone. Now my dad thinks that we'll be doing something and keeps asking if he should get me some protection, just...

A.   14 June 2008: The only thing that I can say is dont plan it. If you plan it it will cause pressure and it wont be good. The first time that my fiance and I did anything we were messing around and I whispered in his ear that I was ready and that I wanted him. It ... (read in full...)

Did he sexually harrass me?

Q.   hi i'm 13 and umm i was at a party and some boy kiss me when i said to get off he wouldnt and my "best friend " is trying to get a picture while im begging him to get off and then he said "you like it" and now im questioning whether this is ...

A.   13 June 2008: Ok is harrassment and you shouldn't let it go because then guy will get the idea that they can do that to you and not get in trouble. It will end up leading to you being raped! Your friend is not a friend and it seems like she helped set you up! ... (read in full...)

I am 2 months pregnant and I'm really worried and confused! Any helpful advice?

Q.   Hi Im 2 months pregnant and found out 3 weeks ago. I am very confused about what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he is 7 years old than me he says he really wants me to keep the baby and we will get married when we are old ...

A.   12 June 2008: I think that you really need to way the cons of everything. 1. abortion: It can leave you very depressed and make you feel like a bad person. It can also make it where you can never have another baby. 2. Keeping it: You might not be able to f... (read in full...)

What are anti-depressants?

Q.   what are anti-depressants? My dad told me that they make you happier. I would like to go on them if thats the case but I'm too scared to ask for help. I've been depressed for a long time now. I really need help!...

A.   12 June 2008: Anti-depressants are medication that either creates serotonin or causes your nerons in your brain to not reuptake the serotonin naturally created in your brain. Serotonin is a feel good chemical naturally made in the brain. When someone is depressed ... (read in full...)

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