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writes:im 18 and just wondering if my boobs will grow anymore or if im gonna have to wait till i have kids or the next stage of my life?im a size. 12A sometimes 10A and i feel like i have the body of a 14 year old. i was a late developer didnt get my period till i was 13 but still...im the only girl with 3 brothers and my mum have very large breasts 14D. I dont like padded bras because its so obvious im wearing them and i dont know what else i can do besides just live with what ive got. I have a bf of 2 years and he doesnt care how big they are but sometimes i do when i look at myself in the mirror and it depresses me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): Don't bother being depressed about small boobs.There are so much better things to feel depressed about i.e. if you were disabled in some way or a close friend or relative was disabled in some way... and there is SO MUCH MORE to do with your time!!I'm 17 with A cups and I love em so so should you :)
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reader, yukiakashi  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 trust me, big boobs suck too. I just passed 12 and i'm almost a c. I'm not fat. That is what scares me. Its painful to swim too. Be happy with what you have. Try fattening up, it might work
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): You're lucky your boyfriend compliments your breasts! my bf never does that. one time he even told me : your body is very nice but ur breasts are really small... can u imagine??? men... well,but we're together for almost a year now. So I guess men actually do see in a women more than only her boobs.
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reader, Brigid  +, writes (17 June 2008):
Don't go for plastic surgery, certainly not at your age. As has been pointed out implants cause problems with breastfeeding, but a radiographer friend of mine has told me that implants can also hide problems such as breast cancer until it is too late.
I have quite small boobs and whilst I sometimes think how great it would be to have larger ones, I know that as I get older they're not going to head south like the big ones do!
I have also heard on many occasions that it's not so much the size of the boob that is sexy, but the size of the nipple (heard from different men)! Learn to have confidence in your own sexuality - boobs on their own do not make a woman sexy.
Take care.
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reader, peace-and-love +, writes (16 June 2008):
Don't have plastic surgery. You won't be able to breastfeed your kids, plus so many guys hate it anyway because they feel very different.
Small breasts don't sag - they stay perky forever. Many guys love them. I'm a 32C/D and they really irritate me. Small breasts are so much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): it's important to feel good about yourself, and i know a 30 something mother of four who is (english terms, sorry) only 28 aa. she is one of the most stylish women i know. if you go on to how to look good naked's webby then you can get great tips for using what you got.
lol
jelly
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reader, em0wn3d +, writes (16 June 2008):
Most guys, myself included, couldn't care less about the size of a girls boobs, despite the stereotypical view that we do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): Don't worry honey, breasts often fluctuate in size. Nor are they quite as useful as people think - really big ones can be very uncomfortable on the back, especially with ill-fitting bras, they get in the way of activities like sports, and they attract the attention of the grubby side of the male species who will just gawk at your chest rather than treat you like a person.Not to mention, as another aunt has pointed out, small breasts are much perkier than big ones, which can be really saggy, especially as a woman ages. Your boyfriend loves you as you are - clearly, your small breasts are just fine by him. Plenty of guys think the same, as no two guys have the same opinion on what kind of girl they like. I don't advise you to get plastic surgery - it is a lot of pain and discomfort for an extended period of time for results that may be unwanted. You may find that after surgery, your breasts have become too big, and you can't cope physically with the changes as your body wasn't built for larger boobs. The Barbie figure idealized by the media and by porn must be deeply uncomfortable - enormous breasts on a tiny body that must bend under the weight, as breasts are primarily fat. Look at it this way - most models have small boobs. And models are generally considered the epitome of prettiness, so you are as well!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Don't fret, you have a b/f and God compensates you with other perfect body parts. Love is more important than anything else.
This is a lovely poem for you to read .
My heavenly gift..
Oh I wish I had boobs that would wobble.
Mine just stay still in one place.
In the breast hall of fame.
You won’t see my name.
For my boobs there would be a disgrace.
Sure boobs of my size have their merit.
They’re easy to fit with a bra.
And when I go for a dip ,
You won’t see one slip…out
They stay put…just where they are
And I’m not one to seek much attention
So you won’t find me strutting about
In a boob tube that’s trying by gravity defying to leave no room, not even for doubt.
But I sure envy big breasted women .
I’ve seen them at parties you know.
With all confidence thrust
In their mighty big bust
Entrancing the men as they go Though
I’ve heard from a big bosomed buddy
That it’s not all it’s cracked up to be
She says in frustration “Try to hold conversation
When there’s only two things a guy sees”
Now if I paid a few grand to enlarge them To, say
thirty-six b or c
Would they still look so natural
And could I class them as collateral
Sorta like home improvements on me
Now I’ve not taken this boob thing just lightly
I’ve done quite a bit of research
As I try to keep abreast In my mammary quest
I’ve found there’s a bit to be learned
There’s questions that need to be answered
Like cleavage, how wide and how deep I can have
nipples bigger
But somehow I figured That could poke Sweetie’s eye in his sleep
Oh, I wish I had boobs that were awesome
I’d buy a bright red bathing suit
On the beach I would run In slow motion for fun
To show off my best attribute
Now don’t think I’d just get them for vanity
There’s much I’d aspire to do I could feed many
babies When I was lactating
And for convenience, I could offer drive-thru In a t-shirt
I’d test air conditioning
They could ’see’ if they had it too low
And if I stood outside My breasts pumped up with pride
Police’d use me to stop traffic flow
Well you can see I’ve a lot to consider
For the big plunge, I need some more time
So I’ll keep you updated
But for now they’re just fated
To stay as they are for a while
And there’s my sweetie who totally accepts me
For he loves each and every little…bit
He says “stay as you are You’re the most beautiful by far”
As he gazes into my eyes…not my tits.
By
Arcadia
Flynn
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): i used to have 30AA boobs till i was 22 years old. I was not so much depressed by them, but it did used to piss me off cus the small boobs compounded with my 4'11'' height just made me look like a little girl. but then suddenly, out of the blue, within the space of about 6 months my boobs grew to a 30DD!!!!!!!!!! And you know what, for all that dramatic difference it's not like it really enhanced my life or the way i feel about myself at all..(apart from needing more expensive bras and sufferring from perverts in public) so really, i must tell you dont fret, it really is not that big of a deal. your boobs could grow, but really it does not matter if they didn't!
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (16 June 2008):
Some interesting comments by the other posters. First of all, while I cannot give you any advice from a woman's perspective I can from the point of view of a guy and one who has 4 daughters, three sisters and lots of nieces.
Let me set your mind at ease about one thing, getting your period at 13 does not make you a late developer as that is still within the normal range so you are clearly normal in that regard.
Second, as has been said, boobs change all the time and so you are likely to find cup size changes due to different factors. That is one reason why it is important to always be professionally fitted for your bras. You cannot assume that because you have always been a particular cup size that you still are. In addition, bras are a bit like shoes and a specific size from one manufacturer may be a different fit from that same size from another one.
Now as a guy I can say that I personally follow the usual trend of being attracted to larger boobs, but stay with me on this, as the single thing that changes all that and overrides everything, is the woman's personality which often shows in her eyes. If a woman has really nice eyes and face then I tend to not really notice anything else. I am also sure that many other guys are like this also. I have also seen some startlingly beautiful women who do have small boobs but who also know how to present everything they have to best effect, and the small boobs do not matter.
I know that you are not in favour of padded bras, but try getting one professionally fitted. Learn about what fashion choices can accentuate what you have. Try some classes in deportment as the way you stand and move can also make quite a difference. As you gain confidence (don't worry, at your age we all lack confidence even those who do not show it) it will matter less and has been said you have a big advantage over girls with bigger boobs. You can run and not hurt through bouncing and you are less likely to show your age through your boobs sagging as you get older. Trust me, many a woman with big boobs would trade places for that.
Now as you have a BF who loves you the way you are, trust that he knows what he likes cos clearly you have got it. Just enjoy being you.
All the best.
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reader, agtorange  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 I don't know much about female growth spurts.
But for what it's worth breast size really doesn't matter that much to guys, not to guys who are looking for anything more than a hookup, and even then they'd have to be shallow.
I even have one friend who prefers smaller breasts.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Hi, I'm thinking it only depresses you, because you are comparing your breast size, to pictures of women with
larger sized breasts than you. Your self image is very important, but how you are inside and who you are as a person, should be at the forefront. You need to somehow build up your self esteem and love yourself for who and what you are. Healthy breasts should be important, not the size. You are alowed to feel the way you do, but you only wind up making yourself miserable, when you think of yourself in a negative way. I once heard that the French think that the most lovely size of a woman's breast, is the size of a champagne glass, true statement. Your boyfriend sounds like a winner, he cares about you, for the person you are, and not some vain person with large breasts, whose shoulders hurt because of the weight of their breasts. Count your blessings, for you have many, you probably are able to buy beautiful clothes, because of your size. Be happy, you may not know it, but when you walk down the street, there are people who probably envy your size. Shine
from the inside out. Be your own best friend. Stop worrying
about your breast size, and as I said a healthy breast is
much more important than a large breast. Take care.
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reader, Tremor +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Your boobs actually sound a lot like mine, and I do know how you feel - it's always a little bit of a blow walking into the lingerie shops.
If you really want to give them a boost, there's a few ways to go about it. Ever hear of 'chicken fillets'? They're those little rubber/gel things you can stuff in your bra to push everything up. Quite handy for a night out, just make sure they don't fall out!
Another idea is to go and get fitted up by a professional fitter. They will most likely be able to set you up with a really top notch padded bra - and the bonus from this is that you may be bigger than you think. I've had friends think they're a 12A, who then got measured as a 12B.
In any case, I wouldn't fret about it. It can get irritating sometimes, I know, but if you look there are probably a bunch of other things about your body that more than compensate for a small chest - perhaps you have good legs, or a nice bum, or a tight stomach, or gorgeous eyes? Find other things to concentrate on and small boobs aren't such a big deal anymore. Also remind yourself that your boyfriend loves you regardless - this should be indication enough that a rack isn't so important.
Remember that all women are different - we're not all going to be graced with DDs!
Good luck to you. =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): OMG, I don't agree at all with iluvbrian.
Well, yes, puberty ends around 17, 18. While it's unlikely that you'll experience a sudden growth spurt in yor breasts, the truth is that breasts change throughout your life. They may grow later in life, especially if you have kids. After the lactating period, they may stay big or shrink. But the thing is breasts change a lot.
Don't get plastic surgery if it's not what you want. It's not the healthiest solution, and while it guarantees "growth", it's risky and you may end up not liking the results. This is something to consider a lot, but I'd advice against it.
If you're slim, or short, then big breasts aren't really attractive and yours may fit your body perfectly. It's hard to see, and I understand how small breasts make you feel inadequate in the wolrd we live in today. We can be very critical to ourselves, and you may not see it, but yours are probably very well proportioned to your body. A lot of people, including your boyfriend, find small breasts really sexy. True, they may find big breasts (or al breasts for that matter) sexy, but that doesn't mean that small breasts make some guys go wild. If you look at pics of small breasts, they're most of the time better shaped than big breasts. Some girls who have big breasts and are your age, sag a lot. You stay perky. A lot of big breasted girls are very insecre and unhappy because they're breasts sag, they receive unwanted (perverted) attention, they look fatter, etc. Most big breasts you see on TV or wherever are airbrushed, or are good boob jobs. Most boob jobs end up looking fake though. I'd say the minority look good. So don't be mislead by what you see in the media (includng porn... especially porn).
Check out this website... try to be discreet, the pictures here aren't sexual, but they're graphic and may offend some people:
www.007b.com
It's a website that shows pictures of real breasts of women of all ages, who have or haven't had children, to make women realize that breasts are more than just sexual organs and that they indeed come in ALL shapes and sizes. I've struggled with insecurity about my small breasts, and that site helped me a lot.
Bottom line is: everything has pros and cons. Small breasts have a lot of pros, and some cons. Same for big breasts. But at the end of the day, they make you YOU! And if you're shaped this way, it's because it makes you attractive already. You know your small breasts haven't kept you from finding a loving relationship and enjoying it! So no worries girl, you're so much more than your breasts!
Best wishes!
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (16 June 2008):
I got my boobs from my dads side of the family and they are uncomfortably large. I myself am a 38G. I started growing at 8 and didn't stop until recently at age 18. If your boyfriend is happy then dont worry as much. When you get pregnant after childbirth your breast should grow about three cup sizes when engorged with milk. That would be the perfect time to see if you really love them bigger. As for plastic surgery if you want to breast feed wait if not then you can look into that but the proceedure that I think looks the best is when they go in through the belly button, I watch a lot of plastic surgery and other medical show because I am going to college to be a nurse and the nipple removal and the proceddure where they go through the bottom of the breast have a lot of scarring while the belly button have none. I hope that helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): i used to have small boobs too but id try and see a bright side to it since i have some now some clothes dont look as good and in order to get hem i had to gain a lot of weight thats im trying to work off, think of he rest of your body like i may have a nice rack but the rest of me isnt as toned as efore, your probably fit and still adorable you'll find somebody who loves you exactly how you are :) and guys like confidence so try to learn to like yourself
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reader, iluvbrian +, writes (16 June 2008):
well,
puberty ends at like age 16-17 so im not sure if growing is a possibility. if you are so worried about it, have plastic surgery,
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