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My female friend asked me out, but I'm not gay!

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Question - (21 June 2008) 6 Answers - (Newest, 21 June 2008)
A female Ireland age 30-35, anonymous writes:

i think my best mate (whose also a girl) fancies me, shes asked me out but i dont feel the same way, and im not gay. help!

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A female reader, Cherriepie United States +, writes (21 June 2008):

Cherriepie agony auntIf she's you best mate you are propbably already going out together, and seeing each other anyway. How does this make it different? Is she being direct and saying I want to "do you"?

If thats what shes saying then back away and dont hurt her. Keep it is as friends like you already are. She can live with it hopefully.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008):

Just tell her that although you like her as a friend, you are not gay. But that you love her friendship and don't want to loose it.

She'll understand. If she does not and persists then maybe it would be best to end the friendship.

Good Luck. x

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A female reader, scrazy Canada +, writes (21 June 2008):

scrazy agony auntTell her straight up that you're not attracted to women, but you're flattered that she asked you out. Let her know that you don't want to hurt her feelings by lying to her and it's nothing against her, you're just not gay.

If you still want to be friends with her after this and think you can work past the initial awkwardness, then go right on ahead! It's up to you though.

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A female reader, Sophia_Sweetheart United Kingdom +, writes (21 June 2008):

Sophia_Sweetheart agony auntHey sweetheart - you've just got to be honest! You can't really pretend you're a different sexuality to what you are. I'm sure she'll understand, she might even be expecting it!

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (21 June 2008):

kenny agony auntReally all you can do in this situation is express your honesty and tell her you are not interested in woman, that you like guys. Im sure she will understand, and probally respect you being upfront and honest with how you feel.

All the best x

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A female reader, SugarCookie United States +, writes (21 June 2008):

Just tell her the truth that you are not attracted to women. That you dont want to hurt her feels and that it is not personal. It is up to you if you want to keep the friendship and if you do just be honest about not being gay. I'm sure she has been turned down by other straight woman.

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