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writes:dear readersi am almost 15 and have boy troubles.i have never had my first kiss as i am always scared on my inexperience and his experience as this happens i always end up chickening out and honestly i dont know anyone who hasnt had there 1st kiss but me, and my last bf told this embarrasing secret to everyone.i think i am ready and want to have this experience without using boys like other people do but this darkenning secret gets heavier on my shoulders and sadens me everyday, how can i get more confident about kissing? i am extremely confident about myself but not about kissing.by the way im talking about making out , i feel so lost in this world.. guys want me but i dont have feelings for them back... i dont know what to do.how do i bulid up kissing confidence and go for it without looking like an idiot... please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008): I didn't have my first kiss (more than a peck on the lips) until I was 17. For exactly the same reasons as you, I couldn't get over my insecurities and my worry of being a rubbish kisser. But it's true what everyone says, as long as you relax and you genuinely like the person, everything just happens naturally like instinct. So just try to ignore your feelings when the next young man comes along and when the time is right, just go for it! Good luck.
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (22 June 2008):
If you and the person really care about eachother it wont matter. I was my fiance's first kiss and he was my fifth (only one before him was any good because I didn't really care enough for the guys). When my fiance first kissed me he got spit all over my mouth but I was to busy trimbling to care. He got better with a few kisses but even though he got spit on me we both trimbled for a few hours after because it was so good and meaningful. Just do it with someone you care about and after a few kisses you will be perfect.
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reader, smellycat016 +, writes (22 June 2008):
 honestly, i used to be the same exact way. i felt like i was the only one who hadnt made out with someone.i didnt make out with anyone until i was a sophomore in highschool, and that was after i had been dating this guy for over a year! hahaif youre scared of people knowing, just dont tell them! i never told my boyfriend.when it happens itll happen. dont think too much of it though really, it's not that big of a deal.if your bf wants to kiss you then he will, it just all takes time.be confident with yourself in general, you dont need kissing confidence.it'll just come naturally.and thats great that you dont want to use guys like others do! very smart choice.i think you'd rather have your first kiss memorable and not with some random guy shoving his tongue down your throat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2008):
Dont't let it worry you; we all had to learn at some stage; and believe me in life you never stop learning;
Herwith a link that you can have a look at; lots of tips and info an kissing;
http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm
Good luck and enjoy!
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