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How do I figure out who is the father of my baby?

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Question - (21 June 2008) 8 Answers - (Newest, 21 June 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *IKKI22 writes:

my last period was on the 15th may ithink ,i just found out im pregnant bout 4 to 5 weeks gone and baby due around feb 22 2009 ,but on the 8th june i started sleeping behind my bf back ,im not sure who the father would be ,i dunt no if i was pregnant at the time sleepin with my ex on the 8th june and on wards on he got me pregnant.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008):

I understand what you are saying; I did not think you were cheating; HOWEVER: I refer you back to my origanal answer; as I do believe that is your best option.

I know it will be difficult, but I don't think you have much choice.

Be strong and get it done with!

Good luck; Keep me posted.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008):

Thanks for the update. Yes you've been honest and told us how you are truely feeling. But the problem is we're thinking more about the baby and it's quality of life, than you and your boyfriends and your complicated love life.

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A female reader, NIKKI22 United Kingdom +, writes (21 June 2008):

NIKKI22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

i didnt write in my question that i told my bf that idid slept with my ex cos we broke up 4 awile thats wen it happen so iwernt really cheating,just a thing iregret but too im honest in everyway.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008):

It's time for a DNA test and time for the men to know what's going on.

75 years from now this child will probably still be alive and walking around. Sooner or later the truth WILL come out. It's only a question of when and how.

The sooner you face the music, the better for everyone involved.

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A female reader, lexilou United Kingdom +, writes (21 June 2008):

lexilou agony auntBecause of when most women ovulate you were probably all ready pregnant before you slept with ex but as all woman are different and some ovulate earlier or later than average the only sure way would be a DNA test once baby is born.

Smiles is right you need to be honest up front about this as if you leave it you will have this constant worry throughout your pregnancy which is not good for you or baby. I think you need to decide which one you want to be with too x I wish you luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008):

You have a lot to deal with here.

If your dates and times are correct and you are 1005 sure of that, your ex seems to be the father.

However, I suggest, you will have to be honest with both your boyfriend and your ex about the situation.

It affects them both; you cannot let your present guy think you are pregnant with his child and afterwards find out it's not; you should also not then only tell your ex, as he will not believe you then either.

Be honest with both now and have DNA test done after the baby is born should there be any doubt about the paternity.

Good luck!

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A female reader, crownedprincess United Kingdom +, writes (21 June 2008):


First of Congratulations!!

next thing i will say is that if your 4-5 weeks pregnant

and the 8th june is only 2 weeks ago so i highly doubt that

this guy you were sleeping with is the father of your child

but i really do think you need to talk to you boyfriend

about this and if you still are unsure then i would do a

DNA test once the child is born, but please sort this out

it is unfair to have a child born into any trouble!!

Good Luck


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A female reader, SugarCookie United States +, writes (21 June 2008):

So you started sleeping with your ex two weeks ago and you are 4 to 5 weeks pregnant so it sounds like it is your boyfriends but when the baby is born do a DNA test and tell your bf about your ex.

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