He says I'm his soul mate, but I don't think we even share the same sense of humour...should I break up with him around Christmas?
Q. Hi I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months and i've been beginning to notice that we have quite different senses of humour, and disagree quite a lot on things. I think he's an amazing person but I don't think we are right for eachother. ...
A. 19 December 2012: Break up with him now. It is never a good idea to string someone along out of pity, which is what this would be if you stayed. You feel badly about dumping him before Christmas so you stick it out until later, right after Christmas. He will know why ... (read in full...)
How long does it take to get over someone and is it possible to be friends after a relationship?
Q. How long does it take to get over someone and is it possible to be friends after a relationship? I split up from my ex about 7 months ago but we kept in touch via email (he lives abroad). Even though we both knew (and said) we still loved each oth...
A. 19 December 2012: How long it takes depends on how long you dated and how serious you were together. For example a relationship of a few months you can obviously move on within a week or so most likely. But a relationship of a few years could take 6 months to over a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is 50% happy with me but I don't satisfy him sexually like his ex did. Should I have a threesome with them to make him happy?
Q. I purposed an idea to my boyfriend a couple of days ago. The idea having a threesome with him and his ex. Sounds bizarre, good thing I slept on it and really thought about how it will impact the relationship and everyone involved lives. Question ...
A. 19 December 2012: This guy is truly just awful. He insults you by saying you aren't enough for him and his ex was better at sex, if only the two of you could mold together... And he also cheats by talking to her sexually behind your back. I can understand to some ... (read in full...)
After a week on talking online he says he loves me and wants to marry me?
Q. I recently placed a personal ad saying i m looking for a mate, I had over 20 response , most of the guys were playing or seeking sex so I finally came across a guy who sound great anyways we chated though email then he gave me his number , we ...
A. 18 December 2012: I want to clarify- you don't want to marry someone after a week period, whether you have met or not. Also online dating is fine, but try to find people you are able to have a relationship with in person rather than in another country. ... (read in full...)
After a week on talking online he says he loves me and wants to marry me?
Q. I recently placed a personal ad saying i m looking for a mate, I had over 20 response , most of the guys were playing or seeking sex so I finally came across a guy who sound great anyways we chated though email then he gave me his number , we ...
A. 18 December 2012: He is either trying to run a scam, purposefully choosing lonely single mothers like yourself. Or he is certifiably insane because you can't be in love and want to marry someone you have never met. What you do is run a mile the opposite direction. ... (read in full...)
Now I'm being punished for what goes on in her mind only!
Q. For the past two years or so, my girlfriends insecurity has got worse and worse. I am constantly told who I am looking at, who I find attractive and told I am flirting with everyone she believes I find attractive. I have put up with a lot. I now ...
A. 13 December 2012: Yeah there's something wrong with her. She has some need to make you out to be the bad guy no matter what she does wrong. I said she is crazy because I think she actually convinces herself of these things. It isn't your fault, she chose to go on the ... (read in full...)
Now I'm being punished for what goes on in her mind only!
Q. For the past two years or so, my girlfriends insecurity has got worse and worse. I am constantly told who I am looking at, who I find attractive and told I am flirting with everyone she believes I find attractive. I have put up with a lot. I now ...
A. 13 December 2012: There is no use in trying. She obviously has some serious mental issues she needs help with and if she refuses then there is nothing else you can do. Using dating sites and cheating is no one's fault but her own, yet even before then she accused you ... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's mind when he watches porn?
Q. Can some actually explain to us women what happens when watching porn? Does it make the man feel like he is having sex with the woman on the screen? Apparently I am told they are not watching it to pretend they are the man in the video. I am ...
A. 12 December 2012: What I've been told is that it is a quick release, easier to do than to dream up creative things to masturbate about. It isn't about pretending you are in the screen with the female for majority of men, it's the act themselves which turns you on and ... (read in full...)
I think this woman is using my guy friend..what should I do?
Q. Hey there, I've been hanging out with this guy for about three years, he considers me as his best friend and we hung out often, be it just the two of us or in groups. He told me confidential stuff and said he could trusts me. I get the feeling he is ...
A. 12 December 2012: You ignore it and let them be. If she is just using him then he will find out on his own and hopefully apologize to you. You put in your two cents worth, that's all you can do. People need to make their own choices and their own mistakes. Not that ... (read in full...)
I don't know if my boyfriend of 6 years wants to marry me or not
Q. Hello All, I am dealing with a HUGE dilemma...and I need your help!! My boyfriend and I have been together almost 6 years, we met in college. We are both almost 26. He just graduated Law School last year and hates being a lawyer, so he says he ...
A. 12 December 2012: What you need to do is talk to him as openly as possible. No more hinting at marriage. Tell him you need to have a serious conversation with him. Then inform him that you want marriage, you want to be married to him, if he does not want to be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend leads another life when he's out drinking and partying. I don't like it!
Q. Hi there, I've asked for advice a few times before and been very happy with the responses, so here I am again! Basically, to cut a long story short, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, and in that time, we have only ever fought ...
A. 11 December 2012: You enjoy different life styles and ideas of a good time. You seem to be more of an introvert whereas he is an extrovert and loves parties, drinking, etc. There's very little you can do here but accept what he likes to do or dump him. I'd say it ... (read in full...)
We see each other nearly everyday. Will it ruin the relationship or am I being insecure?
Q. I started seeing this man over two months ago. We have known each other through the gym for about 7 months previous to this. Thing is, Im really afraid of scaring him away. I know he didnt fancy me in the beginning - as he works in the gym, it is ...
A. 11 December 2012: At 2 and a half months you see each other all the time, cuddle, and he is planning a holiday almost 2 months from now. I'd say it's going very well and you have nothing more to expect at this point. It takes people different times to say 'I love ... (read in full...)
I walked away from a man I cannot be with. Have I made the right choice?
Q. Hello Cupids. I made a decision. It was agonizing and emotionally painful for me. And it took me a long time to get to this place...I would like to know if you think I made the right choice. There is this man who I have known for some time. ...
A. 11 December 2012: The pain just means it hurts you to leave him because you feel so much for him. You made the absolute right choice. You were interested in him and he didn't feel the same way. You cannot be friends with someone you secretly want to be with, that ... (read in full...)
In a troubled relationship should I tell him I had a miscarriage?
Q. First of all, please don't judge my relationship. I'm not asking a question about how to "win his affections" or anything, I'm asking if I should tell him about a miscarriage. My boyfriend and I are in a complicated situation right now. He's abo...
A. 11 December 2012: If he won't answer your calls or texts how did you plan to tell him? Don't leave this in a text or voicemail. What I would do is say nothing. If he does come back around and you try to date again then let him know what happened. But for right now ... (read in full...)
I feel bad about my sex appeal knowing mean watch much better on a porn movie. Am I second best in a guy's estimation if he watches porn?
Q. I know there are many questions about porn, but plese bear with me. So when men watch porn, do they watch it for the women's bodies? Especially girl on girl, or girls masturbating, or stripping, ie. porn that doesn't involve men at all (so it's not...
A. 11 December 2012: You are just like any other woman who compares her imperfect body to that of women on tv or magazines. You say they aren't fantasy and they are real women, that is true to an extent. But you have to remember that these women have fitness trainers, ... (read in full...)
Is this a trust issue for me? Or should I just accept and trust that he is just friends with her??
Q. I have been in a relationship with a guy who lives an hour away for almost 4 months now..and for the last month or so we have been getting in fights every week. sometimes a couple times a week. The main problem is that I have had trust issues...
A. 11 December 2012: Yeah he seriously took another woman out on a date. He then got angry at you because you don't want him doing that, most women don't want their boyfriends going on dates with other women and he knows it... He is definitely setting up a plan b. And ... (read in full...)
What is your position on living together before marriage?
Q. Hello dear Aunts :) and uncles :) What is your position on living together before marriage? Before engagement? What do you think the pros and cons are to each scenario? Some say that while living together, the man gains everything, while the ...
A. 10 December 2012: I think people against living together before marriage are typically old fashioned or are older in general. I lived with my husband before engagement and marriage. I never had a thought otherwise or thought it could be negative. My father was ... (read in full...)
My 25 year old boyfriend acts like a teenager. Will her grow out of it?
Q. My problem is that my 25 year old boyfriend acts like a teenager at times. He is still very influenced by what his friends think, and because of that he often does things to fit in with them. He is often the drunkest guy on a night out because he ...
A. 10 December 2012: Also I have to add that it is more than just a maturity issue... He always feels like he needs to 'fit in' and do what makes everyone like him. This will not ever change no matter what his age. He needs to feel popular and liked because of a low ... (read in full...)
My 25 year old boyfriend acts like a teenager. Will her grow out of it?
Q. My problem is that my 25 year old boyfriend acts like a teenager at times. He is still very influenced by what his friends think, and because of that he often does things to fit in with them. He is often the drunkest guy on a night out because he ...
A. 10 December 2012: Cut your losses now I'd say. He is very childish and immature indeed, and being that he is age 25 is worrisome. He likely won't grow up until his mid to late 30's if that. So in all that time you will be dealing with a man boy and trying to get him ... (read in full...)
Should I allow my boyfriend to do something sexually that I'm not comfortable with?
Q. My boyfriend of over a year keeps asking me to let him cum on my face... We've done literally everything else and I feel he should be happy with all the stuff we do. He just won't leave me alone about it. I think I would feel really disgusting and ...
A. 10 December 2012: You don't ever do something you are uncomfortable with sexually. And you don't date someone who pesters you to do things you aren't comfortable with, he doesn't care about you or how you feel, he only cares about getting himself off in the ways he ... (read in full...)
My husband is spending Christmas in Australia without me!
Q. My husband of a year and 9 months decided to go on hols to Australia for 6 weeks (he only works at peak seasonal times) - i couldn't get off work. He rang at weekend saying he was gonna stay with his mates over christmas and new year. I am totally ...
A. 3 December 2012: He is selfish indeed and will walk all over you your entire marriage... Anytime you 'give in' will prove to him all will be well in time so he can do as he pleases. Don't let him get away with it. If my husband did this I would explain how it made ... (read in full...)
We sleep in separate beds, and I worry it’s killing our relationship
Q. My boyfriend and I sleep in separate beds. We have different sleeping patterns – I’m an early riser and insomniac; he sleeps late and needs a lot of sleep. About a year ago, he started kicking me out of bed in the middle of the night, saying I was ...
A. 3 December 2012: I found a couple of articles for you to read about. I had come across one awhile back and your post reminded me. The fact is a strong and secure couple finds sleeping apart not to be an issue. This is probably why your boyfriend finds no problem ... (read in full...)
Does saying sorry make you a better person?
Q. Hi everyone, I would really appreciate it if you can share your thoughts on this one... Does saying sorry to someone after saying some hurtful things make you a better person instead of being conceited and ignorant?...
A. 1 December 2012: Saying sorry, genuinely meaning it, and not feeling like you are better than the other person because you said sorry- that makes you a little better. Saying it only to feel superior doesn't make it so. ... (read in full...)
To those who are married/in relationships: Do you masturbate? If yes, why?
Q. Hello I want to ask people who are married or in relationship if they masturbate, if yes how often they do it and why? Thank you....
A. 29 November 2012: I'm married, I haven't masturbated in years and can't remember when it last was honestly. Why? Because I have no interest in doing it, when I do get horny I let my husband know. If he isn't around then I wait until he is. Taking care of myself ... (read in full...)
Why do people in relationships play so many games with one another?
Q. Hi, I am a very honest person, in a good way. But i dont believe in lying or sugar coating. (im not an overbearing or rude person at all, i say everything as politely as possible i just know some people dont like it) So i dont understand why ...
A. 29 November 2012: I think if a guy is turned off by you NOT playing games, he is most likely immature and not ready for the serious committment. Talking real feelings and being open and honest is very real, if a guy isn't ready to get real and prefers to hide behind ... (read in full...)
Any advice on ways other then oral sex or girl on top, to get my girlfriend to orgasm?
Q. I am in a loving an monogamous long-distance relationship. It's been going swimmingly even though we're both in college. When we do get to see each other (about 5 out of every 30 days) we generally have a lot of sex and its been amazing. The only ...
A. 28 November 2012: I see what you mean, you are scared she will get bored of going the same way every time. First ask her if she is worried about that as well, it's possible she has no problem with only finishing one way if it works best for her. Other possibilities ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is cheating on me!
Q. I am concerned my boyfriend is cheating on me. I have had suspicions before as in our first year of University I heard him talking, drunkenly, to one of his other flat mates about how he would love to sleep with this other girl he lived with and ...
A. 27 November 2012: Well you have already put up with far more than you should have. Going out for drinks after work with his 'boss' every single weekend and coming home late hours wasted? Unacceptable. In addition to that he displays every single thing a cheater does ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else find certain accents sexy?
Q. I'm from up north and study at university here, this girl I met one night she's from London, but when I saw her in the bar I thought she was beautiful and then when she introduced herself her British accent caught my attention immediately! I lo...
A. 27 November 2012: Not stupid at all. I love an English accent. I also love an Irish accent. Because of where I am from, US, I don't ever hear them aside from on television so it's quite different and attractive when I do. I know they did a joke recently on the Big ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has lent an ex-girlfriend £200 of our joint money and she hasn't paid a penny back
Q. My boyfrind of just over 2 years has just lent an ex-girlfriend £200 of our joint money. This was 6 weeks ago now and she hasn't paid a penny back. I reluctantly agreed to this because my boyfrind tells me's a good man and she is now just a friend ...
A. 27 November 2012: He wants her to feel for him how he felt for her back then. She never seemed to love him, she basically threw him away and made him feel like trash. He obviously never got past it and still wants to 'win' her affections. She never really wanted him ... (read in full...)
Where is a good place to meet people? Are online dating sites a good thing?
Q. Hello, I have never had a proper relationship but recently had a sort of fling with a guy he was the first guy i really got intimate with (we didn't have sex). All of my friends are in relationships and I no longer see this guy and am starting ...
A. 25 November 2012: I met my husband on a dating site, before him I had met another guy who was a longtime boyfriend on the same dating site. In my profession I didn't meet any guys, I worked with the same 3 old men for 4 years and our customer base were old people as ... (read in full...)
Ladies only please: My partner makes stupid remarks about age and offends alot of our customers. Am I just being too sensitive?
Q. I m pissed. Ladies opinions please, as I understood that in this question men are no help, sorry. My business partner who is a guy makes stupid in my eyes comments and asked out customers questions that simply inappropriate. For example, 2 older w...
A. 22 November 2012: I made the mistake of thinking he was an employee rather than your business partner, so you probably can't just cut his hours unfortunately. But I do think it could be a good idea to have him read this post and all the responses, then it is proof ... (read in full...)
Ladies only please: My partner makes stupid remarks about age and offends alot of our customers. Am I just being too sensitive?
Q. I m pissed. Ladies opinions please, as I understood that in this question men are no help, sorry. My business partner who is a guy makes stupid in my eyes comments and asked out customers questions that simply inappropriate. For example, 2 older w...
A. 22 November 2012: No it is the case with pretty much all women. What woman wants to feel she looks old? Or get any comment on age? I get annoyed that I hear I look young all the time, 24 but people say I look 16. It isn't complimentary to hear someone ask "why are ... (read in full...)
Did you ever have someone you were close to and now you don't talk to them at all?
Q. Hi all, I was just wondering if you had someone in your life you were pretty close to but at somepoint due to some circumstances had to stop talking and now you don't even acknowledge that person!? I do have,and I just want to know if they r people...
A. 21 November 2012: Oh yeah, plenty of people. I literally just saw a girl I was good friends with in high school a week ago. We didn't acknowledge each other. You just get out of touch with some people, she went away to college and I don't have Facebook so we stopped ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being clingy and needy?
Q. How can I put a stop to my bad relationship habits, specifically being clingy/Needy? I've had this problem my entire life with women. It started when I was very young after my mother killed herself. I was one of the ones that found her, I was...
A. 21 November 2012: You suffer from a real phobia, autophobia- or fear of abandonment.
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/fear-of-abandonment.html
The only way to cure this is with therapy. Have you ever seen a therapist to deal with the traumatic loss of your mot... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with this man wanting to date me? I'm 25 years younger than him
Q. i met this guy at work he is 25 years older than me. but we have so much in common, and i find him very intersting and i want to know more about him. i love him. we have been seeing each other for about 10 months now. he has told me he loves me to, ...
A. 21 November 2012: People will always see a problem with large age gap relationships. They will wonder what an older man could possibly have in common with a young woman, and since they can't see it they will assume it is shady- she is looking for money and he is ... (read in full...)
I'm confused by his text. I thought he wasn't interested but friends say I'm reading too much into it?
Q. Guys are so very confusing! I haven't actually "dated" in the past five years (being in an on-off relationship) but 3 days ago I met a nice fella online and met him up. We had dinner, drinks, and decided to go to a movie. On our way to the movie, he ...
A. 21 November 2012: Yeah just wait and see, but also don't keep your hopes up. Go with the flow, if he calls good go out with him, if not oh well. It could very well be that he is super busy. Let him text you when he isnt so busy and try again if he doesn't ever text ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting? How can I deal with this issue? He regards his family as a higher priority over our relationship.
Q. I am in my late twenties and my boyfriend is in his mid thirties. We have been together for 4 years and discussed getting married. One of the issues I have, however, is his relationship with his family. Every Tuesday, he has dinner at his paren...
A. 21 November 2012: I dated a guy like this. I didn't like it either, he had to be at his parents house every Sunday. Then there were frequent barbeques with more extended family like cousins as well. All too much for me. I felt the same way you described, like if we ... (read in full...)
Did he really mean what he said or was he just trying to get into my pants again?
Q. I know this guy from a dating site. We plan for our first date out for drinks but he got tied up at work so he suggested to have drinks at his place. Long story short, i agreed to go over only if he's cooking dinner and he said yes so we hang out. ...
A. 21 November 2012: Depends on how he acted when he was pissed. Did he curse you out or was he just visibly annoyed? I think he may have been frustrated because he thought you wanted more and doesn't like the mind games, like you said. I'd give him another chance but ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep taking him back when he cheats and is both verbally and physically abusive?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2years now when we started dating we were so inlove and to me were the perfect couple, until 8months ago he cheating on me and he would do things publicly knowing very well I would find out, he would beg 4m to take ...
A. 21 November 2012: Abusers weaken you, lower your self esteem, and make you dependent on them. You start to believe the things he is saying when he verbally abuses you and you no longer like yourself. He weakens you so he can do as he pleases, ie cheat. When you feel ... (read in full...)
Not for revenge but for my own pleasure I'm thinking of cheating, nothing serious just a one night thing. Opinions please!
Q. My partner and I have been together for 5 years up until recently we were engaged, have 2 children and were trying for a 3rd. During this time he has cheated on me twice that I know of. The first was for the first 12 months we were together...
A. 20 November 2012: I won't bother telling you to leave because you have heard it enough, you are well aware at this point that leaving is what you should do but won't. I will address the cheating in order to not feel like a doormat. I do understand the thought process ... (read in full...)
Met a guy online, going to meet him soon.
Q. So I met this guy on this online forum and he started talking to me first. He thought I was a guy and we were talking for a bit until he asked my number and texted me. It wasn't until he asked my name did he find out I was female. haha I just came ...
A. 20 November 2012: Please listen to the other posters and be safe. I did a lot of dating online years ago and always made sure to give all the information I had on the guy to my mom. His phone number, email, pictures, name, etc. I NEVER met a guy from online at home, ... (read in full...)
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