I got too clingy! How can I show him that the old me is back?
Q. please help ive made an awful mess of this. ok i have a good friend and during the summer we became close. hes been with a girl 5 years. she has a lot of issues which hes explained. she needs lots of space, goes out drinking with guys from work and...
A. 27 October 2012: There's no point in texting because it's the opposite of what he wants. My advice is to stop texting calling or messaging him altogether. Leave him alone. When he comes back to you and starts talking then you act and talk like your normal self ... (read in full...)
I'm losing hope in the existence of true love. Does true love still exist in this modern world?
Q. Hey everyone, Well I am 23 years old now,but since I was 16 when I knew what 'love' was. I always believed that I would find true love and no I haven't till date.. I am a hopeless romantic,like literally 'hopeless'..I love reading nicholos spa...
A. 25 October 2012: True love does exist, but it isn't at all like the novels you are reading. No one will come to your window playing the guitar and singing a song he made especially for you. No one will see you and know instantly you are the one, approach you and ... (read in full...)
I sympathize but he thinks I don't understand him!
Q. Hell everyone, my boyfriend and i love each other. However,there is an issue that we have been facing since we started dating almost a year ago,and i think its getting worse.I need some help with that. I come from a wealthy family ( please ...
A. 25 October 2012: The truth is you can't understand his financial problems. You haven't been there to truly feel how he feels. You shouldn't say "I understand what you are going through" because until you have been there you really don't understand. You should say " ... (read in full...)
Is this a normal reaction to stress?
Q. today, one of my parents and one of my siblings got into an extremely heated screaming match. you could almost feel the hate boiling between them. they were hoarse after, because it was so intense. then there was horrible crying and sobbing,...
A. 24 October 2012: It would be wise to find a new place to live if you can. This is a very unhealthy stressful situation to live in and deal with. When something is very stressful we try to remove the source of strain. If you can't then you need to find healthy ways ... (read in full...)
I can't imagine dating someone else, he's all I want
Q. I've never had a relationship nor never been in love but god blessed me with the exact type of guy I wonted and saved myself for. We been together for 4 months. We both fell in love with each other. But things started to change with. He started a ...
A. 24 October 2012: It's your first relationship and first love is the hardest to get over. You dont have any past experience to compare it to so it feels like you won't ever find love again. It doesn't feel like it now but only 4 months together will end up being in ... (read in full...)
She tells me she loves me but is she just using me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I hope you can help? I will try and give you as much history as I can to make the picture clear. I can count on one hand the serious relationships I have had in my life. But everyone of those relationships ended with them ch...
A. 24 October 2012: I think she has real feelings for you but is conflicted because of the past. Logically she knows a relationship cannot last without trust, but in her heart she wants you. I think you need to have a real conversation outside of the bedroom. You need ... (read in full...)
Why do guys want and like you more when you don't give them your attention?
Q. why is it when you like a guy and you're all affectionate and flirty with each other, you've even made it clear that you like him and that you want more than what you already are, they act oblivious to it or don't say much on the idea and lead you ...
A. 24 October 2012: I think it's an age thing, and it certainly isn't all guys that are this way. But you may have heard the saying "the thrill of the chase". Men like a chase sometimes, they don't want anything too easy and too available. Its also a bit of "you want ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her but realised I made a mistake, how do I get her back?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been in a long distance relationship for the past 5 months and it's been a little difficult since we've only been seeing each other once a month, and recently started seeing each other 2X per month. We also have been chatting an...
A. 24 October 2012: I don't think she is gone for good, I think she is just terrified of you doing the same thing to her all over again. She is very angry and upset, rightfully so. However I don't think giving her space is necessarily the best idea at this moment. You ... (read in full...)
Should I let my boyfriend carpool with a female co-worker?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. We moved in together 4months ago, and things have been going pretty good so far. He started a new job about a week ago and while in the process of meeting the coworkers in his ...
A. 24 October 2012: It isn't a trust issue, it's completely an insecurity issue. You think when they spend all of this time together they will naturally grow to like each other. It has nothing to do with trust, I don't feel that your fear is he will cheat whilst going ... (read in full...)
Would you put up with a jealous man just so you could get the other nice things back?
Q. I recently split up with my boyfriend because I found him on a dating site and even when I confronted him he said it wasn't him and even blamed me for setting it up. Well he wasn't very nice to me, very paranoid, jealous and angry a lot. I decided ...
A. 23 October 2012: Okay you are downplaying your ex's flaws and overromanticizing the relationship. The fact is he isn't a jealous guy but perfect in every other way. He is jealous, mean, paranoid, angry, and unfaithful. Why you would want to go back to that for the ... (read in full...)
I've just broken up with my Gf. Can I have some advice please? Her mixed messages and all the pain I've been going through is a heavy load.
Q. My girlfriend of 2 and a half years just broke up with me on Saturday saying we need some space. She says I need to become more independent and self sufficient. I can see where she is coming from but I can't tell if it is tough love or forever....
A. 23 October 2012: I don't see mixed messages on her part either. She is trying to let you down easy. She still has feelings for you in some capacity but is no longer in love or wants to be with you. After 2 and a half years it is expected to still feel badly for your ... (read in full...)
I have to have surgery and I'm afraid
Q. im really really really scared about my scoliosis surgery i have the feeling im going to die or something will go wrong, or i will be paralysed forever. what is the chance something will go wrong? is it as bad as i think it is? i don't like the i...
A. 23 October 2012: I had jaw surgery when I was 16. I was scared too. I had to be warned of the risks with anesthesia and generally what could happen as a result of jaw surgery. I knew that it was worth it and the chances of complications are very very minimal. The ... (read in full...)
Shuold I stick it out with my marriage hoping things will get better?
Q. My husband is moody and we bicker all the time about things like who turn is it to do the washing up. He says he's moody because hes stressed at work, but he has been like this for the last 18 months. It is really getting me down. We never have ...
A. 23 October 2012: It sounds like depression. He may not even know he has it, a lot of people think depression means you feel sad all the time and if he isn't sad then he isn't depressed. But the fact that he has lost all interest in physical activity with you, fights ... (read in full...)
Should I leave him? I'm tired of feeling 'second class' and "not quite good enough for him".
Q. My husband and I have been together now for about 14 years. We have 2 beautiful children. However, i am so sick of dealing with his selfish ways. He has cheated 3 times, the first was about 9 years into our relationship and was a full on relations...
A. 23 October 2012: Also a wise person once told me not to think about the future. When breaking up you worry about everything in the future without the other person, and what people will think or say. Don't think about it, deal with it as it happens. It is never as ... (read in full...)
Should I leave him? I'm tired of feeling 'second class' and "not quite good enough for him".
Q. My husband and I have been together now for about 14 years. We have 2 beautiful children. However, i am so sick of dealing with his selfish ways. He has cheated 3 times, the first was about 9 years into our relationship and was a full on relations...
A. 23 October 2012: You stick with him because you are comfortable, you know him. You want someone there at all times like a husband should be, like you said for holidays etc. You like having a husband and the idea of marriage, can't stand the thought of starting over ... (read in full...)
A friend of my Bf keeps offering him smokes. My Bf knows I don't like this. Do I have the right to ask him to refuse to smoke?
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months very occasionally smokes ~ I've only seen him do it a couple of times, and every time this has been when he has been with his one friend who I'll call 'C'. I'm not completely sure what it is that C smokes, but I think it's ...
A. 23 October 2012: Well definitely don't tell him 'I don't want you to smoke and I want the reassurance you won't when I'm not around'. You will be seen as controlling, and he may very well do it anyway and just not tell you he did if not leave you altogether. Instead ... (read in full...)
Is my Bf implying that he's a virgin? He changed the subject when I asked.
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I were speaking about sex when he said "I can't compare my performance to anything? When I asked what he meant he changed the subject? So peeps my question is what are your thoughts on this? I automatically thought ...
A. 23 October 2012: I don't think that statement alone means he is a virgin. He told you he isn't so I would believe him. Truthfully I don't even understand the statement or question. You asked him to compare how he has sex to something else? I wouldn't be able to ... (read in full...)
Really confused right now. I could really use some advice on dating, please?
Q. I've been dating this girl for about three weeks now. We initially met online and have been chatting and SMS-ing since about June. However due to illness and busy work schedules, we weren't able to meet up until earlier this month. She was the on...
A. 22 October 2012: I'd let this one go too. If any of you were worth getting serious about she would've picked one by now. Instead she is having fun with numerous guys at the same time. Honesty is great so that's one thing going for her. But I don't think she is very ... (read in full...)
I love him, but I need to understand if his sexual fetishes are OK or not? One example: He likes me to dress as a school girl when we have sex.
Q. To give you a bit of background I'm not very sexually experienced. I've slept with two people in long-term relationships before my current partner and he is my third sexual partner (he is 23). In both my previous relationships, I had passionate, ...
A. 22 October 2012: If your age is correct then you are at the oldest 17 and he is 23. That in itself is a red flag. Then the fact that he wants you to dress as someone young and pretend to take your virginity kinda makes it weird to me... If it was just a simple ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and I don't understand why I can't find someone to to be my partner. Can you give me some tips on how to find the ONE?.
Q. hi i am a 19 old guy who has a lot of love to give but hard to find someone. looking back on my life i had many crushes but they all had someone. i have tried everything from putting myself out there to lowering my standards and i don't like tha...
A. 22 October 2012: Desperation is highly unattractive to anyone. And by lowering your standards you are essentially saying "I'll date anyone!" which is desperation. Don't be so desperate to find someone. You are young, go out with friends and enjoy time out. Someone ... (read in full...)
I'm so good looking, its annoying! How can I approach a guy for sex without getting into anything serious?
Q. I am good looking to the limit of annoyance, it caused me a great deal of trouble looking the way I do. I had major psychological issues because of my looks, I isolated my self thinking everyone interested in me because I am pretty I felt li...
A. 22 October 2012: Go to a bar. When a guy approaches you and starts flirting then flirt back, allow him to buy you a drink, go home with him when he asks if you want to get out of here- or ask him yourself. It is common sense what all that means, you don't need to ... (read in full...)
He 'likes' so many sexy girls on FB. What should be my plan of action tl deal with this?
Q. Hi there. I have a bit of an issue and was wondering what you guys and girls think. My boyfriend of less than a year has started "liking" pages on fb that feature bikini-clad/naked girls that post daily pictures. He liked one today and it really h...
A. 22 October 2012: I don't think you are being over sensitive, I wouldn't like this either. It's very juvenile and piggish in my opinion. Rather than mention that you saw him doing it, tell him how it makes you feel and how you view him when he does this. Tell him it ... (read in full...)
I am a loner and enjoy solo activities. BUT, based on your thoughts, ... Do people date loners? Or do they retreat from dating loners and why?
Q. Would you date a loner? I don't have that many friends, but it's not because of Social Anxiety Disorder or because I do strange things. I'm just highly independent, enjoy spending time self-reflecting and doing solo activities (reading,...
A. 21 October 2012: To me it sounds like you are independent and confident in being on your own. Do men like that? Yes, they love it. Personally I preferred to date a loner as well, I am not very social myself. Just be yourself and someone will like you for exactly who ... (read in full...)
Do guys who are unemployed really have a hard time dating?
Q. I really like this guy and I think he likes me too. One thing, he is unemployed but actively looking for work. He doesn't have much money which is not a deal breaker for me and I am not looking for money, just companionship. Well, this economy is ...
A. 21 October 2012: I think it is a source of pride for a man to be able to "provide" for a woman. And he probably feels like less of a man being unemployed. A coworker of mine finds it very hard to date because his job is only part time, about 15 hours a week. He says ... (read in full...)
2 months after meeting online, how long should I wait for us to meet?
Q. i've been talking to this guy i met on facebook for 2 months... he use to text me a goodmorning text now he doesn't... i don't know if he's intrested ... he was suppose to met up with me we live an 1hr and a half from each other ...but he didn't ...
A. 21 October 2012: He doesn't seem interested. In 2 months time he should have been able to meet up. And that was a very lame excuse when he couldn't show up for the last meet up, he blew you off, it is that simple. If he couldn't go because of financial reasons ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give advice about a sexy surprise for my boyfriend?
Q. I want to suprise my fiance with a sexy night. I no the obvious ideas are candles in the bedroom ect but we dont live together at the moment so i cant do anything like that. Tomorrow night were going for a meal and to the cinema then back to his and ...
A. 21 October 2012: Buy some lingerie, hide it in your purse or in an overnight bag. When at his house, go to the bathroom but don't tell him what you are doing, get dressed then surprise him :) Works great and isn't anything too out there to make you uncomfortable.... (read in full...)
I cheated on my LDR boyfriend. Do I tell him or just end things?
Q. I cheated on my long distance boyfriend. I got so lonely waiting around for him to return home. The relationship more or less is dead. Do I tell him or do I just break up? I feel so guilty. ...
A. 21 October 2012: If you are breaking up anyway then leave it alone. Telling him will only hurt him unnecessarily. It's like adding insult to injury.... (read in full...)
Is this a date? Even if he also brings his brother and his cousins to go with us? My Mom says it is a date.
Q. Okay, so is it considered a date if I got to the movies with my boyfriend. And his cousins and brother? My mom says it is, but idk? ...
A. 21 October 2012: At a younger age it is common to go on "group dates". I think that is what this is- so I would say your mom is right.... (read in full...)
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