My husband flipped out because I wore a male co-worker's jacket! Is he making it too big of a deal?
Q. Hi everyone. Pretty quick question: Is it okay to wear a male coworker's jacket if you are married? My husband found out that my coworker let's me wear his jacket at work and totally flipped out. I don't see the harm in it. Let me know what you th...
A. 14 November 2012: Well you said "my coworker let's me use his jacket at work", meaning it's been more often than once so I can see where the problem is. If it was one time, you forgot your jacket and it was chilly so he offered then who cares. If it is a regular ... (read in full...)
How old were you the first time you had sex? How was it?
Q. Hello I'm curious to know in what age you had first time sex(intercourse), and how was it?...
A. 14 November 2012: 18 with long time boyfriend who was also a virgin. Wasn't good, I cried, it hurt and wasn't pleasant or romantic at all. I felt I had lost my innocence. It was nothing like I expected from what I saw in movies. But I am glad we were both virgins ... (read in full...)
Questions for the ladies-- set 2
Q. Hey ladies, set 2: Question 4: Have you ever fantasised about one of your boyfriends/ husbands friends? My answer: Once or twice Question 5: Do you secretly watch porn behind your mans back? Well we know a lot of men do this and try to kee...
A. 13 November 2012: Well I'm pretty boring.
Question 4: No, never fantasized about anyone at all while with my husband.
Question 5: No, I haven't watched porn or even masturbated in over 2 years. So I certainly have no need to do it behind his back.
Questi... (read in full...)
How do you find a trustworthy guy? It is making me want to give up on men completely....
Q. Hi, I know this is probably going to get a bit of hate, because I know that I'm stereotyping men in a negative way, but it's just how it is, I'm sorry. :/ I kind of need advice on the future - I have kind of a damaging view of men, that makes ...
A. 13 November 2012: It isn't too hard luckily. Go on a date with a guy, don't have any expectations, it's just a date. You like the guy? Good, go on another date. Get to know him S L O W L Y. Don't have high expectations of him and learning him slowly will help, then ... (read in full...)
Do you thnk I was out of order texting him about him beating up his ex?
Q. I'm in such a state about my ex I don't know what to do. We split up a month ago, we had a terrible relationship. Basically he was looking through my facebook messages within a week of us being together, he saw that men messaged me dirty things and ...
A. 13 November 2012: Yeah you should've left it alone. What he does now, no matter how despicable, is no longer your business. What would saying those negative things about beating up a girl achieve really? He won't suddenly change because you disprove of his actions, ... (read in full...)
Masturbation Question
Q. Can i marstabate whilst on a period?...
A. 12 November 2012: Of course you can. It may be messy though so make sure you have a towel down and are prepared for the clean up. Or you can masturbate in the shower and not have to worry about clean up at all. ... (read in full...)
Drunken one nite stand is threatening to tell my girlfriend what happened!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for just over a year, I love her to bits. About 4-months ago I had a one night stand, not full blown sex but heavy fondling. I'd drunk wayyy too much. Halfway through I came to my senses stopped and went home. The ...
A. 12 November 2012: I just wanted to add something. If you tell her yourself and beg forgiveness, say it'll never happen again on your own you have a much better chance for her to forgive you. If she found out from a stranger what happened and THEN you apologized it no ... (read in full...)
Do you prefer texting or calling?
Q. Hey everyone, I need to ask all you agony aunts if you prefer texting or calling? I personally prefer texting,like if someone calls me I don't like it,I just don't answer and text that person..cuz I'm more comfortable texting!you know with callin...
A. 12 November 2012: Depends on the person and subject matter. In most cases I would prefer a phone call. I enjoy talking on the phone. Cases in which I wouldn't would be if I am at work, if it is someone I can't carry on a conversation with, if it is a short quick ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with boyfriend being 4 hours away?
Q. My boyfriend wants to go to university that is about 4 hours or so away, and I don't know how to deal with it!!! I have jealousy issuses and I am easily depressed so I don't know how well I will deal with this. I new ways of copeing with that far ...
A. 12 November 2012: Unfortunately it will take him actually leaving before you can come up with ways to cope. Keeping busy is always a good thing to do, it keeps your mind off of the sadness of him being away. Keep busy with friends or family, find a new hobby, immerse ... (read in full...)
Former co-worker called me and excuse seemed rather transparent. Is he interested? Should I call him?
Q. There is a guy at work I used to work with before I transitioned into another unit; new number, new room, etc. We met each other in person twice and talked on the phone a few times, exchaged emails on business related issues. However, I always ...
A. 12 November 2012: To be honest it sounds like you are reading way too much into it and it was a very simple call. Because you like him you are taking everything he does as some hint he feels deeply for you too. I'm not saying it isn't possible he does, but by this ... (read in full...)
Am I just another girl to him?
Q. Hello, I have a quick question to ask - I have a friend, and we were together two years ago. We dont live in the same country - I have met him for about 3 weekends within a year - but everyday we chat and call each other up. I would say he is one o...
A. 12 November 2012: I also meant to add that your ex feeds your ego. Not that you are egotistical, but he makes you feel good and special. If he talked the same way to others then it would mean you aren't as great as he has built you up to be. He makes you feel good ... (read in full...)
Am I just another girl to him?
Q. Hello, I have a quick question to ask - I have a friend, and we were together two years ago. We dont live in the same country - I have met him for about 3 weekends within a year - but everyday we chat and call each other up. I would say he is one o...
A. 12 November 2012: You are still quite attached to this man. To be honest I find it very unfair to your boyfriend. Even if you havent actually acted on anything you are doing something wrong, cheating emotionally. Talking to an ex about how much he loves you and how ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend proposed! During sex... Thoughts?
Q. my boyfriend proposed to me during sex. he called it making love and he asked me to marry him while his **** was inside me. i said yes but thought the whole time if he was joking and how could he ever think that this was a cool idea of proposin...
A. 12 November 2012: Ah yes I saw that episode too candid cally. It was in an episode of Will and Grace as well, Nathan proposed to Grace in the middle of sex. Both times the women said no. ... (read in full...)
Watching Pornography in a relationship. Is it unfair or fun?
Q. Hi, i want to ask this question and i want your opinions. I hate my boyfriends watching porn when they are having a relationship with me, what i wanted to know was is there such thing as a man who is not that fussed by it? Who would just take it or ...
A. 12 November 2012: I saw an article online not too long ago called The Great Male Survey. It was in an online men's magazine. It is a poll of a number of men from all over the world and how they feel on certain issues. This is the link to it-
http:... (read in full...)
How does a shy person meet people and make friends?
Q. i'm in the usa for 4 months for study purposes (i come from europe) and i really don't know anyone here. i'm a very very shy person (probably with some form of social anxiety) and so it usually takes a long time for me to make friends and open up to ...
A. 12 November 2012: That's great news :) I hope it goes well for you.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend proposed! During sex... Thoughts?
Q. my boyfriend proposed to me during sex. he called it making love and he asked me to marry him while his **** was inside me. i said yes but thought the whole time if he was joking and how could he ever think that this was a cool idea of proposin...
A. 11 November 2012: I don't think you have high expectations because you want your boyfriend to propose outside of having sex... I wouldn't like this at all either. And I probably would've also said yes in confusion wondering if this was the real proposal or what. He ... (read in full...)
His brother was heavily flirty with me and I don't know how to take this... help!
Q. Hey guys, just looking for a bit of advice. I met my boyfriend's brother for the first time 2 weeks ago and it was all going great. We played around a bit and joked how I met the wrong brother first... All in fun though, not serious. He started ...
A. 11 November 2012: Oh ok, I thought since he had said something to your brother that meant he was around. Well you definitely need to tell your boyfriend! I'm curious why you wouldn't. What he did was extremely wrong and inappropriate, your boyfriend needs to know. If ... (read in full...)
His brother was heavily flirty with me and I don't know how to take this... help!
Q. Hey guys, just looking for a bit of advice. I met my boyfriend's brother for the first time 2 weeks ago and it was all going great. We played around a bit and joked how I met the wrong brother first... All in fun though, not serious. He started ...
A. 11 November 2012: Uh your boyfriend sat there and allowed his brother to grope you and make very crude comments about sex with you? This isnt joking and playing around. The first joke was fine but the rest of what happened is far from okay and I'm shocked you or your ... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with him... or should I not?
Q. Hello everybody. I would like you're opinion... I have been sort of dating a guy, for the past 3 months, let's call him A. We did have sex but we were just friends that were in love. About a week ago we had a huge argument about me being so moody...
A. 11 November 2012: Ok well you were never an official couple, just friends who had sex. So if you go there and do end up having sex I don't see how he would suddenly think you are a slut, this has been the same thing your entire relationship. Now when you say after ... (read in full...)
I'm so sick of what my friend has become!
Q. ok so I have this friend. She's 20 and I'm 23... We met first day of college and we've been sort of best friends ever since. But lately our friendship has been a bit rocky ... From the begining it was obvious we were opposites. She's all smiles and ...
A. 10 November 2012: Not an overreaction at all. I was going to tell you to do just that until your last line said you already had distanced yourself. She's the self centered type that needs to feel she is most important and the best. She wants you to feel inferior to ... (read in full...)
What makes someone decide if they are gf/bg material?
Q. what makes someone decide if they are gf/bg material? I ask because the person of the person i am interested in, and have been for a few months. We are friends, and talk a few times a week, (We live about an hr apart) i've been there with an ear to ...
A. 10 November 2012: What makes boyfriend/girlfriend material is a sexual attraction and compatibility where you like them as more than a friend. When a guy or girl says they can't see you as anything more than a friend it means there is no sexual chemistry there or ... (read in full...)
How does a shy person meet people and make friends?
Q. i'm in the usa for 4 months for study purposes (i come from europe) and i really don't know anyone here. i'm a very very shy person (probably with some form of social anxiety) and so it usually takes a long time for me to make friends and open up to ...
A. 10 November 2012: Don't use any online site to find friends one on one. It will always be sexual. Even the profiles that claim they are looking for just friends as yours does means pretty much nothing, you speak to the person thinking you are on the same page then ... (read in full...)
Kismet! Could this be it?
Q. Fate, coincidence, luck.... Please read, something happened to me and I would like your thoughts... So I was having a really tough couple of weeks with work, family and things going wrong with my house and the last straw was when I was getti...
A. 10 November 2012: I love stories like this. If it's fate? Depends on what you believe. Some people only believe in coincidence, some believe in fate and everything happens for a reason. I believe in fate, not in a way like because this happened it means he is your ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking I should just give up and let this be the end!
Q. My boyfriend hadent text me back since tuesday. i rang to see why and he said at the time i wasnt helping the situation (his dog had just died but i was i wrote him a lovely text ). I rang him and ask him what was going on and he said that i never ...
A. 10 November 2012: The truth is if he is making you feel insecure and needing reassurance the relationship is in big trouble. After 2 years together you shouldn't feel so insecure, so afraid of where he stands. He obviously isn't sure about you and you are easily ... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance of taking him away from his girlfriend?
Q. Me and a guy at my job has been having a secret relationship for about a year during this time the relationship is a secret everyone knows. He has a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend(me and my boyfriend broke up for un-related reasons) now im singlr ...
A. 9 November 2012: If after a year he still hasn't left her to be with you then he never will by his own accord. You need to think of this logically, he has her and he has you, you are allowing it and not going anywhere, so why would he leave her? He has no reason to. ... (read in full...)
A few questions on Birth Control pills
Q. Okay, so this will be a few questions concerning birth control pills and its effectiveness. This is for my own purpose only, not for any scientific purposes. The subjects will be those of you who had or taking birth control pills, and have one part...
A. 9 November 2012: I used to take birth control pills and was on them for many years, stopped a few months ago to try for pregnancy.
1. I attempted to take them at the same time every night but sometimes it was off by a few hours. Never made a difference. It even ... (read in full...)
Hooked on an ex that was no good....
Q. I'm really hooked on my ex and cannot stop thinking about him. He was just horrible to me, very jealous, possessive and would flip out over the smallest of things. He smoked weed, lived with his mother and he is 40 years old. I'm 12 years younger ...
A. 9 November 2012: Well you need to move on first of all, no dating or having sex with anyone else until you have moved on from him. Your tingly feelings you got from your ex are still fresh in your mind and when dating someone else you expect those feelings, when ... (read in full...)
He says we can't have a relationship if wee don't have sex. I'm not ready for that, and don't know what to do!
Q. I met a guy online..and he has been saying that intimacy goes hand in hand with a relationship.. and he is not willing to compromise on imtimacy... i lied to him once about not being able to make it to a second date.. sinc e i was scared we were ...
A. 9 November 2012: So you have had one date, you are already having arguments, and he is already pressuring for sex. What you do is block him and never speak to him again. He is only after sex from you, that's all. You don't ever "owe" sex to anyone. You already feel ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have a problem with me wearing hair extensions?
Q. The guy i'm seeing seems to have a problem with me wearing extensions, it's just getting insulting and tiring now! I don't know whether to get them taken out? I got them in a few weeks ago and all my friends compliment me on my hair, even thoug...
A. 9 November 2012: No men don't care that much. I wear extensions all the time, be it clip in ones, but my husband likes them because I like them. They make me love my hair and feel pretty, what is there for him to dislike? At first when I contemplated buying them he ... (read in full...)
Is it just the alcohol, or does he really know what he's doing?
Q. When my boyfriend is drunk, he always flirts with other girls. He'll grab their boobs etc. Or he lies about things. When I talk to him about this, he always says thats the alcohol talking. Does he really know what he is doing?...
A. 9 November 2012: Yes he does. Have you ever been drunk in your life? I'm willing to bet you have. Have you ever grabbed a man's penis without knowing it? Being drunk does not give us the excuse to do whatever we want, though people sure do try and use it that way. ... (read in full...)
To the people who were bullied and neglected while growing up. How did you cope with it and get past it?
Q. I was neglected during my primary schooling by my teachers, classmates and parents. the same thing happened in high school except that physical and verbal bullying were added. I told about what was happening in primary school and the teacher took...
A. 8 November 2012: The only way to forgive and forget a bad past is to be happy in the present. I'm not trying to sound like an after school special, it is simply the truth. When you are happy you don't focus on the past and bad things from the past. I wouldn't say ... (read in full...)
Any advice on where to meet guys? Tried hobbies, gym and bars with no success.
Q. I absolutely don't know where to meet guys. At work most of guys are married or involved or much older, plus it's not a good idea to date anyone from work. In Gym where I go to, there is never any interaction. I just work out there 3 times a week a...
A. 8 November 2012: I saw an article just the other day on best places to meet people.
http://www.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=4525&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=1371150
Aside from what you have already said and what's in that article I'm out of options for y... (read in full...)
I'm really ready to break it off!!
Q. I am ready to break it off! My bf recently had a birthday, and due to unfortunate circumstances, I was a little late in asking him what he wanted to do for his birthday. I asked him the day before what he wanted to do, he responded with he was ...
A. 8 November 2012: If you are willing to end the relationship over something so petty then you really shouldn't be with him because you clearly don't have something special together. I think you are both in the wrong here, as adults you should each communicate and ... (read in full...)
He said it's over but I really want him back!
Q. okay im sorry this isn't an interesting one guys but if i dont speak to someone i'm going to explode and i bet all my friends and family are sick of me. i met this guy 8 months ago off the internet and he was perfect we had been speaking on the ...
A. 7 November 2012: I'm sorry you didn't receive the advice you wanted. I did want to add still that I have been in a similar situation as you are now going through. My first boyfriend and I had a relationship like this one. Very tumultuous, talked about breaking up, ... (read in full...)
What the hell is wrong with my rich celebrity brother? Have the drugs affected him so badly that he has lost his ability to be rational?
Q. Its ridiculous the way my brother lies. He has become a complete lying machine. He is extremely rich, handsome and a celebrity. His marriage with his wife is utterly awful. Since they dated, he cheated on her openly. He did drugs and weed and his ...
A. 7 November 2012: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/advice-needed-is-my-brother-for-real.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-does-she-have-that-i-havent.html
So these are both from you too. Now 3 posts. But you are the sister in 2 of them and the ex w... (read in full...)
Should I bother with him anymore?
Q. Is there any point bothering with this guy. He always texts me days after we seen each other, sometimes i'll have to wait a week to even receive a text. And then when I happen to take a while to reply, I noticed that he also takes ages himself, it's ...
A. 7 November 2012: Yes he is playing games. When you are busy he has to appear busy too so he doesn't seem too eager by responding right away. Mind games like this do suck. If you are interested in him then call him out on it next time, say "you don't have to fake ... (read in full...)
Does he like me as a colleague, or something more?
Q. I wish to see other opinions on this who dont know us. I used to work with an older male. He is shy and difficult to read. When I left he hugged me (never really shows emotion). I now hav a new job but still need to speak with him. He calls me ...
A. 7 November 2012: Well he definitely likes you, whether or not it is in a romantic way only he knows. How do you feel about him? If you like him why not let him know, ask to go out for drinks/bite to eat sometime? You don't work together anymore so no harm done. ... (read in full...)
Was I rude or was I justified in saying what I did?
Q. Told a guy he was too busy to date - was I unreasonable? I met a guy online (He's 35, I'm 30) and we exchanged a few emails but he would always take a couple of days to reply, saying he was really busy. Not a problem really, but it does colour m...
A. 7 November 2012: Not rude at all, quite justified. I'm glad he moved on since he clearly wasn't all that interested and now you have freedom to meet someone who is. No one on earth is too busy to send an email or text for 2 weeks. And if by some weird circumstance ... (read in full...)
Ex girlfriend is being weird...
Q. So, my girlfriend of 4 months broke up with me by ignoring me a few weeks ago. Now she is stalking me online every day and making sure I don't move on. She is also trying her best to hurt me by acting like nothing ever happened, pretending to be ...
A. 7 November 2012: Stop trying to talk to her. Everything she is doing is to get a response out of you, stupid immature childish games. I'd forget her altogether. But the best way to make her decide she wants you and she messed up is to ignore her. Delete her from ... (read in full...)
I broke her heart, does that make me a bad person?
Q. Well, i had just broken up with my girlfriend of a year due to the fact that i basicaly "fell out of love" with her. before i actually brokeup with her i had been contemplating on doing it and each week i was more sure that it was the right thing to ...
A. 7 November 2012: We all have broken hearts and had our hearts broken at some point. She will be fine in time. You aren't a bad or mean guy, just a normal person who wanted to end a relationship that wasn't doing it for you anymore. Better than stringing her along ... (read in full...)
Is this girl crazy or am I the insane one?
Q. Why are some girls sooo hard to figure out? I mean seriously I feel like wacking my head against a wall sometimes. Theres this girl I been talking to for months, we even met and from first time we kissed etc. But only met twice because I went o...
A. 6 November 2012: Forget her. She doesn't seem interested and she likes playing games. You have already mentioned you want to receive more than a one word answer and she does it anyway, screw it. Not worth so much effort and annoyance. ... (read in full...)
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